broody at 39 - 2 kids already - advice needed

my aunts next door neighbour had twins, and then another baby 11 months later.
she went from having no kids, to three in less than a year.

Is this a record i wonder!

A Mum at school has two children born in the same year!!! and they are not twins!!!
I did rudely ask her how on earth could she have sex so soon! No problem apparently.

how can you be broody witha three month old//?
youve barely recoverd from one pregnancy.

I have ds1 who is 14 and ds2 who is 10 so the age gap was great with them. Decided to have no3 and dd was born 2004 and shes now 17 months.Had thought about a 4th so she would have a sibling round about her own age as although the boys love her to bits they have their own stuff going on and won't always wan't to play with her etc.Had decided against no4 when lo and behold i feel unwell and dp points out i have missed my period!!Turns out i am due end of July when dd will be only nearly 2 so i'm scared stiff bc the age gap will be much smaller than the boys.And how will i cope with a hormonal teenager and a 2 year olds tantrums and a new babe??? I must be off my head

dd at 36 ds at 41-didnt have any screenings( we do not have any family things on either side of family)
i think risk tends to be lower than miscarriage with amio,obviously its a personal thing for every one.

my choice was no screening thankyou.I had scans at normal times,they can get a good idea from there if anything is wrong.

i am blessed with 2 healthy bright children

Am 39 this year, and have 15yr old, 12yr old and 9month old. Felt o.k declining invasive screening at 37 but wonder how to decide as I am hoping to conceive no 4 this summer. How did the other older mums decide/cope with screening issues?

I conceived ds when dd was 12 months old, so she was 21 months when he was born which imo is just a baby. Yes it's been hard (getting a bit easier now that he is 20 months and she is 3.5/3.6), and no I wouldn't go for that sort of age gap again.

Plan to conceive number 3 in April to be born in Jan 2007 when ds will be starting pre-school and his older sister will be in her 2nd year at school.

Personally I would not go for less than a 2.9 year age gap based on my experience.

Don't be put off though if you want a small gap. Obviously it can be done (we're all still here)

Marinda-i would wait a little or you could have two very young babies.
I am broody for 3rd but i am 42 so have decided NO!

I had 2nd babe at 41-you have got time to wait

I had a dd at 37 and ds at 39. I always imagined myself with no more than 2 children but when ds was born I felt sooo broody. It was like an ache that just wouldn't go away. Like you I had the 'perfect pair' so reason was no way to work it out. In the end I couldn't imagine feeling like that for the rest of my life so we went for number three. I had ds2 at 41 (like aloha all three were conceived within one month of trying).
I won't lie, with 20 month age gaps between them all it has been really hard at times (verging on regret if I'm totally honest) but this has nothing to do with age (have same energy as in my 20's) and more to do with the stresses of having them close together and still all being needy at the same time.

But, and it's a huge but, ds2 has been a tremendous blessing to us. He has been the easiest baby and smiles and giggles most of the time. He's basically been left to his own devices most of the time and is thoroughly content with that.

I'm getting a bit long-winded now, but I'd say if the broody feeling is all consuming then go for it. But there is a lot of extra work and can be really difficult at times.

My age gaps are a bit reversed- 6 this month, 4.11 and 2.5 so the older two were close together. DS1 was 5 months when ds2 conceived, I had felt broody fro weeks by that pint- just waiting for the wedding to happen first!

I felt broody days after all of mine, and have done since ds3 was born, increasingly lately although I am younger at 32. However, I am not going to be able to have another for a few years yet as studying.

Would I recommend the close age gap? Absolutely. My ds1 has some problems with friendships (AS) but having ds2 means that he always has a mate. They see other kids alone in the holidays and it confuses them, they pity them in fact. They constantly express worry about my nephew who has to be an only child because of pg complications.

You have to be OK with the fighting that siblings do anyway, as I think you get more than if the gap was smaller. BUT the friendship once they get old enough is truly amazing. My two curl up together in bed at night .

I think being immediately broody is absolutely normal (well it is for me) and that such a close age gap would be fine if that's what you want. Only you can know how your other kids will react, but you'll get the nappy years over and done with quicker (a good reason to give a 4.5 yr old if anything like my ds2!).

marinda, I had my 3rd at 37 (older 2 were then 6 and 3) and went on to have 4th at 42 due to incessant broodiness.

I wouldn't have wanted 2 very close together when I was over 40 (or indeed under 40!) so in your place I would definitely wait a couple of years, but if you think you could cope with a toddler and a new baby then go for it.

Are you asking me Marinda?

I love my children dearly but the pregnancies and early years have absolutely done me in-bad back and shoulder and as I type,my leg is bandaged from ankle to thigh as a result of an operation on Wednesday to remove p/g induced varicose veins!!
Arguably,the fact that my dh has been abroad for most of the last 5 years has added to the burden,but we both feel that two is enough-logistica and cost(!) of more put us off.

Marinda,I am 38 with a 17 mth old and a 5 year old.

Small children scatter when they see me coming.
Including my own.

Hey marinda,best of luck with it all-hope you reach a decision that is right for you.

XXX

You're definitely not normal, moondog. Broody thoughts or not.