Waiting to try to conceive

Hi all,
I think your allowed to feel sorry for yourself freckly, hoping for the best for tomorrow.
Sounds like youve had a hard time of it too Hermione Its good that you have your DH's support though dor when u are able to start TTC.

After I posted last time and mentioned that I was going to get my final prescription for my contraceptive patch Ive had a minor health scare. Went to the Drs and they took my BP as always but it was really high, he then went on to check my other arm which was really low, s randomly found out I have quite a big difference in BP in both arms. Have had blood tests and an ECG and they have no idea what it is but have ruled out anything serious, so although has been a worry a bit relieved now. Means they only gave me 3 months though so will have to go back and may have to take tablets for my BP when TTC. Why can it never just be easy?! My DS was a bit of a surprise so had none of these worries before I was pregnant. This waiting to TTC malarkey is stressful!

Sorry for the rant, hope everyone else is ok x

freckly sending you hugs.

hello, first time poster here...

I'm waiting to TTC. Getting over a bad attack of arthritis and have been on meds for about a year for that, just come off them. Still in pain though so I guess it'll be another few months while I wait to see if that clears up or if we'll be going ahead regardless.

The arthritis-imposed wait has left me really impatient though! DH is talking voluntarily about babies and we would probably be pregnant by now if it weren't for my stupid joints.

Best wishes to other TTC ladies esp freckly, you must be so stressed. hope your hubbie is ok.

Oh freckly, I can only imagine how terrified you must be. I know they're super vigilant with the annual checks, here's hoping they're being over cautious and it turns out to be nothing to worry about. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for good news on Sunday.

Thanks girlies,
LtheWife- thats fantastic about your hubbies business. Hope it is the same for mine.....

Well, i am slowly adjusting to the no baby situation but we have added stress at the moment. my hubbie had cancer 5 years ago, went for some annual check up 2 wks ago and now they think it might be back and in his liver.

Fucking terrified is not the word. Find out more results on sunday but god, the wait is awful.

So our world has literally stopped until Sunday.

Why do things have to be so damn hard! :(

Feeling v sorry for myself. sorry!

Calamity - so sorry for the delay in the reply, I don't often get on the internet! Busy bee!

Thanks so much for the kind words and to be honest I agree with you and in my heart think we might be heading for some serious trouble. I don't think it's a coincidence that you're not the first person to ask me whether my DH treats me well.

I will try to get online to look at this thread more often - I'm supporting you all!

Little goals is really helpful; my 'thing' is that I want to take up yoga again on saturday mornings. I did antenatal yoga when pg with DD and found it so calming - I need some more calm in my life before we bring another DC into the mix!

I had a chat with my mum, too, and it was amazing how much better I felt just for having someone else's perspective, rather than going round in circles in my head. I have sort of come to terms with the fact that I will have to give up work again for a couple of years, until DC2 is old enough to qualify for some free childcare, and then I can get back into work. Unfortunately, that will mean that most of my twenties will be taken up with being a SAHM and I'll be building a career from the bottom rung again in my thirties (I am 26 in Aug and gave up work when I was 22 to have DD - so, if I aim to have DC2 mid next year, the likelihood is that I will be off work until I am 31. I don't know how I feel about that, really. But it does help to see it all written down...

Sorry for ramble!

Pines and Freckly - I think I am also on the same time scale. I have one more packet of pills to go, then off for a year or so to hopefully let my body settle down, want to do some work on the house too whilst we get the chance, oh yes and I will finish my MA in Summer 2013.......so still a long way off I guess but I have little goals to keep me motivated as time gets closer!

You rant away freckly. Setting up a business is always nerve wracking, but you never know, it might work out better than you think. DH set up his business this time last year, we fully expected for him to take a drop in pay, for there to be lots of quiet periods without work and for me to need a better job to pick up the slack. Who leaves a secure job to start a business when the economy is so shit and business are folding left right and center?

