Emmsy's ladies - 4 years of weebling - still going strong!

That's fine if you all need to bully me for some stress relief. I'm a big girl. I can take it

On phone so can't do massive posts but wanted to add my hugs to the hugfest and to post this ray of hope. My friend who lost her little girl when her twins were born way too early had a beautiful and perfectly healthy DD today! While we all know so well that one child will never replace another it's wonderful to think her DS will have a sibling to grow and play with. Miracles do happen.

errmm all I have is some cooking red wine, several-years-old schnapps and Xmas pudding flavoured vodka.. any takers?? you can tell we don't get fronked much in this house.. we need some cocktails, virgin for our pregnant ladies of course

4ever watching obem when I was pregnant always made me think everything on there would happen to me. But I won't tell you to stop watching as I know you love it! Just try not to worry..surely you've had your fair share of crap!

moon that is SO lovely your dh is telling more people, I know it makes it hard for you but it also means he's excited, & more importantly that he BELIEVES! didn't realise you were already 11 weeks that's amazing!! Wish they could've got u a dating scan sooner! I had mine at 11 weeks, hmph.. but still..not long! Hope u don't mind me asking but at how many weeks did you lose your los? Cos if it was before 11 weeks then you've already passed a hurdle!

Dear dear lovely rumours my heart just aches for you. I know as you said, it was expected, but to have it confirmed is so bloody hard.. really hope the nurse will just be amazing & let you cry if you need to. Massive hugs to you x x x

curly you sound really strong, well done for getting through the funeral x x x

sabs I'm so sorry lovely, I remember how hard it was when your grandfather passed. I know you also believe in an afterlife so it is some small comfort to know she is being called to something so much bigger & better & eternal. Loads of love to all your family x x x

Rumors sending some huge squeezy hugs up there. I'm sorry you are having to go through it again but if anyone can deal with this then it's you. Bless your ds1, it's little things like his comment that will get you through it.

4ever you are bound to be a big weebly mess right now. I agree that anything major would have been picked up in your last scan. Try & have 10 mins each day alone to focus & breathe, breathe, breathe...

Same goes to you moon, those early days are so hard when you can't feel for movement or listen out for a heartbeat. Just keep telling yourself that no news is good news.

Hugs to both sabs & curly. Blue now you've mentioned it I could do with a right fronking session!!

rumours big hugs for you, the girls have already said how brilliant you are, although I think you said it all in your post - your boys are happy - that is the main thing and they are a testament to your strength and hard work with them. It was also lovely to hear ds1 being protective over his brother, aww thats such a beautiful thing to say. Hope you will get some good support from your mental health nurse, and of course, we're all here to help in any way we can. Keep smiling.

4ever hugs for you too, we all totally understand and are desperately hoping with you that all will be ok.

More hugs for curly and sabs wishing you strength to get through difficult times.

to blue and remindme and more hugs for anyone that needs them.

I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow and its 11 days til the scan. Dh told a few more family members yesterday and I was a bit upset, although he did tell me he was going to tell them, because I feel under pressure to provide the so longed for baby, and I dont want to let anyone down I have no idea whats happening in my belly, all seems to be ok but that doesnt mean anything does it? I desperately need some reassurance, why couldnt the stupid midwife arrange me an early scan it would have worked wonders for my silly brain that works on overtime.

blue you really have a lovely way of saying things, and the right things :)

Oh rumours I can't even begin to imagine what you are feeling right now :( Do you feel like talking about it? Can they tell at this stage where ds2 is on the autism spectrum. Do you think there is adequate support where you are? Big hugs missus. I hope ds2 turns out just as wonderful as his big brother. My heart melts sometimes when you repeat what he's been saying :)

Thanks for the lovely posts. I'm so sad but I am keeping her picture up on the wall and every time I lose it I see her looking at me with a wry smile and telling me to get on with it. My heart is breaking for Sabs :( Will you get to see her hon? You have had such a tough few years. Big hugs lovely xxxx

Big hugs to our weebly pregnant ladies. 4ever the anomaly scan can be done between 18 and 22 weeks so I'm sure anything bad would be picked up at 17 weeks. Think of it as one week till you get reassured of how healthy this baby is. Your little fella doesn't need a scan honest. Hang in there and share your fears with us rather than doing the 3am worrying by yourself xxxx

mrskate are you okay? Have you the 12 week scan booked? Any chance of a cheeky private scan at 8 weeks?

Neeko hope the spelling and grammar are improving so we don't have to report you to the headmistress

It's nearly March moon how are you doing sweetie?

Waves to blue lbm mls barbie Remindme cupcake and all of you lovelies.

