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Hi all! A real newbie here, just wanted to say hello, been following the thread for a while but plucking up courage to join in. I'm 34 and TTC since coming off Implanon in August, not long I know. Keep trying not to get my hopes up after first excited months (yes, JosieS, that smug feeling of 1st month is just about wearing off now!) and this thread has been really helpful reminding me that it can take a while....Loved reading yr postings, thanks all, and best of luck xxx

I agree with your grrr CEDR She doesn't sound like the sort of person you can reason with either i.e. you can't say to her 'look, this is really difficult but it's worse when you ask me how it's going every week'. There's someone here like that too. She told me this morning that being given a 10-15% chance of our only IVF cycle working was good news I almost kicked her head in. I don't really feel like being cheery and happy about having to have IVF and the little chance it has of being successful. I wanted to find out I was pg by accident after a few months of trying and be extraordinarily happy. Instead I have had 2 years of misery and depression and it's set to get worse

Hi all! Welcome newbies and apols for radio silence.... not been much to say!

Been quite frustrated with a colleague who is the only person I've told about ttc- she had two miscarriages in the last 12 months (and has one child). I only told her about it all because she was probing and she's impossible to lie to . And now once a week it's "how's things going?". Grrr. I don't know if I'm even going to ovulate for another 6 months plus (due to coming off the depo inj for anyone that doesn't know!)! So I don't know how things are going let along being able (or wanting to) tell anyone else! She's also being v judgemental about a friend of both of ours who recently had a baby who was unable to breastfeed. She tried really hard but it just wasn't working, and she's devastated about it... so doesn't need people being judgemental about it. Grrr. Just a general Grrrrrrrr really.

Bugger: Day 21 blood tests say no ovulation. Got to go back again next week for another test. The Clomid made me ov on Day 17 in the first cycle and Day 14 on the second. I'm now on Day 24 of my third cycle and no sign of ov to be seen! How am I supposed to figure out the best time for dtd if I'm all over the place like this??

Hi Beeble no resolutions for us, was gonna go along the lines of something vaguely healthy but don't really see the point. DH needs to lose some weight, I'll help him with that by eating a bit better. I've thought about adoption, it's an option if all else fails. It's not how I pictured the rest of my life. DH isn't too keen but I think if the IVF fails he'll start to come round. We'd rather have adopted children than no children at all. I've got to sit at work all day today and pretend everything is ok when really I'm just one 'are you ok' away from breaking down. Let's see how long I can last...

Welcome newbies. Nice to have a little more aCtion in here now!

Josie, fingers crossed you get something good out of your appointment. Any thoughts on adoption?

Sorry about af too rasp! 11 days and counting until my dreaded af arrjval.

So my new years resolution this year is to eat fruit and/or vegetables with every meal. Any ny resolutions for you ?

Glad your HSG went well Evil Did you get your results?

Welcome Picklestar I remember sitting at work my first month smugly thinking ?I?m probably pregnant now? How naive I was back then

Sorry for arrival of AF Rasp but hope your appt goes well

Fingers crossed CaveMum

Hi Cazbg, feel free to chat to us anytime

Sorry AF arrived Pinkflipflop

I had a bad appt at the clinic today. We?re starting ivf in the next couple of weeks, getting my meds a week tomorrow, but she said not to get our hopes up as she doesn?t think I?ll respond to the meds and if there?s only 2 or 3 follies after stimulation, which she suspects, they?ll not go any further, and basically that?s the end of the road for us. I?m absolutely gutted

Haven't posted much since joining you all but slightly disappointed as got period today. We had only been very casually trying but was still hopeful.

Have totally irregular cycles, 44, 45, 43, 54, 86, 43, 41 days being the most recent set of statistics. Lots of friends having babies and I'm 32 so starting to feel I'm getting on a little now - sorry to sound negative

Hi Cazbg. I was in a similar situation - came off Pill, had one period and then nothing. After 6 months I was referred for a scan which showed Polycystic Ovaries. I had an HSG (where dye is injected into your womb) to check for blockages and then a Laporoscopy under general anaesthetic to have a good look round.

Upshot is I'm now on my third cycle of Clomid to get me ovulating. The first 2 cycles worked and I'm now waiting on blood test results for the current one.

