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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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How often do you SWI during fertile time?

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chipsandmushypeas · 23/03/2012 09:25

Interested in hearing what others do. My partner and I used to do it every day during fertile window. This cycle I'm thinking of trying EOD as I've heard you can have too much sex.

Thanks!

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chipsandmushypeas · 23/03/2012 10:55

Yes it was helpful sparkling thank you! It's taking us a but longer as I was on the depo.

katandkit thanks for replying. I was thinking once opk turns positive to rev it up a bit too

I just worry we'll miss the egg if we don't do it everyday, but then it becomes a chore and not very sexy, which then puts pressure on DP.

I just want to have nice fun sex but get the egg too, is that so much to ask?!

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KatAndKit · 23/03/2012 10:52

Is he missing it now you're diffed or glad of a rest?

KnitterNotTwitter · 23/03/2012 10:50

I know that we're unusual - don't worry :) I think DH likes the challenge :)

KatAndKit · 23/03/2012 10:47

Every other day between days 10-18 is fine. Men can only produce so much of the stuff no matter how much demand there is. In general, if you are having sex three times a week throughout the month you have the best possible chances. If you have more, all well and good, but above 3-4 times a week isn't going to improve your chance of conception although you might have a lot of fun!!

Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2012 10:24

Now I have confused myself re AF. Anyway DS1 took 2 months and DS2 first month of trying. I appreciate i was lucky but thought I would share if it helps. Smile

Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2012 10:22

This was 13 years ago now but I had read some article that some women may ovulate more than once a cycle, so the EOD carried on from end of one AF to start of the next, just to be sure. Grin

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chipsandmushypeas · 23/03/2012 10:19

My DP would faint too, he doesn't have a high sex drive, he's a couple times a week kinda guy. He can step it up around ov as he's desperate for a baby.

sparkling that's great!

happily yes, I was thinking of every other day starting from day 10 - 18. Don't worry, I know plenty of women who got pregnant from doing it once in the whole cycle.

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Happilymarried155 · 23/03/2012 10:13

From what I have read having swi every other day is enough, if you are doing this from after AF until you have ovulated then you won't miss your fertile window. If you know when you ovulate then a couple of extra days around that time wouldnt do any harm!!
3x per day would not be possible for us either-if that's what you have to do il never get pregnant!!!! :(

Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2012 09:56

It's a long time ago now but EOD worked for us, Twice. Smile

Flightty · 23/03/2012 09:53

No offence Knitter Grin

I'm in total awe.

Flightty · 23/03/2012 09:52

Oh My Good Lord, three times a day?

DP would also faint if he read that Grin

But good for you, if you can!

Chips, shall we retire for a well earned sherry and leave her to it Grin I'm not sure I could cope with a baby on top of all that lovin'

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chipsandmushypeas · 23/03/2012 09:47

Couldn't do 3x a day as we both work long hours and DP is very tired after work so once a day was hard enough. On the weekends we did it twice a day.

The supply and demand idea sounds right.

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KnitterNotTwitter · 23/03/2012 09:34

I've posted this before but we aim for 3x per day when TTC...

Basically we aim for 3x per day from the end of my period until the window of fertility has definitely closed. This takes into account unexpectedly early ovulation and means we're not caught out if that makes sense.

3x per day also requires you to think imaginatively about sex... squeezing in the third is the challenge - we found that morning, straight after putting DS to bed and then our bed times were the best - spaces them out through the day - again increasing the chances of success!

I think that the too much sex worry is where the man has low sperm count - if he's not making much in the first place then 'diluting' it by lots of sex is a bad thing.

I've always taken the view that sperm for my DH at least is produced on a demand basis - more sex leads to more sperm being produced. So to ensure that I'm awash with the buggers it's lots of sex for us :-)

Flightty · 23/03/2012 09:29

Oh dear, I don't know. We don't get the chance to do it every day anyway and I'm worried we'll get the wrong days!

I heard the same as you though, that you need to build up some reserves as it were, not sure if it's true or a load of nonsense Smile