Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

I'm with you ladies that don't feel very pregnant, with both my boys I was sick from the word go to a crippling level. I have felt slightly queasy maybe twice this time. I have slept a lot though but my boobs are just normal. No funny taste in mouth no nothing! It is a worry and I do hate EPAC, I am just trying to go with the flow and get to this pesky 8 week scan.

What Boris said, I'm off to bed now but I will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed tomorrow pebs be strong.

Evening everyone,
popping in very quickly, not read the whole thread, will do so tomorrow and write again, but wanted to leave a note for pebs.
pebs I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Can't think of anything more helpful to say than that really, but i'm with you in spirit.
Also, Stela i'm so sorry you have had to join us and that you have got all this worry and heartache for a second time. I've lost one baby and it has all but destroyed me...
I'm also trying to learn all about the why and wherefores of testing at the moment, not something i'd ever thought i'd have to do. How far along in your PG are you/were you last time? Jaffa is right, that does really make a difference in terms of testing.

Hello Stela, I am not the best person to ask about testing, and unfortunately I think the level of treatment you can expect varies on postcode lottery, but wanted to welcome you to thread, and say how sorry I am for your losses. I too have found this the saddest time of my life. It is so horrid.

Can I ask, how far on were you when you miscarried? I think this is relevant to what testing you will receive.

tiago, midget thanks for reassurances. I am 6 + 5, and going a bit mad!

Hey girls can I join??

I have been bleeding heavily for 6 days and am waiting for the horrible scan on Friday to confirm my MC. This will be my second loss, it's bloody heartbreaking, it's the worse thing to happen to me since I was 15 and my nan died, which probably means I've lived a lovely life so far, but I don't know if I could go through it again.

I know that they always say the doctors won't even look at you until you have had three MC's, but what if you ask for specific tests, do they have to refer you, if it just simple blood tests you want, like hormone levels, progesterone etc?

My history: aged 41, never had a baby, under active thyroid being treated and levels currently ok, HUGE 11 cm fibroid surgically removed in 2009, all looked good in there apparently and no repeats so far.

Do I have any argument at all for earlier tests? Surely if I think it might be something as simple as a hormone deficiency, it might be worth avoiding further heartache in the future? I just need to know how to play it with my GP who is a lady and generally quite supportive... in other words if I ask for these tests, can they refuse me and if so I can I ask for a second opinion? Who knows, maybe there is a GP floating around on our lovely forum who can advise me?

Thanks so much everyone,

Estelle xx

jaffa my boobs are only just now hitting a propery sore stage (at 7+2) and frankly it's probably bruising from all the poking. I too am not feeling very pregnant - I have failed to up chuck and am not really all that tired. But others tell me it is normal (and likely will pas and I will be miserable as hell when symptoms hit in a couple of weeks).

Evening all...

Just popping on to say pebs thinking of you for tomorrow, hope you manage to get some sleep tonight!

mumtum keep us posted tomorrow if you POAS!

I'm going to slope off to bed I think, once I've hung the washing, boxed up the casserole to go in the fridge for tomorrow night and had (another!) big slug of gaviscon!! Night all...sleep well...

jaffa my boobs have only just got really sore today and I am 8w4 - don't panic yet. But do metal away.

Tas - I was too scared to have sex for nearly 3 months. When I plucked up the courage/nearly exploded due to lack of action and actually had sex the brave midget was nowhere to be seen. Poor DH only had sex once and up duffed instantly (no POAS, just good luck). For me the EP changed things. I was used to loosing pregnancies but not so used to worrying my family so much. All so dramatic, and it scared the shit out of me and DH. I think that made me take this pregnancy one step at a time and just be grateful for each step that goes ok. I think there may be a weird positive mini one of all of us somewhere but our past stops them coming out. I figure I will do just as well to let her pop out occasionally and I have good care by being under St Mary's which helps with the positivity. Hope the crazy lady will stick around to get me to my 10 week scan. I am sure you will find your mad woman but if anything like me it may take a couple of months (and I didn't have any intervention to recover from).

pebs, I am glad that Thurs has finally come around for you after your wait. I really hope there is good news. If not, I hope you are treated with care and gentleness.

tas, how are you doing? Still early days for you. hope you are surviving work.

