Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

6w6days today..minimal brown discharge, boobs ragingly sore.

Why cant it jsut be over?????
Going away in caravan on sunday for a few days, dont want it all to start while im away, but im not missing out on a wee break with my boys.

Going for coffee with friends in a min, i love that normality is out there. Oh and there will be cake so i am a happy mrsnesbit today.
Happy cake & coffee vibes to all you lovely ladies xxx

Sending good health vibes to lovely people who are pregnant today and anxious.

Today is day 15 of bleeding post MC, amd I going for a record?

feel your pain Tits - i still have a faded brusie on my leg from the specialist nurse showing me how to do the jab 'pain free' and that was 2 years ago! I mastered them in the end to leave just a tiny mark but not before I looked like I had been run over by a steam roller.

Welcome home baby IQ! :)

I am feeling sicker by the day atm, we're supposed to be going to a bbq tonight, we have spent a few weeks turning down social invites because I have been so tired, it's going to look odd if we don't start going out soon so yes, the lady with the real meat aversion is going to a BBQ
I won't be eating anything and I am hoping to go for an hour or two then make our excuses and leave for some dinner.

I have also promised my sister to make her lunch today, god knows what I'm going to do, something quick and easy but is still delicious for her and her 2 year old, any ideas?

This weather has been lovely, but my legs are covered in bruises from the Fragmin injections so they don't look very attractive, oh well, rather show my war wounds then be too hot!

Just under 2 weeks until my next scan, until I find out if little one has a heartbeat, I know its a question no one can really answer but would symptoms be this strong if it wasn't progressing?

When I had all my other mcs they were symptomless pregnancies, I can cope with the sickness if I think its a sign my little bean is ok!

marbles only just saw your post after the excitement of baby IW's home coming. I could have written that myself. Every word. Go pounce on your husband even if he is getting on your tits. By order of the midget x

IQ YAY YAY YAY. So glad you are home with mini IQ, that warms the cockles of my Heart. Sure must have been a tricky time for you but now you can settle down into home life. Here is a kiss and a lick for mini IQ and one for your good self. Hope your food is on the mend x

Hello ladies!!!!

Mini IQ and I have finally returned home and as I'm up doing my 'milking cow' bit I thought I'd come and see how your all getting on.

Things here have been difficult (I accept this is all part of the newborn package) currently just prayying we get through it though!! I've been using mumsnet trusty archives to get advise on hospital to home transition, episiotomy care and engorgement......at one point I never thought I'd have these problems so I'm grateful for it really.

Right well I must go back and check what you've all been doing this past week and then I will have to look for a new home...... but I shall keep checking in to see how your all getting on and maybe as you all graduate (it will happen) we can have a mosh creche with lessons in how to 'rock and roll all night - and party everyday'!!

Love to all xxx

evening ladies

mrsN so sorry you are still in limbo i am similar with my MCs...i wake up with a feeling of dread one morning, no sore boobs or tiredness (infact i sleep like a log and wake refreshed) and i just have a...feeling alls not well i suppose. i usually start bleeding later that day. it sucks...it sucks big massive hairy arse

to all the metallers and cake and VIP passes to the mosh pit

to everyone else

bit of a weird day today...its my EDD for my first MC it would have been my baby's 9th birthday...i told DH (was MC pre-DH) and he just said "oh, right" and went back to watching some shit on the TV felt like a kick in the guts (to quote missC ) i hadnt thought of it at all today and now i feel ill i NEED to be pregnant NOW...the thought that i will have another EDD go by with noone living in my womb makes me feel like i am failing...and i feel guilty as i do have DD and she is so wonderful and i AM lucky in so many ways...is this my compromise? i get the happy home life, lovely DD, DH and relative health and i balance that with unbelievable horror of 8 MCs? (im metalling without a baby to metal about...so very sad and embarrassing)

sorry to end the day on a downer

Evening all,

MissC know what you mean about bumps making things public. As I've done this first trimester shit so many times I already have one at 10 weeks and I just want to keep it to myself for a while. Until I really believe. Hope bastards atop sending you photos so you don't need to buy a new phone from all that chucking.