11 months on and I've hardly seen DH! He's been so busy that we're seriously looking into hiring staff and has managed to increase his personal income by around 30% compared to the well paid job he left to start the business! We haven't dared advertise yet because he can't take on extra work at the moment, we haven't even got a website up and running, but somehow he's already booked up until October!

During the early days the not knowing is horrible, especially when you're putting other plans on hold. But you never know, it could end up being the best thing your DH has ever done!

freckly - looks like we're both on the same timeline roughly then.
I have decided to use this time constructively and lose weight, eat more healthy, and chart my cycle, so even though I have to wait, I am (hopefully!) increasing my chances.
(now if only I can muster the energy)

Wow, busy weekend on WTTC - hi everyone!

slowburner I really feel for you. Similar happened to a fried of ours about 18 months ago and I feel like it really opened my eyes to how dangerous childbirth can be. It wasn't something that had ever crossed my mind before then. Also - is there a chance that your current contract could be extended?

It seems as though there is just never a good time to start TTC! DH is really keen to start ASAP but I there is a little voice in the back of my mind going, 'you can't afford it! You can't afford it! Think of the financial responsibility of two children! You can't afford it!' etc etc. I just can't work out how we would manage.

I am going to ask my mum for advice, I think. She is a retired teacher and thinks that having siblings is really important, but also understate our financial situation. to be honest, I think I just want someone to tell me that it's all going to work itself out.

I'm so confused and have no idea what to do. I feel like a crazy person.

Ladies,

Havent been on in ages, Hello to all the newbies!!!

Well our (my) plan was to start ttc by end of this year.
However, hubbie still setting up the business and he stupidly agreed to accept a tiny miniscule wage as payment once its up and running!

So, on top of that, its all on me to keep paying for things as i have been for past 1.5years but now i dont see any chance of it improving with his now stupid fucking crappy small wage. assuming that the business gets off the ground to even make that money.

Also, im beyond fed up at my job and have the chance to move to a better role, bit more cash ( increase the pathetic savings) etc. However, if i move, it wont be itl June, so then really, cant try for a baby in Dec as only in job 6 months and also we wont have the cash fro me to take 6 mths off work etc.

AGHHHH im so angry and upset and annoyued that once again, its me who has to give in on what i want to fit around him.
Plus this is my deciison only and i know the move is good for my career but it puts my baby plans back at least 6 months minimum, hopefully aiming for summer of 2012 instead??

AGHH i just wanted to rant so sorry ladies but im so upset and feeling so shitty about life now. :(

Hey Dicho congrats on the progress!
I have just calculated and according to my calculations the very first(est!) time I should be thinking of starting to TTC is 15 months hence.
A bit

I posted on this thread aaaaaages ago (might have even been the older thread!), and I am so glad to have somewhere to lurk!

Anyway, today DH and I were out shopping, and I spotted a cute set of teddy bear prints in frames...I pointed them out to him and jokingly asked if we should get them for our non existant nursery, expecting him to say no and change the subject, but he agreed!! So today we made our first 'waiting to TTC' purchase (which is now sitting hidden on a top shelf in the spare room, in case any visitors see it, and get an idea).

Very exciting, even though we have decided not to start trying for a while, it's the first indication I've had that he's actively thinking about it.

Omg I'm a thread spammer. Thanks iPhone!
That was meant to be

PineCones- WTTC %231- hopefully Dec 2012

Hi can i drop in on the thread?

I am 34, my 19mo DD1 suffered brain damage at birth and was cooled due to a mistake made by a doctor when I was in labour. We haven't had the easiest ride so far and I have spent a lot of time trying to work out when to have another. I desperately desperately want to have a 'normal' baby, one who does normal things, grows normally, sleeps normally and who I can just be a mum too as opposed to being a mum and a physio, OT, speech therapist, dietician, resuscitator and general walking encyclopaedia of her medical history.

