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Day 25 in the post-MC TTC house.....still no LH surge? Where are you, egg??

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DangerMousey · 20/02/2012 22:41

I had an early miscarriage (5 wks + 5 days) which started 25 days ago. It was my first pregnancy and a happy surprise - the pg, obviously, not the MC. (I MC'd with no medical intervention, bled for 7 days, heavy, painful and small clots, but that was it).

So we really want to try again. I am counting today as CD25...have been peeing on the Ov sticks since day 10, but still not even an inkling of a positive result.

I am wondering what on earth the MC has done to my previously very regular 28 day cycle? Really want everything to be back to normal asap so we can start trying again.

Has anyone else experienced very late ovulation, after an early miscarriage? Even after day 25?

Is it common to not ovulate at all, in the first month after an early MC?

I know this probably makes me sound a bit mad, but I feel really desperate to ovulate again, so that I know everything's working down there. In bad weird moments, I feel worried that i might never ovulate again - i know there's no rational or medical basis for feeling like this, but I do anyway :(

Grateful for other people's stories...

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projectg · 03/05/2012 12:54

Had 12 week scan on Monday and all is well! Big sigh of relief. When's yours, Danger. All going OK? x

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DangerMousey · 03/04/2012 18:04

Hey project, glad to hear everything is going well for you. How spooky- today is my D-Day too - this is the exact day I MC'd last time (5+5). I have been crossing my legs fingers all day and no sign of any problems yet...I know it's just an arbitrary milestone but it means so much to me to get past this date.

I went to see my GP yesterday an she was lovely - referred me to the EPU for an early reassurance scan in a couple of weeks time (18 April) by which point I will be almost 8 weeks so hoping there'll be something to see).

Haha yes am "enjoying" the symptoms of early preg. No sickness or nausea yet but am absolutely knackered and have the shits diarrhoea, which my doc say some women get at this stage. Which is nice! How are you feeling?

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projectg · 02/04/2012 18:59

Hi Danger how are you getting on? Hope your BFP news has settled in and you are enjoying the 'delights' of early preg. Any news on a scan?

Today is a big day for me: 8+0, the very date I mc last time. But the day is nearly over with no bad news... premature hurrah! Getting bloated and big now though, not sure how I'm going to hold off telling work for much longer.

Chunky hope all is well with you too.

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DangerMousey · 26/03/2012 21:03

ah yaaaay! that's great news project, really pleased that the scan went well. I hope everything goes swimmingly well over the next few weeks - keep us updated!

Hmmm, sneaky! I like the idea of mis-representing the dates situation! I will see how the conversation goes with the doc and see how I feel...i hope they might refer me anyway, to shut me up!

I am trying to pretend that I'm not PG at the moment, to avoid getting my hopes up - failing miserably, obviously!

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projectg · 26/03/2012 18:15

kicking not kicking, that'll teach me to be all fancy with clever font tricks.

projectg · 26/03/2012 17:58

Danger I was booked in for the dating scan as I hadn't had a LMP since mc so technically no one knows how far gone I am... which I totally went along with despite knowing the exact 3 dates we DTD in order to get that much wanted early reassurance. Can you not claim to be in a muddle with dates after mc? Bit naughty I suppose as you do actually have a LMP. Just thinking aloud really, nobody shoot me!

Aaaanyway I have just returned from hospital with good news, my 7 week jellybean is alive and kicking beating, yay! The sonographer was rather abrupt but when she heard I was in the very same room I'd miscarried in just 9 weeks ago she kindly have me a picture of our little 1cm blob to take home for free That has helped to make me feel better about the EPAU, not that I had any complaints about the wonderful staff before, it just held some sad memories. Next mental hurdle = getting past the dreaded 8 week mark.

Best wishes to you both xx

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DangerMousey · 26/03/2012 12:05

Thanks project and chunky - yes, you're right, I keep feeling convinced that I've started bleeding and rushing to the loo, to find nothing there :-S

I guess this is what my life's going to be like for the next few months weeks, at least until I have a scan. I am gonna go to the GP next week, and ask if I can possibly be referred to the EPU for an early scan for reassurance purposes, but not sure if they do that round here, unless you've had multiple MCs. Oh well, worth an ask, I reckon.

All the best for your dating scan tomorrow project, I really hope that everything goes well and swimmingly smoothly for you this time round, will be crossing all my fingers and toes for you tomorrow. I know what you mean about slightly dreading a return to the EPU - that place will always have v bad associations in my mind too. But lots of people have v good experiences in these places: last year my best mate was referred for an early scan at 6.5 weeks after having bleeding and some pains. They found a perfect little embryo with a beating heart, and 4 weeks ago she gave birth to a gorgeous baby girl :)

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projectg · 25/03/2012 23:07

Woo go DangerMousey that is fab news! Funny, I haven't checked this thread for a while and thought I'd just pop in today on the off chance of any news and there was your lovely update. Chuffed to bits for you.

