The BESH Fillies Are Under Starters Orders

I would start throwing them in the bin until he gets the message.

The worst thing with MSB is we've talked about this multiple times and he simply doesn't get why I think it's disgusting to leave his stinky pants and socks all over the brand new carpets He gets all arsey and suggests he does his own washing! I keep explaining its not about doing the washing but about cleanliness, appearance of the room and currently, the practicalities of me having chronic abdo pain leaning down to pick up the clothes he's too lazy to pick up himself! So I have taken from the washing basket what made it in there. The reality of the disgusting-ness of the habit will never penetrate. The reality of running out of pants just might.

AMNH sits on the edge of the bed each night, pushes of pants and socks and leaves then by the side of the bed. Next morning he steps over them. Next night, he leaves that day's set on top of them. And so on until we've been through a week. It's just so minging. I wish I could think of something to do that would disgust him to a similar level. Sadly it would probably have to be something like poo in a corner of the bedroom and wipe my bottom on the duvet every night for a week.

And that's exactly what he does! I have made a stand to only do what is in the washing basket so maybe he'll stop leaving then there....I hope I will confess tonight that is what I've done so he doesn't just wash what's in the basket. There must be about 10 pairs in that pile (ew).

Hurrah for victory on the pant front! Well done. I know how hard it is not to crack when the horrid skanky things are piling up in the doorway (what on earth makes men drop them where they stand?).

X posts. Work norf, just work, if I can keep my head together!

Well it's taken two weeks of resistance but MSB has finally run out of pants! He said and I quote They can't all be in the washing basket No dear, they're in the big pile of washing on the floor I refuse to pick up.....I hope my point will be made tonight when I pile them up?!

How are people feeling? euro, cavey?

Morning fillies. I'm still feeling odd and unhappy today, but considerably better for a long and deep sleep.

Who's got anything happening today?

Ah Phew, I thought I was rambling. I feel quite odd. Drunk almost 5 weeks since I had a drink! time to...zzzzzz

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None of us anticipate fertility difficulties (I don't think?) and each stage of investigation/procedure is met with denial fufc and almost like grief - cavey do you feel like you're mourning winning a baybee the way you'd expect?

Yes sometimes giving yourself permission to cry means it all comes out quickly and intensely rather than struggling with it for long periods doesn't it? It's adjusting your head to how you imagined life. None of us th

Are you feeling better fr having got tears out of system, at any rate? And you're right, it ISN'T supposed to be like this.

cavey :( its rubbish. Any woo will have a wobble at times. Stick with it and use HWHNN as a giant tear catcher

I believe I an losing my marbles. The evidence is this:

1. This morning, I got to work and realised I didn't bring any socks. I had to go to the hospital shop and buy some
2. I left my Grandma sitting by the phone in the care home for 15 minutes because I forgot to call back after I got the carers to bring her to said phone
3. I left the hamster in the ball for about 45 minutes because I forgot I'd got him out (poor fella must be shattered!)

Me too, cave. Well, not the tears, but I feel dreadfully churned up, and have done all day. What brought it on for you?

Buggeration, euro. You really don't deserve this. Not that anyone ever does, but still. I'm so sorry. I think I mentioned before that I've had this happen a few years ago (and then it recurred for a couple of years, to add insult to foofular injury), and I think someone else had also been through it. If you have any questions about practicalities and stuff, just ask.

I'm sorry euro, that sucks another inadequate word oppportunity massively. As we know, life doesn't have rhymes and reasons that we can fathom. This isn't fair :( especially the sechs ban over the anniversary again! I hope they can sort it all out swiftly.

bugs he's gorgeous (as are you!).

That's awesome, LP. I'm really happy for you.

I just had my follow up appointment with the foofologist. It's not good news. Apparently the smear he did showed mild to moderate abnormalities (the earlier one only showed mild) and the evil HPV, HPV 16, is present. That'll learn me for sleeping with cheap men in my misspent youth. So anyway, he wants to remove the dodgy bits after the IVF drugs have left my system.

I am really upset. Work is shit at the moment (I won't go into details for fear of outing but loads of people have left in both my office and my global dept in the last few months, which makes everything feel rather unstable), I cant get up the duff, and now I need to have bits of my lady bits sliced off! And although we were planning to take the summer off ttc after teh IVF debacle, in my mind that just meant lots of sff (and a slight hope in the back of my mind that the "relax and it'll happen" thing might just work). Now it means a month of bleeding with no shagging allowed. And over our second wedding anniversary too (I was on a sechs ban for the first anniversary too, as it was just before my HSG). Harrumph.

It seems so unfair. Although I have slept with a couple of men who were promiscuous, I have no other risk factors - low no. of sexual partners, didn't lose virginity young or have first child very young , don't smoke, don't take the pill. And I am the healthiest I have ever been. I've hardly drunk this year. My diet is super healthy. I'm exercising. I am not even drinking coffee ffs. Arse.

Pity party at mine tonight. Please bring gin. Lots of it.

Oh God I luff him! I want to kiss him all over his happy wriggling body!

Had about 2 hours sleep last night and have just finished an 11 1/2 hour working day. Cooperlugs is my sole delight.

Hooray for a wriggly bean! one step at a time laura.

I love CooperLugs! That tongue lolling out just smacks of happiness

Thank you for the ESH well-wishes. Everything was good with the scan - size & dates all match up and the little grublet was waving arms and leg-nubs at us. Didn't expect to see that. I cried the whole time. Onward to our next hurdle - nuchal dating scan on the 26th. One day at a time.

Glad you've got a plan Cavelina - hopefully it is a very short list and you'll be at the top soon.

Congrats on being free from the rent house Faithy!