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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Anyone got any tips on getting us pregnant please??

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Debbsy · 01/03/2006 23:31

We have been trying since May 2004 with no joy 2 early mcs.and a bit of a break for me,we have charted,temped,and used persona for 2 mths after that i had to give myself a break after a lot of tears and feelings of emptiness i at last feel ready to try again,so any tips old wives or otherwise will be very gratefully accepted.I have just booked my first appointment to try reflexology.We have both had all the fertility tests and both of us are fine so onwards and upwards for us again.Until our beanie baby makes a long awaited appearance and i at last see the 2 blue lines that dont disappear after a week or so.

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fresco · 04/04/2006 10:54

have you all got pg then?

fresco · 25/03/2006 11:46

gosh, its becoming a very crude business.hehe.thank god there are people like you who dont ming being down to earth.
Is the safest way and perhaps most accurate way to watch out for position of cervix/charting bbt/cm?
meerkatsunit - if you leek after intercourse, do you not loose lots of fishes? thank god you are here to give all those advice!!

amelie · 24/03/2006 11:53

make sure you have an orgasm within 15minutes of ejaculation. This makes the cervix contract, and touch the pool of sperm at the top of vagina, and helps draw the sperm into the channels that run through mucus in the cervix

Hattie05 · 23/03/2006 23:10

I do believe in trying your hardest not to plan and think too much about ttc. Just enjoy lots of sex!

DP and i had been wanting another baby for well over a year. Had a wait for periods to start after depo, then had a couple of normal periods on regular dates, the third month i was a bit later, so got excited about being pg but turned out i wasn't. Because of raised hopes, i then became a bit obsessive about counting days and thinking lots more about pg, still didn't get pg, so told myself to calm down and forget about cycle etc. This month just had regular sex and hey presto! i'm pg.

I really do feel that the less pressure i had put myself under could have helped. And certainly makes it much more of a surprise to discover you are pg!

Good luck to everyone and sorry for gatecrashing.xx

coggy · 23/03/2006 23:09

I agree.
Last time I got quite stressed when dh wasn't around at the 'right time' which seemed to be most months (shifts are NOT helpful when ttc I found!!)
This time I am much more relaxed but still like to know when I'm ov. because I feel a bit more in control even though I'm not really! If that makes sense! :)

snowleopard · 23/03/2006 23:06

Not terribly long - just under a year, but it was long enough for me to have started up with all the testing sticks and charting and all that, which I think really can do your head in.

coggy · 23/03/2006 23:05

That is so cool! How long were you ttc?

snowleopard · 23/03/2006 23:03

We actually used contraception for a month ( - on doctor's advice, because I was being tested for rubella antibodies and they said I might need treatment and would need to not get pg until results came back). The month after that month off - when I had not been thinking about dates and temps and OV tests for a few weeks - I got pg.

coggy · 23/03/2006 23:00

Lots of people say that snowleopard...to stop charting and using ov tests. But I can't forget what day I'm on...having a regular cycle (until this month it seems!!)I find it hard to 'switch off' and still think about the 'best time' etc.
I do agree with you but can never quite manage it myself tho'!!

snowleopard · 23/03/2006 22:46

(Haven't read whole thread but...) what worked for us was when we took a month off TTC. Sounds counter-intuitive when you're wanting to be pg asap, but it gives you a break from the stress.

coggy · 23/03/2006 22:27

Some good tips as well as some pretty weird advice on this thread!!!
A few interesting things to try out I say!
I'm not sure about agnus castus either actually gemmaseascout - I have heard that it can make things worse as well.
I used it this month for the first cycle and it is the only month since I've been testing (about 7 cycles) that I haven't ovulated. This could just be because I think that most women are supposed to miss 1 in 10 (ish) but it is a weird coincidence. Not worth the risk probably?

Monkeybar · 23/03/2006 21:42

Sorry if I'm repeating as haven't read all the posts, but I'm another Calista fan. It truly is amazing to see a fern pattern in your saliva.
It took 3 cycles using calista for me to get preg. Another tip, (from a GP practice nurse) was to take some cough medicine an hour or so before getting fruity. (Not sure what terms are generally used on here Blush). The reason behind the cough med is that it doesn't only thin the mucous in your chest IYSWIM. Gives the sperm an easier journey. It might just be coincidence, but the month with the cough med was the month we conceived.

