Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

This thread is truly something when it comes to bfp's! I wonder why?! Must be all the tit out, PMA... or something?

Many congrats to grand and grump!

My cousin has her NT scan today for her fifth baby (got four girls so as much as they're protesting they want a healthy baby they're protesting just a tad too heartily (and nobody is really saying 'I expect you want a boy?')) and I have an awful anxious feeling in my stomach - just hoping the baby is, y'know, there.

I think I feel worse than when I went in for my viability scan with this baby. Ok, so I know I was in complete denial to protect myself but it's odd! You know what I really think it is: the whole 1 in 4 or 5 pregnancies end in mc stat - with DS3, my fourth pregnancy, from the very beginning I had a feeling that I was pushing my luck after three healthy children and that it was my turn to be a 'stat'. As this is her fifth, I think that same doom and gloom feeling is creeping in.

Jeez, manda way to make someone elses life ALL ABOUT ME!

marff wrinkles or no, I luffs ya!

pebs holding you tight in my thoughts.

farfalla fingers crossed, im sure that's a small price to pay for (hopefully) some reassurance. Hope they were good to you there.

grand that sounds all very exciting,well done for getting to completion! We've just moved, the kitchen wall is going to go so I think kitchen design might be on the menu for me too (once I get up off my arse). I'm back at work on Saturday (very early) morning. I'm sure it will distract me. I think I might go for a swim too,might help with the stressy brain. I can't mn on the work computers unfortunately, 12 long hours of pretending to work.

I've had really vivid dreams for the last few night and have been falling asleep at 8pm but nothing like last time so I'm jumping on the pragmatism bus too.

grand and Grumpus huge congrats

Just popping in to see how pebs is doing, thinking of you

stela so sorry you find yourself in this position. My GP took pity on me after 2 early MCs and referred me for some basic tests. Many of the tests are similar to the ones they do if you are having trouble TTC so it may be given your age you qualify if you have been trying for over 6 months.

Your thyroid could very well be causing an issues, are you seeing an endo?

I ended up going to see St Mary's privately, they accepted most of the tests my GP had done so only did the extra ones specialise in and a scan. All in it cost £1000, so a significant investment but they did find the problem (I think/hope) we will see how this pregnancy goes!

Ah, Grumpus, I'm exactly the same - I keep poking mine cos that was always my first symptom. Oh well, we'll see. I appear to have become a lot more pragmatic with each pregnancy - all the stressing in the world makes no difference to the outcome so I am Not Stressing. Clearly this is easier said than done.

Today I'm mostly posting on Mumsnet whilst looking at my computer screen pretending to work. I'm also researching new kitchens, corner sinks and the calculation used by structural engineers to calculate the size of RSJ required when knocking down a load bearing wall. We completed on our house on Monday and I'm planning a bit of complete renovation redecorating.

I think I'm just going to bury my head too.... No sore boobs and they were absolutely awful last time so still very unsure and not hopeful.

What everyone doing on this lovely sunny day? Please distract me. I am doing a really good job of pottering i.e bugger all

Ooh...I also x-posted...congrats grumpus

Note to self...must get off MN and do some work!!!

In which case gpb it sounds as though a is in order!! Keep us posted and congrats! Fab news!

To both of you! (x post with Grumpus)

Congratulations! :)

Morning everyone, Internet is back finally,bloody virgin people.

grand looks like we're in this together, I am 4 weeks exactly from erpc, and had a tlp (I'm liking that term) this morning on a first response. I am normally early,just thought I'd try it. I had a negative test exactly 2 weeks ago so who knows. I convinced myself I ovulated (around cd9/10) and frankly went hell for leather around then. Fingers crossed! I don't know what to do,might test again in a few days then call friendly midwife friend to see if she can take some bloods?

Thinking of pebs, lots of love being sent your way. Take all the time you need.

stela welcome,sorry that you have to be here too, grab a comfy seat and snuggle in.

Oh, and I was doing OPKs and temping to see when I ovulated - I had days of negative OPKs prior to the positive so I don't think it was due to leftover HCG.