Mrsn sorry whatever happening (or not) has no end in sight. Limbo time sucks. . Wriggle puts it very well, you shouldn't have to be embarrassed for allowing yourself hope but I do understand why you do.

I think I feel embarrassed because I think people may think I am a bit crazy for not accepting the enevitable and that I should give up. Then I realise if they think that they are wrong. Hope is what keeps me going. There are so many coping mechanisms, I am now able to talk about what happens more freely and I find it quite liberating. I am no longer bothered by how it makes others feel. but then again maybe I am as I seems to want to keep this pregnancy secret for as long as possible!

best to sleep - nearly passing out - must be all that metalling x

I'd been wondering how you were getting on Mrsnesbit, sounds like you're walking a tightrope over a volcano. You had the choice, and you had enough hope to try, there's nothing to fault in that, it must have taken immense bravery to make the decision, and I have endless respect for that. Sending you train loads of good health vibes for today.

Good evening every one.

Strange thoughts, strange goings on today.

I know how this works, there is a usual chain of events for me. 6 mcs, i am old hand at it.
It all starts with all symptoms ceasing, i no longer feel pregnant very suddenly, literally over night.
In my mind, the minute this happens, its the start of the end, inevitable, nothing i can do, its gone & done.

But today my boobs are bloody killing me & i feel really tired. This i know is crazy thinking.
Im carrying on with the folic acid and vits, will just finish them i think.
Brown discharge has now been going on for 3 days nearly. Not increased, no cramps yet.
I just want it to end. The end is no doubt on its way in the next few days.
Sigh, today i am 6w 5 days. Today i am pregnant. Last time ever.

Going to get some contraception when its over & done with.

Sad but not angry, embarrased because i had the choice to NOT go through this again. Embarrased because i presumed that i was perimenopause, embarrased because im putting dh through this again. Embarrased and mortified that im going to have a load of bloody doctors prodding and examining me again.

Manda thinking of you. Anniversaries are so hard. Hope you are ok over the next few days. X

Hello everyone,

Chucklemonster, you can try again straight away if you're ready physcially and emotionally. WHO recommends a wait, but a very well researched longitudinal study reported good outcomes for pregnancies in the first 6 months, including the WTF phase. In terms of improving your chances, I was told the NHS won't test until a 3rd miscarriage and that I should just be smart about my health.

I'm still awaiting a negative pregnancy test, if I don't get one by Saturday then I have to go back to the hospital. I'm anxious to get the negative so we can ttc, I didn't appreciate how long it would take to finish the MC process (today is day 14). Im just so anxious to get going! I hate the thought of losing an opportunity, and would love a WTF cycle baby, but I think I may have ovulated a couple of days ago, it's so hard to tell what's going on in my body right now. I also have the sense as someone else mentioned (sorry can't find you again to namecheck) that this is a freebie and I'm turning 40 and need to get back on the...erm... horse???!!!

Both my MCs were public knowledge as well Jaffa with my first I saw no reason to wait and told everyone after the dating scan (with great fanfare) and the second I told people after the point of loss of the first, only to lose him 3 weeks later. The worst thing about that is that my DD has had to share the loss with us.

Yet I still feel funny about getting a bump. It's the equivalent with walking round with 'I am pregnant' tattooed on my forehead. Although it's only just beginning to round out it makes me panic....and because it's such a difference compared to my other pregnancies. Facing the school run and the work gossips.....and the questions and the due dates and the is it your first/seconds ... makes me want to hide under a rock.

chuckle re conceiving in the wtf cycle. My GP advised me that the main reason why people are advised to wait is for dating purposes. I was lucky enough to get pregnant in wtf cycle. Mentally, it was the right thing for me. I just knew I wanted to be pregnant and that was my overriding emotion. But physically, it has been tough. I have basically been pregnant since Christmas, so 17 wks, but only have 8 wks to show for it. I have had two nasty illnesses, and am extremely tired. I am hoping that this is partly due to the first trimester, but I know I am run down.
After the mc, I took megadose b vitamins for 2 weeks. I did not feel comfortable taking them once I knew I was pregnant, but I think they did an excellent job of getting my cycle back on track. I sort of knew I was very fertile at one point because I had a lot of ewcm, and it was about 5 days after ovulation normally would have occurred. If you are thinking of ttc straight away, try to listen to your body as much as possible rather than expect things to be as they normally would. And make sure you have a negative of test before you start.

