Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

Boris WTF??? Ring the hospital on Monday to find out what they are playing at. You can ask for your results over the phone surely??

If they really can't see you until august I would get copies of the results and go to see raj rai at st marys to help you understand them. It's only £230 for a consultation.

You have a right to get copies of your medical records so it should be fine.

I think it must be a mistake - end of august omg!

Hi Everyone,

I too have been lurking for quite a while, following all your trials and triumphs, finding solace in hearing that others have experienced similar to me, though I wish none of us had. I'm so pleased for all of you who have had BFPs and happy scans, and my fingers are crossed for those still waiting. mumtum all my extra digits are crossed for you, hoping you get answer soon and that the Goddess of Metalling is good to you.

I have one DS, 2yrs, and have had one miscarriage (6wks in June 2011) and one CP (Nov 2011). I am currently (allegedly) 10+3, but am feeling wretched today. Life has many challenges for me at the moment - financial, career, health - and today I have run out of coping ability. My boobs are less sore than they have been and yesterday I convinced my doctor to try the doppler, which didn't find a heartbeat. I told her I wouldn't metal if she didn't find one, as it's still quite early, and I didn't. At first anyway.

But somewhere in side it must have bothered me because I'm a blithering wreck today. Keep crying (at work, though I own the business so I can hide in the back office and blither!), poking my boobs and feeling so certain that all is over. I'm 38 and not sure I can try again if this pregnancy doesn't work out. I feel in my gut that my little family is not complete yet. sigh blither. Just needed to reach out to people who understand metalling, as most in RL do not!

Anyhoo, it's lovely to meet you all . :-)

I''ve been lurking in the background as I am only 2 weeks after an erpc following a mmc where baby was only 7+6 with no heartbeat and got rhe news on my own ,but not ready to join the ttc thread.

But mumtum how my heart goes out to you as it is still very fresh and raw for me and unfortunately our two stories so similar. I know well how torturous the next week will be and although all seems very glum you can't help but hope against all hopes that there will be a heart beat next week. It has been known to happen.

I wouldn't wish this on anyone!!!

All I can say is I really hope there will be better news next week for you.

Take care of yourself.

Thanks midget sadly they didn't give me any detail so I'm afraid I've no knowledge they simply said its to difficult to tell as there has been growth since the last scan and the only thing to do is wait .

Tbh the only reason I've been seen so early is cos I kicked up a fuss when i explained to my very kindly gp my anxieties following my last mc he suggested for peace of mind an early scan may help settle my worries. If he hadn't agreed to that to this point I would have had no reason to suspect anything was amiss no pain cramps bleeding etc only the loss of symptoms over the last week ( which would tie in with the size of the bean now I guess)

12 year old dd knows something's different but I've no idea what to tell her. I'm sure even if I don't start bleeding this week I will be booking in for an erpc after next Fridays scan and so will need to tell her something then meanwhile I just want to crawl into bed and cry but I can't for her sake.

This limbo is really awful

Cross posted Mumtum - Wish I didn't know exactly how you feel. But then I suppose we could offer no comfort so not all bad. Ignore my link posting - we can't always fix things with knowledge. As we all know there aren't always answers. x

Mumtum Don't suppose they told you how long the fetal pole was or recorded it on your scan report?

I always refer to this site at such times: (been here more times than I care to recall - in fact I don't recall them all as I find it easier that way).

www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancycomplications/earlyfetaldevelopment.htm

Knoweldge is power and waiting it a total bitch. If you have the fetal pole length and you are sure about dates it can help give you a really clear indication of the outcome. Another hug.

Bonzo pebs and midget thank you for your very kind words (and appropriate furniture kicks)

It really sucks as my last period was 18th march no way could I only be 6 weeks now so as u say Bonzo I know my dates but I guess some women can't be so certain hence the protocol. Just feel like now I'm going to spend every second thinking about knicker checking in case I've started to bleed which surely is no good for a person?

I live in Essex and next week for Wednesday I have a 2 day trip to Birmingham planned for an event but I'm too scared to go now in case I start bleeding whilst I'm away but work didn't know I was ttc let alone had a bfp I've no idea what to say to them . Technically I'm not yet mc I suppose though in my heart I know there will be no more growth it really is just a waiting game

Had to text dh to tell him as cant have calls at work he said quite simply text back

I'm gutted and so sad sorry babe love u tonnes xxxx

It made me cry.

worried and frustrated on your behalf mumtum. The waiting, oh the waiting... waiting to ttc, the 2ww, the waiting for the stick to change colour, the waiting for the scan, the next one, waiting at appointments, waiting to go into labour if you get that far....

