Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

Afternoon ladies.

Sorry you're in a bad place mrsn I wish you and mrn some peace soon and time to heal as best you can.

Good luck on your scan jaffa

I am suffering the worst nausea at the moment, I will have a strong craving for something then when it goes to go in my mouth my stomach turns and I can't bare it near me. I have been living off cheese nibbles and mini gingerbread men the past couple of days.

I am so sorry to hear your news mrsn - so sorry that I have managed to put down the maltesers and type for the first time in a week! I hope all goes well Jaffa. Back to comfort eating and wallowing now.....

my grandad died when i was in australia at christmas and i really thought he would sort it out for me from beyond the grave. it is all bollocks martha!

i don't know if it would be worth trying to see mr shehata mrsn. he looks at NK cells which i am not sure the NHS look at.

Thanks and i have everything crossed for you Jaffa x

Pebs i have an 8 year old son. I had 2 mcs before i had him, x1 baby with hb, mc at 9 weeks, then blighted ovem, mc at 13 weeks.

after ds i have had 4 more mcs, 3 blighted ovums x1 baby with hb seen on scan.

I was told by liverpool that i had had a total of 22 diferent tests to try to ascertain the reasons for my troubles. All normal. DH aslo had a battery of bloods and semen testing..all normal.

Blighted ovums are possibly chromosomal i was told.

We had given up all hope, completely and utterly happy & gratefull with our boy, who is wonderful & gorgeous and very precious.

My mil died last month and we stupidly thought that maybe she would look after us and that this would be for very good reason...what a stupid way of thinking ffs.

Off for my scan, feeling sick. Dreading going back to the EPU. Hope so much that it is 3rd time lucky for me.

MrsN thinking about you. I always feel embarrassed too, like I have let everyone down somehow. Take care x

sorry to bombard you with questions mrsn have you been tested for the NK cells?

that is shit mrsn. it must be so frustrating for you that the clinic can't find an answer to your problems.

do you have any children?

would you look at adoption?

scan in a couple of weeks.
Pointless going to GP, i only usually went in the past so that my mcs were recorded on my file for referral to reoccuring miscarriage clinic...also to prescribe painkillers which never touch my pain any way.

Im not going down that route, so not much point taking up an appointment.

Pebs embarrased is the only way to describe how i feel.
We had told every one that we had stopped trying.
I was discharged from the reoccuring miscarriage clinic as there is absolutely nothing they can do, they can offer no reasons for the losses and cannot give us any treatment or advice.
Im 42 this summer, it usually takes about 18 months to 2 years to get pregnant, this has come after 6 months only! So a miracle.

I just thought "maybe, just maybe..."

oh mrs n so hoping for another outcome for you. My boobs feeling different is always a tell tell sign for me too though. Big hugs.

mrsnesbit, i feel embarassed about my mc's. people think i am silly for thinking it so glad you have said the same thing.

i feel embarrased that i got myself in this situation again.

we probably shouldn't be embarrassed as it's not out fault but it's definatley an emotion i feel.

Hi,
Thanks for all lovely messages and kind thoughts.

Old brown discharge when i go to the loo, sometimes there sometimes not.
But, boobs no longer sore, felt very sick this morning, but that soon passed.
No pain or discomfort, but no doubt its on its way.
This is the usual pattern for me.

Carrying on as normal as possible as i have commitments and as i havent told any one..its buisiness as usual to every one around me.

I am adamant that i am not going to tell anyone, i feel so embarrassed.

Poor DH he was over the moon when i got the unexpected + on the test. But then, he knows the routine as well as i do. We just hoped that this might be a nice unexpected miracle.

congrats marathon! it;s always good to hear a sucess story!

End of april i mean!

blue I had a PM after my late mc and they found blood clots in the placenta but all my blood tests came back normal.

I think Raj Rai will be a good consultant for me as he does TEG test which pick up on blood clotting issues. Mr Shehata seems to concentrate on NK cells which will be my last option I think.

I don't really need to convice DH to go private. If its a choice between a pirvate clinic and the NHS cattle market he will be happy with private - he hates waiting at appoinments scans etc.

My DH doesn't seem to have my sense of urgency though. He is thinking I don't need to get a private appointment in the next couple of weeks and I should wait a while. I would like to get an appointment with Raj Rai before the end of the month if I can.

narathonmama congratulations on your little girl. And on the metal. Both achievements you should be rightly proud of. X

Hello all,

Just popping on as an old lag, I've been lurking for news of IQ's little lady and wanted to say a massive congratulations!!! I hope she's well now and you're enjoying her at home?

