Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

Gum - hope you are okay, at least as far as possible.

Seems to be a real curry theme - waiting for one to turn up myself!

Sadly no luck for me this cycle. (TMI alert). First cycle post MC, think I ov'd just over 2 weeks ago (going by the usual signs), AF arrived today a couple days later than I would have expected. Weirdest cycle ever, had had minor spotting from about 3 days ago which was more like what I had pre MC than anything I usually get pre AF, also had weird taste in mouth and was running 'warm'. TBH would have suspected another possible (chem?) pg except had no boob soreness whatsoever, so suspect it is just the 'joys' of post MC hormonal weirdness. Oh well, I guess there's always next month! (in meantime pours big glass of shiraz and waits for curry to turn up)

aaarrgghh frustrated, got a positive opk early,day 11 only positive one day, managed the deed on that day but as usual husband couldn't keep pace for a couple of days for luck!! On top of that lots of stresses, financial, work family health, sometimes think this is just not meant to be, but can't stop trying for that one little egg. Sorry just need to let off steam

Right you greedy lot, chef is dealing as best as he can with the food, but as you have been told a thousand times good food takes time. I am having a Slimming World version (in rl) and I can tell you it is NOT the same.
Ahh driving lessons, don't get me started...have spend thousands, hated every minute, can't do it, not sure I would even use the car much (we cycle, train it, bus it , walk a lot as a family - we car share and use the car on average about once a month) So made a decision shortly after dd3 was born that I would give up unless the non-driving started to stop me doing things I wanted to do. So far it hasn't (apart from the rain incident!) and whenh there's no alternative I book a taxi. Works for me, though people are always very bemused
Let's hope the curry does the job then lol (fireflies, I'll save you a portion).

Thanks, diege - you've made me fancy a curry for real now!!!! Naughty naughty you!!!! (BUT I loves ya anyway).

Butter chicken, prawn Puri, lemon chicken, Chana masala peshwari naan mushroom. Baji

Oooo - yes please! I'll have a lamb rogan josh, spicy poppadoms and vegetable rice, please. Thinking of a sneaky small so please avert your eyes.

V brave of you facing the rain, Diege with everything stacked against you. I think I'd have booked my driving lessons there and then! Do you think you'll go back to them before your eldest is fighting you for the driver's seat?

Hee hee, I saw your ref to grumpy cow midwife lol and thought of my mw before your reference to her . Sounds like you might have a few more days of it yet then. How late (if at all) were your other dcs? At least the weather isn;t too hot..
INteresting somewhere, gum about low card diet. I'm generally high carbs, low fat, but do find that if I have a protein-rich meal I tend to stay fuller for longer. I get that mid-afternoon slump whatever I eat though!
Gum I think your plan sounds pretty sound, if a little stressful with the dh business. Having said that, I can see how it removes one load of stress from the equation not to get into the conversations again, and I'm sure he will be delighted with an established pregnancy. Just tough on you to have to shoulder it all (though we're here to do that too .
Oh and braved the rain, forced ds1 into pram, made poorly dd walk, and we made it just in time, despite getting lost! Really wish this rain would stop now though!
Oh and special Friday night bistro in honour of fireflies and lol (well, mainly for lol as I'm sure fireflies won;t fancy it). Theme is Indian food (hot curry, get it!), so I am ordering veggie spring rolls to start, followed by tofu in black bean sauce and green peppers.

Meant 'a' winner - preghead!!!!

If I EVER have this baby, I'll head for Slimming World. Sounds brilliant! Thanks for the tip, guys.

Well, went to see the midwife (a grumpy cow - related to Diege's midwife, apparently) who said, 'but isn't your due date 26th June? Well, it HAD been until the dating scan corrected it to 19th - and I'd been temping/charting pretty regularly and felt that I was ovulating early (CD11/12) but then you never know when conception happens, do you? It could be a couple of days after, despite the SMEP. In which case, the due day could well be 24-26 and junior isn't late at all. Which, oddly, makes me feel much more positive. My body hasn't let me down - and I can never think it has as I'm being induced on 26th (Tuesday). Psychologically as winner

FF had the induction pessary yesterday and seemed pretty chipper about the whole thing. Waiting with bated breath...

I'll stick with the low-carb thing. I don't have much time to join a slimming club although I know they work. Maybe once I've given up TTC or had #2 I would be able to take on a slimming club. I don't think I'm fat enough for it to be affecting my fertility - I do lots of exercise. I'm just not what you could call slim.

gum Paleo diet - interesting. It's not as extreme as Atkins. I\ll check it out. DP needs to lose weight too but he's so into his chocolate and cakes. His family culture is sweet things = love.

