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Is anyone "trying to relax"

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JNO18 · 27/11/2011 10:15

Hi

Being as AF has arrived again this month, the advice I keep getting from my best mate and my sister (the only people I've really told we're trying) is "just relax and that's when it will happen". I have heard that as soon as you stop actively trying that's when it happens, but can not thinking about it and not really "trying" actually work? I don't know how it would be possible to relax and not think about it when I want it so much. You may have seen from the other thread that I'm thinking about buying a CBFM but this won't help me relax as I'll be focusing on POAS all the time!!

I haven't been pregnant before so anyone who has already been pregnant or had babies - did it happen for you when you finally relaxed after stressing over it for such a long time? Or is that just a myth?

I need help!! Can't keep going on like this every month but I don't know what else to do.

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 27/11/2011 13:41

You can do things that actually make you relax like reflexology, massages, going on holiday. It won't get you pregnant if there's something wrong though! How long have you been trying JNO?

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JNO18 · 27/11/2011 12:41

thanks for that eurochick, that does make me feel better!

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eurochick · 27/11/2011 12:07

The "just relax and it will happen" advice makes me (and from what I have read on here a lot of other long term ttc-ers) tempted to punch the advice-giver. It's nonsense. FWIW, there has been a couple of months when we've been trying when things have taken my mind of it. I didn't get pg then any more than I did when I was obsessing. And you will see on here that lots of the people who get pg in a month or two are obsessed and stressing during the 2ww. It's nonsense and the sort of "advice" given out by people who have no idea how awful it is to not be pg month after month. The last person who gave me that kind of advice was 8 months pg at the time. She had got pg with that baby on her second month of trying and got pg with her first the first month of trying. She was completely obsessed both times!

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