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conceiving soon after m/c - advice please ladies!

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weewilliewinkie · 03/03/2006 16:22

Hello,

It's only been 1 week since I miscarried at 15+2wks. As you can imagine I am devasted by this, but am now thinking non-stop about getting pregnant again. My dh keeps asking when I 'think' I'll be ready to try again - how do I know?! Does the fact that I can't stop thinking about ttc indicate that I am ready, or just that I am still emotional at having lost a pregnancy?

That's daft, of course I am still emotional - in fact I am still raw at losing my baby. But I am desperate to be pregnant again. I just can't bear the thought of not being pregnant when my baby would have been due, in August. Does that make sense to anyone? I don't mean to sound callous, and I don't want to 'replace' the baby I lost with a new one. I really am still all over the place, I suppose.

any words of wisdom would be very welcome.

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Gizmo · 03/03/2006 16:34

Weeeellll....

I am now 10 weeks pregnant, having conceived this pregnancy within 3 weeks of my miscarriage.

Really, I'm not sure how to advise you. I'm very happy to be pregnant again, and in fact now feel quite emotionally 'stable' about the miscarriage (although it was a lot easier for me than for you as my m/c was much earlier in the pregnancy). It's almost like I've managed to grieve the lost baby and focus on the new one at the same time.

However, there are some practicalities to think about. Firstly it's a pain getting a due date if you conceive without one natural cycle after your m/c. This means you end up having to trot out the fact that you have had a m/c in every conversation with the medical profession about this pregnancy which might rub salt in the wound.

Secondly, you do spend much of your time worrying about the new pregnancy. I don't think waiting for a while will change that: you'll still worry. But if you're still very raw, that worry might be multiplied by the grief, which won't be easy.

Be good to yourself - take it one step at a time and if the urge for another baby gets stronger day by day, rather than getting weaker as your grief settles down, then I think you might feel happiest if you go for it.

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