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Sperm meets egg meets CBFM?

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Idratherbe · 05/08/2012 21:16

Does anyone know how the sperm meet egg plan works alongside the clearblue fertility monitor? I'm hoping to shock my poor body into actually conceiving this month by combining hardcore science with good old fashioned well timed shagging.

So, if I'm supposed to bonk on the 3 days following a positive OPK, in CBFM world does that mean the 3 days following first peak reading? Or the 3 days following first high reading? I'd assume the former because the CBFM predicts LH surge but I'd be grateful for any advice and success stories using SMEP.

After having tried any which way to get pregnant for the last 6 months sans success, I WILL get pregnant this month. By hook or by crook!

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Fay30 · 17/09/2012 06:27

Hi Winkle, Hi Idratherbe,
It does get a bit tedious, month after month, with nothing to show.
We keep up a brave front, behind sad faces.
We have used several tubes of conceive plus over the 2 years we have been really charting and trying.
Perhaps a tube of pre seed, before we book the ICSI.
He is an absolute marvel though, couldn't ever ask for more or better.
Some times I am really sore down there, so the lube is an absolute necessary.
When we are just shagging, like, when no egg is in the area, we just use baby oil, then for a day or two before the egg is any where near, we switch to the sperm friendly lube.
Fay.

winkle2 · 09/09/2012 22:21

I'm in 2ww I think. I went on hols but didn't have any sticks for the monitor and I couldn't see any at the airport so we just dtd every day on hols - 3 days in a row. I was getting high in my monitor before we left do fingers crossed we covered the right time.

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Idratherbe · 09/09/2012 20:01

I do wonder when I'll start to get bored and depressed, but as it is I tend to feel at my worst in the days running up to my period, especially if I've tested and got a BFN. Once the fat lady sings I just feel optimistic again, ready to start a new month. To be frank, I am still puppyishly in love with my DH (even after 11 years together) and the sex is always great even when we're trying for a baby, and as he puts it, we should look on the bright side of it taking a few months longer than planned Wink.

Right, enough of the soppy stuff. What our plan this month? Well DH has begun to realise that it's not just a walk in the park and being that he's in charge once more has decreed that we're not drinking midweek anymore. I also suspect that I can expect a lot more sex. One does what one must...

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winkle2 · 09/09/2012 19:28

All we can do is keep trying :(

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Idratherbe · 09/09/2012 17:58

Faye Sad and Winkle Sad, what on earth can we do to cheer ourselves up?

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winkle2 · 09/09/2012 17:15

:( Faye.

Fay30 · 09/09/2012 07:58

Well we did some serious, serious, and more serious dancing around ovulation time.

But as just as before, the period arrived late last nite.
Bang on time, as has been for the past 7 months of charting.
Depressed again.

Fay.

winkle2 · 07/09/2012 14:51

I've been trying for a year, it's crap :(

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Idratherbe · 07/09/2012 12:49

Erm, that should read Baby No 2...

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Idratherbe · 07/09/2012 12:49

That's now 6 cycles post-MC at 8 weeks on Christmas Day. Seems like a lot longer though. Come ON Baby %232!

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winkle2 · 06/09/2012 22:08

Oh IRB :(

How long have you been trying?

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Idratherbe · 06/09/2012 16:28

Bah humbug, period just arrived. Sooooo fed up SadSadSad

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winkle2 · 05/09/2012 13:48

Good luck IRB :)

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Idratherbe · 05/09/2012 13:43

Hi Joburg, welcome to the party, and all the best for the next gruelling 2 weeks - may you be too busy or relaxed to even consider symptom spotting.

Update from the IRB house: late by a few days. Did a test on Monday and I was almost convinced I saw the merest trace of a line but thought i'd wait a few days to see if period turned up before testing again as DH is in charge this month and has asked me to pee on a bit of plastic tomorrow.

I'm not excited, I'm just horrified at the thought of seeing a negative test. In the back of my mind I may have ovulated ridiculously late this month, only because i had the usual CM for bonk week which happened again a week later. So it's open to debate. If I did OV later then I shouldn't really test again til Sat.

Just waiting....

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joberg · 04/09/2012 23:08

Oooohhhh sex week has passed, and now it's the dreaded waiting game..... I hate this part! :)

clickingtock · 03/09/2012 17:32

DTD EOD won't help if you have male fertility issues, usually unidentified. I tried this method for over a year of TTC2 and was ovulating like clockwork according to CBFM. Then discovered v low sperm count despite conceiving DS straight off (like OP). Got pg the month we waited 5 days before LH surge then DTD bang on ov day. (He'd also given up booze and had acupuncture for 3 months). So am 22wks pg after about 18 cycles and am aged 40. Just trying to encourage u all and remind you that it's not all about ovulation. Good luck; I know how hard it feels. X

winkle2 · 02/09/2012 11:01

Good luck joberg!

joberg · 01/09/2012 19:40

This looks like a fun thread! I am currently ttc but hubby wants no part in the science, so have to just be quiet about my cycle and pounce! Hope there is a welcome party for my egg too this month!!! Ha! Currently using the EOD method, but am only on 2nd cycle after D&C in July, so not too sure whats hapoening just yet. fingers crossed!!! Congrats toffee!!!

winkle2 · 31/08/2012 20:18

Good luck idratherbe. I know what you mean about feeling disappointed around AF time. I always get like that too.

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Idratherbe · 31/08/2012 18:37

Go forth Winkle...

Well my period is in theory due any day now, most likely on Monday. I can't help but feel a quiet sense of disappointment already, but there's nothing to say I couldn't be preggers so must...retain...misplacedoptimism...

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winkle2 · 31/08/2012 12:48

Panic over! Got my high today. You all know what I'll be doing later Grin

toffeesam · 31/08/2012 11:17

Like they say 'the more the merrier' so get to it Smile

winkle2 · 30/08/2012 18:26

Well my cycles aren't regular so not sure what day I OV but the last 2 months I've had my peak cd13.

toffeesam · 30/08/2012 12:20

Do it it can't hurt Smile

does that mean you are due to ov on cd13? i'm still not sure about all this stuff. Sperm can live in you for 3 days, so having some in there can't hurt.
Smile

winkle2 · 30/08/2012 08:57

Grin Faye

Anyone used the CBFM for a few months? As I'm on cd11 of the third month of using it and I haven't had my high yet. Usually get my peak on cd13 so would have had my high by now. Should I start to dtd or should I wait?