MrsN, I am thinking about you. Hope you are holding up ok.

I read all the comments about embarrassment with interest. I had a very public mc at 17 wks. I had told so many people by that point, acquaintances at baby groups, all of the choir I sing in. I had to then 'untell' them, which was so difficult. I felt that a very private grief has been made public property. Some people were lovely, others were unbelievably tactless. I also felt it was a topic most people didn't know how to handle properly. They were embarrassed because they didn't know what to say. And I felt a fool- why didn't I know my baby had died, why had I led on my family and friends? Horrible.

Got to go, DD has woken up. Hello to all those I haven't name checked.

Hi all. I think I may be classed as a bit of a stalker. I refresh and read this thread so many times each day. I just wanted to say thank you, the posts on here make me cry - both happy and sad tears.

It's a relief to find that I haven't always been turned into a selfish old cow and that I can actually be genuinely happy when someone else says they're pregnant, because it sure as hell doesn't happen in rl. I guess it's knowing that you've all been through so much. That and the fact that it gives me a little ray of hope!

Please excuse my ramblings!! (another colleague has just announced that they are pregnant - and of course they weren't even trying)

I think it's just my brain going "well, it's not going to work this time, so HOW is it not going to work" and coming up with dramatic worst-case scenarios. STUPID BRAIN.

I am pregnant today.

grand I do this on and off, the second the sickness eases I get paranoid! I guess it's normal in our situation, as for you leedy

Afternoon everyone. Sorry I haven't been about, the less said about my internet provider the better

Was glad to read of the arrival of mini-IQ, I hope no news since is good news IQ and you're settling in at home.

Welcome to all the newcomers, sorry you have to be here.

Bum to all the bad news especially mrs n, so sorry.

But hurray for the BFPs and good news - leedy calm down. One day at a time....today you are pregnant. jaffa great news on the wriggly one! marathon congratulations!

Sorry not to name check everyone but I have read everything, just having brain failure.

Not much to report from over here. I'm still pregnant. Taking the milestones one kick in the guts at a time. Two friends had their babies on mini-toes DD. both boys one sent me a brand new bright red baby picture about 30 minutes after the birth, so that's what woke me up that morning

I've got a very active wiggly baby so I thank it daily for knowing I need that reassurance. Mini-toe was never like this. I am also getting a big fat belly, which scares the shit out of me. I really hate it, feels too soon, too early, just wrong. I am scared people will notice and ask and I'll have to acknowledge and it'll become public knowledge and then I'll have to explain after. At least mini-toe spared me the bump.

So that's me freak out for the day....

Leedy, that's absolute balls. My mum was 41 when she had my sister, back in the 80s when it was practically ancient to have a child. My sister is, was and always has been absolutely fine well, she's a self centred pain in the arse sometimes but I can't blame mum for that.

I'm metalling today as well. I don't feel pregnant. It's stressing me out a bit. I think it might be because I'm ill and that's much more noticeable - I'm sleeping a lot because of it, or the pregnancy, or both. DH and I are sort of ignoring it, and just not getting too invested. We expected it to take us a while to 'catch' again so this feels like a 'free' one almost, so when if it goes wrong we won't have lost any time, IYSWIM? I don't know.

:)

Ok, talk me down, people: I have somehow managed to convince myself that (due to my GREAT AGE hem hem) if I don't miscarry this time, they will DEFINITELY find something awful on the 12 week scan and I'll end up having a later m/c or termination for medical reasons. Needless to say, there is no reason why this should be the case except my slightly elevated (40 at EDD) age risk.

Hmph. Stupid metalling brain.