Sixth Form Common Room part V - ttc and pregnancy post mc

I'm sorry ostrich glad u feeling ok at the min though hopefully you will stay upbeat

had my erpc yesterday and to be honest I'm in a fair amount of pain but the pain relief they prescribed puts me straight to sleep so reluctant to take it as life goes on and still have 12 year old dd to take care of who doesn't know what's happened

Hi ladies, just got home. Had erpc and they are doing tests on the products. I feel remarkably fine, and looking forward to getting horrendously drunk tomorrow. Im sure Ill have a hormonal crash soon though. I have an appointment on 18th July with a specialist and should have my results by then, in the mean time they have suggested I don't fall pregnant.
xx

Hetty - Im quite impressed that you and your cervix are so familiar with each other!

Im waiting to see the doctor at the epau, got to work this morning and started to bleed quite heavily. Scan showed a mmc. I didn't eat this morning so I might be able to have the surgery today.

MT hope you're ok xxxx

Hi Mumtum thanks for asking about me. I think I did ov last week, but my cervix has been all over the place (litterally, TMI!) normall it is very low after ov, but had sore boobs and no CM so hoping I did. Due to test in 1 week if no AF by then, but have little hope as we only DTD 3 times this month, whoops. With my blighted ovum the sack and placenta grew like normal so I was still chucking up every morning until I had the mc.

ostrich sorry to hear about the bleeding, I'm hoping that it's nothing but I think you should go to EPU too x

I'm quite enjoying this forum being just the 3 of us, but I hope we get some good news here soon (Ostrich I'm hoping it's you).

Hi MT,
How did it go at your scan? X

Good point about mc outside of hospital but I don't want to go in yet - don't want the disappointment and to go through the surgery just yet. I didn't mc naturally in the other 2 so feel I should be able to hang on till Friday.

Just reset my password so I am posting from my phone whilst in bed!

Hi ostrich I'm sorry to hear about the bleeding but in your position id call epu. If its ur third mc they will send away the products of conception if you have an erpc as they can remove it all in a sterile environment. If u mc at home they rarely can use anything u catch sorry tmi. If they can send it away one thing they will test is for blood clots. Easy to test for and one of the simplist thing to correct in case of rmc ( baby aspirin 75mg from next bfp) other than that question wise I'm not sure but hope that helps a little xxx

Off for another scan myself today. Just can't accept that I've mc when I've had no pain no bleeding still have full blown symptoms and the three scans I've had have shown the sac etc to all be complete with no sign of collapse only issue being unable to find the heartbeat. Have in my head I need to know measurements exactly from last week to today so I can rest assured in my mind there had been no further growth then and only them do i feel I can go ahead with the erpc tomorrow with no doubts as I currently have

Hetty any sign of ov ?

Hi all,

I've been having small amounts of blood all day which is bright red and brown - nice (sorry) and a dull ache in my right side, I'm assuming this could be the beginning of another mc.
On the bright side I should be referred for tests if it is, so with this in mind is there anything that I should ask (I'm very forgetful at the moment so want to take a list of questions and be as prepared as possible).
I really was hoping for the best on Friday but the blood has really deflated me today.

MT Glad it's sooner rather than later for you x Will be thinking of you Wednesday x

I'm booked in wednesday for erpc and dreading it physically but emotionally I do feel like its a definitive end so I can try to move on .

Ostrich hope u ok I will be thinking if u on Friday what time is your scan?

Hetty hope your weekend was a good one how's things with you xx

I'm so very sorry MumTum xxx hope they can fit you in as soon as possible xxx

Sorry MT take it easy x x

Wasn't good for me no further growth so waiting to be told when next week they can fit me in to erpc Thanks for ur kind words and support xxx

Will be thinking of you Mumtum, and sorry *Ostrich that your scan didn't go as you hoped. I remember doing all those calculations for me too, I spent ages searching on the internet for hope and there are a lot of people who have early scans and their dates just didn't match the scan dates and a week later all was well.

Surely we can't be so unlucky to all have another mc?

As for me, still not sure I've ov'd. CM has dried up, but cervix hasn't gone low yet and that is my certain sign. Oh well, will just keep looking out for fertile signs just in case.

