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Husband doesn't want to try yet

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Londongirl · 03/11/2003 15:35

I am feeling really low. My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We are both 30 and had decided a few months ago that we would start ttc at the end of the year. I have felt the baby urge really kick in and have been getting more and more excited as the time gets closer. But last night he told me he doesn't think he's ready and doesn't know when he will be. I feel so down, but there's nothing I can do. Anyone else experienced this problem before?

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quackers · 03/11/2003 15:59

It allows to be like kids again though! They get so much joy out of it!!! Hard work but worth every minute!!! Think of the toys he could buy! Tell him he'd me such a man! It's a real turn on etc... ANYTHING!!!

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Londongirl · 03/11/2003 15:52

I just don't think he's ready to "grow up" yet. None of our friends have had babies yet, and we were one of the first to get married (nearly 2 years ago). I think he feels like he has more life to live before setling down with babies. I will try the 3 years thing though Countess Dracula (poor you!) and see where we get to.

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CountessDracula · 03/11/2003 15:48

Londongirl unless they are of a rather odd breed men are NEVER ready for it! Tell him it could take you 3 years to conceive (like it did me) and then he'll pull his finger (or something else) out!

quackers · 03/11/2003 15:47

Londongirl, so sorry he doesn't feel ready yet. Is there a particular reason? Peer pressure? Hobbies? Money? Is it a sudden thing he's he's announced. Something might have 'put him off'. Don't pressure him though. I would tactically highlight all the advantages gradually, any friends got cute babies/toddlers? Also, if he doesn't 'think' he's ready, then he could be swayed?? Maybe ask him to compromise and give it 6 months of spending loads of quality time together and then leave it to fate?? Sorry I'm not much help, hope someone can give firsthand experience. Sibble??

jampot · 03/11/2003 15:46

My pal (36) has been with her chap for about 10 years and she was really desperate for a baby. She managed to talk him round and after much trying she became pregnant. She has about 2 weeks to go and they are both now really excited. TBH when I caught for my daughter we weren't trying at all and my now husband was horrified. However, after a while he came to terms with it and we have another child and are married.