Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

Hope everybody else is well, I am stil adopting head in sand approach despite being 29w!

delurks xx

Thanks, Far, nearly cracked today but was mercifully distracted by the hilarious John Lewis Thread. Would recomend as a metalling distraction.

Am swinging wildly between optimism and despair.

boris well done on the non testing front I am keeping all crossed for you!!
poppy that is wonderful news!!!

I have spoken too soon, nausea has returned, barf!

missc how is the foof?

poppyjen wonderful news about your 20 week scan, and a little girl too :)

Hi ladies just a very quick post to say all well at 20 week scan...and we're having a little girl very excited now, all suddenly seems very real! EDD still on track for 2nd Sept and had a very productive meeting with consultant midwife re VBAC plans so feeling confident and cheery about that too. Happy day!

Sorry not to check back, will do soon I promise until then hoping everyone is well

TTC advice for anyone that wants it.... My pregnancies have taken 7, 5 then 2 months to conceive so I like to think I'm getting better at it

Clear blue smiley ov sticks - nice and easy to use and the smiley face makes me happy - sad I know (I'm lucky to have fairly regular cycles otherwise these could end up costing a fortune).

Pregnacare His and Hers preconception vits (a small independent study had some pretty impressive results for the hers version, not conclusive proof they work but worth a try, often on 3 for 2 in boots or cheap on Amazon)

Sperm meets egg plan (lots of sex around the right time basically). SMEP

Acupunture: nice and feels like you are doing something positive to help yourself at a time when you feel you have little control. can be pricey though.

Emma Cannon's book "The Baby Making Bible"- I didn't follow it to the letter but found it a good overall guide and had lots of positive words of advice that help you keep your chin up.

I cut back on booze (a bit) and unhealthy food (quite a lot) but a girl's gotta have some pleasures so wasn't too strict.

Morning everyone.

Today I brought Danish Pastries, Welsh Rarebit, Crispy bacon and syrup, and another huge fruit salad.

Now I want a night in a hotel just for the breakfast. Best one I've ever had was the Hilton. God I love breakfast.

Sorry you're joining me in the infected fanjo club tits That's a crap message, could do without that.

Hiya IQ pop in more often lady.

bottle and all the new peeps, welcome. I'm rubbish at the TTC stuff, know nowt other than how to shag lots and lots. But lots of expertise here.

Sorry got to go can't name check, back soon.

tits a nasty infection could certainly be making you feel pretty shite and compounding all your other symptoms so best to get it all checked/sorted.

And to play devils advocate, if you often let your friend down then I can understand his message (although I bloody hope it was a private one and not posted on your wall for everyone to see!) albeit rather passive aggressive (is he gay? I have several male gay friends and the overt bitchiness of it rings bells (god I hope I'm not offending anyone with what sounds like a generalisation but is simply my experience!)) but if not then this is definitely more about him than you. Hopefully now he realises you're, ill, then he'll be a tad more sympathetic and eating a large slice of humble pie!

red76 It would be perfectly 'normal' to not ovulate at all in the WTF - as your monitor is showing you, the hormones go a bit screwy and might take a while to settle down. Taking a day off from rampant shagging won't really scupper your chances - my last three babies have been 'day before O' sex (I chart so have a pretty good idea ) so even with a high reading today perhaps give the old man and his, uh, little man a day off!

Ladies,
I've been lurking and keeping up with your news but I find that by the time I've caught up on the reading bit I don't have time to post!
MrsN thinking of you

The WTF month is being truly bizarre. CD25 and the 7th day of 'high fertility' according to the monitor. Husband is knackered! Still no egg symbol. Feeling very bloated but I've been trying to loose the few pounds I put on before the mc. Next time I shall keep the diet going a bit longer after the BFP.

Has anyone else had experience of a ovu monitor in cycle after mc?

Better get back to work.....

Possibly boris I thought it was just normal pregnancy stuff but I guess any infection could be playing a part.

Nowt to do today, I could stay in and tidy but I quite fancy seeing my sisters, not seen them in a while.

Right now I need to get up!! Kids due at school in 30 mins and I'm in my pjs in bed

I cannot have another duvet day!!!

IQ lovely to hear from you and glad you and miniIQ doing well.

Oh Tits that message would have really upset me, poor you. Well done to your dp for replying. Do you think the infection might be why you feel so poorly?

