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raspberrytipple · 2011-12-15T07:45:42+00:00

New thread..... let's get going!!

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raspberrytipple · 18/12/2011 09:53

Did they just write that in a letter? That sounds a bit mean as it doesn't give you any chance to ask questions. Is there anyone you can contact next week to discuss or ask the staff when you go in for your HSG tomorrow?

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JosieSmith1 · 18/12/2011 09:20

I got a letter from the fertility clinic saying the blood test they did does show that I have lower egg reserves and that they want to see me again at the end of January. I quote "fertility is still possible but slightly reduced" WTF does that mean! I'm now slightly concerned that we'll have to go for IVF despite what the HSG says tomorrow. And now of course I'm worried that my eggs are going to be knackered and if we want IVF I'll have to use donor eggs, which is something I really don't think I'll ever be comfortable with. It's going to be a long wait until Jan 31st!

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raspberrytipple · 18/12/2011 09:05

I have one friend who started off with the tests and things, she had the hycosy thing and got pregnant soon after. It took her 3 years for her first and 4 years for her second but other than that most people I know have got pregnant within 6-9 months except one other who said it took her 2 years but I feel like I'm past that point now.

Went for drinks with friends last night and one of the girls talked about babies literally all night, how everyone she knows is pregnant, listing off due date after due date, saying how much she loved babies, pushing her tummy out and saying 'look this is what I would look like if I was pregnant', how the carpet had baby dribble on it because all her friends bring their babies round to see her, how she'd be a great mum...... but definitely, definitely did not want them as they would ruin her life and she just didn't want the hassle of giving birth. her husband is desperate to have kids and shes put her foot down with him over it. Just felt like she was protesting to much. Was all a bit odd if you ask me.

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FairyonthetreeG · 17/12/2011 17:17

I'm suddenly finding out that some of my friends have been through it! One friend tried for 6 years, had clomid & investigations - she has 3 children now! She admitted what she went to when I mentioned having a hosp app. Another of my friends tried for 4 years & finally fell with the help of clomid & boozy holiday - she only opened up when we were talking about acupuncture. Another friend tried for 8 years & it happened when she 'wished on a falling star' & she only told me cos she caught me when I was on a very low day & I blurted every thing out! She only ended up with the 1 child.

I think there's a lot more of us out there in RL but I think we tend to hold it to ourself - & rightly so because 9 times out of 10, the ones you do confide in (family & some close friends) tend to be the people who don't understand. My mum is forever telling me it will happen & when she has grandchidren from me... but also when I want to talk about how I'm feeling or any hopes/dreams I have, she goes quiet or changes the subject! So it's hard judging who to admit it too!

One of my best friends just keeps reassuring me that I'm taking steps in the right direction all the time. I wish I felt that positive! BFP is what I want!

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raspberrytipple · 17/12/2011 16:22

ah yep I have heard of the dye thing. You aren't alone with those conversations with DH, we got his results only a few weeks ago but I did say exactly the same things to him. He was lovely but you can't help but feel a failure and it's not even something I can talk to anyone in RL about. A number of our friends know we have been trying for a while but just think we are being too relaxed and should step it up then it would happen. If only they knew! So to sit there and tell them what a pathetic failure I feel because I can't manage this baby malarkey just feels like I'm seeking sympathy or to make people feel bad when I'm really not. Still, got my appointment now so just have to put it to the back of my mind and wait until the end of feb to explore where we go from here cuz the traditional way just aint working! Although I wouldn't wish this feeling on anyone it is nice to know you aren't alone and there are people to talk to

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FairyonthetreeG · 17/12/2011 15:48

Thank you for the Welcome. HYCOSY is where they squirt dye in to check the tubes using a scan - less invasive than the lap & dye I think (well I wasn't under GA for that one).
Yes I feel the pressure too - and feel like it's all my fault. When I'm really down I keep saying to DH that if he'd married someone else he'd have at least 2 by now! He says don't be silly, he wants to be with me! But it still reay bothers me. I forgot to say, I have PCOS so at least know thats part of the issue!
xxx

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raspberrytipple · 17/12/2011 14:00

Hi fairy welcome! Good luck for the lap & dye next week. What's a hycosy? I've heard of it I think but not sure what it is? My DH is 'normal' to so although delighted that this was the case I now feel a load of pressure to sort me out! Hope you find out soon what's going on in there xx

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FairyonthetreeG · 17/12/2011 13:39

Hi,
I've seen your thread before but haven't joined & felt that now it's time! So do you mind if I join?

Still TTC#1!!! Been over 4 years for us. This is the second time I've been on clomid - this time ovulating but still not getting a sticker! Got a Lap & Dye on Wednesday for them to do do a bit of investigating. Had HYCOSY before. DH is absolutely 'normal' just an ever-expectant father & I just wish I could fulfill his dream! RTD arrived yesterday so starting 3rd round of clomid today!