I know. I'll bury my head in the sand for the next 8 months and if a baby pops out at the end, I'm probably pregnant

It's a Tiny Little Positive, as opposed to a Big Fat! I did test in between to get a negative which I got about two weeks after the ERPC. And there's still no sign of AF...

grandpoohbah did you test to get a bfn after your MC? Unfortunately it can take some weeks for the hcg levels to fall...but hoping it's a proper bfp for you and not remainder hcg After my erpc I think it took nearly 5 weeks to get a bfn and then another 4-5 weeks before AF showed up.

GrandPoohBah, does a TLP mean a positive pg test? Sorry to be dim?!

Pebs, I hope today goes ok for you. I had a really positive experience with my ERPC, I'd started to cramp before so I was actually in less pain afterwards. The recovery was much faster than with a 'natural' MC, I bled much less and when I woke up following the GA I felt nice and warm and floaty and a bit serene :)

So, I POAS yesterday morning, not really expecting anything but I'd felt like I was coming on for a couple of days and hadn't. And I got a TLP. I'm waiting until tomorrow to do a digi, but.... Eek. I'm in my WTF cycle so I wasn't expecting it, and now I'm stressing that a) it's chemical, or b) it's due to retained products (although I KNOW I ovulated which I suspect wouldn't have happened if there had been anything left...). Argh.

Pebs thinking of you today. I am not sure there is much any of us can say to comfort you but know that whatever happens today we are here to listen and to send you all of the (virtual) support that you need. I really hope that those close to you in RL will be around to support you too at this time. Take care lovely, wishing hard for a good outcome, or if not that then at least some peace for you once its all over and you can move forwards.

Hello to everyone else

I had the most wonderful night of vivid dreams last night, I dreamt that we won £7m on the lottery and then I gave birth in a lovely calm and controlled way to a baby girl. I can remember all of the feelings of her descending, crowning and actually being born and then holding her all sticky and looking down to check to see she was a girl and announcing this to DH. Its making me well up just typing this....

I have never had a dream like that before (the lottery one yes, but the birth one definitely not) and as I had an EMCS with DS I have never been through that before. I almost want to go back to sleep and see if I can dream about it again Ahh pregnancy hormones....

Thinking of you IQ as well, obviously you are a lot closer to all of that than I am Hope you are coping well with these last few days.

pebs I was petrified of having a GA, had one a few years ago for wisdom tooth removal but was still just as worried about it but tbh I just needed to get everything sorted and couldn't bear the wait (and pain) that can come with the medically managed option. Plus she Erpc (if you have to have one...hopefully not!!) does mean they can, should, be able to clear everything out nicely so that it's a better environment in there for the next bean to snuggle into, iyswim. Really hope you get good treatment from whoever you see today and that they are sensitive in how they explain things etc...it is such a difficult time and the last thing you need is insensitive medical staff!!

mumtum sorry to hear about the bfn...when is your wedding...v soon?

stela so sorry you find yourself here...I'm afraid I can't offer any advice re. Testing except to say that I think age can play a role so you may be eligible to more than you think, but others should be able to advise in more detail than I can!

Well, the sun is shining which is lovely but it does mean the office is going to reach new levels of sauna likeness today so I'd better go and fish out a suitably summery outfit to wear in an attempt to keep cool...wish they'd just switch the blasted heating off or at least say I can move to a desk by an opening window!!

Thanks for all the messages everyone. I am getting nervous and shitting myself about having erpc. I am really scared of the general anasthetic (shit spelling sorry) but it sounds better then medically managed.

I am going to see what they say about referring me to st marys in London. It will be a long journey down there but hopefully worth it.

Still secretly hoping everything will be ok but I know it's a long shot.

pebs thinking of you

stela sorry to see you here, I've had 3 mc but still haven't been offered any tests as the last one was a late mc at 20 weeks and was due to incompetant cervix which wouldn't have been the reason for the early mc. If that makes sense. I think its abit of a post code lottery. Although I'm not sure if things differ if you are over 35.

mumtum sorry about the bfn

Still no af here which is slightly odd as usually if it's going to mess me around it comes early

Thinking of you pebs stay strong today x

Stela welcome sorry u find yourself here can't help with the early tests requests but again it is that darn postcode lottery

Tits remember every preg is different lack of ms could mean u just lucky thus time

Me? I poas and bfn so think I just have to put this down to a stress affected af what with the wedding so close

Also forgot to say, I will be thinking of you pebs I hope the outcome is as easy as it can be.