Hoping to concieve a particular sex?

Where should she enquire this type of thing then highlove?!!! On the 'I've got a genuine question about conception but don't want to piss off any over-sensitive women who might find life has dealt them a bit of a shitty hand' thread??!!! Oh, my mistake, there isn't one!!!

All those "BFP is it isn't" type threads - are they crass & insensitive too?? Are they to be relegated to another board because other people have never had a BFP/all their BFPs end in mc and might find the fact that someone somewhere is getting pregnant is 'insensitive'?

Yes, its rubbish that some people have problems & others don't. Yes, it seems unfair. And yes, perhaps it does seem a little frivolous to want to 'select' on sex when conceiving, for some people, is enough of a prize. But tough, that's life. This is a free country with free speech.

Don't read the thread if you don't like what's being discussed. Simple.

Having read your other thread about being attacked I thought I would come and read this thread - you have not been attacked. FGS you are making a fuss about nothing.

i 'think' that if you have sex before you ovulate you are more likely to get a girl? as girl sperm live longer but swim slower? and if you have sex when you ovulate you are more likely to get a boy as they swim faster but dont live as long? but ultimately its pretty 50/50

4 boys here and then a girl, didnt do anything different tho and didnt believe it till she was born, plus i have a friend who was told girl at her 20wk scan recenlty, then had a 4d scan privately and baby is MOST def a boy!

but ultimately just be grateful that you even have this to worry about

Conception topic isn't only for those struggling to conceive!! It's for everyone. Nobody has ownership of it! How bitter are some people!

The Toni Weschler Book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" has some info. You need to identify when you ovulate exactly and then time sex to that day and the day before, abstaining in the week leading up. I can't remember exactly, but think she claims it's 90% accurate or something for a boy, slightly less so for a girl (where you do the reverse). You can identify when you ov by observing temp, musous and cervical position (all described in the book), and/or by using ovulation kits.

I've skipped many of the replies as I'm not interested in nasty / unpleasant comments.

I do however, have some input with regards to the question:

I believe the research regarding swim speed.

When I manage to conceive I used an ovulation stick. Did the deed on the day the line showed up and had a baby boy 9 months on. I was chuffed to bits as I was on my last month of trying before going for a 3rd set of surgery for endometriosis

My friend at work has polysystic ovaries and used ovulation sticks for 2 pregnancies. She did the deed they day of the blue line and had 2 boys

Soooo.... I'd suggest using ovulation sticks, work out when you're due a blue line and have rumpy pumpy 2/3 days before and not again for at least a week.
That's what I'm planning to do as I'd love one of each but, my DS is so wonderful I'd be just as happy to have 2 sons. I just hope I get pregnant again

Good luck to you, hope you have a great time getting pregnant and a great time with your new bundle when he/she arrives

No prize, you weren't gloating. You were, though, crass and insensitive.

I disagree nappy - look at the title of threads - you will see that many, many people on this board are here because they're struggling. I'm one. You'll understand how awful it is if you're in the same boat. But that doesn't necessarily mean I want to be banished to a dedicated IF board just for the want of a little bit of sensitivity.

I don't think there is anything wrong in wanting to conceive a particular sex. I had a dd after having three DS. My DD is the icing on the cake. She has completed my family and I feel a wonderful sense of contentment. I love and adore my boys so I knew if my fourth was a boy I would love him to bits. However, having a girl has brought a change to the norm. You get to buy and enjoy both girl and boys' things. You have a daughter! I still can't quite believe it when my DH says "we'll leave the girls to do x" (meaning me and my daughter). It's a wonderful feeling. I still can't quite believe how lucky I am. Of course when it comes down to it I love my children equally. I have no interest in having a favourite. It's just the joy of experiencing both sexes is great.

I conceived my DD a few days before ovulation. My DSs were conceived more on the day of ovulation.

Good luck op. I wish you all the best.

I used the Shettles Method for DC3. We wanted a girl as I have 2 boys already. We were perfectly happy to have a boy too so thought we had nothing to lose.

20 week scan last week said its a girl.

I don't see that its insensitive when its clearly spelt out in the title, if the op had mentioned it on a thread where people we're struggling to conceive then that would be insensitive

The board is called conception, not struggling to conceive/dtc so I think all questions should be fair game

Yes - and there is the point that if anyone really knew the secret of how to self-select a child's sex during natural conception then they would be filthy rich. And it's illegal in the UK to gender select during IVF... Though not in America of course. How about a trip to the States?!

I know the post was meant to be about 'a bit of fun', but seriously, I agree that it's fairly insensitive and possibly more so because OP seems to realise that it's insensitive and 'the sex of the baby is irrelevant'... So why bother? Dr Google could have told you all about it.

In fact kit I think I stole that line from you, its so good, I use it all the time, including in real life!

Sorry OP but I'm with the "be grateful" crowd.

There are so many women on the conception board that have been struggling for years to conceive just one child (myself included) that this thread is insensitive at best.

Good luck in your ttc journey, but sensitivity to others goes a long way.

I have a DS, and am waiting on results of second round of ICSI to see if I am pregnant again. I would do anything (and am going through hell) to have another child of either gender but if I had a choice, I would choose a girl. It doesn't make me cross that OP would like a boy after 3 girls, and incidentally my friend has done just that, although they didn't use any method it just happened like that.

farfallarocks has got there before me.
I wanted to post "it's not the Argos catalogue ffs!"

I have 3 boys then had a girl, although I didn't believe the midwife until I had seen for myself even tho I had been told at my scan by 3 different people! I did google for gender selection and read a fair bit, but I didn't apply any as at the time I fell pregnant I wasn't trying and had thought I'd been careful, but it all worked out perfectly! So it can happen after 3 of one sex

At the risk of being slated, I think it is a good fun question, I know its basically impossible to choose gender but don't see the harm in playing about with tricks as long as you understand there is no guarantee. I have fertility problems and a medical condition which is more prevalent in girls so I was desperately hoping for a boy when we did finally conceive as I wouldn't want to put anyone through the medical proceedures I have had. However I wasn't bitterly disappointed to have a girl, she was wanted and loved from the moment she arrived and now I would love a sibling for her and I don't care what 'flavour' it is

Exactly. This kind of non-problem wouldn't rile me half so much I I saw it in Chat or something, or even, oddly enough, if it didn't include the information that she had 3 already.

The problem is that the vast majority of people on the conception thread are here for support because they are having problems, or its taking a while etc

So to see threads from someone wanting a 4th child of a particular gender is galling and upsetting if you are struggling to have one child of any gender.

Having a child is not like ordering something from a catalogue.

totally agree with chunkychicken and fizzwhirl give the OP a break. the title is pretty self explanatory so if it offends you'-don't read it! MNetters should really be kinder sometimes as puts people off coming on here and posting. gender preference may be taboo but it clearly exists so why pretend it doesn't. Of course getting pregnant at all is a bonus but if you are one of those very very lucky people who has managed to get pregnant easily before and are willing for it to take longer to try the nature theories out there re gender selection then good luck to them!!
I've heard of shettles method and also of the O+12 theory www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Oplus12/
sorry about the above but really winds me up when I see horrible posts on MN from people who disagree with the OP. live and let live I say lol!

Sometimes you don't even want to see the title to be honest.

Though I do appreciate that she has the right to ask the question, and this is the logical board on which to do so.