Waiting to try to conceive

Well I'm waiting to ttc. My DP is against it, as the world is screwed, ect.
I never realised how emotional I would get as I got older.

We have just gone threw a rough patch and things are fine.

Lw

you do actually make sense, i was just thinking when it comes to january he'd probably change his mind but i would hold him to it.

plus i've been taking folic acid for the last 2 months anyway just in case he sprung it on me!!

The best bit is, you can keep saying how you agree with him that christmas is when you'll start - how you fully support his idea so when it comes to it, he can't backtrack and say February/Spring etc. because it's his timing suggestion you've been working too.

Gives him time to see it's happening soon, and you are supposed to take the folic acid for 3 months beforehand, so you can start now. This gives him time to realise this isn't a 'mythical time in the future' it's actually quite soon....

LydiaWickham you make it sound so appealling and it probably makes sense!

either that or it might work as reverse psychology [hwink]

redrhumba - I'm WTTTC until after Christmas, if it helps your sanity, think of it this way, if you wait until after Christmas, you'll get a September/October baby, so they will be the oldest in their year, rather than risk an August baby, apparently it takes August babies until the age of 7 to catch up being nearly a year younger than classmates at school. Therefore, Christmas is a sensible time to start TTC.

Also, you get to be be in that first few months of post baby flabby belly in Autumn/Winter, when thick jumpers can cover a multitude of sins, wereas if you got pregnant now, you'd be due in July, meaning you'd be feeling huge over summer where the clothing is the most unforgiving! Throw into this, you don't want to spend Christmas sober and not being able to eat all that yummy blue cheese and such like you have over the season.

Really, January is a good time to start TTC!

Now, tell your DH you've agreed with him, January is a great time - so you're going to start taking the folic acid now, getting your body in shape for January etc. Treat it as agreed and all sorted.

LOL I have a few problems with that plan.

1. he doesn't drink so that won't work

1. i keep asking ds if he'd like a baby bro or sis and he keeps saying no. (he's 2.5 so when he says it infront of dh i tell him he's too young to understand!)

I say destroy all contraception in the house, ply him with booze before (or at) Christmas, send DC1 to a friend/relative and have your wicked way with him!!

You could also be naughty and coach DC1 (depending on how old s/he is) to tell him they'd loooove a baby brother or sister.... but that really is naughty [hwink]...

yes he thinks he will get it in a couple of months, in all fairness i think it was just a passing comment, the other night it was lets wait till after christmas, when asked why he just said he didn't know and chuckled so i think he's just stalling cos he's a bit scared to agree to it!

Surely the payrise (if it's forthcoming, which I'm sure it will be!) will be in place by the time your DC2 would be born (even at the very earliest!).

I'm being a bit unfair here on DH - he has finally agreed to "The Plan" (gave him time and space to think about it, and after 3 and a bit years of us dithering about it, and he was happy with the plan), and is very enthusiastic (although not as obsessive as me [hgrin])! I guess I'm just being a worrywort for no good reason at all. We currently live in Ireland so always a teensy bit on edge about looming economic disaster (we'd probably just move home if real disaster struck). I think I'm just generally worried about the universe conspiring to put more obstacles between me and much-wanted DC#1.... [hblush]

i think he's just stalling if i'm honest.

he's hoping to get a pay rise and said wait till then, tbh we can still afford to have another with or without it which is yet to be said but i have that and why wait stored in the bank ready to use!!

zara1984 why do you think your dh will change his mind?

Arrrghhhh redrhumba that is SO bloody annoying. Exactly what I'm worried about DH doing in March next year... grr. Does he have a specific reason for wanting to wait until after Christmas... or just stalling for time?

You could always go with the old chestnut that is "why wait? It will probably take us a while anyway..."

hi, nice new thread, thanks.

still waiting here but i'm really hoping its a short one cos i am soready for no 2 but dh is not. last month he said 1 more month now i have 2 days left of my pill and he's saying maybe after christmas, i mean arggggghhhh.

will you set the gruffalo lose please (and hand me a cocktail)

i'm really hoping i can convince him but don't want to push him cos he feels pressurised although its him thats brought it up for last few days!!

add me on the list please

redrhumba WTTC #2 - hopefully next month. ha.

Oooh lovely! Thank you Amonstercooper (you're the same person as AmandaCooper, yes?? I'm getting confused!)!

Yep... waiting waiting waiting. April 2012 is the fixed deadline to start TTC. Aaaargh it's so hard waiting but it just makes sense financially to do so for us (getting rid of student loan, want to have DC just after end of my fixed-term contract). Easier now that DH and I have agreed upon the plan. He is quite into the idea of it now, and asks me about my temp charting hehehe.

My latest worry: due to my job ending in December 2012, the ideal window for us to conceive is April - August next year. But what if it doesn't happen??? Then I'll have to look for another job in a sh1te economic climate, and my best-laid plans will all go to waste.

In the other thread Angelico was mentioning the CBFM - very keen to hear how she goes using that! Such a nerd but I think that might be my Christmas present to myself... they're less expensive on Amazon than at Boots.

Ok let's make a list of who we've got and where we're at... I'll start with me:

Zara1984 WTTC #1 - waiting till April 2012 (plan agreed with DH... itching to get to the starting line)