TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

Forgot to add - the waiting is driving me insane! I'm on CD 27 of a hopefully 28 day cylcle. I even did a test on Tuesday (BFN!) but now I'm determind to wait until sunday. Or at least tomorrow night.

Bobbynog - use this thread for whatever you like - ranting is definitely allowed! I find that haveing a good moan/chat/rant on here saves my dh some grief when he gets home, I get it all off my chest here so he doesn't bear the brunt. And of course, on here, we are all in more or less the same boat, and we all understand exactly how the others are feeling - more so than even our dh's, you know?

your 'friend' is being insensitive, imo. but I have found that in general, only those who have experienced m/c firsthand are sensitive to your feelings. (That's why this thread is so good!) She doesn't sound like much of a friend if she didn't even phone you after your m/c, but perhaps she just wouldn't have known what to say, or how to deal with you. that's fair enough. I found that after my m/c, people who not only sympathised, but also asked me how I was feeling - and then listened to my response were the ones who made me feel a lot better. The ones who didn't really say anything made me feel somehow guilty and awkward - as if I had done something wrong for making them feel uncomfortable. I don't know if I'm explaining myself properly, but I hope you know what I mean.

Have a good, long cry. Cry till you are wiped out. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel just a little bit better. It's just one of those days when it all still feels so raw, but it will pass. Hope you're feeling better soon. x

Hi guys - how do you cope with the waiting? With my two pregnancies, it was just a try it and see type thing. This time round i know when my period was, when we did it, and when my period should be, and i have still got over a week to wait. I am going to end up in the loony bin at this rate.
Also i need a bit of a rant, to get some stuff off m chest before DH comes home and lectures me about over reacting.Can i rant? Hope so. If it is against the rules, tell me later.
ANyway, i went out this morning with friends from my DD post natal group - we have been together over 2 years, and all get on well. I always thought i was closer to one than the other. They all now what has happened in the past few months - we were all squashed together, when the closer friend announced that she was pregnant, for the third time, and really didn't know how it happened. I know life goes on, but this particular friend has never phones me any more, not even after my miscarriage, she hardly ever sees us and i just feel that she was completely insensitive. i have come home, put dd to bed and sobbed, and idon't even think it is about her being pregnant. Oh i am not making any sense now. I'll be back when i have calmed down.

glad you're keeping positive Nicola63...keep your pecker up! (or your dh's, rather...)

My AF is due on sunday...am dreading it. have convinced myself it's def coming as I am feeling tired, crampy, irritable - but those are pg symptons too, right? And I was sick last night...but other than that I feel normal. Not pregnant. Every time I go to the loo I'm expecting to see old AF. Am trying to prepare myself for another round of frantic bd'ing next month. have been trying to prepare dh too, he keeps asking 'do you think you're pregnant?' It's driving me nuts.

hope everyone else is well...been a bit too quiet on here lately!

Well its been a couple of weeks since I posted. Af came and went as I thought she would. CD14 today and got the egg on my Persona. :)

Still waiting for the results of my Chromosome tests to come back and then I can go back to see the specialist.

Hope everyone else is ok?

I'm not feeling too bad, really. Disappointed but not defeated. I have doctor's appointments next week and will be talking to the obstetrician about all my test results and further tests etc. That will help. He wants to do a hysterosonogram, so will be arranging this.

I will keep optimistic in general and hope all you other ttc'ers do the same!!

Oh Nicola63 (((hugs)))

Oh no Nicola63 I can't believe it. I'm sorry to hear that. How do you feel about it?

Oh dear, I got AF this morning. How disappointing. Oh well, never mind...

ooh, feeling good about this one! Sorry, I know you are trying to keep cool, but it is getting exciting.

Try to make sure that your urine is concentrated if you do it this afternoon though - or, if possible (ha!), wait until the morning as you don't want to waste another one and get a BFN just because it was too dilute.

oooh!

Still no AF, will test again this afternoon, as no chance earlier than that to buy a test! Oh I do hope this will be good news... but I am telling myself probably not so I don't get disappointed...

If it was positive the due date would be Christamas day...

A BFN isn't a reason for disappointment, AF is though. Let's see what tomorrow brings.

No sign of AF yet, so I tested, but to my disappointment got a BFN. I suppose I will just have to wait and see. The first time I got pregnant the test only became positive several days after AF was due. The second time it was positive immediately. So who knows what is going on now. I won't get my hopes up though.

Nicola63, did AF come today???

Babyfettle, I hope your appointment today is conclusive in some way. It seems that everyone is desperate to ttc asap after their miscarriages, I certainly was although it has abated somewhat thankfully.

Hello - just wondering if I could join you all?

