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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Brooking No Argument for Positive Pee Sticks, Healthy Pregnancies and Home-made Cakes!!!

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Stasi · 23/10/2011 22:51

Here we go yet again...

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Stasi · 02/11/2011 16:33

Far sorry to hear about your problems with DH. Thankfully my DP has always been cooperative - and sometimes even makes me to make an effort when I'm too tired. If we do have problems, then I try and talk with him about how I feel. I say things like "I feel like you don't want this as much as me, can we talk about why I maybe feel like this, and how we can change it?". I find it works a lot better than accusing him of not wanting to TTC, or not caring. It might also get him to let you know how he feels. Just make sure you both understand there's no accusations, and you're not declaring you're right and he's wrong.

Bean Happy birthday, hope you've had a good day so far, and that it continues to get better.

As for baby names, I've had a list since I was in school. I got really annoyed with my Mum when she named my brother James, I felt like she'd stolen my favourite boys name on purpose. I've got lots of girls names I like, but only one boys name... and it's a little too close to the cats' name!

Cupcakes glad your ultrasound went well.

There's been so much chat today I can't remember everything to comment on. I've been lurking and reading, but desperately trying to get all my work done before leaving tonight. The wedding is getting very close indeed, just two days of manic planning and chocolate making to go!

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PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 16:26

I should say, I'm Hmm because my Dad's called George...

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 16:26

I'm Hmm at Georgina, but then I suppose I'd have at least been the only one...... :o

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 16:25

Apparently I was very nearly Georgina Hmm but I do quite like the name George for a boy.

farfallarocks · 02/11/2011 16:23

The sticks will be left behind for sure!!

Here is hoping for some long term survival swimmers and I hope conceive plus does the trick for you this weekend Generic!!

cupcake great news about the scan

My favourite is Beatrice. Also really like Freddie and George for a boy. I am dead trad and boring though

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 15:52

Arabella was on my list for a while, til I realised that Twilight had resulted in a kazillion Bellas and now, sadly, it's Arabella :(

Glad the ultrasound went well, cupcakes.
But Shock that's cheating! lol

GenericDietCola · 02/11/2011 15:44

Happy birthday Bean!

Oh Farfalla sorry to hear about your DH last night. I like all the suggestions and I understand your frustration. It's so hard when you know it's the crucial time but you have to be careful not to say anything to upset the penis them. I'm sure next month will go well since you're on holiday and of course sperm are supposed to live for 5 days, so your weekend shagging may have done the trick anyway. I am feeling similar pressure for this month as I know I'm going to be away with work during ovulation so I'm hoping to get as many shags in as possible before Saturday and then will have to hope the little guys survive until the egg pops. I'm going to use Conceive Plus this time - not sure if it will help them survive longer, but worth a try. Perhaps this is an idea for you?

Popcorn I have loads of names in mind and we do have a list from the last pregnancy (mc in April). In fact, I think about names quite a lot! I have a very common name too and have been surrounded by others with the same name throughout school, university and work. DD consequently has a v unusual name!

CupcakesAndCocktails · 02/11/2011 15:37

That sounds sensible Farfalla, next month will definitely be your month. Holiday sex is the best Wink
Good luck for tomorrow as well.

I've got one more cycle before I'm 30 yikes!

My ultrasound was ok, the doctor said she couldn't see anything obvious. I know my blood results are back as I got a letter from the GPs telling me to make an appointment after DH sample next week. I can access the results myself as they were analysed at my trust. Think I'll do that tomorrow as I can't wait any longer.

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 15:36

I agree with bean - leave the CBFM, sticks etc at home, and just have a shag-filled, stress-free holiday :)

beangrower · 02/11/2011 15:35

Have a top-class bender of a holiday and don't take any sticks that can be p'd on and don't imagine twinges where it counts or any of that stuff. Sounds idyllic. xxx

farfallarocks · 02/11/2011 15:26

Ok gals you have made me feel so much better about this, that I am not alone. cupcake you sound like me!!!

I think every 2/3 days would be ideal, that is what I suggested, that we try and have mid week sex all cycle so it becomes the norm and not some oddity.

