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oh help, I'm going quietly mad

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 29/10/2011 14:17

I'm a regular in conception - kind of hoping old friends will come and hair stroke me. DH and I have been ttc for 22 months. DH has high prolactin levels which makes his sperm count low. Until we see a specialist next month we've been not trying but not, not trying iykwim.
My cycle is variable but typically 25-27 days. Today is cd29. I haven't had a 28 day cycle for over a year. Internet cheapies say bfn. Must assume it's only a matter of time before the witch comes. But I feel like crap. Anyone willing to sit and wait with me?

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 16:16

Well I've just found a bit of spotting only when I went rooting so perhaps she's on her way. It's ok if it is. I'd rather know.
And yes, I think things will.move quickly once DH is sorted.

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Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 15:45

It would be very disheartening I imagine to have such conflicting signals. I think we should see this as a potential bonus bfp! If it isn't your month this month then you still have everything to play for after DHs prolactin thing is sorted.

And in the meantime let's celebrate the absence of the evil witch Smile

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 15:37

Thanks. The bfns are quite disheartening. The lack of evil red tide is encouraging. I'll give it a couple of days and take my mooncup everywhere I go!

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Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 15:31

Sounds sensible. If AF is coming, she's coming whether or not you test so leaving it a day or two won't change the answer. The longer without AF the better the chances of that bfp.

Which I am desperately hoping for for you xx

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 15:14

Hmm excellent deduction. Yes both lineless. I dunno. May leave it a couple of days. Well leave the other FR for a bit. Got a couple of internet cheapies left.

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Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 15:05

No news is good news Have!

So this morning was a FR? And an Internet cheapie too?

When will you test again if no sign if the evil witch? xx

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 14:57

Ps I'm much calmer about things since I went to church, said a prayer for peace either way :)
Would be ace but I never expected it this cycle..

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 14:55

Thanks. How are you little?
Aww I'm so chuffed with the lovely responses!
Still no news which I'm taking as good regardless of the sticks. Also have lost 2lb this week - I'd normally gain two so either I've lost 4 lb and am retaining 2lb water or that's unusual too!

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TheLittleFriend · 30/10/2011 13:36

Hi have
Just saw this thread. You've got so much support on here, I really hope this is going to be the month for you. Lots of luck & love to you x

Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 09:25

Ah that kind of makes sense Northey.

I know what you mean about feeling like they're just doing random tests, but as you say, it might show something up?

Hoping you won't need it anyway Smile

Northey · 30/10/2011 09:20

Biscuits, I think they are basically the same, but with a lap and dye they are actually looking inside you and watching the dye spill out, whereas with an HSG they are watching it move through you via x ray. I guess it means they get a better picture of the inside o your tubes, including lumps and bumps that an embryo might get stuck on but which dye could move round and spill out anyway. Perhaps.

Northey · 30/10/2011 09:16

I think they want to check my left tube hasn't somehow whipped round and got stuck to the wound site from where they removed my right tube. But it all sounds a bit tenuous to me and I am suspicious that they are humouring me by giving me random tests to fill in time while they delay anything more effective. They did say they dont want to do anythjng major till 3 months after the ectopic (though i am allowed to ttc in the meantime). But it seems a bit silly to tell them that I think it's pointless and I'd rather not bother, when you never know what it might randomly reveal.

Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 09:08

Yes I'd agree with that about the hsg. Mine didn't hurt, but I have had ds and I've noticed smear tests etc aren't as uncomfortable anymore Blush. So the test itself wasn't that uncomfortable. The leaflet said you might get period ish pains when the dye goes in, and I did get that. A crampy pain, but further down than I would have normally got them. But it was only for the duration of the test. I never needed pain killers, but did take my own sanitary towel (as Have says, the hospital ones are awful!). I think I was at the best end of the scale for people that have them as it really wasn't that bad. Poor old Have had a much worse time Sad

I too though am surprised that they'd do one after a lap and dye - I thought they were a similar sort of thing Confused. I'm not 100% sure though exactly about what the lap and dye does. They only offered me a HSG.

Oh, and we got pg the cycle after the one that I had the HSG in Smile

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 08:56

Really? A Hsg now? How will.that help? Except for maybe an update about everything? Confused
Um yeah, Hsg, it was great! Honestly, it smarted/stung like mad. Radiologist had to shove it in. Apparently if you've had a baybee it's bigger. I think I went into spasm afterwards which was agony not pleasant. But that's not common.
You must make sure you're not up the duff when you have it. It will disrupt any bean :(
But you'll be fine I'm sure. Just take some pain killers before you go and take a pad for after - the ones they give you are hideous.
Course you won't need it because we're probably upduffed already! Grin

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Munkiii · 30/10/2011 08:49

Sorry to hear Have but as the others say, it ain't over yet.

Hope you have a nice day today x

Northey · 30/10/2011 08:35

By the way, while I have you both here, can I hijack a minute and ask about your HSGs? I seem to be down for one next cycle, which seems a bit random to me, considering I've already had a lap and dye, which I thought provided pretty much the same information! But I really wanted to know how you both found it?

Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 08:31

Not too insane Have Wink

Mind you I'm surprised the past few days haven't made you completely loopy!

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 08:25

Ah see I'm not too insane then :)

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Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 08:18

Thanks Northey - hoping you and Have will be joining us over in pregnancy soon Smile

Northey · 30/10/2011 08:17

Cross post. Congratulations!

Northey · 30/10/2011 08:16

Ah well. I was patientgriselda on there, but then took a break before posting as Northey in the pregnancy area. Though it all went tits up and now I am back in conception! Have you had any success, biscuits?

Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 08:15

But I've seen you around Northey I think on some different things. I'm less on the conception boards now as I got a BFP after 19 mths of trying in July - am currently 18 weeks.

Biscuitsandtea · 30/10/2011 08:13

I was indeed on the isn't it annoying thread, and yes, mainly as LisajayneS - but then I decided that this wasn't the most cunningly disguised name!

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HaveALittleFaithBaby · 30/10/2011 08:12

I may be getting muddled but biscuits definitely came to the isn't it annoying party before it got hijacked!

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Northey · 30/10/2011 08:09

Oh, tht sounds familiar. I didn't remember the name change though. Oops.