Anyway this is not a wieght loss thread. I'm in the honeymoon phase now before ovulation so wittering on about lighthearted matters. I'll be absolutely a different person once I go into the conception/implantation/AF zone. I guess I should shut up until then.

yes diege don't know how you do it. amazing.

P.S. I think I'd be calling a taxi to get those kiddies up and down the steep hill.

Somewhere, I found exactly the same thing - a low carb lunch and I didn't need a caffeine hit to keep me going. I'm a "Paleo/Primal" fan - I love this "diet" that isn't a diet and managed to shift a bit of weight on it. My DH has lost a lot of weight on it and he loves it because you can eat fat and meat. But we fill up on loads of vegies because there is absolutely no grain in the diet. I started it when I found out I had markers for an auto immune condition, and I worried that the condition might have caused my miscarriages (looks unlikely - probably just old eggs).Anyway, I started the diet because it is an anti-inflammatory diet and can be very good for fertility too.I avoid grain, pulses,sugar and certain fats like canola and vegetable oils. There's loads of info on the net.

Lately I have fallen off the wagon a bit - have been eating gluten free grains and sugar, and I'm wishing I hadn't, but I'm getting back into it,shall stop buying chocolate and eating gluten free cake. I feel so much better when I don't cheat.

Deige, yes, I think I am ttc, however it remains to be seen if I ever ovulate again. I'm taking my temperature again because after a miscarriage my cycle can be screwy.I never did tell DH about the last one. I just know his reaction would be to get another vasectomy (which we had reversed to have our last DS), whereas if I'm pregnant and it seems to be going to progress, he'll just accept it. However, I know I couldn't keep a later miscarriage from him, but hope that won't happen again.

Yes, I guess if we haven't heard from FF and Lol, then babies must be being born,or are here!Can't wait to hear.

Another Slimming World fan here - I'm down to my pre-pregnancy weight now (this week) and have always found SW (for me) the only 'diet' where I actually feel stuffed at the end of the day but strangely ravenous when I wake up! I do green days (I'm a veggie) and have managed to lose the baby weight each time doing this plan Whether I keep it off is another thing!
Wonder how fireflies and Lol (who I'm sure is in labour) are getting on ??!!

Somewhere I m at Slimming World ( extra easy) done WW. & SW before but this extra easy is fabulous xxxx

Miasmummy very moving post. I'm just rooting for you totally. Diegeglad your results were ok-ish - i had abnormalities once and it was all ok. am getting excited about lol and 1000fireflies as getting my head round their stories. Fireflies went to 42 weeks! my goodness. gum big support to you. it's so hard i think knickyknocks did a really good post on it earlier in the thread about being thankful for what we've got but at the same time I hope you stay 'on the train' and there's lots of support here. irishmammy hello this is a really warm and welcoming thread i've only been here for about a week. helloeitaliangreyhound do you actually have one they're my favourite dogs along with whippets, greyhounds, salukis and afghan hounds. angelgeorgie i just found out I'm [censored] stone and i need to lose weight. how did you do it?

my news - had massive PMT after my period ended.... errrr? then wierd libido spikes. just wierd. now in the lovely calm seas pre-ovulation. completely off coffee - having about 5 cups of tea a day. feel fine - much better than i thought. eating carb-free lunches to keep myself awake in the afternoon, actually works better than coffee.

xx

Hi Gum wow life does indeed sound busy, and very interesting work-wise too! Yes, pretty pleased with smear outcome - could have been better but also a lot, lot worse, and I'm getting better at feeling content and coping with less than perfect (but perfectly fine) scenarios (something I've always struggled with). Think I'm happy watching the ttc train from the wings for now, though might out a request stop in at some point I'm assuming you are very much still on the train?
Sending out positive vibes for fireflies and lol - looking forward to hearing updates!
Love to everyone else - sorry not to name check more but have a house of sick dcs, the hairdresser (I know, priorities) due any minute and I'm teachnically 'working from home'. If anyone knows how I can get 3 sick (read reluctant/unable to walk) children up a very steep hill (approx 2 mile trip there and then the same back) with only a double buggy, heavy rain and a non-compliant toddler who won't have the raincover on, please let me know!!! This is when I wish I'd kept up with the driving lessons

oh, yes, Deige, climb aboard the ttc train....Glad they aren't whipping everything out, I think the 6 monthly smear is a sensible option. And make sure you do look after yourself so the virus doesn't flare up.