Thanks for listening

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raspberrytipple · 17/12/2011 13:21

My appointment just came through the post! 28th feb. feel so much more relaxed now we have a date :)

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raspberrytipple · 17/12/2011 12:27

Good luck on Monday Josie fingers crossed they find out what is going on in there. I really enjoyed putting up the Christmas tree and decorations this year, I feel very festive for a change and excited for Christmas although it will be the first year without my nan who died while we were on honeymoon back in September :( . It's a shame that DH's parents just don't get it, it makes it so difficult. My mum knows we are having problems and she's been brilliantly supportive but doesn't ask to many questions, she's just there if I need to talk. Not sure what DH's mum would make of it but I know she would be sensitive and supportive and probably tell us not to worry etc etc. Hope they get the hint soon!

Fingers tightly crossed for you Sweetie , it sounds like you hit the right times if the OPK picked up that you went for it early. I didn't get a peak this month with CBFM and I'm a bit confused with it all because there were two thick blue lines that were evenly matched on the sticks but it still didn't give me a high. We SWI anyway just to be sure . Hope you had a nice works meal, we had drinks yesterday but luckily for me the red wine wasn't too nice so I wasn't tempted to drink to much!

Welcome Bookaddict - there are lots of us around with a similar story to you in that we've been TTC a while but hopefully you get pregnant soon and you time on the thread is short lived!

Well ladies, hope you are proud of me, I think I have officially finished my Christmas shopping. Went in at 9.00 a.m. this morning with my mum and it was sooooo quiet. Shops are literally giving things away around here because just aren't spending so I managed to get 50% off nearly everything I bought. Brilliantly cheap Christmas this year. I also went back for my follow up with the doc and he didn't take more blood, he wants me to get it done again in between Christmas and New Year. He's sent the letter to the fertility guy and said it will be a few months before an appointment comes through so basically just said to have some fun between now and then which I intend to do! Although my diet halo has slipped. I had some G&Ts last night followed at 11.30 p.m. with a chinese, very nice but got it's made me crave stuff today??!!!1 Or perhaps that a pg symptom!?? Oh dear, I have started symptom spotting early - I think I only ovulated on Wednesday!

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BookAddict · 17/12/2011 00:22

Hello everyone, I'm brandnew to mumsnet, but a year into TTC. Would love to find some people to share experiences with. I feel I have nobody I can discuss TTC with, and my closest colleague at work is 4 months pregnant which is hard though I'm very happy for her.
So that's me then! Nice to meet you all!

JosieSmith1 · 16/12/2011 11:29

Hi everyone, shiny new thread!

I've decided to go back to work next week (been off sick for about 8 weeks, since best mate announced her pg after 3 months of coming off pill). So fingers crossed I get back into the swing of it. Will get my HSG results immediately so hopefully it's not bad news. Though on the Tuesday we're getting virgin instead of sky and a TiVo box, very exciting, I haven't been able to record tv for years . And I bought a slow cooker, very much looking forward to cooking some lovely winter recipes in it. Put the xmas decs up yesterday, went a bit overboard but we usually don't so much so it's nice. Told DH's parent's about our difficulties TTC in the hope the insensitive comments would stop, erm, no they didn't. They keep saying "when you have your kids" and eventually I'm going to have to explain that going for IVF is not a definite, and won't guarantee a child at the end of it. Anyway, they might get the hint eventually. HSG on monday, not long now but I'm not dreading it too much. Hope you're all as excited for xmas as I am!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SweetieTinselandBaubles · 15/12/2011 11:25

Morning all, found the shiny new thread

Josie fx for the HSG, sometime the anticipation of the event is worse than the actual thing. Hope it all goes well.

I am pleased I did the OPK sticks as I ovulated ridiculously early CD10/11 I had the +ve lines. Previous months it has been CD11 - CD14. I track things on a spreadsheet and when I line up OV days I can see my AF comes exactly 16 days later. I think this is a real positive as it mean my LP is stable. Only down side is this month AF due or could it be BFP Christmas Eve

Off to my work Christmas lunch now, for much turkey and the odd many glass of vino

SantasCave · 15/12/2011 08:19

Morning raspberry, just swinging by to mark my place.

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raspberrytipple · 15/12/2011 07:51

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1238619-The-First-Time-Frolickers-Home-to-Ladies-TTC-their-first-child

Goddamn it someone may have to help me!

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raspberrytipple · 15/12/2011 07:50

A bit premature but thought it might get us back in swing of it as there
Seems to be a bit of a drought at the moment. Old thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1238619-The-First-Time-Frolickers-Home-to-Ladies-TTC-their-first-child

Hope that works!!

Well, weve just swi for first time since Sunday a.m so I was panicking a bit, especially this morning when I needed to see and I can't find my cbfm out pee'd on a stick anyway and it had two equally thick and coloured lines so looks like the timing may be just right. Fingers crossed!!

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