TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

I've had a Hysterosalpingogram (HSG) too and this hysteroscope was certainly more sore than that! Well, it was done under general aneasthetic, which also knocked me for a loop (spent the whole bank hol weekend in bed feeling horrible!). But back at work today and feeling more normal.

After I had the HSG I then got pregnant the very next month, probably something about clearing out blockages, so am hoping this might be the case again. The fact that the pregnancy then miscarried is probably not related to the adhesions, more likely to thyroid or clotting problems (now being treated), so I am hopeful that the blasting through this time will have cleared things away and meant that things might happen again, and hopefully work out better next time.

You do sound like you've been in the wars Nicola. Not surprised you don't feel like rushing back to the hospital any time soon! At least you have some answers and maybe feel like you're making progress.

Well done you for getting through all that fiddling. I thought the Histo-thingygram was bad enough, but what you've had done sounds really painful.

Hope you have some even better news soon.

Fisrt of all, congratulations bobby that is wonderful and best of luck to you!

No I don't have fibroids at all, but have a degree of Asherman's syndrome (adhesions due to scar tissue),with an area of denuded endometrium on the back wall of the ueterus (ie there is a bit of the lining missing and replaced by scar tissue). The obstetrician also found one side of the uterus all rather stuck together and pushed it open with a whole lot of fluid, hopefully pushing through the adhesions and opening things up. He told me that although there is still some scar tissue and missing endometrium, what is left is plenty to allow implantaion and pregnancy, and he did not think this was the cause of the m/c's. Whatever the case, the uterus is now opened up (at least for the moment) so let us hope that helps the fertility process.

I had another ultrasound yesterday to check how things are going and there was, once again, a nice follicle on the ovary. However, pregnancy may not be possible this month because of all the messing around with the uterus that has occurred (at least some of the lining has been washed away!), so I'm not going to stress about it and will take things as they come.

I have had so many "answers" now that I am feeling confused and rather like a defective old crock! I am on thyroid hormones and aspirin, my uterus has been blasted open (not a process without pain!), and if I get pregnant I will be put onto heparin.

I feel like taking a step back and not going near a hospital for a while!

Congratulations Bobbnog! :o

Nicola do you have fibroids too?

I apparently have two the size of large oranges. I have been told they will reduce in size now that i have m/c. Apparently p/g hormones make them increase in size.

Do yours cause you much discomfort?

Angsthase - 3 weeks is soooo early days yet, really, expect to be bursting into tears for a while longer. Hope AF arrives over the next week or so.

Congratulations Bobbynog - a BFP is just the good news we need.

Had a bit of a spell on Sunday. Got all weepy again and DH is away so called a friend and then felt like I was being crap. How long before you stopped being susceptable to bursting into tears? It's been 3 weeks since my ERPC and no signs of AF yet.

Okay good morning all, I hope you had a good Bank Holiday weekend. I am now back at work, logged in, cup of coffee in hand ready to get stuck in to mumsnet.

Firstly a big, big, congratulations to bobbynog - what perfect timing for a holiday to help you get you head together and relax. Are you going to ask for an early scan? I have had a scan through the thread and I saw that at CD21 you were complaining of getting PMT - how wrong you were!

Nicola - how did the Friday appointment go? Are the adhesions fibroids? What are the implications? What sort of surgery is it that they may need to perform? I hope you got some answers and weren't too down about it all. I hope that the treatment is a simple procedure and it proves to be 'The Answer' for you.

On the subject of ovulation, the second part of the cycle post-ovulation is the bit that is a fixed time (pretty much), the ovulation can vary in its timing. WWW, just go for it before tomorrow morning - if you have the ewcm the sperm will be able to live for a few days anyway. Fingers crossed for you that it happens early.

jbenev - how are you doing? Try not to make yourself ill with the stress of waiting and watching symptoms as you have a few days left yet. I'm really not one to offer advice on it, as I can get quite obsessed to the point of getting cold sores and styes on my eye, but can you find stuff to do that really absorbs you to help you take your mind off it all for the odd hour?

I am on CD 8 today and I realised yesterday that I had actually been feeling quite laid low by my AF arriving, but it was more of a low-level slow burning sadness so I thought I was alright. It was only after it lifted this weekend that I realised in retrospect how flat I had been feeling.

Have a good day all - that has taken me ages to type, I had better get on with some work.

WWW - on the ov question, I would go for it, a few people I know said they got pg that early in the cycle and it happened to me when I got pg last time.

"taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler has a lot of info on how the idea that everyone should ov on day 14 is not correct - have you (and others?) read it? any thoughts on its usefulness? A friend who got pg straight after a mc said that she found it really helpful, so I went and bought it, a fascinating read but am only just getting to try out the techniques...

good luck WWW, and all

Know exactly how you feel, bf. It's hard to keep your emotions in check. Don't worry about it. These feelings will pass. One of my good friends told me of her pregnancy not long after my m/c, but she was so sensitive and kind about it that I've never had any problem accepting her pregnancy, and am able to talk to her about it no problem. It's when you see other women who seem to be so relaxed and taking their pregnancies for granted (and why wouldn't they - I did..) that you feel a bit jealous. Just focus on yourself, forget about the others.