I have a dating scan tomorrow but I think I'm 7 weeks so hopefully oh hopefully they will find something in there. Too many bad hospital memories from the EPAU in January are making me worry.

Congrats again and a big hello to Chunky too. Xx

Chunkychicken · 25/03/2012 11:14

That's fantastic news DangerMousey!!!! It is a bit stressful the first few weeks - the knicker checking becomes a bit frenzied, but I'm 5+6wks today & feeling positive...

Hope you have a pleasant & uneventful 8ish months and get a lovely Christmas present.
All the best x

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DangerMousey · 25/03/2012 09:35

Hey chunky and project - not sure if you're still keeping an eye on this thread, but just wanted to tell someone that I think I got a BFP this morning!!!!

Second cycle since my MC. My period was due yesterday and didn't show up, so POAS this morning with FMU and got a distinct line!! Am sort of in shock and disbelief. The next couple of weeks are going to be v worrying but am really hoping this time it's a keeper.

Just wanted to say thanks cos you both were really kind and reassuring to me over the last couple of months. I hope things are going well with you both - maybe see you on some of the PG Boards in a couple of weeks if everything goes well...??

d xxx

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Chunkychicken · 12/03/2012 22:37

Don't stress DangerMousey it should stay roughly the same length as normal so you'll probably just have a slightly longer cycle this time. Enjoy!!

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DangerMousey · 12/03/2012 22:25

Hey project, glad to hear eveything's going well :)

I finally got a positive on the Ov test sticks today - cd17! So pretty late, but at least it's here! Have been SWI since cd11 (poor DH!) and at it again tonight so hoping this month it will be be too! fingers crossed.

(although am being slightly weird now about my luteal phase - yep, that's today's neurosis- am worried that because I have ovulated so late, there's no way it will stick even if it is fertilised this month )

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Chunkychicken · 12/03/2012 21:33

Thanks projectg have 1 more day to go before I think I'll feel a bit more 'in the clear' but looking forward to the ride!!! You're right, it seems to go so slowly & I thought the 2WW was bad enough.

Hope things are going well DangerMousey and you will have a positive month

projectg · 12/03/2012 20:46

Wahey Chunky that's fab news! I do believe a faint positive qualifies as a BFP so buckle up for the bumpy ride ahead! (pun intended) I'm currently assuming the brace position ready to crash at any moment - so hard to believe it's happening this quickly after mc. I know I said I wanted it so badly to 'fill the void' so to speak, but now said void has been apparently filled it doesn't actually feel real. Lack of symptoms probably not helping. Saw doc last week who was unable to formally 'date' me so I'm just going by ov and DTD dates to estimate I'm 5+4.... argh why must it go so slooooowly?

Thanks Danger for your kind words. You this month! . Hope POAS gets you an ov line this time now you're beyond the WTF cycle.

Chunkychicken · 10/03/2012 16:07

Just a brief update. POAS earlier and it was a faint positive. Think I'm only 12dpo but I couldn't resist as I'd been feeling faint & sick, & wanted to rule it out, as it were, so I could have a 'virus' & expect AF on Tues or thereabouts.

Keeping my fingers v v tightly crossed and hoping Tues (& beyond) passes without a hitch. Torn between being excited & happy, and expecting it to go wrong. I'm sure I'll relax as time goes on... fingers crossed huh?

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DangerMousey · 05/03/2012 15:53

aaaaaah, yay, projectg so happy for you!! What awesome news!! I can only imagine how nervous you must be. I know I'd be the same - superstitiously, once I'd got past the time of my MC, i think i would feel a bit better, iyswim?

I am currently on CD10 having had a relatively normal period post-MC which lasted from CD1 - CD6. So I have started peeing on the ov sticks today, and am hoping for a surge sometime later this week....hopefully everything will be back to normal this month and I will see that green light pink line (well, smiley face - have splashed out on the CB digital sticks!), and get SWI soon.

Chunky - fingers crossed for you too, sounds like you DTD around the right time, so now just the 2WW.....xx

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Chunkychicken · 05/03/2012 06:16

Congratulations projectg that's fantastic. Fingers crossed. I know that if when I get another BFP I think I'll be nervous for weeks, prob until I can feel them kicking, & even beyond... once bitten twice shy.

I got a +ve OPK on 'cd15' so that was really encouraging & we DTD around them, but not feeling confident that it will be sufficient iyswim. Who knows though huh?

projectg · 04/03/2012 23:13

Hello all if you're still reading this thread. DangerMousey glad you had a great 30th birthday and hope you feel suitably cheered up from what sounds like a fun night!

Amazingly I got a BFP last week at 16 dpo. Can't believe it. I know the (3) dates we DTD so that's the only way I can work out an approximate due date but feel like I've been cheated out of a week because if dates were being worked out by LMP I'd probably be a week ahead, IYSWIM?

