The BESH Republic Of Rulvakia

I'm glad you survived the night, Faife!

And congrats on the new job Lemonisious!!

And...well, Buggey, you is diffed! My sore sore nipples won't take any tassels so I'm going to do my dance for you 100% nekkkd. Wow, I'm so happy for you. And very selfishly super glad that I will have a fellow ESH to get through these terrifying early days with.

Thanks all for your thoughts on telling TOM. I think Norfy's idea of making it a 'we' thing is absolutely the way for me to approach it. In fact when I read that suggestion I immediately felt some relief. So, tonight is the night. Not certain how or when and I'm so nervous I'll probably just blurt it out at a completely inappropriate moment

Now I just have to make it through a very busy day without puking all over the actors.

bugs I'm delighted to see that my fb feed has revealed this! Take a hold of yourself missy, cycling, running, dancing, coffee & early booze do not cause Teflon wombs. If they did, women would go to Starbucks not the Brook clinic and teenagers would cycle home from parties.

Aw

Well we're here for you - both of you! - whenever you need us.

Get thee to superdrug! They have excellent early preg tests. My first lines were sooo faint but I got a convincing one later the same day on superdrug.

Book yourself a scan, I would never be able to get through a first tri without a scan. But make sure you'd be at least 8 weeks on the day as a scan at 6 or 7 weeks often won't be all that reassuring even if everything is actually ok. I had one that I wasn't expecting at 6+4 and the baby was the tiniest blob and the hb literally one flashing pixel on the screen. My scan at 9 weeks had a head and body and little tiny arms that moved and was so much more reassuring.

Woohoo!
That's fantastic news bugs. It's early days, all that adventurous stuff like coffee and booze should be fine. How does GP feel?
Ditto Kat's crossed fingers and positive vibes for a trouble free 12 weeks!

Oh and the running and cycling is fine. Rather boringly, exercise is meant to be good for differs.

Oh My God.

Gets nekkid, starts dancing frantically. leaks milk all over floor and puts clothes back on but continues the dancing.

Congratulations laura and bugs I am over the moon to log on and see two wins! bugs was this the result of the cypriot sunshine? Sounds like you had a very sechsy holiday! Do not worry about all the things you ought not to have done. The weekend after Max was conceived we had a big family birthday at which I got shitfaced. He is still here velcroed to me in his fucking sling as he has taken objection to going in his pram.

I have everything crossed that these will be the stickiest baybees in the history of the ESH and there will be no cause for visiting the EPU whatsover in the next 8 weeks. Sending vibes for enormatits, morning sickness and all the rest.

So excited for you both!!

Woo hoo bugs!

I am sure mini bean enjoyed the run and bike ride. Don't worry about those. It decided to implant so they won't have done any harm. Ditto the coffee. And don't worry about the shitfacedness either. It will still be living off its yolk and not you yet.

How exciting.

Fuck me! It's like a party in here!!! Excitement all round for a double win!

Wow, Bugs. Wow, LP.

Amazing news (even though understandably complicated LP). I am overawed.

Keeping fingers toes tassels & all else crossed for sticky BFPs and very happy outcomes.

Hooray! Well done on the new job lemons ! When do you start?

I missed LOADS, again!! Tentative congrats laura and massive good luck with telling TOM, agree with the others that I would want to know. And like the cave suggestion of making it a we-thing.

Well done on surviving the night faif and alone all weekend that would be hard in your circumstances.

I got offered the job yesterday so went out celebrating (hence the missing stuff). Big waves and tentative nipples at all of you thegeneral in particular!

Yes I survived! Tossed and turned til 2am then told myself I was being ridiculous and conked out! MSB is away til Monday but I think the first night was always going to be the hardest.

How are you feeling this morning LP?

faify, how did you sleep? Obviously you've survived the night, so I won't bother reassuring you it will be ok, as of course you know that now. You've been so amazingly brave and strong and practical through all the fire stuff, let alone all the other shit you've had to deal with that it's not at all surprising you're having a massive wobble now it's all coming to an end and you're pretty much healed and home. Is MSB back tonight or will you be doing another night alone?

Laura, I'm so pleased for you and completely understand how you feel I think fee's suggestion is good. Or you could try "Darling, our bodies were a bit ahead of us on the ttc late summer thing," which makes it more of a "we" thing rather than an "I" thing, if you see what I mean.

Oh, Faife, it makes sense that you're worried - I can't imagine how scary the fire was!

Double check everything just to put your mind at ease, then put on a funny/cheesy/favourite film and trust that you're safe.

How about Er, there's no easy way to say this. You know we said we'd ttc again in the summer? Well, my period was late/I just thought I would delete as appropriate so I poas and it turns out I'm pregant. Just wait for a lull in conversation?

On a mememe note, I'm on my own while MSB is at this stag do. I'm bloody terrified. It's my first night alone since the fire :( I'm still freaked out about the smoke detectors going off the other week. Everything downstairs is unplugged and I've checked the cupboards to m,e sure no-one is hiding anywhere! Just staying up til I am too exhausted not to sleep...

Thank you for your extraESH support - Faify Euro Cavelina...I hate how our ttc past has ruined me in so many ways. The fact that I'm feeling so low and disturbingly calm and too scared to feel happy is wrong. Just plain wrong. Miscarriages really suck the joy out of everything surrounding early diffedness.

So I just talked to TOM and he's coming to meet me at the theatre tomorrow late afternoon. We'll have an early dinner - 6.30ish. If (and that's a big if) I gathered up courage and decided to tell him right away, what do you think I should do/say?

I don't even know how to bring it up. Especially after our conversation last week when we decided that we were going to wait a few months to continue fortifying our relationship before resuming ttc.

I honestly don't know what his reaction will be - and I think the next few months are going to be really scary, on tenterhooks the whole time.

Oh wow, Laura. I don't think I could delay telling KFZK, but then we haven't been through what you have. But the scary side of this is not something you should go through alone. We are here to hold your hand until you are ready to tell him.

I disappear for 5 minutes and we have news!

Tentative congrats LP, your feelings are totally understandable. I'm going to put my sensible, non-emotional, hat on and say I think you should tell TOM the next time you see him. He'd want to know I'm sure of it. I asked HWHNN for his opinion and he said he'd want to know right away if it were him.
It kind of harks back to what we were saying earlier about always assuming the worst, it's hard not to I know, but you need to look at the glass as half full not half empty.

Although he'll be scared I'm sure, don't you think he'll be happy you're diffed? You getting pregnant is quite different from ttc - in that he was probably worried about the whole trying/not being successful/being gutted each time the droid returns and the stress that brings and would put on your delicate relationship as well as dealing with the reality of you being diffed and the fear of the pregnancy progression...do I make sense? If he really didn't want you to 'accidently' get diffed he would have been meticulous about contraception, yes?