MumtoBen · 23/03/2006 21:18

I used Calista which tells you when you ovulate. You put a bit of saliva on the tiny microscope and when it dries you look at it. The saliva has a fern pattern when you ovulate - it is amazing! I only seemed to ovulate for about 24hrs, so could have easily missed it. Even though it costs about £20 you can use it over and over again until the battery runs out (about a year or so)

gemmaseascout · 23/03/2006 19:34

hey
please please please dont take angus cactus. It can make underlying problems with fertiliy worse and can actually cause miscarriages even if you stop taking it when you become pregnant. Asprin a day is better. Sorry

MeerkatsUnite · 18/03/2006 21:59

bilbo1,

Sperm can leak out after intercourse; that is normal. What you describe is normal as well.

bilbo1 · 18/03/2006 11:52

Blimey elly12001 - don't have sex more than a couple of times a day! - LOL!!!!
After several years of trying there's no chance!!!

Meerkats - a bit grim to ask but you seem to know..you said about enough sperm getting to the cervix without the need of legs up/cushions etc. but most people are commenting on the sperm dripping out.....I seem to have a flood each time! Does that sound normal to you?!
Sorry to ask but it's one of those questions that I would NEVER ask anyone normally Blush

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Debbsy · 18/03/2006 09:11

thanks ladies some of these ive all ready tried and tested but will give them ago again,i will try the unconventional methods too Wink!!

Not been available much this week so apologies as ive been working in S wales off to see the refeloxologist today though having regular once weekly sessions,also going to see a chinese herbalist this afternoon for advice wish me luck xx

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angm1 · 16/03/2006 22:06

"Try" 14 days from the start of your period. Good Luck

peachygirl · 16/03/2006 21:04

I think it has been posted on other threads that agnus catsus should be taken up to ovulation and as it is quite powerful it should be with the advice of a herbalist.

elly12001 · 16/03/2006 20:55

Can I quickly add that as SOON as you find out that you are pregnant stop taking Agnus Castus.
If you are interested in taking the herbal remedy have a chat with a health food specialist!

elly12001 · 16/03/2006 20:24

Ok here are my top tips on becoming pregnant - I have endometriosis and have 2 children.

  1. Agnus Castus, I'ts a herbal medication from your local health food shop, used to increase fertility.
I swore by it and became pregnant very quickly with both my children. My friend has polycystic ovary syndrome and after taking agnus castus for a few months has become pregnant.
  1. Count 14 days from the start of your period (if you have a regular 28 day cycle) start having sex on day 12 following your cycle up until day 16 of your cycle.
Day 14 you will be the most fertile but by having sex on day 12 you are giving the sperms a chance to get up there! Don't have sex more than a couple of times a day.
  1. Relax! I know I'ts an old clich'e but stress never got anyone pregnant!
4 Remember it takes the average couple 2 years of trying before they conceive! But if you have been trying for this amount of time and are not preggas I would deffo see your G.P. Good luck!
KenningtonKitty · 16/03/2006 15:31

Debbsy - I had 2 m/c (1 early/1 missed) before getting pregnant with my DD (now nearly 4) so totally feel for you. I also have a DS (7 months) and can recommend the legs up the wall after dtd - (this may have nade a difference as I have a tilted uterus ?) - Did this with both babies and did the trick.

I was also prescribed oral progesterone for the first 16 weeks - as low progesterone can lead to m/c but it's not something they can test for until you are pregnant - Some drs won't prescribe as they don't believe in benefits so I had to get it privately - but after 2 lots of progesterone - 2 healthy pregnancies - so I believe in it !

Good luck and the best advice (although difficult I know) is to try and relax and it will happen

expatinscotland · 16/03/2006 14:26

whoa, fresco! good on you.

this is it for us. i've been shifting the baby stuff as dd2 outgrows it.

best of luck to you for baby no. 3!

fresco · 16/03/2006 14:20

question for you ladies: can you chart the basal temp if you dont get af yet? i dont know where i am with periods because i havent had one since my c-section 3 months ago.but i only stop b/feeding completely that is about 5 weeks ago.i b/fed for the first 8 weeks and then stoped at night first and then altogether.

riley3 · 16/03/2006 14:17

Going back to the orgasm tip (!) (which does make perfect sense), if you are one of the unlucky few of us who doesn't usually orgasm during intercourse it will be just as effective to.... Blush DIY immediately afterwards. A good excuse IMO! Lots of men get quite turned on by this in any event so you may then be in for round 2......