My own little lady was born on Saturday morning. All's well but I'm a little bit sore and weepy (to be expected I suppose).

For those who don't know me, I had a mmc at 14 weeks in May last year. This thread was my saviour and really pulled me through. I am also responsible for the infamous "metalling" typo! Leather jackets at the ready...

Anyway, better get back to her, I hope all the other old lags Manda, Martha, Peps and of course IQ are well and it's nice to meet everyone else . Good luck to you all, pregnant, TTC or anything else...x

Iloveblue never underestimate the power of asprin! Seriously I took it with DD - the only pregnancy out of 9 to make it to term. I am convinced it was the asprin - at that stage I had not been diagnosed with anything wrong but had experienced many losses. Subsequently after being referred to St Marys the TEG test showed i had clotting issues and again it is asprin. I have a freaky amount of faith in the little white pill. Heres hoping it doesn't let us down. The bad luck story wears a bit thin after a while doesn't it? It's like, 'really, you think?' (laced with sarcasm and cynacism.)

Pebs your good feeling restores some of my good feeling- thanks for that. To be honest - if you can afford it I would push to go private. Time is not always on our side and I know if this one goes tits up I will go straight to Mr Shehata or someone like him to check out my last remaining options. Good luck with convincing DH.

Thanks for the hugs and letting me have a good old metal. I feel much better now. I am pregnant for today, that is enough for today.

Also fretting about Mrs N -virtual good vibes are being sent her way - hope they are reaching her.

Thanks for the welcome ladies

midget sorry you are having a bad day today.
I'm having a good old metal too - I have felt so much better the last few days, and there is a good chance that it is just because I'm reaching the end of the 1st trimester, but it doesn't help the anxiety levels.
I had a scan at 8 weeks - but then nothing till 12 weeks. They have said they will scan me more in 2nd trimester - especially around the time I had my late loss. I think it is the fact that they have found nothing wrong and therefore have not been able to treat me for anything (apart from aspirin) that makes it so hard this time round. I was convinced that there was something wrong - but just kept being given the bad luck theory.

pebspop I thought I recognised your name. Did they ever find a reason why you lost your baby?
If you're thinking about going private have you considered Mr Shehata - whereabouts are you? Two of the ladies on my other thread are being treated by him, and are both successfully pregnant - one with very high NK cells (after 4mc) and one who had poor quality eggs.

marthasharbour cakes and hugs sound perfect

blue thanks for posting your other threads stats. it is quite amazing to see how many people in our situtation do get to have a baby in the end. it gives me hope that one day this will all be behind me.

I have had a late mc and found your other thread when i was at a very bad time in my life. It helped to realise i wasn't the only person in the world going through it. I am glad you are pg as i have followed your story a bit - in a non stalker way!!

Midget keep saying the mantra, i have a good feeling things will be fine for you this time.

I am back at work today. it's not too bad really, just sitting at my desk faffing around not doing much. I am meeting a friend for lunch so that will be a nice break in the day.

I emailed Raj Rai's private secretary and haven't had a reply yet. Not sure if the email got through though as i got a message from hotmail saying it was delayed?? Will try ringing the clinic again later.

I spoke to DH about going private. He thinks we should wait until we see our consultant again and then decide what to do so I will just relax for a couple of weeks. Hope i get my appoinment to see my consultant soon.

Wriggle thanks for that - I feel better just for getting it out. That and for having a little cry.

Welcome Iloveblue as I am having a metalling day I can't move away from Mumsnet so here to greet you and welcome you to the mosh pit. I am sure I speak for everyone when I say you are more than welcome to join us. I hope you find this place as much as a comfort as I do. It's kind of an outlet for our more mental moments and I for one would have gone insane over the last couple of weeks without it. Mainly I take strength from the amazing women on here who pick themselves up, dust themselves down and start all over again.

Your post is lovely, of course not the loss part - that is unbearable and bastard unfair but your stories of hope. Hope is what stops me going insane and then send me insane simultaneously. If I could reach out and hug you I would - the later the loss the more I dread it and I can so easily comprehend the heartache that is terrifies me. I salute those who try again after such gut wrenching loss.

Lovely to hear of others successes. I know what you mean about confidence to post on the October thread - it was a leap of faith for me - my positive one posts over there - my metaller comes back here - to my spiritual home. Sometimes I think even posting there tempts fate. Although I know that is bollocks - it is my age, my clotting and my autoimmune issues that are my enemy!

Good luck with your scan and your pregnancy. The mantra on here I have been told is I am pregnant for today. Well done us on being pregnant today. I assume you are being given reassurance scans too though? Surely not waiting you wait till 12 weeks? Welcome again. x