Hard to get excited after the disappointment of last time, though, so it doesn't feel real yet.

Chunkychicken · 26/02/2012 17:17

Sorry to hear AF got you but you're right, at least you know that your cycle is back to normal Danger. Good luck for this month :)

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DangerMousey · 26/02/2012 15:09

Chunky - thanks hon, did have a good birthday in the end. Perhaps let my hair down a bit TOO much, have dreadful hangover today. But was nice to let loose a bit and forget about everything PG/MC/TTC related for a few hours at least :)

In other news - i got my period yesterday (what a birthday present...!). Exactly 4 weeks after my miscarriage began. So it looks like my cycle might be back to normal ish straight away. I don't think I ovulated at all this month though - had been testing every day from day 10 up until yesterday when AF arrived, and not one single +ve result!

I am kinda glad to see AF though, as it means we can properly start trying again in 10 days time, and hopefully will see a normal result on the ov tests this month as well - fingers crossed for a BBFP sometime soon :)

d x

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Chunkychicken · 24/02/2012 08:35

Three & Danger I totally understand the urge to get going again, cos I'm there now & I'm also starting with the OPKs this month, cd10 started & now on cd12, in the hope that I can pinpoint ov more accurately.

Three I think DangerMousey is right about a delayed BFN meaning a delayed ov unfortunately.

DangerMousey try to enjoy your birthday. I was preggo when I was 30 & couldn't really enjoy myself properly (esp as only about 6wks so couldn't make it public etc.) Although I understand the urge to TTC/want to be preg 100%, perhaps its a good opportunity to kick back, forget about TTC, drink, laugh & be merry? One weekend of silliness won't hurt & you might find you feel a bit more relaxed & ready for the TTC challenge. I know its hard but equally, you're only turning 30 once, its a lovely age to be & the baby will come in time. Happy birthday for tomorrow x

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DangerMousey · 24/02/2012 07:26

hey threefortea, so sorry to hear about your MC. I have done a lot of reading about ovulation post-mc in the last few weeks, and I think that if it takes a while for you to get a BFN, it delays the restart of your cycle - so it may be quite hard to tell when you're going to ovulate in the next month or so.

I am now on day 28 since my MC began and still no sign of a +ve on the ov tests, and have been testing everyday since day 10 :(

Kinda wish I hadn't started testing now - but feel compelled to carry on and it's costing a fortune! Am sure that the minute I stop, I will probably get an LH surge and miss it...! Though I am beginning to suspect that I might not ovulate at all this month, if it doesn't happen in the next couple of days.

It's my 30th birthday tomorrow and should be feeling really happy and excited, but instead just feel really sad and low, and desperately wish my cycle would just hurry the f* up and get back to normal so we can start SWI again...

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ThreeForTea · 24/02/2012 00:13

Hi I MC at 10 weeks, 18 days ago. Dr told me I might OV fourteen days later, but only just got a BFN on a test today so not hopeful yet. Did buy a lot of cheap ov tests today, but thought might give it another week. Feel very new at this as concieved dd 'magically' while using protection, and the little bean we just lost was first month lucky. Also feeling quite sad not to have my summer baby this year :( Feeling eager to hop back on though

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DangerMousey · 22/02/2012 17:08

Yes projectGm this is all very new to me...cos I got pregnant whilst not really trying (just being happily careless - ie not taking and condoms on holiday!), this is my first time using the ov sticks. You're right, think we're going through lots of feelings that prob sound v familar - for example, to the women on Boris's thread.

I think perhaps it was an error to buy the ov sticks, and should have just waited until after AF....am now spending LOADS of money to pee on a stick every day, when my cycle's obviously completely screwed up! Before the MC, I used to get EWCM every month on about day 13, so reckon I was probably ovulating on about day 14 every month. Now, post MC i am on "cd26" (IF the first day of my MC was even day 1, who knows!), no EWCM, and no little pink +ve on the ov sticks!

Chunkychicken - glad you're sharing my obsessive deranged turtleyness! That is a shame about the symmetry, but like you say, babies can come late or early anyway, so it would likely have changed anyway. I guess we should take some kind of heart frmo the fact we can all conceive, and it's just a matter of doing it again, and getting one that sticks next time :)

Will be crossing my fingers for all of you :)

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projectg · 22/02/2012 17:02

OMG Chunky the timing of it all is doing my head in, too. I loved the fact I was early pg in Jan when I could easily hide it and not have to tell anyone til I got the all-clear at the scan today. Also, there was half a chance this baby would be born 3 academic years below DD (due date 31 Aug, eek!) whereas if/when I get pg again it will definitely be 4 academic years which wasn't ever the plan. ("The Plan", ha!). Plus I liked the idea of having another summer (just about) baby and being able to wear all my maternity clothes again as they'd be for the right season. Yes. I am totally looking for woe-is-me reasons.

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