He is quite tired and he works in a very stressful job which is very blokey so I think he just wants to chill when we are home and not feel like he is not a real man which I might have shouted at him

My strategy is to drop the subject now as its too late for this month and we are on holiday next month so should not be a problem, he is fine on holiday

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 15:16

Yes floral names are making a comeback aren't they? Next door's demonchild girl is called lily

CupcakesAndCocktails · 02/11/2011 15:10

I was going to call my girl Daisy, middle name was going to be Beth which is a family name. My boys name is fairly popular but we won't ever change that as it's my DH grandfathers name & he has always wanted to name his son that.

However it seems that every other girl is called Daisy these days Smile

CupcakesAndCocktails · 02/11/2011 15:06

Years not tears!!

Oh and the taking a deep breath advice is because last month DH took ages to get home from a mates when I got a positive OPK which resulted in such a big row that I thought DH was going to divorce me. I was a totally crazy, shouting for hours at him Blush

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 15:06

I agree - spill, cupcakes!

PopcornMouse · 02/11/2011 15:05

"baby-gurning" :o :o :o

beangrower · 02/11/2011 15:05

Thanks Cupcakes - you are sweet. Tell us the popular once - since everyone else has stolen it and you can't use it now anyway? x

beangrower · 02/11/2011 15:02

Good suggestion biscuits. I find an agreement that might hold for a few months is better for everyone, so that each month isn't too singled out and the TTC conversations are fewer (though I also find that I cave in to tears when AF arrives and all my good intentions about keeping my feelings under wraps are wasted...) boo.

CupcakesAndCocktails · 02/11/2011 15:02

Happy birthday Bean Thanks sounds like your having a lovely day.

Farfalla I feel your pain, it's so frustrating when you feel like another month has been wasted. The only advice I can give you is to take some deep breaths before speaking to DH. My DH & I have a lot of trouble with timing. Either it's my shifts interfering or DH feels too much pressure & doesn't want to do it. This month I'm on 5 night shifts just before ovulation should be. Normally I only see DH for about 30 mins to an hour in the evening before I go to work. God knows how I'm supposed to manage that without him feeling pressured!

I have had my baby names sorted for a while since I got engaged 6 years ago and frequently bore DH with them. I may need to update them soon as one has become v popular in the past few tears

Biscuitsandtea · 02/11/2011 14:59

Far do you think you could get DH to agree to every 2-3 days throughout the cycle so that midweek bonking wasn't just an ov thing? Does he work long hours?

beangrower · 02/11/2011 14:50

Oh and thanks for the flowers Beedle and biscuits - you shouldn't have. Actually has been very nice being so spoiled. Grin

beangrower · 02/11/2011 14:48

BTW dear Brookers - acupuncture lady sensed stress in DP's pulse (which surprised me as he is a very laid back kinda feller). Apparently this is a big killer for the spermies' travel plans (reduced motility). I know the man works very hard, and also has my baby-gurning to contend with plus our toddler, our terrier and a broken rescued rabbit (long story). Anyway - all the more reason to nurture our boys and try not to overdo the yearning side of things. Which of course is me trying to tell myself to rein it in and keep a good perspective on life whatever CD it happens to be... x

BeedleTheBard · 02/11/2011 14:44

far ((hugs)) - we find that first thing in the morning works quite well Blush but I suppose if he's feeling the pressure its probably going to be the same whenever you try to pin him down seduce him

farfallarocks · 02/11/2011 14:43

Oh that is good, the CBFM is great if that day varies. Mine is usually 13 or 15 with a weird 17 in there this month so quite helpful for me to know.
It does fuel the obsession/mentalness though.

beangrower · 02/11/2011 14:43

farfalla - really feeling this one is a toughie - resentment not at all surprising. Some guys aren't made for a lot of rolling and some girls are made the other way and it's hard if there's a difference. Does it help if you catch him in the morning when he's all sleepy and snuggly and hasn't got time to think about the pressure? In the bad old days, when I wasn't thinking about TTC we probably did manage more romance but actually I feel like we've got closer since because we are trying to support each other. Do you think this is more about him being knackered or more about being a bit scared at the prospect of a pg? Either way - it's really a shame for you. Hope your day gets better. x

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