Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

Hi mumtum glad you have not had any bleeding. When I went in for my erpc they didn't scan again I'm afraid, I don't know whether this is something you can request though? However, at the scan where it was agreed we'd go for the erpc they could see the sac starting to collapse which they said was a sign things were starting to sort themselves out naturally (though I didn't bleed before the erpc and had to have a pessary inserted to soften everything up before the op so think it would've taken weeks for my body to actually sort itself out IYSWIM). After the erpc I had the usual side effects of having a GA (sore throat etc) and bled for the first couple of days and then it eased off to just needing to wear a pantyliner, with the odd gush of blood that would appear now and then. You should be fine to drive within a day or so - mainly depending how you feel. I took the following week off work. In some respects I cold possibly have gone back (physically) but mentally/emotionally it was important to have the time to try and sort my head out a bit. The other important thing is to get some cheap preg tests in (I used ICs) and test each week after the erpc until you get a BFN...the only time I have actually wanted to get one but it was important for me to a) know that everything had gone and the hcg was working out my system and b) know when it was 'safe' to consider ttc again as we wanted to 'casually' DTD asap even before my first AF turned up. I really hope that helps. It really is a v tough thing to go through with and so tough to get your head around. I know that seeing the sac collapsing on the scan helped me to be sure it was ok to go through with the op.

Thanks marbles!! I am nice lol!

Let's hope you get the bfp soon to make everything perfect!

I have never been scanned again before erpc. You might be able to get it done but you might have to ring ahead to arrange it. When I went in I was on gynae ward for the op along with people having normal gynae ops. There was no chance for a scan.

I was told not to drive for a couple of days due to general anaesthetic. My dh said you might not be insured. They also tell you not to be alone or use kettle etc for 24 hours (I make the most of this!!)

Hi all hope everyone has had a good weekend x I've not caught up but I will. Pleased (?) to report I made it through the weekend with no bleeding so fingers crossed I won't start to naturally mc. I've arranged child care school run etc and work all so Wednesday is now as organised as ur can be though I have to be in the ward nil by mouth for 7.30am so early for me !

One question because I stupidly still have the hope that the sonographer got it wrong and I do still have a bean in there will they rescan as a precaution before I go down for the erpc?

Also how long did u need to physically be ok up and about driving etc after u had the op? Obviously I know to expect bleeding for a couple of weeks but just mentalling about daily life going on

And advice gratefully received xxx thanks ladies

hi everyone

hope everyone is well on this lovely sunday evening

CONGRATS to all the new BFPs!

pebs please keep posting! i know how you feel as i have been there and actually bowed out of a thread or two as i felt the same (i eventually was the last person without BFP/baby on 2 threads in a row- i seem to be a good luck charm for others but not for myself- i took a 6 month MN break after the second one) it is so hard it is a help and hope (and sometimes a source of sorry ) to be here for me, in a place that i know there are people who wont judge, who will listen and who understand...they know...as sad as it may be, they know. Here is a place that regardless of the test you are getting, the experience you are going through, the feelings you are having...there is someone here to hold you hand and share their own things that have helped them... plus, i like you...you seem nice

manda congratulations on the birth of your lovely DS hope to see you here from time to time

hi to everyone else

i started my new job on tuesday!! i LOVE it!! and i am, for once, looking forward to going into work every day! makes a difference! i am actually happy with everything at the mo!!...all i need now is that elusive BFP and all will be right with the world...talking of which...off to ravish DH or i will never get one

I will be sticking around - I am not attention seeking honest!!! Just feel a bit out of it as I need to wait for more tests before ttc.

There was a really good thread in mc for testing but most of the posters had babies and left the thread so I will just have to stay here and tell you lot my problems!!

Oh and Martha I had that with my pg - I was told to take it easy and just rest and it would settle on it's own. The main thing is that it's brown - sometimes your body just takes a little while to realise that things are changing! Xxx

pebs don't go!!!

You don't have to be TTC - yes it's mostly about having babies but the thread is full of our general woes and funny moments. Plus we all want to be here for you when you do get your BFP and hold your hand through everything that comes with it.