Thanks MT x Glad that your scan is early so that you wont have too much time to worry about it in the morning.

Thanks ostrich luckily it's at 9.20 so at least I don't have to hang around all day

Im thinking maybe i didnt explain the working out latest implantation date properly so instead see if this makes sense....
Looking at your dates if u tested positive on 20th april that could be the end of week 1 of your gestational age then 27th April week 2 then 4 th may week 3 , 11th may week 4 and tomorrow u would be coming to the end of gestational week 5 for you. Consider a gp using the date of ur last period usually adds 2 weeks to your dates so that would make a sonographer seeing what she did looks good for you and a gp would date you at 7 weeks tomorrow. When U had ur scan Wednesday they literally would only have seen a gestational sac with nothing yet in it looking at it from that point of view I'd say you can have loads of hope

Will be thinking of you tomorrow MT What time is your appointment?

Sorry ostrich I was trying to be helpful on the other hand however the sonographer really hadn't given u much info at all so I think you have every hope still try not to think the worse and I will have everything crossed for you that it's a strong sticky bean ... And am hear for u during this horrible waiting bit I know how u feel

MumTum thanks for that x If I work it out using that logic I think I'd be 6.5 which case they should have been able to see something to date.

Ostrich I think imagining the worse is a coping mechanism us ladies who have previously mc automatically fall into. I know I have. One another thread just a week ago one of the other ladies posted advice for me it said

think the worst hope for the best

I think that about summed it up for me. My mum also works at the hosp in the gynae unit she spoke to an early preg consultant who reminded her that if the dates don't seem accurate to get the very latest date you could have implanted ( so gestational age of your bean which is what the sonographer will be looking at) go 7 days back from your positive preg test this really would be the latest date as u need at least 7 days worth of growth for enough Hcg to register on a home preg test. Now if I do this the dates the scan show are possible. BUT I don't like the idea of this false hope myself as I would rather convince myself it's bad news to protect myself I guess ttc one endless roller coaster and I never did like them

Hey MumTum, they didn't say much other than it looked normal but was too early to date or to see a heart beat. But, like you, I think the dates don't work out for it to be that early. Maybe I'm just expecting the worst but that was my first reaction.
But maybe..... I can't help thinking there's still a chance though.

MumTum I so hope that it's good news for you on Friday xxxxxx

Oh hun I do know how you feel I really really do and the waiting is just so tough on us to . I found the best thing to do was keep busy but that's easier said than done especially if like me you are a natural worrier and sleep doesn't come easy

Did they measure the sac etc and give you any idea if there was a yolk sack or foetal pole???

So sorry u are going through this to

Bloody computer turned itself off just as I'd finished my depressing post.
Scan was too early to date even though I should be 8 weeks tomorrow. I had a positive poas 20th April so I should be 6 and a half weeks at least. Got to go back for another scan next friday - they wanted me to come back in 2 weeks too MT! It's fucking shit. I'm convinced it's a mmc but on the up side I feel it's some how better that I wasn't 10/12 weeks this time and as it's my 3rd I should get some answers - it better not be "just bad luck" though. I want to be able to do something differently next time that will help.
I'm eating cake and drinking decaff tea (just in case) to cheer myself up.

Just poppin back in to see if ostrich is about ...... How did the scan go hun

Hetty Hang in there hun anything is possible with this ttc lark. For months I was poas for ov and pg and nothing.
I go away on honeymoon for 3 weeks take no sticks to pee on and drink cocktails like they going out of fashion not forgetting eating more seafood than u would think is possible and forgot my conception multivitamins and low and behold I came home to find a bfp now obviously chances are things have gone tits up this time so i dont advocate the drinking and seafood constantly blame myself as this is the reason why im mc though really ? Who knows??? but I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think there may be something in it when people say to try to relax about things . easier said than done I know though I highly recommend 3 weeks in the sun to help u relax

I'm ok, just ov'd and feeling depressed rather than hopeful. I can't get pregnant this month because that would be 3 times in a row and surely that can't be possible???... and I really wanted a Feb baby!

Your so right there Hetty

How's things with you??