Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

Evening all. I found out on Tuesday I'd had a mmc (was 9 weeks and baby measured 7, no heartbeat). Have since had a medically managed miscarriage and am now waiting for the bleeding to stop so we can start trying again. I think the only thing that will get me through this is being pregnant again very soon... but even then I'll be terrified. Hopefully I'll have news like martha's(congrats!) before too long...

martha OMG that is excellent! Fingers x for you.

marff! marff, marff, marff!

Yes, one day at a time. But today you ARE pregnant!

Poor DH, though. He won't get shagged senseless this month after all

Matha < gentle squishes > congratulations! I'm chuffed to bits for you.

martha I'm so pleased for you! One day at time...but do wallow in the rushes of joy. I found it didn't make my losses any easier to know I squelched my happiness when I had it. Here's hoping this is the sticky one for you!

whyalwaysboris thanks so much for the metalling commiseration and the sore-boob wishes. I have settled down a little and managed to (mostly) regain my 'what will be, will be' approach. At 10 weeks, I gather my Bean is the size of a strawberry, so I'm just sending love down to said strawberry and hoping for the best.

mumtum thinking of you - hope you found something nice and distracting and spoiling to do today. Hang in there.

Martha what fab news

mumtum I've not had a natural mc, I had a erpc for both, and I would do that - i think it must be easier to deal with as it less "dragged out" and I had a couple of days bleeding and then light spotting for a week or so. Af came back pretty much 28 days later.

oh thank you everyone you are all soooo amazing. pie good to hear from you, i am glad you lurk too how you doing me old mucker?

we are dazed, i am mooching about as if nothings changed then i pass the CB digi and i

i dont think we did anything different this time round, just tried to SWI at the 'right' time but this month i couldnt feel my OV which i usually do

we are making plans and then stopping ourselves as i am still only 3+5, but then i start squealing and saying 'how can i not get excited' of course of course i know that it could all go wrong in a heartbeat (i am frantically knicker checking) but still, i am pregnant

aaaiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

martha that is sooooo wonderful. A cautious but hearty congratulations!

mumtum i had a mmc at 12 weeks, pg ended about 5-6 weeks. I thought I had endured a natural mc between the two scans. The second scan showed that I had passed less than half the pg. So I had the ERPC. It was quick, painless after. I had a BFN after 5 days, and light on/off bleeding for about 2 weeks. AF then arrived after 27 days. I believe that I ovulated that cycle too. I started taking manda's B6 soon after the ERPC which I really feel sorted my cycles out, bringing ov forward. Anyway, for me the ERPC was the only option. I had one day in bed and then after that was physically well enough to get on with day to day things, including looking after toddler DS. I only work Wednesday and Thursday. The ERPC was on a Thursday and I went back to work the following Wednesday.

Yay Martha !!!! That's lovely news

Marthaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Congrats on the bfp, I am keeping EVERYTHING crossed that this the sticky one! I'm glad I still lurk otherwise would have missed the news! :) :) :) Did you do anything differently this time around?

mumtum thinking of you sweetie and hope you are looking after yourself today. My mc sounds similar in that it really really dragged out and the bleeding took 6-8 weeks to stop, followed by another 2 weeks till I got a bfn then ages for AF to begin. They say that acupuncture can help bring on AF quickly after a MC (not sure exactly it might have been far that mentioned it). I had acupuncuture after my mc and I swear it did amazing things for me. It relaxed me no end and it really helped to have an impartial person listen to me. He helped warm up my womb and other fertility related bit and sorted out my ovulation as it was all screwed up post mc (CD19!) and he got it forward to CD14.
xx

Ok so I am pregnant and weird but martha that just made me cry. and then for the crying bit. There will be a comfy place reserved for you in the VIP area.

mumtum having had as many natural miscarriages as ERPC's I would say... Natural is best for your body and the least risky physically. However saying that I have found it can be a right painful dragged out bastard of an experience and I have also got infection after (3 months of vileness).

ERPC for me is the kindest and most gentle on your mental health. My hospital really look after you if you have MC (own recovery area and extra packets of tissues and kindness). So I always choose ERPC now. Only problem is I have now had 4 of the swines and that has risks in itself. Still I am always happier with ERPC. For me my mental health has to be protected. Hope you don't have to choose but that is my experience of it.

I am still spotting. Not metalling about it but wish it would bugger off.

martha congrats on the BFP excellent news

This thread seems to have a preggo chair hidden in it

hoooraaaay! Fingers crossed martha

Eek! how exciting! Fingers crossed and all that.

i got a BFP!!!!!

oh sweet fucking god i got a BFP! DH is convinced it was our impromptu passion sesh last week but shitting hell!!!

Now we are scared, i have had 3 BFPs in the last 18 months which have all gone tits up (sorry for the pun tits ) but i am hoping upon all hope in the world that this one sticks.

Let the metalling commence!!