Hello to everyone else, another day of finger sitting non-testing for me

IQ lovely to hear from you, glad you and your little lady are doing well

Welcome to the new ladies and sorry you're having to be here.

Large glass of to those that have af or are waiting for bfn etc.

mrsn I really hope you're doing ok today and are being kind to yourself.

I have spent another day in bed, actual vomit now got a call from the hospital to say my urine sample is either contaminated or I have a bad infection, I haven't noticed any symptoms except that it smells awful when going for a wee so I guess that explains it (sorry tmi)

I had a really nasty message left on bloody Facebook from a "friend" this evening, I was meant to see him today for a catch up, although nothing was set in stone. I haven't been near my phone for days so missed his reminder texts, I slept straight through the alarm this morning, DP took the day off work to take the kids to school and look after me a bit, I've either been asleep of had my head in the loo, needless to say I missed seeing said "friend" at his house.

I finally woke up to a message on my wall, "dear Tits, sorry. I have run out of medals for so called friends who stitch me up and have generally been acting like shit friends for a while now, signed A"

This upset me a bit so DP replied and said that I had been really poorly and to either be supportive or shove off basically.

I will be glad to tell people at 12 weeks so they know I'm not just being a recluse for a larf.

Anyway, enough ranting!

I hope everyone is safe and well.

Hello ladies - just been lurking to see how all of you are doing because I miss you!! Myself and the mini miss are doing ok, tired but ok - still can't believe she's mine to be honest!!

Big hugs and welcome to all the new ladies - so sad that theres so many of you but hopefully you find this thread as supportive as I did.

To everyone newly pg - keeping it all crossed for you - you will metal like mad but hopefully all the metalling will be worth it in the end.

To all the 'veterans' sending you all positive thoughts for upcoming milestones.

And for everyone still waiting for that positive test wishing you all the luck in the world that it comes to you soon.

Love to all xxx

Hi again and thanks for the welcome. Sorry to see you here twolittlemonkeys and tennerlady. It looks like there were quite a few of us with bad news on the October thread, its so horrible. Hope things are going well for you midgetm.
Well I did one last test this morning as I have some superdrug digitals. I got a "not pregnant" result as I was hoping but when took out the stick to throw away it had two lines! I did get what looked like a negative cheapy test just over a week ago so I don't know whats going on there. Also, I'm not completely counting on it but I think I have the beginnings of my first AF today - yay! Hopefully won't be long now until I can try again.

Hello everyone,
GPB Great news
hello to Tenner and Hehe, sorry you find yourself here.
MrsN Thinking of you today.
Martha sorry about AF
Midgetm raining in the lakes? surely not!

I'm metalling like mad today. AF not due till saturday, having to practically sit on my hands to not test before. Have been getting lots of really sharp pains on one side which is giving me hope, which is mad really as I didn't feel anything last time. I'm a bit worried about how i'll be if i get a BFN as i'm feeling hugely desperate about it this month...

Welcome Tenner and heehee sorry you made it over here but you are in good company. Sorry I am not good for TTC suggestions as I do that bit at the drop of a hat - it is the getting it to stick bit I have trouble with. lots of experts on here though who know all about B vits and d vits and peeing on sticks. Personally I would go hell for leather with DTD in the WTF cycle if you can manage it physically and emotionally.

kirrin not crazy - remember those are dog weeks for us so actually like making you wait 7 weeks. If it makes you happier book it. I was so lucky to have them every 2 weeks up to 12 weeks. I would have gone crazy otherwise and some weeks i had them weekly. Whatever keeps you sane is what I say.

Yay to GBP and thrice Yay.

martha sounds like you need a good licking. And AF needs a good kicking. i am the midget for the job.

Leedy of course you can whine about being pregnant - doesn't mean you don't appreciate it. i love it and hate it at the same time. Most of all I hate the worry and the grumpiness but the nausea and the tiredness are no great shakes either! Doesn't mean we don't appreciate how bloody lucky we are. My husband things I have a split personality as always desperate to be pregnant with an acutal real live bean and then moan about being pregnant. it is our right. Sometimes secretly I love it all though - even the shit bits as it is reassuring and keeps the metalling at bay. I am nothing but inconsistent!

better go - trying to work but my doppler arrived this morning so also trying to distract myself from listening in. I think therein lies dragons but it stops me metalling for a bit so that has to be a good thing, right?

Love to you all - must work hard as have a few days leave coming up to wander the lake district in the rain.

