Does 'relax' and 'not thinking about ttc' actually work?

Like Dueling says, no amount of "relaxing" will solve a fertility issue. I'm 2 years into my TTC journey, PCOS, Clomid failed to work and about to start Gonadatrophin treatment, and I could quite happily swing for anyone that tells me to relax!

Stress doesn't help, so yes destressing yourself will make your life easier but simply relaxing will not get you pregnant.

Worked for me! I've been pregnant twice (one missed miscarriage and one chemical pregnancy) and was hammered during both conceptions. The first time we had decided to stop trying but not use contraception and just have sex when we felt like it. Seemed to work. I know it makes no sense but I believe when you relaxed that's when it happens. Easier said than done. I found it best to stay away from my app and Mumsnet. Have been obsessing this month though and have no idea of I'm pregnant or not. Some days I have symptoms and some days I don't.

Okay positive story:

TTC for 3 years, taking temperature, ovulated at different times each month, had tests and then a laparoscapy showing tubes mostly blocked, we were given leaflets for IVF prices list....so I cried and mulled around a lot, so much so i forgot to look out for next period I stopped taking temperature and though ah well will start saving andnext peroid never came until 9 months later, it never came!

I did wonder what they had done to me whilst I was in operating theatre but apparently it was just luck!

have you been to the GP to ask for spme basic tests? You and DP/DH?
If it's been 2 years since you stopped the pill they should give you simple blood tests to start with.

no.

you will hear lots of anecdotal 'evidence' saying it does but it's not going to help if you have fertility issues.

5 months is really not a long time though, so keep at it.

My own experience was that being told to relax or 'book a holiday' or 'get a new kitchen installed, my friend spent £2000 on a new kitchen and she was pregnant within a month' was really THE most annoying thing in over 2 years of trying. IVF worked for me in the end.

Hi red :)

You already know my story but thought I would post here anyway!

I'm having a month off thinking about it but then I have been TTC for a year. It's not been that long for you but I know that's no help me saying that cause any amount of time is too long when TTC as we want it so badly!

This month we are focusing on getting healthy (eating organically and healthily), we're on hols next week, we have a couple of weddings so we have other stuff to focus on.

Def take up reading again and doing other stuff :) I know exactly where you're at as I have been there myself.

My friends were ttc for 5 years = nothing.
Decided to have a break from it and go on foreign holiday= pregnant.

Well,don't give up hope after 5 months! Took me 18 months to conceive DC1 and 12 months to conceive DC2!

And yes, first time round I decided to take a few months off worrying - went to a music festival, drank loads of cider, and managed to conceive! Felt a bit embarrassed as I couldn't remember the date of my last period when the midwife asked - it was the first time in 18 months that I had no idea of my cycle!

My DS (14 months) is the result of a holiday following a very stressful couple of months at work, so in my case I think relaxing did help.

Now TTC#2 and finding it difficult to relax about it! It's hard when you're ready for a LO, isn't it.