Maisie I love this thread too. It has helped me through many a dreadful moment.

LIfe is so busy at the moment. Taking on an extra day at work, plus doing online professional learning has meant I'm just buzzing from one thing to the next. It's crazy. School break in two weeks,for two weeks, looking forward to that. Wish I could fly off to somewhere warm (north) but don't think it'll happen. It's been exceptionally cold for us. 13 degrees celcius is actually really cold for us Aussies! Not very prepared for it.

Must dash, DH is reminding me of how much I need to do (while he sips his coffee, grrr...)before heading off to work.....

I love this thread

Thanks for all the welcome messages,this is a very warm and fuzzy thread!

Diege glad your results are ok ish?? Hope your little one is better soon...
Gum another reminder of how short life is & how we should do everything we want do... Xxx
Hi Italian xxx
Go FF go xxxx hopefully now you ll be cuddling your gorgeous bundle xxxx
LOL anything? Xxxx
Hi all; love to all xxxx

Oh and a big wave and hug to Italian - how goes it?

Hi all! Thanks for thinking of me, and all the support from this thread - got the test results last night and ok-ish...smear was actually normal but did test positive for a high-risk strain of hpv, so they will want to do regular follow-ups to test for abnormalities due to the high-risk strain I have. I feel ok - quite relieved actually - as I've obviously had this virus for many years and in hindsight this is what must have given me so many CIN results (grades 1-3) and also several clear smears too. I must now try to keep the virus dormant by strengthening my immune system (I know it's been pretty weak post-birth as I've caught everything under the sun from the dcs) as it's currently 'active' (the virus) but hasn't caused any dodgy cell changes yet. But I did have mild abnormailties in March, so have requested a smear in 6 months as opposed to the 12 months they recommended (which they were happy to comply with!). I jokingly suggested to dh that we should try to squeeze another baby out before they whip out everything - he didn't say anything but was I think mildly tempted by the thought of lots of shagging
Fireflies wow, today is the day (and a lovely sunny one too). So excited for you xxx
How are you feeling Lol? Thinking of you x
Gum good to hear from you - and so sorry for the awful news about your colleague, what a shock that must have been You're right about family, and if you feel that for you it's worth pursuing ttc-ing, then I say go for it (I would!). Did you ever tell dh about the last pregnancy after all?
Irish welcome aboard!
Hi Goth! Maisie fingers crossed for your dh's test results - enjoy your new ttc toys!
Working from home today as dd3 was sick in the night and still feeling very hot. Love to all xxx

Hugs Gum.

Hello everyone. Haven't been around much, but have been trying to keep up. Can't wait to hear the details FF.

Lol, thanks for the data. When I first read it I felt a little sad, but only selfishly - seeing 3 mc next to my name. When I started ttc two years go, I really thought it was just a matter of time, but didn't expect it to be this long, and never thought,for a second, that I may even have to give up the dream and move on. I really thought perserverence (sp?) would do the trick. Not so sure now.

However, the list of preggos and successes proves that it is possible to have a baby in our forties, and I did actually already do that at 41+9. I'm just being greedy, wanting, just one more.(smile)

Welcome to newbies on the thread. Irishmammy, my AMH was considered too low but I've since fallen pregnant twice (they were miscarriages, but still, I did conceive), so I'd say you're in with an excellent chance.

Yesterday at work was a long,exhausting,emotional day. One of our lovely collegues(and a friend) died suddenly. It seems he had a heart attack while out riding his bike. He was a Phys ed teacher - very fit and slim, so it was a real shock.In his late 50's - was a very energetic, upbeat guy.So loved. The whole school was so shaken. We have a 1000 students, many of whom really liked him, so we had a lot of sadness to deal with, whilst trying to hold it together ourselves. At one point I went into the loos and sobbed.Not only feeling awful for his family, but it does bring up stuff about other losses in your life, doesn't it? I felt so sad, but it has also had me thinking about what is important. And of course it comes down to the people you love. I can't help feeling that I should continue ttc because nothing is more important to me than family.

Sorry - I'm raving.

Can't wait to hear about the new babies in the snug.

Deige - have you got your results? Thinking of you sweetie.

for everyone.

FF - PUSH!!!!!! All the best, Sweetie. X