Hi just read through all your thread and gives me hope I'm too from oct thread and found out last week that I had a Mmc at 12 wks baby had died between 8-9 weeks had ercp on Monday and looks like bleeding ending today nothing really there I'm going doctors to ask about ttc and want to know what is best things I should take I'm 41 and had eptopic this time last year and then got pregnant again in jan we was not ttc by the way but now we R really going to ttc so all suggestion would be grateful x

Hi everyone,

heehee welcome, sorry you've had to join us, but there is lots of support on here.

mumtum my midwife referred me automatically for an 8 week scan due to previous mmc, and EPU then offered me a 10 week one just for a reassurance so it definitely won't hurt to ask.

GPB congratulations, that's great news - a very positive start :)

I am 10 weeks and my symptoms are wearing off a bit, which both nice and scary all at once. My 12 week scan is 2 weeks today but I'm not sure I can wait that long - is that crazy? I'm going to try and hold out but may cave and book another private one between now and then.
I think I've been rumbled at work, not surprising as I am massive though definitely more bloat than baby Part of me just want to say Sod it and just tell them, but I can't bring myself too - I feel like I'd be jinxing it. They know my history so they won't say anything until I do.

OK, I know it's my WTF cycle (6 weeks and counting), so nothing should surprise me, but this definitely didn't happen last time round. (TMI alert...)

Had brownish red stretchy CM a couple of weeks ago around the time I might have expected AF if I had anything like a regular cycle . Tested for the hell of it and of course got a BFN.

Have had copious amounts of blood-tinged CM for the last 4 days, not proper blood but every time I wipe there is loads of the stuff. Tested again, not a whiff of a positive. What the jeff is going on with my body?

On an unrelated note our car went bang and stopped dead on the motorway at the weekend so I need a new car urgently and if I want something remotely reliable I can't afford a bigger one (was planning on replacing it with something large enough to accommodate 3 child seats in the back once I got my BFP, hahaha - but hadn't reckoned on needing one so urgently - figured I had enough time to save more money) Am wondering if this is a sign that I should stop ttc. Or maybe I should go ahead and buy a smaller car to tempt fate?

Congratulations GPB!!

HHHB Sorry to see you here too, I remember you from the October thread. It's a lovely safe haven over here for picking yourself up after MC. Hope it's not too long before you get your BFP.

FWIW I think it's perfectly acceptable to moan about pregnancy gripes - just because you've waited so long for a BFP doesn't exempt you from MS, aches, pains, and raging hormones

Sorry for rambling post, off to actually read the last few pages of the thread!

Hi ladies can I join you? It is 4 weeks now since my MMC at 11/12 weeks. My baby died at 9 weeks and I found out when I was scanned after some bleeding at 11. I had opted for medical management but it happened naturally at home in the end. It has been an awful few weeks and I am still feeling really down waiting for the return of AF. I was on the due in October thread and I recognise some names on here so hi to you! Heres hoping for some better news soon!

Good news GBP! like you say you can't take anything for granted but you've had the best possible news you could have for now.

I don't feel sick or even very pregnant AT ALL and it scares me so for those suffering with symptoms I really don't think there is any winning with this pregnancy lark!

mmmmm waffles.......[dribbles]

Leedy, you are definitely allowed to be pissed off at them! They suck and for all that I'm grateful, I wish I would stop feeling sick

Great news, GPB!

In "I know I should be grateful" whinging news, I am sick of feeling tired and queasy and kind of hungover all the time. I know the symptoms are good news but am I allowed to be pissed off at them as well? I have to play a gig in a different city this weekend and am dreading it (even tho have told bandmates that I am upduffed and am going to factor in naps and cushy hotel time) - travelling! staying up late! Bleurgh. One of the many reasons why I really want this to work out this time is that I'm really not sure if I can go through the first-tri hideousness while trying to work and gig and have a toddler YET AGAIN, even if I can get pg again.

Anyway. Enough of my self-indulgent whining. [passes around waffles with jam]

Sorry AF got you Martha

Congratulations GPB!

Far I am so glad you are alos feeling better. It's been sending me round the twist - especially as on the antental thread everyone keeps talking about how they are expanding and having to buy matenity clothes and I am distinctly not. I have a scan booked for Monday morning, as I am scheduled to tell my Dad to following Saturday and if it is bad news he shall remain blissfully ignorant.

• to get rid of the white stuff (correction to previous post)