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Sperm meets egg meets CBFM?

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Idratherbe · 05/08/2012 21:16

Does anyone know how the sperm meet egg plan works alongside the clearblue fertility monitor? I'm hoping to shock my poor body into actually conceiving this month by combining hardcore science with good old fashioned well timed shagging.

So, if I'm supposed to bonk on the 3 days following a positive OPK, in CBFM world does that mean the 3 days following first peak reading? Or the 3 days following first high reading? I'd assume the former because the CBFM predicts LH surge but I'd be grateful for any advice and success stories using SMEP.

After having tried any which way to get pregnant for the last 6 months sans success, I WILL get pregnant this month. By hook or by crook!

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winkle2 · 06/08/2012 21:41

Berries did you dtd after the first peak? As this month I dtd eod then on both peaks and today is the high after the peak bit I've had a row with hubby!

iloveberries · 06/08/2012 21:38

Yes id rather - it is hard. Everyone is always asking when ds is getting a sibling, everyone I had ds with has their dc2 now. Ive stopped comparing! I do think the pain of losing a baby is tempered by the gratefulness for the one I already have. And I feel so much more grateful for him than possible. Struggling to conceive any baby is hard but I definitely understand the issues around wanting to provide a sibling. Xx

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Idratherbe · 06/08/2012 21:34

Crikey, I'm sorry to hear about your ectopic Berries. I don't know if you feel the same - I'm very conscious of being lucky to have my DS but it still feels so very unfair to lose no 2 and struggle for no 3, especially as I see the increasing gap in age between DS and his fictional future sibling (currently 3 years).

Sorry Toffee - I know you're still TTC no 1 so this chat about struggling for no 2 must be a bit galling. My apologies.

Anyway, enough of my wallowing, I've got an egg to catch so bring on the PMA to spur on my sullen ovaries.

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iloveberries · 06/08/2012 20:45

Hope you don't mind me chucking my tuppence worth in? I've been using cbfm for a while and to be honest I would support the every other day method. op it sounds like you've got good fertility etc and you have proof you and dh are compatible so it it probably just a question of time.

We conceived ds month one of ttc and have been ttc #2 for a yr now. I did fall but had an ectopic so now ttc again. The month we did conceive on cbfm we'd dtd eod through the highs and only on the first peak.

Flooding the egg with sperm sounds like a great plan though!

Good luck :)

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Idratherbe · 06/08/2012 20:37

Thanks Winkle, I thought that might be the answer. Can't quite decide whether or not to start peeing on sticks, did it one month with no success and a slightly peeved husband.

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winkle2 · 06/08/2012 08:53

For SMEP and CBFM I'd go for every other day on high reading. Every day from first peak for 3 days. Then miss a day and go for one more try.

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Idratherbe · 05/08/2012 22:43

Love your doctor! Struggling with the concept of balloons and banners at this particular party venue...

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toffeesam · 05/08/2012 21:55

Glad i made you laugh. I made the doc laugh when he asked what method i was using, i said "a bit gung hoo". I think i blushed when i realised what i said.

Sorry to hear about your mc. I'm still ttc my first.

P.S balloons and banners are optional ;-)

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Idratherbe · 05/08/2012 21:46

... welcome party for the egg... Chuckle

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Idratherbe · 05/08/2012 21:45

Awesome, I'm going to continue to swamp my egg with sperm then! We've been doing it pretty much every day or so since starting to try and happily its not wearing thin, just a bit of a shame that sticking to the medically recommended plan isn't yet working for us.

Crazy really, we have one DS who was conceived after 4 months and I fell pregnant immediately with the last one that ended in MC. We're both under 35 and seemingly shouldn't have any probs but it's getting me a bit down that I should have the double shittiness of miscarrying and the failing to conceive by what would have been my due date. However i'm fantastically lucky to have conceived at all so far and even luckier to have carried my little one to term so it's certainly not that bad.

Thanks for the advice Smile

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toffeesam · 05/08/2012 21:36

Docs told me that too. Just flood yourself with the little swimmers so there are always some there. Like a welcome party for the egg. Staminar is needed, but it is a lot of fun. Think of it as an extra olympic endurance event! ;-)

lurcherlover · 05/08/2012 21:23

I thought on the CBFM you just do it on every day you get either high or peak?

You know, though, that the medically-recommended way to get pregnant is to throw away the OPKs and dtd every other day without fail from the last day of AF until AF starts again...you need stamina but it's the most successful method to use.