Today i am pregnant

mumtum with my MC in March 2011 it started naturally but i really wished it hadnt and i had known earlier so i could have had an ERPC. I am sorry i am even advising you on this though hang in there, i feel there is still some hope i agree that you should go out for the day, even if you have no money go and do some window shopping/retail therapy, and a Costa coffee lunch with some trashy mags is definitely the way forward

mumtum I also had an erpc, I'm was very anxious but due to timing (bang on christmas) I needed it 'over' and I can honestly say im happy with my choice, if you can be, iyswim. I was a bit achey after but was given pain killers, had a big sleep, and spotted maybe twice. Af was back like clockwork the next month, mentally I couldn't have dealt with the natural approach. If you have any questions all of us can help. But I know 100% if the worst happens again, I'd choose erpc. Xxx

mumtum I've had both too. my first I mc naturally in between the first scan which showed a 5 week pregnancy (should have been 9 weeks) and the second to check for any growth. It was ok, not huge amounts of bleeding or pain and lasted about a week, I still went to work every day (still not sure if this was stupid or not). It took 4 weeks to get a negative hpt afterwards. From what I've read I think my experience was better than the average and physically I had it easy.

My second (similar dates and scan results) I had an ERPC as I didn't want to wait for who knows how long for a mc to start, I was scared of a natural mc being as bad as some of the stories I'd read and I wanted it over. Physically, it was fine, it was almost as if nothing had happened. Staff at the hospital were great. hardly any pain or bleeding (but I did have stop-start very light bleeding for 2 weeks). walked home from hospital afterwards (it's only a mile away) and went to the pub for a cheer up dinner the next day. Negative hpt after less than two weeks.

I think the ERPC was the least horrible experience for me and would probably choose that again if it ever came to it. It felt a lot more controlled and "managed". Oh, and it only took 2 months to get pregnant again afterwards so I don't know if there is something in what they say about you being more fertile afterwards.

I'm so sorry you even need to be thinking about this, it's just not fair x

Mumtum, I am so sorry you are in limbo. It is really tough. Try and do what ever you can to pass the time. Try not to worry about starting off the mc- what will be will be, and unless you do something very stressful on your body, it won't make a difference. Make a nice cake, go for a walk, pop into town and buy a treat, anything that will help you get through the hours. Sending you lots of hugs x

Boris, 29th August is a load of rubbish. I can only think of 2 things- ring for a cancellation, every day, be really nice to the admin people, but be a PITA never the less. This worked for me once. The other thought I had was a sort of compromise. Maybe they would feel more comfortable releasing the info to a GP who might be able to help you with them? And of course, if you can afford it, go private. May-Aug is too long for anyone to wait, especially when not necessary for actual medical reasons.

Welcome to the thread Sassmonkey and Munchkin

mumtum, I've had both and I have to say that I found the ERPC easier - there was less waiting for it to happen, it was completely painless and I had maybe 6 days of light bleeding after the op which was easy enough to cope with. I also felt that it drew a line under the whole thing and I could move on faster. I hope it doesn't come to that for you, but that's just how I felt about them.

Morning ladies

On my own today dh working overtime and dd out with her friends. Which obviously means full on metalling has commenced with too much time to myself.

Trouble is what can / do I do ???? For example our gardens a wreck was going to start that but it's heavy digging. If I knew I was pg I wouldn't dream of it but given the circs should I or will that bring on the bleeding?!? Or just for that small bit of hope should I rest up just in case worried in case there is still a miracle and wouldn't want to jeopardise my chance. . It's awful I simply just don't know what to do

And of course as if in the beginning symptom spotting wasn't bad enough I'm know imagining convinced every twinge is af like and the beginnings of mc which of course it could be. I swing from one way to another by the minute it's just torture.

As I more strongly suspect though and trying to be proactive my mc in dec 2010 I completed naturally but it took 3 weeks to stop bleeding and 8 weeks for my Hcg to drop below 100!!!! And a further 2 weeks before i got a bfn. After that another 3 weeks till af reappeared. It seemed to take forever. I'm thinking this time erpc would be better sadly I know u ladies have experience in this but would like to learn your opinions on having one. I've no idea what to expect but would hope it would speed up the process so I'm not still recovering 10 weeks later xxx any advice gratefully hoovered up and digested and read and reread repeatedly received as I would like to try to make an informed decision do I'm as prepared as I can be next Friday .. Thanks in advance ladies the virtual support hugs and hand holding is truly invaluable to me right now xxx

Boris I'd ring and ask about cancellations, it may mean you have a very last minute apt but still might be quicker, deffo in the mean time ask for your results to be sent to you either in the list or discussed on the phone. It's not fair for you to wait that long!

I had to wait 6 months for a fertility apt at my hospital but by the time it came around I was pregnant with DS2 so they dismissed it, same happened this time, I had an apt for a laparoscopy and investigation in April but now being pregnant they're obvs not bothering.

Boris I have no experience of that but it can't hurt to phone and
demand ask for an earlier appointment.
A friend had hers changed at the last minute (like, the day before) but it was only moved to the following week - but she was away that week, so she rang and asked to change it and was offered the slot one hour after her original appointment! Leading her to ask why she wasn't offered that one in the first place