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OPK's, SWI, SS, BFP's, AF's and other acronyms screaming your name? Hide in our wonderfully random and general TTC double decker bus - every stage welcome!

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Fishpond · 15/11/2011 21:04

This is technically a continuation of an old thread (here if anyone wants to read through) but we love welcoming newbies and there isn't another general TTC thread quite like us Grin

Whether you're waiting to TTC, just now starting, an old hat, or already have your BFP, we welcome you with open legs arms and biscuits.

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Fishpond (24) EDD 21 July
Kirrin (35) EDD
Cheeser (29) EDD

Standing room only (2 week wait)
SecretSparkle (26) AF due 9 Nov
CherryPie (30) AF due 16 Nov
MinkyMoodles (36) AF due 17 Nov
YorkshireTeaAddict (24) AF due 23 Nov

Back seat naughtiness (SWI / OPK spotters)
TequilaMockinbat Last AF 3 Nov
MakeTea Last AF 5 Nov
Vinolover (29) Last AF 5 Nov
CupofBrownJoy (34) Last AF 5 Nov
Hattifattener28 (31) Last AF 11 Nov

Top deck (Waiting to TTC / just seeing what happens)

Everyone please feel free to add yourself to the list - it got a bit too confusing when I tried to carry on Grin this is the point at which I gave up. Could you lot sitting next to me add your due dates to the list?

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Fishpond · 19/11/2011 15:19

I feel so lonely!! Where has everyone gone?!

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CupOfBrownJoy · 19/11/2011 14:27
Feeford · 19/11/2011 10:29

I'm back! Away for a couple of days has made me stop counting the days. AF due tomorrow and am now symptom free which makes me think its on its way as I don't usually suffer. Nevermind the bus trip is kinda interesting but am keen to get to my stop sometime soon. x

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Fishpond · 18/11/2011 23:32

Where on earth has everyone gone? Confused

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CupOfBrownJoy · 18/11/2011 16:57

funnily enough DP texted me from the pub last night with exactly the same query; "what on earth would we call him/her???" Grin

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Fishpond · 18/11/2011 14:18

I don't blame your DP kirrin Grin Wink sorry.

I am actually quite glad I can choose the name all by myself, hear so many stories about how difficult it is to agree.

There are no names you like kirrin that have an Arabic flavor as such?

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kirrinIsland · 18/11/2011 13:16

cup we have the same issue - I'm English, DP is Arabic so we're trying to find a name that works for both. There are more than you might think but none not many that we both really like. Plus, I really really love Erica and DP won't even consider it :(

CupOfBrownJoy · 17/11/2011 22:41

Imagine the German PILs trying to say Iolo, Ieuan or Iestyn! Grin

They can barely manage my first name and its about as normal as they come...!

CupOfBrownJoy · 17/11/2011 22:39

oh names is another can of worms - I'm from Wales and would love my DC's to have Welsh names, but they are totally unpronounceable to a German. I also hate pretty much all German names!

I came up with Isolde for a girl (theoretically of course) as its a German name with Welsh roots, but apparently its a milkmaid's name! Hmm

kirrinIsland · 17/11/2011 22:21

Blimey, that's good fish At 16 weeks I was told it was probably a girl but "don't rush out and buy pink stuff!"

cup it makes choosing names easier too - especially if, like DP and I, we have completely different ideas - at least we didn't have to argue over boys names unnecessarily.....

CupOfBrownJoy · 17/11/2011 21:51

Secret you're too late, I'm sorry to say! The alien cardie has gone back to the shop Sad Smile. I've swapped it for a tasteful green tunic....

Re: surprise or finding out the gender, I really don't know. I think I would let DP decide, as I know some guys I have spoken to have found it all gets more real for them if they know the gender, and its easier to bond with the little foetus....

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Fishpond · 17/11/2011 21:39

With a baby in perfect position and a skilled Sonographer it is 80-85% certain to tell by 12-13 weeks. You can pay at 14 weeks privately in London!! Which I would totally do! Happier to do the finger prick test though

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Vinolover · 17/11/2011 21:09

I was certain we wouldnt be finding out this time having found out both times before but that's now changed!

kirrinIsland · 17/11/2011 20:54

*excited
not sure what the extra what is doing there either....

kirrinIsland · 17/11/2011 20:53

Evening all :)

minky there will be 18 months between DD and this next one. I'm slightly worried about that, especially as there are twins in our family, but I wanted to just keep going while I'm still up to my eyeballs in nappies and sleepless nights! oh God, what if it's twins

cup I think trying but not too hard is the way forward - it seems a shame to stop when you've already got so exciting about it. and the potentially lousy timing pretty much guarantees you a bfp this month

Fish that early gender test sounds interesting, I've never heard of that. can you really also find out at a 12 week scan though? I've never heard of it over here, we usually find out at 20 weeks, although I had a 16 weeks scan with DD and they were pretty sure she was a girl then.
I also said that I wouldn't find out the gender this time but my resolve is weakening already! What

What about everyone else - will you find out or have a surprise?

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Fishpond · 17/11/2011 19:57

I just got to my class and someone has stolen my managers book Sad

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SecretSparkle · 17/11/2011 19:30

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Vinolover · 17/11/2011 18:10

A sure fire way of getting pregnant is to not try Cup. I say still go for it with a laid back approach (literally Wink) and see what happens this month. I agree about dragging your feet over the marquee!