With my mmc I knew my dates. I knew there was no point having to wait for another scan. I said so to the sonographer. And she said I was almost certainly right, but would I ever forgive myself if I had an erpc or medical management and didn't wait that extra week for a scan to check. I got her point. So..... while it doesn't look great for you, on the other hand there has been some growth since the last scan, so hang on in there, assume the worse, hope for the best.

sorry to hear it mumtum.

i hate this wait a week bullshit. i know everything could be ok next week but when it happened to me i knew it wouldn't be but they sent me away to wait and i was getting a tiny bit of hope everything would be ok.

did they see a heartbeat last time or was it too early?

i am not sure of your history - have you had tests and a treatment plan? if not i hope you can get something now.

vitual? Virtual even

Oh Mumtum. I am so sorry that the wait continues. I am torn between posting - it aint over till the fat lady sings and just hugging you. So I will try and do both. weirdo I am not trying to give you false hope but if your days are out there still could be a chance. Although my experience of when they have been gloomy with me it is normally for a reason and if you are 7plus 5 then there should be a heartbeat. Such a kick in the guts. But we will still have everything crossed. Big hugs and a few bastard kicks at the furniture becasue it is so bloody unfair Sending you the biggest vitual hug.

So sorry mumtum :(

Oh mumtum xx x xx

Not good sac now has foetal pole and yolk but only measuring 6 weeks I should be at the minimum 7+5 no heartbeat could be seen. Protocol states as there is change from 2 weeks ago I have to be re scanned in one week to confirm the mc. They were really not positive . Another one over for me

Good luck Mumtum (for the record I think ribbon - not mad, dildocam thing - little but mad - they often go straight in with the dildo before 8 weeks so don't deck her when she slips on the condom).

Hope you don't get decked at Pizza Hut Tits.

Thanks ladies

Just got to the car park for the hospital and drive straight into a space that is unheard of. Now have time to kill before my appointment .... You know that bonkers side of my personality I may have previously mentioned? Well how's this to add to it. Since my wedding reception I've had a small piece of the ribbon from wedding cake in my handbag tied around the handle loop. I changed bag this morning ( needed brown not black and desperately trying to kill time) and had this unshakeable feeling that if I didn't swap the ribbon onto the new bag it would be bad luck now what is that all about ?!?!?but to add to it to ..... Ive now convinced myself if they go straight to use the dildocam I've mc they must know something.... If they go to scan abdominally I may be in with a chance .... So bets on I'm in tears when she gets the dildocam straight in?!?! I think my rationalle on this is that I should be 7+5 today so they should see something abdominally surely ?!?!?

Omg omg omg I'm so tense this makes the 2 minute wait after poas seem like a walk in the park now I have to wait for a trained professional to tell me if I'm pregnant

Sorry for the me me me

Tits sorry you feeling so sick still
Jaffa thank u for your thoughts and midget and everyone else to

Good luck to those that need it and Martha any news yet ? Have u caved and poas again?????

Morning all :)

Fingers crossed for you today mumtum

tits hope you're feeling better soon - and remember, house work can always wait.....

Good morning so lovely to see so many of you in the thread again ( although not lovely for you to be here - gah, you know what I mean!)

So the sun has made its first appearance here (down south) but typically after a nice evening with no sickness ( although we saw American Pie and it is as shite as the first ones) I woke up feeling terrible and have spent my time with my head in the loo ever since, so sun or no sun I'm staying out for the day and will probably sleep until at least lunchtime. I will then entertain the idea of house work or some sewing of more blankets.

Tonight I have to go to a birthday meal, which bizarrely for a 27 year old man is in Pizza hut, not a problem except my ex and (a**ehole father to my boys) gf works there, she is an actual psychopath, so that should go down swimmingly because she actually hates me and wants me dead.

Oh well. Enough about me, I hope your scan goes well today mumtum and I hope everyone else is well
And good.

Boris I think it's worth asking your consultant for dh blood clotting tests. I have never heard of anyone having this before but maybe it's the norm at st marys. Raj rai said if it shows up on dh tests you will need a blood thinner that crosses the placenta. Heparin doesn't so it wouldn't work.

I am not sure if my consultant will do it but if not we can go back to London to get if done.

I couldn't sleep last night and have been up since 4. I am driving myself mad worrying about referrals etc. I just wanted to ttc this month and now I can't do anything for ages .

I am annoyed with my consultant as I asked for a referral to Liverpool last year and she said they wouldn't do anything more than she had done so there's no point. Now she (and raj) want me go to for the hysteroscopy. I could have done that while I was having a break from ttc last year. Just feel like time is passing me by as it's two years since I started ttc and I am still waiting.

Thanks for the boos to AF I'm surprisingly laid back about it this cycle I'm glad of a 26 day cycle unheard of for me to be honest

:( marbles

Sorry manda - no sneeze births for you then. How about I wish for a really quiet labour ward and your own personal consultant ready and waiting?!

Evening all,

I told my closest friend today, which is always very hard, she has pcos and other problems and has been trying since before I had dc1, she's a wonderful friend and a doting godmother to the dcs but I always feel a huge pang or guilt and greed when telling her I'm expecting, she was lovely ofc as she always is. Still makes me feel bad though :(

I have a horrid blocked nose that's making me dizzy