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i think i may have a problem!

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eandz · 03/02/2012 09:48

Hello Ladies,

 already have one ds who is 3. We are desperate for another child and I took out my coil in August. 

 Trouble is, I don't seem to be getting pregnant. What now? Please explain all of this to me, I am completely a novice. I thought you just had sex like crazy and miss a period and your done. 

 I've missed a period, a few actually, but all my pregnancy tests are coming out as negative.
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eandz · 08/02/2012 14:53

I think you are all right, I do need to sort out this weight before getting pregnant.

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SecretSparkle · 08/02/2012 13:26

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cherrybird1978 · 08/02/2012 12:46

Oh eandz I really feel for you having to put upwith a gp that makesyoufeel that way, what happened to bedside manner??? When I have lost weight in the past (pre disability) I have calorie counted and watched the fat content but have never tried anything like weight watchers or slimming world. I always get so disheartened as I always feel hungry even after meals when watching my weight. I lack will power too, I'm off to eat some carrot cake (its got veg in, can I count it as one of my five a day?):o

FriendofDorothy · 08/02/2012 07:51

Definitely find a new GP and definitely try Slimming World.

Just because you haven't been able to do something before it doesn't mean you can't do it now!

eandz · 07/02/2012 23:11

honestly, I've only tried weight watchers and it didn't work out for me. I really don't think I have the ability to lose weight. I've never been able to do it before.

My hunger is insatiable--I have no ability to control it. I have never been able to. Sometimes I cry about it. Literally, I cannot say 'no' to food. I try very hard. My GP makes fun of my inability to have 'willpower' regarding food. He says it's all emotional and I find him incredibly patronizing.

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FriendofDorothy · 07/02/2012 22:36

Well you weight less than me and you are also taller. I have found Slimming World the best way for me to lose weight.

eandz · 07/02/2012 18:25

oh my height is 5'5. so my weight makes me seriously obese.

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Pipbin · 07/02/2012 17:48

cherry that weight and height does not make you obese. I would put in a complaint about that GP.
Look at this chart: perfect weight for your height www.weightlossresources.co.uk/body_weight/healthy_weight/chart.htm

cherrybird1978 · 07/02/2012 13:57

There is a GP like that in my surgery whom I make every attempt to avoid. A few months ago he told me I was obese (ok i'm 5ft 2", and 9 1/2 stone but not huge). I have difficulty exercising because I am disabled with mobility problems but he soon had to shut up once I was diagnosed with PCOS, although he did say "that answers for your weight then". I am now on Metformin to help so fingers crossed. The point of my post before my rambling was I agree you should look at seeing someone else, and it does take time to get back to normal after contraception although I would look into getting pcos checked.

eandz · 07/02/2012 00:09

i'm 14 stones. :( I'm naturally a tiny person, so all this weight is way way too much.

My GP just tells me to stop eating and exercise. Which is soo easy for him to say.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 06/02/2012 11:18

MY PCOS does this when I'm heavier, no period for 2 or 3 months then it turns up, afaik it means you havent ovulated, the eggs stayed in the ovary and become a cyst instead iirc.

Thats what my gp tells me anyway, he also tests my HbA1C levels yearly (which measures my blood sugars over 3 months) and does a yearly fasting blood glucose too) plus checks my cholestoral (sp?) and my thyroid, which he seems to think can also be affected by pcos.

When I was younger I was overweight, my periods didnt start until I lost it all at 16.5 years.

There is a pcos charity in the uk called Verity. They have a lot of information and support.

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FriendofDorothy · 05/02/2012 23:20

NO idea. But you should see your GP.

eandz · 05/02/2012 23:16

Umm Ladies,

my period showed up today. So two months of no period and then one today. What am I supposed to make of this?

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eandz · 04/02/2012 19:58

eh, my GP and I go back quite far...A new practice has opened up closer so I'll just change practices all together.

Solgar kelp tablets? I'll try them out.

As far as my weight and eating, i just can't stop. I'll figure something out soon. I have to, I've gained more weight these past 12 months then I've ever done so in my life.

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FriendofDorothy · 04/02/2012 15:59

Stupid iphone. I was going to say that it sounds like you need to change your GP. I am not sure why you say your GP won't help you ever. Seems very final.

FriendofDorothy · 04/02/2012 10:21

Whyd

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/02/2012 09:49

I forgot to say if your GP isnt coming up to scratch then ask to see another gp in the practice (I dont think they can refuse this request I've changed mine as DH didnt like him) or change surgery.

You literally walk into a doctors surgery you would like to be a patient at (you might ask friends/ colleagues whos good) and say you would like to register as a patient. When I moved they didnt contact my old gp they just requested my notes via the pct so they didnt know where I had gone either.

Fluffycloudland77 · 04/02/2012 09:46

Your age does affect your ability to lose weight, imho. But it doesnt make it impossible.

I think that if your starving yourself, as opposed to sensible eating and exercise, then your body will go into starvation mode. It slows its metabolism right down to exist on the food it does have. When you eat a bit more it then stores as much of it as possible as body fat to get it through the next "famine".

What you dont want to do is mess up your metabolism to the point that your not burning fat effectively.

Blood sugar control can be a problem for PCOS sufferers iirc so perhaps the low glyceamic index diet would suit us better than calorie control diets? eg being sensible all day is all very well and good but if you then have a sugary pudding at night your blood sugar levels will shoot up which isnt really ideal for us. Plus sugar is very ageing to the tissues in the body even at cellular level. It literally makes the tissues toughen up and age. With a steady supply of carbohydrates you should, theoretically, be able to go between meals without that snacky feeling. All starch breaks down to sugar it's just a matter of controlling the speed of absorption. E.g fruit is loaded with sugar but the fibre in the fruit slows the rate of absorption down. Where as a chocolate bar's sugar has no fibre in it so breaks down very quickly.

When I bought the zita west ivf book (and I assume it's the same for normal conception) she adivsed giving up saturated fats such as margarine, vegetable spreads and butter. I lost 9lbs literally overnight. I use olive oil and goose fat in cooking instead, neither of which are saturated. You dont miss them after a while.

I also take Solgar Kelp tablets, they contain a lot of iodine in a one a day tablet. I dont think it hurts to take it, I didnt take it for weight loss but hair growth as I had all my hair cut off and wanted to encourage growth. It is meant to be good for metabolism though, especially if you dont add salt to food (I dont).

eandz · 03/02/2012 23:02

okay, since my GP won't help me ever. I'll just keep with the clear blue sticks, and pee on them starting this evening.

I feel so stupid, I don't know any of these words/terms.

Af/BFP/

I know all about LH and different hormones going up and down and fsh and hcg and all that stuff, I just cannot translate it and when it comes to me.

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FriendofDorothy · 03/02/2012 22:49

Well you can test and see, or go to your GP and see if they will give you a blood test to see if you're ovulating.

eandz · 03/02/2012 22:44

I did buy a box of those, but then realized I may be completely wasteful of it all if I'm not ovulating at all.

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FriendofDorothy · 03/02/2012 22:40

I suggest you buy some ovulation tests and start using them, or a Clear Blue Fertility Monitor.

eandz · 03/02/2012 22:35

I don't understand, how do I know if I'm ovulating if I'm not perioding? (I know, I know, so stupid)

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Pipbin · 03/02/2012 21:39

eandz I spent years going to the gym every day and never losing an ounce, yet since starting Weight Watchers I've lost nearly a stone.

And as said before, ttcing since August isn't that long at all. At you age it'll need to be 12 months before the GP will be too interested.

I suggest charting with fertility friend. www.fertilityfriend.com

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