BUT. There is a big but. Being pg again will be an emotional rollercoaster. The birth may or may not be a natural delivery, I've been advised to have a CS, as someone who wanted a home water birth believe me when I say that my DD's birth was like something out of a horror story. My DD needs quite a lot of extra mummying, and we won't know her future prognosis until she is 2+ so best to wait until she is a bit older. I'm not getting any younger. I am employed on a three year fixed contract which I am two years into, it comes with 6 months maternity pay, after the contract ceases I won't get maternity pay unless I get another job and get at least a year in. But I also ache ti get started and two of my friends have just had new babies.

Basically I want a shot at normal. Soon. And my DD would love a baby ti play with! But then I also want to send time with the new baby 1-2-1 and get to know them well and play with them alone to experience what normal really means, and that would be easier if DD is 3+ when next bub arrives. Argh. My head hurts it does!

Sorry about the repeated messages- perils of using a phone to access MN!
Thought I'd start a brief list since I haven't seen one recently in the thread and we have three newbies including myself since yday?If i've missed it would someone please kindly tack me on at the end?

So, me:
Pinecones WTTC%231- hopefully December 2012

Oh and any other first timers? Sorry am a very late entrant to the thread. be nice to know!

Welcome!
Trying to understand where we all are age wise. Since it's sort of relevant to the task at hand!
I'll be 32 in some months.

Hi everyone :) this is my first ever post after joining the other day. I'm pleased to find a thread for those waiting before TTC! Myself and DH are waiting until September before TTC due to my college commitments and holiday we'd like to be back from before falling pg :) I'm 26 but will be 27 by this point and DH will be 30 looking forward to getting to know you all and reading through this pretty hefty thread at my leisure :) anyway enough from my rambling!

thanks pinecones, I need to get into this more I think and start making some friends!!
I'm not getting irritated so much, as being told it won't take long and having to stop myself getting excited as of course it can take months, years even.

Welcome gina!
Ladies I have truly become obsessed with babies of late. Funny because I have never been über maternal except with my pets!
I think what's irritating me is my clock is ticking, I'm not getting any younger, and it has never been the right time to start TTCjng. If EVERYTHiNG goes the way I hope it will, then could potentially start TTCing end of this year.

My stupid baby tee shirt/ babygro collection is becoming a bit obsessive now.
I need to stop.
And my friends are having babies left right and centre and I am getting a bit every time I have to congratulate a new one.

Hi, Mind if I join in? Just started trying in the past few weeks and DH has gone mad looking at prams, toys, sterilisers everything! don't think it helps that i'm just as bad and have been asking all the mothers at work for advice etc.
I am mega impatient and want things to happen right away even though i know it will take quite a while, not enjoying my job either but want to stay so i selfishly get my full maternity leave! is that wrong? :)

How has everyone been this week?

I have been wavering, I think because I hate waiting! I always want to make a decision and act on it immediately, so waiting until the end of the year feels like a bit of a non-decision and it's driving me crazy! Part of me has to imagine that we're not going to have another DC, just so that I stop obsessing about it - otherwise coil will be out straight away!

I haven't explained myself very well, but hope that sort of makes sense

I'm also missing DD desperately whilst at work and having to force myself to leave the house! 10 weeks into tw new job and I already want to be a SAHM again.

It feels as though having / wanting to be physically close to DCs is a visceral need at the moment, and I can't even blame hormones ( or can I? Is that always an excuse, even if no AF?)!

Hi Calamity- thanks!
DH would like to in theory but the practical aspect is not lost on him. Ie till we have 2 incomes again it's simply not feasible. He grumbled the other day about already being too old to be a dad (tosh). So it's safe to say he is on board.
We had to work our way through own issues for some years and things are getting better now so it's only now that I have again started to see TTC as in my foreseeable future (hopefully )
I'm fairly certain I will at the v least be having to go the clomid way. Let's see.
In the meantime all the broodiness is distracting me from work which is the most dangerous thing I could do now! with myself.