I have a little one - post MC, if anyone should find a new home it's me but I don't have anywhere else I feel "at home" so I shall just keep lurking until there are enough of us for a graduates thread.

backward it returned the morning after I dtd the first time, then went again the next day.

Thanks sass that's reasuring :)

What's the rule with slap cheek? I had it as a child, one of the first confirmed cases in the area, does this make me immune? Like cp?

Manda huge congratulations! :)

I bumped in to my midwife yesterday (last time I saw her, I was 6 weeks pregnant) and she said she'd just heard and how sorry she was etc. She told us just to get trying again asap and not bother waiting for a period. So we are. Of course after dtd last night, the post-mc bleeding/spotting has returned. That's normal, right?

Hi everyone,

I live in Canada (but joined Mumsnet when I lived in London and was having DS), and it's morning here so I'm very haltingly carrying a hee-oooge stack of pancakes dripping with real maple syrup and a platter of salty, smoked bacon over the the VIP area. Once VIPers have tucked in, everyone else can!

state via my own manic metalling, I have noticed that my boobs often hurt a lot less in the morning, and more at night, so could be all normal. Sorry to hear you were so sick.

jaffa I'm 11+5 and desperately monitoring for kicks for the very same reason! I felt my DS kick at 16 weeks so you might well be close to it. I suspect I have a long way to go...

manda congrats on your (not so) wee one! I hope everything at home settles quickly and you can enjoy all those supersweet newborn cuddles.

Hello to all the new joiners like me, this is a helpful place to be.

Thanks everyone for sharing your knowledge about slapped cheek/parvovirus. I'm still waiting for the blood tests to come back to find out if I'm immune or not. I woke this morning with headache and sore throat so I've IMMEDIATELY gone into panic mode about increased chances of miscarriage, yada yada. I'm just going to try to sleep and coddle myself today and make it all go away. In happy news, I had a Dr. appointment for something else last Thurs and she said she'd listen for the heartbeat - and found it!! Hurrah! So that was staved off the metalling for 1.5 days... :-D

Hope your days are full of lovely Sunday-things.

Hello to new people! Sorry you are here, but it is a lovely thread.

Manda, thinking about you. Hope you have had some rest, and that the measles outbreak has died down. Really hope your DD is on the mend, and your other children have been spared.

MsCoffee, viability! So pleased for you. Can only get better and better :)

Pebs, I hope you stay on here. x

I just want to feel my baby kick. I am 15+2, so hopefully it is imminent, but it would be so reassuring. Avoided the doppler because I am scared of them and think they would add to the metaling, but would just love to have something to hang on to...

Just checking in and trying to keep up with the posts.

Had really bad (sicky) stomach pains yesterday ended the day being really sick and sleeping 12hrs, woke up feeling hungry and sick, worrying a bit as last night my boobs ached more than ever and then this morning nothing, now mildly

pebs you ARE one of us so please stay, i went through a similar phase when i took a break but really missed you all. the support here is phenomenal and tbh we would miss you too much you are going through a transitional period (urgh hate the P word) and we are here for you as much as always

good to hear from you IQ and glad to hear that miniIQ is stamping her mark on the world already

come and sit next to me in the VIP area, i am going through exactly the same as you at the mo and it is bliddy scary no? i think you are going to be ok as it is probably old brown stuff

my brown stuff is still here but i am still trying not to metal, positives are that it is brown, no red, not enough for even a panty liner, no cramps, it is on and off, did two ICs with a strong line on each. and i am 4+6 today

Morning, I should think about getting up at some point, I should attempt eating but really don't want a repeat of yesterday.
I might try some plain bread and see how I go.

