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Any older mums ttc (late 30s)?

359 replies

sideways · 27/02/2006 15:57

I was just wondering how many of the ttc people were in their late 30s or 40s.

I am 38 and started ttc this year. It would be nice if we could support each other.

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K1K2 · 03/04/2006 23:21

Dear Riley3 -so sorry to hear your news- I am a relative newcomer to MN and have been posting on the TTc threads, but to see your last thread it must have been awful for you to go through the mc heartache twice now, in a way- after a few weeks you thinking it was all over and all... I 'd thought i'd send my last post 2 nite ( I am getting addicted to this site) by wishing you all huge bd... If its any further consolation to you deferred Mums to be ( not old at all !), I had my DS ( now nearly 3) at the age of 39.5 -a total suprise..As like batmum earlier on in this thread, I was told after investigations years ago that I might have problems conceiving, due to extensive ahesions on my womb and ovaries. It can happen! LOL

riley3 · 02/04/2006 15:54

Hooray! After my usual long break (turned out I hadn't yet mc'd after all - passed the empty sac whole on Thursday Sad and had a scan to confirm on Fri, I log back on to find a BFP! Well done Ang! A BFP normally is exactly what it says it is. Take it easy girl.

Angsthase · 02/04/2006 11:18

thanks for all your support girls. Hope it all goes well for you. Here's some dust.
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Hope it works! Smile

Cristina7 · 02/04/2006 00:12

Congratulations, Angst. I hope all goes well for you.

jabberwocky · 02/04/2006 00:08

Blush "First" of all...

jabberwocky · 02/04/2006 00:08

Ang, just saw this. Fist of all, HUGE Congratulations! Send some babydust our way Smile

Yes, I had exactly the same thing with ds. Brownish implantation spotting and a weird, kind of heavy feeling. Like you said, not painful, but noticeable.

Original poster
sideways · 01/04/2006 11:02

I don't know anything about them Ang but just wanted to say congratulations and fingers crossed for you.

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Angsthase · 01/04/2006 11:00

Thanks Maisiemog.

Yes, feel tired, bloated, sore breasts and the test was VERY positive (also got very emotional last weekend about nothing - don't know if that's a sign?!). The spotting was only very slight and seems to have stopped. I read on babycentre that it could be "implanation" cramps. They seem to be intermitant and not painful, just uncomfortable, so I'm just going to chill out and wait and see. Fingers crossed.

Anyone else had them? Know how long they can last??

maisiemog · 01/04/2006 00:00

Wow Ang that's great news. I don't really remember mucha about spotting when I was pregnant, but I know you can still have fake periods when you are pg, so who knows?
Now you take it easy. How many tests did you do?
My first test didn't work, no stripes of any description, so I went back and bought two more tests which both worked. I don't think I would have believed one.
Do you feel pregnant? Sicky tired etc...

Angsthase · 31/03/2006 09:33

Maisiemog - try www.babycentre.co.uk. That's where I got my info re the spotting. I'm sure there are others Smile.

Angsthase · 31/03/2006 09:16

Thanks for the info jabberwocky. Feel like I'm finally starting to learn what it's all about.

Thanks Cristina7 - giving up the booze isn't really a problem, just not looking forward to going out and being the only sober one!

Well, did a pregnancy test yesterday and it says I'm pregnant Smile. Tried not to get too exited. Last night I started some slightly(brown) spotting Sad. I looked it up on the net and it says that can be normal if not combined with abdominal pain. The thing is I have wierd "feelings" in my abdomen, but not pain. Could this be the beginning of the end? Trying not to worry, but never been pregnant before, so don't know if wierd feelings are normal. Anyone got any ideas what's going on?

maisiemog · 29/03/2006 19:28

AAAAAAH! Nicola63 (a lot of Nicolas on Mumsnet then Grin )
That sheds some light on the whole thing. I do have fish oil capsules, but had missed the blindingly obvious fact that they aren't liver oils. Grin
Is there a good site for basic info about all this having babies lark. I didn't really plan it last time, but I'd like to have a bit more control this time - I know I know!? Grin
Had to have a scan today and the wifey doing the scan said she could see my ovaries, she could tell by the follicles, she then had to explain what they were. It's all a bit gruesome, but I'll get used to it I suppose. Shock

Cristina7 · 29/03/2006 13:40

Angsthase - well done on giving up drinking, even if it wasn't a "problem".

