Rainbow Babies - hoping and trying for rainbows, loving and remembering our Angels xxx

Hiya too
wtw I've got your section date in my diary - will be sending +ve vibes that day x
Fan sorry you got the bfn - odd still no AF though.... Maybe.... Thinking of you xx
Mias 20 wks, trickle 32 wks... Where has the time gone?
For me it's dragging a bit but end/beginning is in sight. Had a scan today and all looking well, LO is estimated to be 7lb 5 although still lots of fluid I'm not in danger zone. So I had a membrane sweep (eek) and lots of BHs tonight, feeling ready
angel hope phebs let's you have some rest soon!
Hi to everyone else (am on phone so sorry for text-speak)

wtw if the past year is anything to go by then I should have come on on, either saturday through to monday. So I'm on CD 34 or CD 32 today. I had a couple more days of spotting this month hence the two numbers. I have on one occasion before had a 41 day cycle but that was a long time ago.

Oh fan how confusing for you. If it hasn't turned up tomorrow maybe test again? I know how disheartening it must be though to see the bfn. What day was AF due? I didn't get bfp this time until 2 days after due even with an early response. Had bfn on day it was due (new years eve so I decided to drink!!)

Blizy when are you due to test?

Fan so hoping this is your month seems really cruel the way those tests end up being xx

I actually have most things needed for a new baby, my mum took them and stored them as I couldn't bear having them in the house. There were just a few largeish things I didn't get as I was struggling to either get funding for slightly specialised items (all that funding has since dried up and doesn't exist anymore) or advice (which never made any sense).

too there is a possibility, but we only swi for three days and that is counted into my 13dpo. But I guess its still possible. I will have to wait it out. I am still cramping but no AF and no other pg symptoms.

Fan, any chance you ovved later than you thought?

Fan hugs xxxx
Whatever those threads are full of stupid people who sail through life untouched by crap ... Ignore it : you ve got more important stuff... Xxx
Mech I have my moments cx
We too didn t buy much for Phebs initially ( made up for that now!!!) she had a new going home outfit & first teddy .. But she's worn most of the lovely clothes we had bought for Georgie apart from the odd extra special outfit...
Trickle wow not long for u xxx
Love to all: so tired : work really busy & Phebs still full of cold etc... So not sleeping properly thank god it's Friday xxxc

AF still hasent turned up, not even a spot. I'm still cramping slightly. I'm wondering if I ovulated at all this month, or are my fibroids playing up. I guess if AF is still a no show by sunday then a trip to the doctors (after another pg test) to see what's going on, could be a possibilty that I didn't miscarry properly? But its well over dpo13 now so I should of had a positive if I was pg right?

TurtleDove Not something I ever thought I would say, ever! :D Last year we were waiting to do my 21 day blood test. For six months. I was pulling my hair out!

Thea's nursery sounds lovely. And Thea is a beautiful name. As is Maia. So many lovely names on this thread.

Since I only made it to 24 weeks with Dexter we literally had nothing, so will more or less start from scratch if we are luck enough to get pregnant again. Friends and family bought him some little toys and a couple of blankets, and we will keep one or two of those as just for him. The others can be hand me downs to his siblings.

Blizy WTW I am dreading getting through pregnancy again. I will be so anxious and a total PITA. But I would rather do that than miss something. We really debated going into hospital the day Dexter was born, when we got in I was 3cm dilated! Terrified to think what would have happened if I had just gone to work.

Oh Fan. I'm wishing so hard for a baby for you (and one for Blizy).

Mecha, glad to hear that AF has arrived - never thought I'd be typing those words on this thread!

Trickle and wtw, I felt the same re buying things for Maia. However, because Thea was full-term, we had everything for her, cot, clothes, nursery all decked out with pretty pictures and girly bunting, pram, Moses basket etc. We just left it all in place - in fact, the day we came home without Thea we closed the nursery door ceremonially and then 10 minutes later I had to open it again because it felt wrong to build it up into a shrine. So we didn't really need to buy anything much for Maia. In the end we bought a few clothes and a couple of toys that were specifically hers (at about 35 weeks). Maia's first babygro came from the same pack as the two Thea wore - we have one in her memory box and she was buried in the other.

Oh blizy the old 'babies slow down near term to get ready for labour/because there's not much room' No.They.Don't.! It is such a dangerous myth.

Ah fan- so sorry, hope you are ok. ((hugs))

Wtw- I had a look on that thread too, so bloody infuriating! I had to comment on a thread about reduced movements where a poster was adamant that babies movements slow down and that reduced movements is normal!

Waves to everyone, hope you are all well. X

fan I had popped on to see how you were doing, I am so sorry :(

WTW I have seen the thread you mean. I have the same problem with people asking about cramps and bleeding in the second trimester and being advised it is totally fine and they are being hysterical :( Any advice to go to hospital or call the midwife and get checked is accused of scare-mongering and I hate it.

Also excited to hear about due date and scans, and everything is crossed.

Little really glad your boss is being understanding. Mine is lovely, and it makes such a difference. Though I was called and begged to do a day of work yesterday. My maternity cover is just awful and we are a two person office! Boss was suitabley grateful and I was having a good day so really didn't mind. With the operation in September, it is likely to be October before I can go back to work. I kind of wish I could go back sooner, but it is almost a relief to have the decision made for me. Like with ttc, I have been forced to put thing on hold and just use the time to get well.