Congratulations Manda - excellent news.

congrats manda good to see another graduate from this thread.

try not to worry about the brown stuff marth i know my last pg didn't work out well but i had the brown stuff and on the scan it showed it was coming from somewhere no where near the babies so try not to worry. are you getting an early scan?

cant believe pie is nearly due - i remember her bfp really clearly!!

i am feeling mostly ok at the moment. i have started a new role at work and although i am not as bored as i was i am quite stressed with it. i am sure it will all calm down soon but i really feel the stress more than i ever have before - i am sure this is down to the mc's.

i am going to ring the hospital this week to make sure my referal has been done. i have seen lot's of stories where the letter went missing etc and people have been waiting for an appointment that never comes. i will be following this one through to the end.

i feel a bit out of it on this thread at the moment as i am not ttc but i will keep posting and following your stories. the mc testing thread on the mc board has really dried up so i have no where else to go!

congrats on bfp kate

Oh wow icequeen that's fantastic news! Try not to worry about the brown stuff, it's totally normal (so I hear!) and the CB results are going in the right direction so can't say fairer than that :)

I did my third ic test today, still getting two lines, but definitely fainter than two days ago. It's been a really hard week emotionally, I didn't think I'd find it this hard (not sure why). Totally 'lost it' with my best pal on Friday as she'd rung the week before to say she couldn't afford to come to my wedding in a couple of weeks but then posted onthe evil fb that she was really excited to be going to a random pal's wedding 300 miles away this weekend. I freaked and ended up telling her about the mc and saying that the only people giving me any support were colleagues who I barely knew and strangers on MN. I probably definitely went a bit far, but I find this whole mc business gives you a new perspective on life and what you want out of it (lots of babies!) Am really gutted I left it this late to start trying (will be 38 in a few months) and don't really know why I was so obsessed with my career at the expense of having children. I just hope hope hope that things change and I miraculously fall preggo soon and manage to keep the baby inside me long enough for it to be healthy. Aaaaarrrgggghhhh! Metalling galore

Morning ladies,

I've been really quiet since my original post as I was on the 2ww and silently terrified. You have no idea how reading your posts calms me down, and I have been promising myself to apply all the good advice I've read here if I got a BFP.

I tested Thurs am with CB digital - 1-2 weeks flashed up, but as it was only 10dpo I tried not to get too excited in case of a CP. Last night there was brown mucus before bedtime (due AF today or tomorrow, wondered if that was it), so I did another test this morning CB digital again and it says 2-3 weeks. I should be feeling confident? But I'm not. This is exactly how my mc started albeit a week later than this. Someone please slap me and tell me to get a grip? I can't imagine spending the rest of a pregnancy like this.

sorry for the me, me, me.

My obsessive lurking regular checks have paid off, Manda big congratulations on your new arrival!!!! We now have 2 mini moshers......whoop whoop.

So pleased to see lots of continuing pregancys - keeping everything crossed for everyone still awaiting their BFPs and sending hugs to mumtum it's a bloody awful time but these ladies will be here to support and encourage you all the way.

Well mini IQ is stirring so I better put the IPad down and start assuming the 'milking' position before she really starts to express herself.......she is very loud when she doesn't get her own way or I don't move fast enough - DH says she gets it from me !!

Love to all!!! Xxx

Awww congratulations manda! Welcome mini-manda Another graduate! We will definitely need a playpen in the mosh pit for all this baby chub

Oh no tits feel better soon

I'm sorry mumtum I have everything crossed wednesday goes well and you can be back to TTCing before you know it.

Tiago how scary but glad all is OK - reminds me of gushgate

martha tell your fanjo to behave! Sounds normal but bound to prod the metalling buttons - keep an eye but don't freak out!

so.....blue you're up! How you feeling about the playpen in the corner?

Glad to see you pie 34w hey? Time flies!

Boris where are you and your BFP hiding?

No news from over here really. Metalling a bit about increased leaking again. I hate metalling. I'm sure it's normal or I can't control my bladder

But I'm 24 weeks and she's still in there kicking. Feel like I'm getting into the baby-having queue at last!

manda congratulations.

Just a quickly from me tonight ladies, I have just been discharged from hospital, I had sudden savage sickness that just wouldn't stop coming and burst something which caused a lot of blood to come up due to the heparin injection I have daily.
I'm ok now, just tired and sore tummy muscles.

we are going to have a rush of bambino's with Blue and Pie both imminent, it is so lovely as i have been with you all through your journeys, and with two graduates

blue i feel sick now but that is simply because DH and i have just demolished a full bar of Galaxy Orange chocolate, yummy!

Still a little bit of brown mucus but i am convincing myself it is bubs burrowing, the last two CP's acted much quicker than this so fingers crossed

right i am off to bed as am knackered

night all