Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

Twirly, Masie, Italian, Knicky, Hopeful - thanks so much for your lovely words. I feel very excited and blessed and will just stay positive though I appreciate there's a long road ahead. I'm gunning for everyone on here and will keep popping in. Big hugs to all. xxx

That's fantastic news clicking! All the very best x

clicking this is wonderful news. I'm particularly pleased as felt we lots in common, so know how much this means to you. Lots and lots of sticky vibes. Please stick around if you can, it'd be lovely hear how you're getting on. Wonderful news xxx

clicking this is wonderful news. I'm particularly pleased as felt we lots in common, so know how much this means to you. Lots and lots of sticky vibes. Please stick around if you can, it'd be lovely hear how you're getting on. Wonderful news xxx

Hi Hopeful - keep taking the pills and enjoy SWI. Then at least you are giving it every chance. I was thinking of my friends without partners and realised that TTC is a kind of gift as well as a terribly hard journey when it goes on forever.

I've been chatting/asking questions on here for 6 months but TTC around 16. In Jan we discovered low motility spermies. I had been nagging DP about booze so he stopped and we got him off to an acupuncturist.

Advice here: get tested on the NHS, save up spermies to ov day! And go doggy style with tilted cervix, then rest on your tummy afterwards. I also gave DP a good strong coffee before dtd. Main advice here - try not to give up, and I was getting really despondent but support here has been amazing.

Only symptom = tender boobs. I didn't get MS with my pg1. I'm only 16dpo so extremely early days...

Congratulations Clicking - fabulous news. What was the advice that helped?

I haven't been around much lately. Trying to think less about ttc and more about being happy with what I've got.Of course,I've always been happy with my lot,but now want to dwell less on ttc.

That hasn't stopped me from still taking supplements,charting etc, but not so much focus.

We're coming up to swi time soon, but will be at SIL's place all weekend,so not sure that timing will be great!I never feel comfortable about shagging in someone's spare room! Not going to think about it too much, just see what happens.

Clicking, did you have any symptoms?How many dpo were you when you got the bfp?

Congratulations Clicking, that's great news

Congratulations, Clicking - brilliant news.

Thanks so much FF - you're an inspiration. Hoping that last few weeks of pg are suiting you and sending you top class vibes for your birth and newborn weeks. So exciting. xxx

Oh, yes, italian adoption sounds good. Keep us posted. Ff xx

Yay clicking! Congratulations! No wonder you can't sleep! Sticky vibes!!! Xx

Hello all - sorry up late as can't sleep.... a bit overexcited as just got a BFP after 16 months TTC DC2. Advice on MN got us there in the end I'd say. Along with acupuncture. Still a very long way to go from here.

Knicky - I hope you go and have a wonderful holiday and your BFP will fit around it I'm sure. How did the biscuits turn out? Can you still see the colour of your floors through all the flour? So sweet....

Italian - adoption sounds so exciting. Keep us updated.

Much love to all of you and all your plans and wishes for the future.

Very quiet on here these days!

Hugs and baby dust to all, and sleep-filled nights to the new mummies and no worries to any ladies who are expecting.

Hugs to Hopefulgum, Hippy, Diege, Miaalexandersmum, fireflies, angelgeorgie and all.

I am so VERY excited about adoption. Tonight's church meeting was all about adoption from an orphanage in Kenya (MOST adoptions were within Kenya). We are not thinking of overseas adoption but I am wanting to be open to transracial adoption if that seems right. Enjoying posting on the mumsnet adoption threads and asking lots of questions. Funny to go from knowing lost (about fertility treatment and TTC) to knowing little (about adoption)!

Hugs .

knicky agree with others, make your plans and try and get holiday insurance in case the best of scenarios happens. I know exactly how you feel, life was a bit on hold, but to be honest this thing (the driving need to have a baby) can't take hold if you don't let it. So make plans, enjoy life, and if you do need to cancel then (as others say) everyone will understand and you will be so happy you will not worry. Big HUGS.

knicky agree with the others. It is surprising how life can be rearranged so very quickly if need be. Make plans for the future, and try not to think of the implications of what-if... everyone will be delighted for you if a baby is involved!!

Thanks ladies, sound advice as always. Will book it but make sure we sign up to any insurance just in case. That said, as twirly said I don't really care about the money side of it, if I manage to have a successful pregnancy. It is all so bloody frustrating though isn't it? fireflies so right when you say I need to take control whilst trying not to make it the main focus in my life. A fine balancing act and one that I must try harder with. Too easy for it to be your only focus.

Right, off to make cheesy biscuits with my 2.5 year old DD. That should take my mind off focussing om any TTC stuff and replace it with having flour, butter and cheese liberally thrown all over the kitchen (living room, bathroom and anywhere she'll decide to wander off to.....)

