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The nurse says I have to go in for a scan on Saturday and see from there. Hopefully that means there's enough going on that there's still some hope! So that's better news than there being nothing more they can do. I'm praying I'm not getting my hopes up for nothing!

Just a quick update - nurse said the blood results showed that not a lot is happening. They're going to discuss it tomorrow and ring me in the afternoon so I'll let you know what's going on then. And I'll name check properly tomorrow but thanks everyone

Josie, I'm so sorry to hear that. Keeping every thing crossed for your results this afternoon.

Fingers crossed for 4pm josie sending lots of hugs xx

Oh, Josie I'm so sorry to hear that, we were all hoping to hear good news from your scan. Fingers crossed for the blood test results at 4pm.

And if it isn't good news, just take it a bit at a time as you consider your options. I wish there was something we could do to take some of your stress at the moment.

So sorry to hear Josie hugs x

Oh Josie :( I am keeping everything crossed for the blood test for you.

Hi all,

Sorry you're feeling blue fl0, my SIL knows I'm trying to conceive & jokedly mentioned the other day that her period was late & that maybe she was pregnant as she took her pill late one day! I felt so mad!! Luckily her period has arrived phew!

I know what you mean mellow all my friends seem to take 2 months to concieve, I'm now worried that because I'm passed that mark that there's something wrong!

I do believe stress can make you miss a period pinkie, hope it arrives soon!

I'm struggling at work at the moment (don't know if we're allowed to say what we do for a job in here???) but I know that if it takes a while to concieve I'll struggle to carry on! A member of staff had to leave because she couldn't fall Pregnant. I know this sounds premature but it's already starting to affect me :(! Xx

Scan didn't go well. I'm not responding to the stims at all. They've done a blood test to see if it's maybe just working very slowly, or if it's not working at all. Get the results at 4pm but it could very well be the end of the road for us. We're both extremely I wasn't expecting it to be this bad, I was quite optimistic, I thought maybe, just maybe this was our chance. But it turns out it's not. I think our only options now are donor eggs, which doesn't have any higher a chance of working than IVF, or adoption. Neither of which I really want to consider right now

Hi everyone, I've just been for my rescan - the haemorrhagic cyst has decreased in size, which is nice, and the other ovary is fine. Only another five weeks or so until the next infertility appointment, and then we'll find out what it all means... DH is feeling rather upbeat, thinking that if only one ovary is working right that would explain why it's taking ages, but I'm more pessimistic - cysts are so common I wouldn't be surprised if it had no effect at all. In any case, I might not have had a cyst for very long, so it might not explain back any further than the last two or three cycles.

Still nothing ladies although boobs if hotly more tender this eve, frustrated isn't the word! Think I've just skipped a period due to stress! x

Thanks for the kind words Josie and mellow- I think I'm just a bit stressed about a lot of things and the news about SIL just came as a bit of a shock and jump-started a lot of feelings and worries. I#m honestly a very laid back person usually so I am quite surprised at the intensity of my feelings about it all.

SWI sounds awesome, I had a hosp visit today about my broken shoulder and it appears to be more serious that I was originally told (but thank god no surgery or anything). Two bits of bone have fractured off the main bit (which they didn't tell me before- they only showed me a hairline fracture), and it might be 6 months before it's back up to strength!! I would like to be SWI but I just can't imagine being able to work around the shoulder and enjoy it! :-S

Sorry fl0 to hear about your SIL - my SIL has just told me they're trying for number 2, I haven't told them we're trying for number 1 yet and feel a bit like a failure for not managing it! I think you shouldn't worry about 'hiding' or not and just do what is right for you - nobody will think anything, or more importantly remember it for more than a few days.

pinkie any sign?
Cave sorry to hear you're having a painful time, hope it passes soon
Josie hope all goes well and lots of potential eggs, fingers crossed.

I'm feeling a bit bruised and almost like it's all over and I'm never going to get pregnant, which is ridiculous. Did you see the thread about not having a Christmas baby? I can understand the thinking, and it had crossed my mind (and if we're being very honest here, I was hoping that not wanting a christmas baby might make it sods law more likely to get pregnant this month ) but really, don't think I can be picky about the timing!

I am a bit surrounded by super fertile friends at the moment. average time to getting pregnant is about 2 minutes as far as I can see! We should be SWI'ing this week and next _ I guess aiming for 3/week rather than a crazy daily (or more) event...but still don't think I'm ovulating and am aiming for a May clomiphene start.... and then que sera sera...
off to find

Hello all.

How ate things Pinkie? Any sign yet?

AF showed up in full force this morning, having kept me waiting through 2 days of spotting. Been taking painkillers all day [ouch]

Josie, hope all goes well at the hospital tomorrow.

Any other Frolickers lurking out there?!