I had a missed MC about 10 weeks ago, with an ERCP nearly 8 weeks ago, but still having intermittent pain and spotting/light bleeding. Going back to see the Obs & Gyny consultant tomorrow afternoon to discuss why it is still going on. Either way I'm really frustrated as I really want to get on with TTC, but I was told that we couldn't have sex until the bleeding had stopped. Finally asked GP last week if we could start having sex and she said yes, but only with protection to avoid infection. Now as far as I know that really makes TTC difficult!

But with all the complications, its hard to know if I've had AF yet or not. Sorry, not really asking anything, but as I'm sure you all understand, just sharing your problems makes them easier - probably the same reason I've told nearly everyone I know about the MC, even if they didn't know I was pregnant before.

Hello and good luck to all of you ladies ttc, have been away a little while as not been up to posting also been working f/t !!! Anyhow im actually just posting to say goodbye to all my old friends and new ones too. Bye and good luck.

It is definitely easier said than done, you can't help your mind racing away and the little germs of hope start to grow. I really tried to manage my expectations last time but nevertheless was extremely let down when AF came - disproportionately so, considering it was only one month - and it made me realise I wasn't quite the full ticket emotionally and was probably getting in the way physically.

Fingers crossed for you for tomorrow.

I never used to get any pain with AF at all, but after my m/c's I have started getting quite bad pains. Last month (fist one since my m/c) was truly awaful, I have never understood what people meant before when they complained about period pains, now I do!!

Well, I am trying not to obsess, and will wait until tomorrow before testing. I am generally ultra regular but have on occasion been 1 or 2 days late.

If AF does arrive I am determined not to be too low. But that is easier said than done isn't it?

That sounds very hopeful Nicola63, the achy pains could be AF but could not be. Do you normally get a day of aches before starting? I am taking time off from ttc (despite only really trying for 1 month!! What a lightweight I am.) How long are you planning to leave it before you test?

This thread seems to have gone awfully quiet! Well, I am back at work today after two weeks off on holiday, and it is nice to be back. AF was due yesterday and has not shown up yet, but I do have a heavy crampy feeling that implies she is nearby. Well, I will just keep my fingers crossed anyway...

Meanwhile I have next appt with obstetrician next Friday and will discuss results of all the tests I had following my m/c. I am already on thyroid hormone after finding a slight problem there. I am hoping this will make a difference.

Hope everyone is doing OK. The spring does seem to have finally come. If only it would bring some good news with it...

hello ruthloise,

glad to hear that Isaac's funeral went well. I was thinking about you that day.
I don't know about your spotting...all I know is that it takes a while for your body to get back to normal. Have you tried doing an ovulation test? I started doing them not long after my m/c (became a bit obsessed with them actually!) and they at least helped me work out what was going on a bit. I had an unexpected bleed at the start of my holiday, 4 days before I was 'due' to ov - it only lasted a day and my ov tests showed I definitely did ov on the day I was meant to, despite the bleed. Who knows what the hell happens inside after such a trauma to your body. I suppose you just have to let it run its course. I know how frustrating and worrying it is.

Hope everyone else is ok, it's been a bit quiet here lately...

Hi all and welcome to you new ladies (hope yr stay here is short )

Haven't got up to speed yet (am I ever?!)but thought I'd pop in and say 'hi'

Funeral went 'well' and we had a lovely time away - definitely what we needed.

WWW and Nicola63 glad you both had good time away too

Piffle (((hug))) 'cos sounded like you need one and Smole... any news? saw yr post that u were expecting AF but no update from that date

Quite frustrated (TMI coming up...)as still lots of spotting /loss. Aaargh, so annoying, its now 4+2weeks and I keep thinking its stopped, sometimes for a couple of days but then we BD or I do something more sporty/enegetic and it returns. Does anyone know if this is normal? Should I be worried? Its a constant reminder of how things were when I was on the 6 weeks before finally losing Isaac so I worry a bit in case its related to the previous haemorraghing. If I keep bleeding will I know when my first AF returns? Within week of miscarriage, it had gone to light pink loss but now definitely red so could it be AF?

Hello everyone,

Good luck to all, we are now trying for baby no 2 have a DD (age 19 mnths) and had miscarriage in Feb now feel ready to give it a go and try again!

Hi ladies,

wow! lots of new people.... Welcome all......
I'm back from holiday too now, had a lovely time with a ton of bd'ing... Now we just have to wait to see if nasty old af reals her ugly head. Trying very hard not to get my hopes up, but you know how it is.

haven't had time to read through the rest of the thread yet, but I will soon. hope all you new folk here will find this thread as warm and supportive as I have.

Thanks for the welcomes.

Smole - did I mention DH is on jury service as well?!