Curlyboy has slept for 1.5 hours woohoo

Rumours how lucky is your DS2, he has a mummy so read up and prepared and practicised to meet his needs. All the years of helping DS1 thrive through the challenges he has faced can only mean DS2 will benefit from you wisdom, love, reassurance, humour and never ever ending support. You are a mum in a million.

I hope the mental health nurse (and primacy care services in general) are there for you 100% in giving you and your family the support you deserve.

We remain here, always here, to listen and lurk and post when you need to offload, laugh, cry or just get fronked xx

4ever as remindme says us ladies have lost forever the innocent wonder and joy of pregnancy and I totally understand how wobbly you feel. My relief was palpable when I came out of my 20 weeks scan. I remember putting it back a week as I had been on holiday the week before and I'd had terrible news the year before the same week I'd been on holiday. Just couldn't risk anything jinxing it.

Sabs and Curly hope you both are bearing up

moon not long now!

mrskate great that your scan showed growth. Keeping everything crossed.

Sun is shining here

Morning Rumours, here's your hug. How lovely that your DS 1 feels he's not the only one now. A lot for you to take in now though. I hope your mental health nurse offers lots of support.

Barbie, I'm leaving you a hug here for you to pick up in case you pop in.

Oh and neeko was at your post, the mistakes!!!!

Hi lovelies

Hugs to the weebles 4ever, mrskate and moon and hugs to sabs and curly too, sorry about your sad news

Ds2 update

We got a diagnosis yesterday, he is autistic. Not a shock as such but feel so numb at the moment and overwhelmed. I have two children and both have autism. There I've said it.

Still doesn't feel real though, and I really need to cry I feel the emotion there but still can't bloody cry. I'm seeing the mental health nurse today so hopefully she can help me.
On a plus note, my boys are so happy and blissfully unaware of how I'm feeling .
We told ds1 that ds2 is autistic like him and he said ' we're the autism brothers' which made me and dh

I'm ok, just rambling.

Sending huge hugs to Curly & Sabs.

Hello Weebly 4ever. I think you need a huge hug too. My sister in law is 19 weeks pregnant with her 2nd child and being one of those lucky people who have only good experiences of pregnancy, she's massively excited about getting a look at her bouncing baby next week. It's such a shame that for those of us on here, that blissful innocence has gone, never to return. 4ever I hope the time flies quickly by. Yes I would imagine that most stuff would have been picked up at a 17 week scan.

MrsKate, I'm sure you need a big hug too, and Moon not many sleeps to go now till your scan.

Any one else need a hug whilst I'm here?

Thinking of you today Curly

Sabs I'm really sorry to hear that Wishing you strength for the difficult time ahead. Take care.

Big hugs to you too Curly so sorry to hear about your friend. Will be thinking of you tomorrow

mrskate good to hear all is well

Thanks to everyone for your kind words. My nan, who Saara is named after, has been given only days to live. As you may remember, I lost my beloved grandad nearly 2 years ago, so so this is quite hard for us all. Just playing the waiting game now :(

For shame neeko this reckless use of the english language is getting to be a habit well spotted mls and ouch for your poor ds

I'm so glad we had good news today. Not too long now moon. My hand is yours.

Just one tooth here 8 months in cupcake. It's making up for the rest in sharpness though

Big hugs to Sabs and waves to everyone lurking. Im trying not to think about tomorrow so any distraction is good xxx

Must concentrate

Neeko!!!!!!! I'm not normally one to be pedantic but

Heeheehee

Glad scan went well Mrskate. Stick it head in the sand and your body in cotton wool for the next few weeks.

You're turn next Moon

Glad to hear it went well mrskate. Where is that mobile ultrasound machine you have at work???!

cupcake ds has 6 teeth. The top 4 came through in one night three weeks ago, poor boy.

Massive hugs to sabs and curly having had bad news :( so hard, especially when you have to keep putting on a brave face for little ones' sakes too.

Big sigh of relief for mrskate, that's amazing news all is in the right place! I'm sure lo will be just fine until your 12 wk scan now.

Hugs to those remembering sad anniversaries..and 4ever don't you dare even think you can't mention them here of all places! Hope you're feeling ok, I can't believe you're halfway there!! Only 4 short weeks until our new little man reaches viable stage :):) I love hearing that you're collecting bits for him. Ds2 had a 'born in 2012' babygrow, i loved putting him in that! :) cute keepsake too.

moon hope you're feeling ok too..it's nearly march!! The month of your scan :)

mls how many teeth does your ds have now? Ds2 has only just had his first break through yesterday! 9 mos old..much later than ds1.

Good to see you again too remindme! :)

lunchtime lurking - glad to hear mrskate had a good scan

Phew mrskate I have fingers and toes crossed for you :)
Roll on morning sickness!!!

They are not scanning me again just a waiting game now xx