Nicola63 · 29/03/2006 13:36

It is fish LIVER oil (and all liver products in fact) that should be avoided when pregnant (because of the specific form of Vit A in in) but fish oil (not from the liver) is OK.

jabberwocky · 28/03/2006 15:48

maisiemog, I'm taking prenatal vitamins to make sure I get enough folic acid. Not really sure about vit A , but I do take a fish oil supplement daily as well. I'm pretty sure the only other thing it has is vit E but I will check on that.

jabberwocky · 28/03/2006 15:47

Welcome aboard ladies!

Angsthase, egg white (ew) cervical mucous only comes when you are ovulating - about 24 hours, give or take. So you should notice a progressive increase in viscosity for 3 or 4 days leading up to ovulation. Evening primrose oil can help as can taking a certain type of cough syrup. there's a link about that below in one of my other posts.

Having said all of that, I am currently experiencing some anxiety about my cm situation this month. It never seemed to get to the ew stage. Sad I'm thinking of getting an Isis Scope if we're not successful this month. Someone started a thread on that this month and it sounds promising.

maisiemog · 28/03/2006 14:27

Hi there,
I've been reading the conception threads and thought I would introduce myself.
I am an older mum at 39 and have a 16 month old ds. We are thinking about the next baby, so I'm trying to find out a bit about what types of things I should be doing to ensure the optimum health for me and a new baby.
I am currently taking cod liver oil, partially because I am still bfing my ds and he will not take Cod LO from a spoon, so I am hoping he will get some effect through my milk. However I remember I couldn't take it when I was pg because of the high levels of vit A.
Does anyone know how on earth you are supposed to take fish oil without also taking vit A, are there fish oil supps without?
I suppose I should also switch to pregnacare multivits, as a regular multivit might have too high a level of vit a.

Angsthase · 28/03/2006 12:41

Hi Ladies,

Hope you don't mind me joining in. I'm new to this game (the chat). Been ttc for 18 mths with no luck. 39 in 3 mths so clock is ticking like Big Ben.

About to start hormone treatment for IUI next week. Anyone ever tried it? Don't really know what to expect, but have decided to give up the demon drink to give it my best shot. Any tips??

Interested to read about EPO. What the difference between CM and EW? Do they come at the same time. (Bit of a novice here).

jabberwocky · 27/03/2006 21:13

It just may make all the difference for you nicola.

I'm starting to wonder if my cycle is wacky again. Should be ovulating now, have some cm but no ewcm yet. Bd'ing anyway, but a little stressed that I'm not ovulating. Starting to get anxious, but I know that doesn't help anything.

Nicola63 · 27/03/2006 13:39

I've posted on the ttc after m/c thread, but just to say that my repeat thyroid test was still abnormal and so I am starting on thyroxine. Hoping this will be the key to success.

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sideways · 27/03/2006 08:55

Best of luck jabberwocky. Hope this is the month Smile

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jabberwocky · 26/03/2006 14:44

Expect ovulation any day and am bd'ing like mad. Any baby dust would be greatly appreciated Smile

jabberwocky · 24/03/2006 18:14

Nic63, yes thyroid could definitely be an issue for you. I've had hypothyroididsm for years, but well controlled with meds. Once you get pregnant make sure they test you monthly as it can go up and down drastically in pregnancy.

FirstNikki, epo is evening primrose oil, thought to improve cervical mucous - very important for us older mums!

FirstNikki · 24/03/2006 17:22

Sorry to gategrash but what is epo? Blush

Nicola63 · 24/03/2006 09:44

I have got EPO and cough med, also taking extra Vit E and C. Really want to ttc hard this month, but scared after two m/c's, don't know how to cope if this keeps happening.

I told one of my friends about the m/c this week, and she told me about her sister, who had 7 m/c's, then had two babies when she was 44 and 45. They never identified a cause for the m/c's and she just kept trying. I admire that, but not sure how one keeps going through all those.

I'm waiting for the result of thyroid test repeat, when I get it next week will decide whether to go on thyoroid hormone (will do so if the result is still abnormal). Underactive thyroid affects fertility as well as possibly causing m/c so I will start treatment, if it is necessary, as soon as I can.

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