Feel free to ask as many questions as you like!

Hi Cazbg welcome, its nice to have somewhere to discuss things with people who are going through similar things.

Sounds very frustrating, but keep going :), we'll all support you :)xxx

Hi,

I have just come across this post and thought it would be good to talk to people who are going through the same thing as me (especially as all my friends seem to be falling pregenant first try!).

I am 29 and been trying for about 6 mths. I have Polycystic ovaries and havent had a period since coming off the pill : (. Had tests with the doctor which show I am not ovulating at the moment... had a scan...now waiting for a gynie appointment. Doctor has told me putting on some weight might help and doing a bit less excercise...all of which I am doing and still nothing!

Just really frustrating!

I would like to just be able to talk with you all on here : )

Hellllloooo again all.

Thanks for the advice re: urine pains. I have a urine test each time I go to doc since this is a recurring thing and it's normally normal even when I have proper cystitis (with the burning etc but not usually blood in sample weirdly enough). I had antibiotics in my medication box so started myself on them now. Symptoms have subsided a bit but still got the feeling of pressure down there and random pains. Doc tomorrow!

littlemisslemon my periods always take about 6 weeks to return after coming off pill, I was on Cilest. Pain when they take ages x

Glad the HSG went ok evilgiraffe

Welcome picklestar I too was disappointed when not pregnant in first month, but after reading up on things here I am now prepared for it to take a year or more. I have started using ovulation sticks, got a pack on Amazon for a few pounds for 30. I think we have done it on the right days so fingers crossed this month but not expecting anything :)

Sorry about AF raspberry at least you will still have your appointment to go to, and hopefully start getting some answers to put your mind at rest.

Fingers crossed for you cave

Well I think we have done it on the correct days, had a line on ov sticks for 3 days, slightly fainter than control but now gone so I assume I ovulated around 26th. Been feeling twingy feelings in my lower abdomen but assuming that's to do with the problems I've been having lately.

Will do Beeble bit worried we'll forget after shagging purposely without! Feeling a bit sad about having to use protection, will have to count down the days till I don't again! I'm on steroids, Dr says I shouldn't conceive whilst on them, then wait a week till they're out of my system! :(

Just remember to use protection while on those antibiotics!

HA HA! Thanx all, will tell DH that he told me a pack of lies and we should recommence the shagging at once! :)!

Rasp that does all sound very dramatic!

Pickle. If you will be ttc following the two weeks, your dh shouldn't really " save up " for those two weeks or his little swimmers will be tired and old. I have been reading that 3 days is the max time to "save" as after that sperm motility drops dramatically.

Cave no wonder u have been quiet! Me too lots of swi over here. Cd 6, 10, 11, 13, 14, 16.

Rasp, sorry the b. Arrived!

7 times in 9 days, very impressed CaveMum! fingers crossed you've ovulated!:)

Ive been told by the Dr because of medication Ive just gone on I'm not allowed to try to conceive for the next 2 weeks! DH said he doesn't want to waste the little swimmers so no shagging for 2 weeks :O, we'll see how long it lasts!

Morning all, sorry to here of your inconvenient arrival raspberry.

Things are pretty quiet for me, really not sure what is going on! Cycle 1 of Clomid I ov'd on Day 17, Cycle 2 on Day 14 and now I'm in Cycle 3 I'm in Day 21 and not convinced ice ovulated at all!! I may have had a temp rise this morning, but won't be able to tell if it's ov related for a few days. I have my blood tests to confirm ov tomorrow and an appointment with a GP on Tuesday to get my next batch of Clomid.

We've been very good about dtd this last week, DH has been home all week (usually works away) and we've managed it 7 times in 9 days - not bad going! I'll be very disappointed if it turns out I've not ov'd at all this cycle.

Hi ya, sorry went AWOL - new job took over my life!!!

Sorry to hear about AF rasp, white jeans used to work for me as a teenager lol.

Welcome picklester
It has been very quiet hasn't it. maybe everyone has taken a new year break and will be back this week :)
rasp the dramatic entrance didn't have anything to do with whit jeans or running through a white house in the nip

Know what you mean littlemisslemon, completely messes with your mind! Its nearly been 6 months & I'm still not back to normal!