Don't know if you remember a couple of weeks ago my best best friend announced that she thought she was pg after trying once - I was feeling very bad. Anyway, she's not pg. What a relief. Sorry, that sounds terrible. I'm just not ready for that kind of news quite yet.

Hello girls - no help on the when you ovulate question. I never have any idea. We just BD every other night from end of AF until temps risen. On CD23 and still no temp rise in sight!! But I checked back on the cycle I conceived DD and I ovulated then on CD25, so fingers-crossed!

Feeling bit blue at the mo - DH and DD have gone out for a walk with work colleague of DH, her DH and DD. She is pregnant (work colleague, not their DD!!). Trying so hard not to let it bother me, as it is not her fault that I had MC, but still feeling bit . For some reason writing it down here, makes me feel better, as I know you all understand!

Probably the Sound of Music in the background that is making me a bit emotional!!

I used to have a regular 28 day cycle.. It's all over the place now. I found that I ovulated at different stages of the cycle. Generally from day 10 to 16

Yes it is possible to ovulate a little earlier.
Just go for it.. Preferably every day then you won't miss out.

GOODLUCK

quick question girls - I'm on cd10 of what is approx a 28 day cycle. Feel like I could be ov'ing very soon, judging by my cm - not quite ewcm yet, but getting there. (sorry if tmi!)

Is it possible to ovulate at this early stage of a regular 28 day cycle? I thought it should be literally half way through, ie cd14 (which my temps last month indicated, even though at this time last month I felt the same as this. Did that make sense?!)

I really hope I do ov this early as dh is away from early Wed morning until Sunday, ie cd 13-cd17. Boo. He leaves at 4am - I'll need to send him off with a smile on his face ! I'm not doing any opk tests this month. (didn't buy any!) I had assumed that we were missing all our best bd chances this month but who knows? Worth a try anyway, hey?

Anyone around?

Fantastic news Bobbynog

BRILLIANT

Enjoy your holiday.

great news Bobbynog - Bobbytastic indeed as our little welsh friends from Cbeebies would say. welcome Nadine and JB - take care. At the start of our relaxing holiday in Cornwall my first AF post-MC/ERPC turned up, so I am back in the saddle, now on CD 9, so will start again with TTC. It feels good to have moved on physically. I feel glad to have you good ladies around to start the journey again. love and lluck to all

hey bobbynog

thats fantastic news!
well done and congratulations
hope u have a well earned breaka and hope to hear from you soon
x

Fab news bobbynog

Just what this thread needed.

Congratulations Bobbynog!!!! So so chuffed for you

Take care of yourself. And hope you have a wonderful holiday celebrating.

hope everyone else is doing ok and enjoying the weekend

oops....should've been...

BOBBYNOG!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! FANTASTIC NEWS!!!!

[GRIN][GRIN][GRIN][GRIN][GRIN][GRIN][GRIN]

So so pleased for you! Well done girl - finally - a BFP!!!!

Seriously thrilled for you, honestly have been thinking about you all the time and I couldn't be more chuffed for you!

there is hope!!!!

oh yeah and gassy as well as heartburn too...

hello bobbnog,weewilliewinkie, and rubles thanks for your responses. Well rubles i am AF is due on June 3rd. I am getting some type of cramping on my right side, heightened smell, my skin broke out, very moody, tired, very hot, and insomnia. The thing that has me mostly convinced is the cramping because when i got pregnant back in January i remember saying and complaining about cramps but had no idea it was me becoming pregnant. I have no idea what to think i dont want to get all excited and convinced until i find out i am and see a baby and hear a heartbeat. I'm also having a hard time discussing what im feeling with others because i dont want people around me to know if i am because of my miscarriage i want to wait to tell people. Any ideas, words of encouragement. I hate this waiting thing last time i got pregnant it was great i was not expecting it and didnt even realize i was a week late until someone asked me when i wanted to have children. I would appreciate any input. Thanks

It's positive! I am pregnant! I can't believe it!
SOrry to break the news and run but i am going on holiday tomorrow and i have a million and one things to do.
I will check back next week - i don't feel ready to join the "other" thread yet!
Wishing you all loads of luck whhilst i'm gone.

Big Hug Nicola - I hope your meeting with you consultant went ok this afternoon

Bobbynog, how you doing? so so hope you get the result you hope for tonight.

Need some energy dust tonight - I'm tired, but then always am after a busy week at work. But DH is complaining of being really tired and it's a BD night!! Blimey - doesn't TTC take the romance and spontaneity out of your relationship!! !

Hi all

Had the hysteroscope yesterday, he ended up doing it under a general anaesthetic, so I feel rather horrible today still. It was surprisingly sore when I woke up (and still), and I realise now it's because he had to do a lot of poking about. I was supposed to wait for him yesterday to come and talk to me afterwards, but I didn't realise it and went off home before he came! He (the obstetrician) phoned me later, laughing at me for not waiting (I work in a hospital but can't stand being a patient in one and got out of there as soon as I could stand up!), and he said I must come and see him today, which I am doing in about an hour. He was able to tell me on the phone that I seemed to have some sort of adhesions or something on the one side of the uterus (I had previously, prior to my last mc, had adhesions seen on hysterogram too), and that he needs to discuss all this with me in detail. So me and DH are off to the hospital shortly to see him.

I don't know what the implications will be but it may be surgery to divide the adhesions. Feeling rather fragile at present. If only this could all be a bit easier!!