Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

Midgetm, I'm at a loss for words but really feeling what you wrote, I've paved the way to the mosh pit for you.

Hello all

I was wondering if I could join you all.
Quick history : I have two boys aged 5 and 7, had no problems with either pregnancy. They were both overdue and healthy 9lbers.
I then went onto have a heartbreaking late loss in Oct 2010 - at 20 wks, although baby passed away at 17 wks. All testing came back normal, including post mortem on our little boy. We were told it was a one-off.
I then went on to have an natural mc at 8 wks in Feb 2011 and another at 9 wks in July 2011. We decided to take a break for a while - had tests done again through my local recurrent mc clinic which again came back normal. Saw a specialist in Coventry (Prof Quenby) who sent me for more tests which again came back normal. Was considering having the NK cells test but she advised me against it - told me to try again.
Got BFP In Feb and am now 11 weeks pregnant. Had a scan at 8 wks which was all good. The only thing I've done differently is take 75mg of aspirin - as suggested by my consultant. I've been taking the coated ones that you swallow, not the dispersible ones.

So, thats me. I've had a quick read through this thread and so many of the posts I could have written myself. It has been so hard so far - constantly expecting the worst and finding it hard to talk about the future. DH and family keep telling me to be positive and it is getting a bit easier, but it is still very hard to imagine a baby at the end of all this. 12 week scan is on 9th April - but seems a lifetime away.

midgetm I've lurked a bit on the due in Oct thread and have read some of your posts on there, but havn't felt confident enough to post myself yet. Am so glad this pregnancy is going well for you, sounds like you've had a horrendous time of it.

mrsn so sorry for all you're going through right now. Its completly crap and totally unfair.

Feeling for you too pepsbop - am i right in thinking you've had a late loss too? Hope things start looking up for you soon.

I just wanted to share something with you all. I have a group of friends on another thread - we've been chatting to each other for over a year now. We originally got together after we'd all experienced at least one mc.

There are 12 of us and at the moment we have:
2 recent graduates with babies (later this afternoon to be 3)
3 ladies in their 3rd trimester (one who is due next week)
3 ladies in their 2nd trimester
3 ladies in their 1st trimester

all with seemingly healthy pregnancies so far.

It amazes me when I think about it - and the low points we've had over the last year.

I would love to think this might help someone and give them some hope

Sorry for the mammoth post x

Also meant to say just in case anyone is considering the asprin route that St Marys also say it is very important not to take it before a BFP as studies suggest it can affect outcomes negatively. Can't remember if they said it would increase m/c rate or stop implantation but they def said it was very important not to take it before hand.

Metalling woman is back in my head. Got a load of maternity clothes - this seems presumptious for someone like me to be thinking ahead. Can't help think that I may be tempting my usual fate. Someone bring back the scary positive woman please. Only 6 more sleeps to my next scan, then I will be passed to normal ANC. Huge milestone for me - being treated as a normal person. I suppose only natural that my courage would falter at the last hurdle. The fear of it failing now is so overwhelming as I have passed my usual point of loss (although I have had a couple of losses beyond 10wks but most stop developing before 8), and even the scary positive woman could deal with the bastard unfairness of it all. Time to dig deep though currently I feel like going back to bed and not waking up until my next scan. I know why I am scared, I don't normally let myself have too much hope but this is starting to feel like an actual baby now and the loss of a baby is so much worse than the loss of a bean. I will mainly be in the mosh pit today.

Morning,

Mrs N - taking your lack of posting as an ominous sign, at the very least I hope you are getting enough TLC from your DP right now as I know you haven't told anyone else's apart from us. We are all here for you, through thick and thin.

boris st Mary's just tell you to get the 75mg dispersible aspirin and take 150mg if test positive for TEG. I took 75mg before going to st Mary's with DD1 (self medicated on advice from a friend). Hope that helps.

Waves to everyone and blows kisses to baby IQ.

advise, sorry, not advice

Can any of the st mary's crew help- my consultant told me i'm supposed to start taking aspirin, and cheaper to get it over the counter, I went to get some yesterday but they have normal stuff and enteric stuff (coated in something so better for the stomach). Consutant didn't specify. Wondered which they advice at St M's as they seem to know what they are doing in this area. Does anyone know?

Mrs N thinking of you this morning. Wish there was more i could do.

MrsN my heart goes out to you, there's nothing anyone can say really, so hope a cyber {{{hug}}}} helps xxxx

MrsN I just wanted you to know I was thinking of you tonight. X

mrsn, I am so so sorry if this turns out to be what you suspect it it. And don't be daft, this is exactly the place to vent, be angry, sad, wallow in self pity. If you can't do it here, where can you?

grandpoo take the max dose of paracetamol: taking less is of no benefit. So that's 4 doses in 24 hours. The Koolstrips may feel nice, but I'm not sure they will bring your core body temp down, which is the important thing. There is some evidence that occasional use of ibuprofen in the first trimester is OK, but you need to decide for yourself. I've been taking paracetamol and amoxicillin, and codeine at night time for the pain in my ear. And could be up diffed, not sure.

jaffa fingers x'd for you for tomorrow.