I'm still waiting hff! 5 days late cd38! Just want her to arrive then can start again, or maybe I ovd late and could still get a bfp??! Wishful thinking! Brothers mrs is about to drop in a few weeks, am looking forward to it tho secretly jealous another pair who weren't even trying hope everyone is well x

So sorry to hear that Pinkie

And sorry that AF is on her way Cave

Raspberry it?s totally understandable to find mothers day hard given what you?re going through. I had a bit of a rant in asda the other day (quietly of course) about why fertile people should have their own day, just because they can reproduce they get celebrated, it?s actually really unfair. I hope you feel better soon, and as difficult as it is, resist facebook. I?ve boycotted it because a friend just had her baby and it?s covered in pictures, and my other pg friend keeps putting piccies on of all the baby stuff she?s bought

Evil I hope you can get some answers soon, but even if everything comes back normal they can still try medications and things to see if that helps. Don?t worry about whinging, it?s what we?re here for

fl0b0t I?m really sorry to hear you?re feeling so down. It?s extremely difficult when someone tells you they?re pg, and I?m sorry you?re having to feel those awful feelings, they?re really not nice. But although things will be difficult, you?ll fight through it, because you?re an incredibly strong woman. If you need to take time out, then do what you need to do and make sure you look after yourself. I?ve suffered with quite bad depression during my TTC journey so far so if you want to PM me, feel free, I?m more than willing to listen if you need to rant or offload. It gets a little easier, I promise ((hugs))

AFM, stimming is going well, better than I hoped. I?m not sure if it?s the meds or the sun, but I?m feeling a lot happier than I was when I was just down-regging, fingers crossed it makes a difference to my little eggies So it?s back to the hosp on Wednesday, I?m praying this new medication is working otherwise we?re a bit snookered, but anyway, if it does, egg collection is next week!! Eeeekkk!!!

Hi guys. Time for a tiny... whinge? Not sure!

Just found out today that SIL is pg. 6 weeks pg.

In many ways, I am of course very happy for them. SIL is a few years older than me, though younger than DH, and they've always wanted to have children. They can (TOTALLY!!) afford it, and are at the right place in their life.

I also have a huge number of issues.....I am also mortified that they've felt they needed to tell us so early, and I'm going to be stressing for them until they reach the 12wk scan. I know that it doesn't mean that nothing can go wrong, but having had a large number of friends recently have a mc (most before 12wks, but a few after at 14 and tragically 24wks), I worry that they're telling people too early.

I am also scared that they're setting a precedence that when (if?) I get pg that we'll be seen as "hiding it" or "lying" if we wait until after the 12wk scan or whenever suits us (if poss we plan to not tell ANYONE until 12wks, but I know that's really hard).

I am shocked because (no matter how rubbishly) we are also ttc, and this is the first "pregnant friend" since we started ttc. We also didn't really know they were ttc because of other decisions in their life about moving and stuff like that so it was pretty surprising.

I am stressed because I'm being super-selfish and worrying about how it will affect us. The reason it will affect us will be that DH's family live abroad. I hate visiting them, and avoid where poss- SIL and husband are nice, FIL is ok, MIL is a joke. A mean one. The family NEVER visit us- when they have over the last few years, it's been a stop-over on the way somewhere else- our wedding was the ONLY time that the family have actually come to visit US because they wanted to. And now I just can't see it happening. In 7 years I have spent 2 christmas's with my family, and only one in my own home. This coming year was going to be the one that they came to us. First time in seven years. They will now have an 8 week old baby, so no way would I expect them to travel, and DHs parents will of course want to spend baby's first christmas at home. So looks like it's our turn again to do the travelling, to sacrifice our nice at-home christmas for someone elses' stuffy idea of christmas. And if we do get pg in that time, I'll be travelling and spending a stressful christmas away from home again whilst pg. Grr.

I am just gutted for the change in dynamics and plans for the year ahead, and it's made me go all babycrack which I never was. I've never been competitive and I'm (very!) happy for other people to go first when it comes to having a baby- but I am starting to understand how a lot of you feel about the awful feeling when someone else tells you that they're pg when you're ttc.

So all that alongside being incapacitated because I broke my shoulder, and waiting to have some dental work done.... plus no idea about my fertility..... I feel like I'm in a massive rut. I know I'm being selfish and irrational, but it's good to have a little vent. And if you read all that and don't have a BFP, pour yourself a sunday glass of wine as a reward......

Me too, Cave - saw my temp drop like a stone yesterday morning, then again today, and AF turned up at lunchtime. Here we go again, eh?

Raspberry - it's hard, isn't it? I don't remember feeling like this on Mother's Day last year, although who knows, maybe I did! I had a mini cry on DH earlier, but as we had my parents round over the weekend I had to pull myself together and get on with it. I think I might end up having a proper cry later, I'm so tired from getting up early for the F1 this weekend it's hard to think straight.

I have my ultrasound rescan on Wednesday - hopefully AF will have died down enough that if they need to do an internal probe thing again it won't be an issue. I just want to get on and have the next "infertility" appointment now though - I want to know what we do now, seeing as every sodding test keeps being "normal". I can't help feeling like things would be easier if there was actually something definitely wrong - both of us being theoretically normal just makes me feel like a complete failure.

Sorry for having a whinge, guys, but I figure I'm among like-minded people here :)

Temp fell through the floor this morning so I'm expecting AF imminently.

Cycle 5 of Clomid here I come.

I'm ok thanks had a little cry now going to enjoy padded day have gum everyone :) x

Sorry to hear that Pinkie, don't give up just yet though. It ain't over till its over and all that.

My temp has dropped slightly this morning, though it's still anime the baseline. If it falls again tomorrow then I'd be pretty certain that I'm out for this month.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.

Gave in and got a bfn gutted. No sign of af either day 35

Still nothing, I'm too scared to test incase it's a bfn :/ x

Ooo fingers crossed Pinkie...