Much love ladies and thank you again xxx

Thanks ladies, sound advice as always. Will book it but make sure we sign up to any insurance just in case. That said, as twirly said I don't really care about the money side of it, if I manage to have a successful pregnancy. It is all so bloody frustrating though isn't it? fireflies so right when you say I need to take control whilst trying not to make it the main focus in my life. A fine balancing act and one that I must try harder with. Too easy for it to be your only focus.

Right, off to make cheesy biscuits with my 2.5 year old DD. That should take my mind off focussing om any TTC stuff and replace it with having flour, butter and cheese liberally thrown all over the kitchen (living room, bathroom and anywhere she'll decide to wander off to.....)

Much love ladies and thank you again xxx

Yes, I know that feeling. However, the way I've looked at it is, I'd do - almost - anything to have another child. So, if a pregnancy or new baby means losing money through cancelling flights, annoying people with changed plans, letting people down by not managing work commitments, that's nothing, absolutely nothing compared to what I'd be willing to lose/change/give for the chance of a chance. Things would be getting changed/cancelled/whatever for the best reason in the world so it all gets put into proportion.

I do think it's a good idea to keep going with life if you can though, and the advice in the post above is great - I've just been a bit rubbish at applying it to my own life!

Hello Knicky It has been fairly quiet, hasn't it??!! Must have been something I said.

I'd say your feeling that life is on hold is perfectly normal. You need to come up with a Plan A and a Plan B for things - you'll find it easier. So, if you book to go to on holiday with DH's uncle to celebrate his 60th birthday, work out a way of making it refundable/changeable so if you can't go you don't lose all your money. You'll enjoy having something to look forward to, but if you have to cancel, you'll have the best reason ever. We've just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. When we started our first (failed) round of IVF last year, I worked out that it meant only 3 months to recover from potential birth before a huge party, and worried how I'd get thin enough in time to get into a gorgeous frock. As it failed we still had something to look forward to. Same with the second cycle - if it was a success we cancelled party, or if it failed, we still had it to look forward to. The second cycle failed, so I committed to a two year course, and still had anniversary party to look forward to. I do think that getting preggers at our age requires commitment and dedication, but if you can manage for it not to be the entire focus of your life then it's easier to deal with. Is good that you're going back to the GP though. You do need to take control of it while not letting it be everything in your life.

Crappy weather here too. Thinking of heading back to bed with kitty!!

Helloooo! Anyone out there? Gosh, it's gone a bit quiet on here. How is everyone? (would name check but doing this on blackberry and suspect I should keep this fairly short and sweet lest it decides to dislike my message and delete it before I get the chance to post it up).

All well at the knickyknocks pad, though could do with a bit more sun...you could build an ark in this weather! SWI week done and dusted and not feeling too hopeful. Have decided that the time is right to pop back and see the GP now. He said to give it a couple more months of trying which we duly have now.

Got to ask if anyone else feels/felt like this, but really feel as if life is on hold. We've been invited to DHs uncle's holiday to celebrating uncle's 60th birthday May 2013. Each month which rolls past I keep having to work out 9 months down the road and whether it would be possible to go. Would be a real shame to miss out and especially frustrating if we don't manage to conceive. Need to book soon but don't want to just in case we are successful and turned out to be bad timing either with us having a very young baby or me near my due date. Not that I am pregnant or close to being pregnant. Aaarghh! Very frustrating!

Right, rant over. Hope the sun is shining where you are (unlikely if you're GB based today!) XX

Well, I didn't want to say anything Italian but now you come to mention it.... Could be sleep induced?

Tired and emotional waves to all. FF xx

Am I mad, just named my tomato plant Cassia!

I agree secondary infertility is hard, although we did have IUI for our DD it was quite easy! We had IUI for second time with one follicle and got very lucky/blessed!

Clicky are you beangrower or am I just confused?!

Miaalexandersmummy HUGE hugs to you. Please do for yourself whatever helps you to ease some of the pain. I can't begin to imagine how it feels but I do hope that around you are people in real life who will be a comfort. Thinking of you.

Hippy how goes it?

Diege, Hopeful and co, HUGE hugs.

Fireflies not long now.

Thanks Clicking & Knicky xxx hoping for your BFPs very soon. You re quite right sometimes the enormity of loosing Georgie is just too much to bear . Thanks xxxx
Miasmum xxxxx 1 day at a time. If today's a crap day indulge in it then hopefully tomorrow will be a little better. Take your time & allow yourself to grieve. I know what you mean about loosing this pg... But the only way I got through was try not to dwell too much & take it 1 stage at a time ie: I went from scan to scan ( every 2 weeks) xxxxx
Take care xxxxx
Love to all xxxxxx