Ear still giving me gip and leaking gunk. Really don't fancy work tomorrow, but self employed, so no workee- no money. I'm a dentist, tomorrow I'm doing check ups in residential homes, so not terribly taxing.

So.. [TMI] alert... went to loo before and saw one drop of bright red blood. Then remembered that is was from my chronic anal fissure (courtesy of the codeine). Never before have I been so pleased to have a bleeding arsehole.

manda I do remember your hair disaster. Hoping tomorrow is an improvement. Is the general consensus here then that highlights are OK when pg. I know permanent colours are not really recommended. What about low lights? I just had mine highlighted as I want to stop colouring all together, and though that might be an easier transition to grey / white than just going cold turkey on the dark brown dye. But I'm too blonde now for my liking. I was planning to get low lights put back in next time.

Evening all

mrsn so so sorry to hear what you're going through and I echo everyone else's words of encouragement to vent as much as you liken here...that's what we're here for!

Haven't much brain for full responses to posts from the day as work has been manic today but am nearly nearly there with my project which is due in tomorrow (I work in construction doing tender pricing for whoever it was that was asking...quite enjoy it but have no idea how it will work when I want to go back part time and am hoping to have a change to doing interior design if I can in the next few years which I could do from home and work around kids etc).

I thought about that Manda, but instead DH dug out some Kool Stripz (or something similar with annoying 'jazzy' spelling) and they're amazing. I'm ok as long as I keep taking the tablets, I'm a bit concerned about tonight though . Oh well, if I feel like this overnight I won't be going in to work tomorrow (as a property manager for freehold blocks, whoever was asking, was it Taz?) so I can get up and dunk myself in the bath then.

mrsN can't add to what has already been said (ie we're here to hear whatever it is you need/want to say) but want you to know that you're in my thoughts.

grand It's important to keep your temp down... any chance of dunking in a cool bath to help? Multiple times if necessary!

MrsN if it is happening again that is so desperately unfair please feel free to vent as much as you want - that's why we're all here as others have said. Take care of yourself, I hope that you have someone in RL to look after you tonight.

Yup yup, taking paracetamol - trying to find the balance between not taking too many paracets and keeping my temp below 100. I also discovered this morning that my basal thermometer makes a different, more alarmed beeping noise if you're too hot!

I was a bit [unsure] about scanning me this early too. It did not help. We're booked in for 3 wks time now, on the same day that I would have had our 20wk scan for the last pregnancy. Not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Good luck for your scan Jaffa, fingers crossed.

Say not day bloody phone

mrsn please day whatever you need too, thinking of you xx

Oh mrsn so sorry this appears to be happening again we have all had more than our fair share of this shit so please don't keep your thoughts away xx we all collectively have experienced an awful lot and can really relate...

Mrsn. Please make sure you moan on here. Noone else can understand what you are going through.

The unfairness of it all is really gut wrenching.

Does this always happen in the same way? I would like to chat about what testing/investigations you have had for this when you feel up to it.

Mrsnesbit, I really hope it's a false alarm, but it is definitely alarming. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts. And for heavens sake, whinge as much as you like. X

Grandpooh, hope you are getting better. Get on top of your temp. Paracetamol only to knock it out.

Hello to Mrspear. Welcome to the thread.

Well, I am in a metalling session today. Tomorrow afternoon is my early scan. I'll be 7 and 5 I think. Just hoping for a heartbeat, and a measurement that would make sense. Wish oh wish I felt more pregnant.

Very jealous of madmen. Haven't got sky, and it never bothered me before now. Enjoy the box set martha, it is fab!

Ah grrrrr, mrsn I too was hoping it was a false alarm. Really really sorry, and do not feel like you can't whinge/rage/swear/metal as much as you need to at the crapness of it. We've all been there and that's why we're here, if you know what I mean.

Do you have someone with you?

I usually ask them to shut me in a room with a loo, gas& air cylinder and regular morphine. They always oblige although last time i was between a hernia repair and a breast lump removal on a general surgical ward. That was shite.

i wait till i cnat stand it any longer then i go.

mrs n oh fuck. Also holding your hand and shoving a pain killer and a Valium in your gob. this is the metalling thread ou are allowed to whine and metal. I really do know what you are going through and it is bastard unfair.

grandpooh take parecetomol to mange your fever as high temp no good for bean but parecetomol is ok. They would not be able to see anything at 4w 3. What the hell were they looking for? Don't worry, that is normal. Think is more around 5 when they can see the sac.