I am suddenly really anxious about this pregnancy. My boobs are only a tiny bit sore. I haven't felt sick all day. I just don't feel pregnant. I feel very tired after being up most of last night with puking DD but other than that, nothing. My scan is next Weds. I am terrified of bad news again. I hate the EPU. The thought of going back there makes me scared. I am hoping that this is tiredness talking.

pebs really hope that IF there is no 'good' news tomorrow that you will be handled with sensitivity and get through it as painlessly as possible

When should I poas? How long do people wait after af is due?

Thanks tas! Am dreading the hospital tomorrow. I have decided I am going to ask for a refferal to st marys and see what they say.

I have text my friend to say dh has taken on a job which will mean working saturdays so he can only come to evening. I think I could have bullied him into coming but what's the point? I am not in the mood for any sulking. My friend hasn't text me back though so maybe I have ruined her seating arrangments by coming alone. Lol.

Hopefully I will be asleep soon then it will be time for hospital. At least the pregnancy symptoms come in handy for something! I have spent 50% of the last week asleep.

forgot to say martha what flipping wrinkles???!!

ooh mumtum fx for you

pebs hope it goes ok tomorrow and the docs and nurses are good. My DH is quite introverted but he doesn't get a choice about coming with me to social functions like weddings. (Confirmation I am a bossy boots!)

midget so pleased appt went well! Just a quick question, after your ectopic, how long before you could think 'yes I can face trying again?' and was it that positive midget?! and is there possibly a crazy positive tas in me somewhere?!

martha your DS is SO CUTE!!! Love the glasses, bless 'im!

iq hope you're feeling better, I've had a lurgy and it's been a horrible one, just getting better now.

I had some acupuncture yesterday, and it helped me to sleep better, I do feel a bit more normal today. Hoping that just carrying on as normal will eventually have me feeling normal.

Hello to everyone else!

Midget last poas was Sunday morning and bfn was 14 then .... I'm normally a regular 15 dpo then af kinda gal...

Martha I have an asda cheaply guess I could try tomorrow am

Mumtum have you POAS?

I am taking Fragmin (was Clexain for the last 2) injection once a day because I had a pulmonary embolism in my first pregnancy. It's a preventative thing. Scanning is for growth because I had pre eclampsia

pebs I'd probably just say he had to do something work related, will be thinking about you tomorrow x

Martha sorry af has turned up

midge yey for the scan

tits glad they will be keeping a close eye on you

Af hasn't shown it's face yet, although not holding out much hope

tits great news about the scanning, nice to meet another hepariner!

What are you on them for and what it 2x weekly scanning for

Pebs I'd defo go alone and get dj to meet u for the evening

Midget great news

Martha sorry af got you too but fx we will have Xmas bundles

Sorry for the tmi but as you know af got me Monday but I've had next to nothing really compared to usual... I'm feeling really quite nauseous and norks are still beyond painful to touch these symps are Both v odd for me.. I've been off the pill since oct and each af had been very samey 3 days on day 1&3 medium with day 2 unbearable norks a little tender for couple of days before af.....This af very different am I panicking over nothing ??? All sorts of worries going on in my head ..... Sorry for the me me

what are you taking heparin for tits?

do you take asprin as well?

Afternoon ladies

Long apt at the hospital, basically I have to be scanned at 8 weeks, if all is well I then have to be seen every 2 weeks and scanned every 2 weeks after 20 weeks and weekly bp checks. Apart from that I continue with heparin injections until 6 weeks post birth.
I am exhausted, now back to the hospital for DS1's cf clinic.

Let my mad positive alter ego have hope for you peb x