Green thinking of little Merryn. Such a beautiful name. Glad your mum is being alright with you x

Angel you seem to be a good person to know! :) I think they are hoping to do keyhole, and the surgeon is lovely. It sounds so straightforward. So I am only freaking out about it a little, occasionally. If there are certain foods I have to avoid afterwards, so be it. I will cope. I can eat very little at the moment without incredable pain!

Mias the Olympic volunteering sounds so exciting! What an amazing thing to be involved in :)

I too have had AF arrive today. Which is actually great news. Since I am not allowed to be PG just yet, this is the next best thing. Two in two months! More than I had in the 18months before we conceived Dex. Touch wood I am in some sort of regular cycle.

Waves to everyone xx

Angel I really should just hide it but I can't! People seem to think you are scare-mongering if you point out that the risk you are taking is your babies life. Everyone has to make their own decisions based on their own experiences I totally understand that but people don't seem to realise the consequences or dismiss them as such a small risk.

Oh fan (((hugs))) it must be agonising xxxxx

I don't think so wtw

I'm so fed up, I feel like someone keeps stamping fail on my life. I'm taking the day off, I'm too upset.

Ah fan that does suck any chance it's just too early still?

Waves trickle xx

BFN. Twice, now that sucks.

Hi everyone been away ages sorry, have tried to catch up on the thread sorry if I missed something impoirtant, you are all often in my thoughts waves at too

fan Ooo fingers crossed for you, though it's not easy is it, or an end to anything - just the start, I don't mean to sound negative, it's obviously positive too but there are so many emotions it's so conflicting, I guess I'm just trying to say I understand how confusing it all can be and good luck :)

wtw Blooming hec that's come close quickly, I know it's something you were saying pages and pages back but the 'plan' is to induce at 39 weeks, really it's only for my peace of mind (and I think the consultants too) as there really is no logical or medical reason I shouldn't be allowed to go overdue again - not that I could, I'd be camped out in antenatal ward refusing to leave. Hope your pain isn't too bad atm. I understand where you are coming from on what to buy - what's safe stuff. I picked out one special outfit as I'll need that regardless - and yes I considered it might be the burial outfit not the one we go home with, I'm not sure I'm at the 'we will be taking a baby home' point in my head yet. I've bought maternity pads and a nightie I hate without much thought - but getting a cot freaks me out a little iykwim.

blue Sorry I misunderstood about the care you were getting, hope the consultant continues to listen to you - it should be much more than just your physical wellbeing they are looking at - especially in a rainbow pregnancy

Mia Wow, thank you . 20 weeks don't know why everything suddenly becomes harder - even if things were fine, I was really aware it's an 'anomoly scan' - while everyone else was concentrating on wether we'd find out the sex - so they could start on about names ect ect and I'm not ready for that either even now at 32 weeks. Really hope everything goes well and the most interesting thing is some lovelly pictures for the album and nice memories.

little9 So sorry to be 'meeting' on here, what a horrible shock. This is a good place, with good people who understand or are at least damn good listeners and very very good at handholding.

Hope everyone else is well, I'm heading towards excited and as is bloody usual that frightens me, sigh. I'm going to be some sort of helicopter PFB on steroids parent I can see it now I'll drive everyone including myself totally insane (though maybe not before my mother does - she has already started talking about routines ARGH!!!) (hopefully) 7 weeks to go

Whatever step away from stupid threads where people live in an idealistic world where all is peachy!!!!
Where nothing ever goes wrong & their biggest stress is actually being pg!!!!!!
Unfortunately I seem to be seeing a lot of pts like this at the moment!!!
Quote " I m stressed as I m pg!!"
Me: " why u stressed???" pt " because I m pg!!" ffs .... It took all my professional restraint to walk out on her & leave before I told her she's lucky & being pg is not stressful it's normal unless you ve been through the experiences we have!!!!!
Get real!!!! Now I m wound up... Step away ; concentrate on yourself ... These opinions/people aren t worth your stress xxxx

fan

Grrr stupidly got involved in a debate about refusing induction at 42 weeks. I just can't understand why you would refuse knowing the risks.

we shall get it done wtw even if I cant do it, my mate will. Hes such a lovely kind bloke, hes one of the only ones who talks about babies with me, and his youngest was a prem baby at 28 weeks, so he says he understands a little bit of how we all feel, but he is lucky his baby survived.

If you can't get it done please don't worry. You've got enough on your mind! Of course you don't want to get your hopes up and a bfn would be hard. So so so hope it's a bfp!!!

wtw I keep second guessing myself, which means it has been easier to say no to the tests than yes. One minute I think I must be pg and then I think but why, Im more than likely not.
Yep thats fine to leave it tomorrow at that time, we willprobably not be able to do it will around lunch anyway, as its competition day tomorrow.

I have had a few cramps today and feeling tired and like I just want to sit down, but I do think AF is going to show. I keep rushing to the loo to see if shes here. I so want to be pg but I dont want to get my hopes up.