Oooh, Frilly wind is good! That's the symptom I do NOT want this time though, lol. Not sure my customers at work would be too impressed Wink.

Im up to nothing tonight Fish. DH is off out and the children are going to bed early. Looks like a hot date with the TV for me. I still can't decide whether to SWI tonight or not!?!?!

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Fishpond · 17/11/2011 17:44

I know easy for me to say, but it will happen for you Cup when it's meant to happen! (Although sympathize with the 'wanting it to happen on a certain schedule' happening Grin)

What's everyone up to this evening? (Keep forgetting you are 6 hours ahead of me. Day is just getting started here)

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CupOfBrownJoy · 17/11/2011 16:28

thanks for the support guys Smile

Ok so we're not NOT trying and we're not TRYING. We're just standing on the stairs.... like it Grin

I think I will try and drag my feet a bit over this marquee business mind you - my parents will not be best please to lose 5k if they have to cancel it!

0FrillyKnickers0 · 17/11/2011 16:17

Cup, that's not irresponsible at all! Go you!! I will wave my pom poms for you Wink

Fish, that is fascinating!! Iw onder if they do the finger pricky sex thing here Hmm

I have trapped wind today :( I don't even care if it's TMI, feel like y'all are my sisters anyway...

...PARP

SecretSparkle · 17/11/2011 15:36

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CupOfBrownJoy · 17/11/2011 15:13

Can I loiter on the stairs with SecretSparkle?

Dp and I had a chat yesterday and basically agreed that getting pg this month would be a bit of a disaster wedding-wise. It would literally be due on the wedding date. BUT neither of us wants to stop ttc..... so, we're sort of tentatively opk'ing, having swi when we would do anyway, and sort of hoping nothing happens until after Christmas.

Its a kind of irresponsible approach I know (my BF spent half an hour yesterday lecturing me about it) but... I just don't know what to do - I want to ttc, but I also want to get married! And if we lose all our money on the marquee etc cos we've got pg, when we knew that might happen all along.... well, we're fools but I just don't know what to do for the best..... Thought I might try and stop my parents booking anything until after Christmas but we can't really come clean yet about ttc and the wedding has become something of an unstoppable train........ Confused

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Fishpond · 17/11/2011 13:34

Secret I understand how frustrated you must be. As a fellow OCD'er, when we want something to go right and think we've done everything we can and then it all falls to pieces it's more than upsetting. I'm sure there is something to this whole 'relax and see that it happens' process, but they aren't counting those of us who literally think about it all day long. It will be hard now that you want it to be hands off, won't it? Sad Hopefully it will just click for you, or maybe you could force yourself to not buy any OPK's, or HPT's next month, just do the SWI every other day thing?

Vino Sorry to hear about your bloods, hope that the white cells don't negatively impact your TTC. You'll just have to tell DH he needs some extra strong swimmers Grin

The way the gender test works is by 7 weeks after conception (10th week of pregnancy) foetal DNA can be separated from the mother's in a drop of blood. If a Y chromosome is present, that is proof of a boy embryo. If it isn't then it's a girl. I'm quite excited about the prospect. They're also much friendlier here about trying to see the gender in scans than they are in the UK (from my experiences of family / friends) so I'm hoping to be able to at least get a sonographer who can have a weensy look at 12 weeks to confirm. The company I'm choosing to do the finger prick test will refund your money if they get the gender wrong, it's over a 95% success rate, and the other 4.5% are down to the errors of it being a home environment collection (i.e. not enough blood on the test, or a male handled the sample before packaging it which can lead to false Y chromosomes, etc).

Back to work at some point later on today. Have my class but have done absolutely none of my homework, to be quite honest I'm feeling really low about the whole promotion. I have already gotten schtick about it from some people that have been there longer than I have, so I don't think I'll be taken seriously in a higher management position, but beyond that - we are meant to have 100% open availability, so we can be scheduled any time of the day or night (our restaurant is 24 hours). I don't think that's going to go well with a little one and trying to sort out childcare. Plus, I want my baby to have a stable routine Sad So I think tomorrow I may pull my boss aside and explain everything that's going on and see what she says, before wasting more company time / money training me for a position that I now am not sure if I want. Of course, financially it would be better but GAH - frustrated.

TopC and Cherry sorry the witch got you - onwards and upwards for next month!

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Vinolover · 17/11/2011 13:05

Ah Secret. You enjoy that coffee and have a bloody large drink aswell!! Your time will come but unfortunately you can do everything right and it will only happen when nature decideds on it!! This is what is getting me down at the moment. I wasn't even going to use OPK this month but decided to because they are there. Im fed up already so I know how you feel. It doesn't help when AF messes you around! Im also very Angry with CB on your behalf!!!

Fish you never know what the future holds. Hopefully you will meet a wonderful DP and you will have as many babies as your heart desires :) One question, how can they tell the sex from the prick on your finger? Or did I read that wrong?

I spoke to the dr today and he said definitely not to have sex everyday but every 48hrs so the stock can be replenished Wink. DH was very happy lol.

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