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will start ttc 1213 but DP wants me to go on the pill till then. advice needed please

29 replies

Ticktock1 · 26/04/2012 10:36

Hi,

I'm not 100% sure this is the right place to post so I'm sorry if not.

I just wanted some advice on the pill and conception. I am 28 and have never been on the pill, my ex husband was always happy to use condoms. I have been with my DP for 18 months and he hates using condoms. We have decided to start ttc at the start of next year when his DD is settled after starting school.

He has asked me if I would go on the pill until then. I personally don't want to but maybe I am wrong, I hate the idea of putting fake hormones into my body, I'm scared of putting on weight and that the pill could lower my sex drive. I'm also so desprate for a baby I do not want to do anything that could hinder getting pregnant.

How have other people found ttc after coming off of the pill? If it is not going add to the amount of time it could take to get pregnant then I would concider it.

Thank you so much for your advice in advance

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EmpireBiscuit · 26/04/2012 11:18

Being on the pill made me gain weight (which was impossible to lose), become quite emotionally unstable, gave me terrible skin and destroyed my sex drive. When I came off it last year I felt like a different person (only down side being the return of horrific periods). If the only reason you are considering it is to please your DP I would think really hard about the possible side effects.

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Ticktock1 · 26/04/2012 11:09

Thank you for your replys. I have wanted a family my entire life and I am just so scared if I go one the pill it will take longer.

FluffyJawsOfDoom I'm an afraid of that, sex is hugely important to my DP and I.

Ha ha bugoven I like your idea, maybe I could convince him with that!

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bugoven · 26/04/2012 11:03

I don't know if going on the pill for 2 months was the cause or stress of TTC but I have had pretty erratic cycles and spotting for the six months I've been off it and TTC.

It can take a few tries to find a pill that suits you and if you're TTC 2013 that's not a lot of time to adjust and settle to the right one or for him to be using condoms.

Ultimately you should do what you feel comfortable with. Maybe if you use condoms your "love making" will be all the better once you are trying to make a baby. Just a thought Smile

FluffyJawsOfDoom · 26/04/2012 11:00

There's no reason it should make ttc take longer - plenty of women get pregnant straight after coming off the pill and there's even a bit of research which indicates you might be more fertile post pill.

That said, I'm never going back on it because it destroyed my sex drive! So it's all personal preference; many women get no side-effects whatsoever.