Page 32 | Waiting to try to conceive

Amonstercooper · 2011-10-14T07:02:48+00:00

Another thread for those who are waiting to try for a baby. It doesn't matter how long or short the wait; why you are waiting; or how many DC you have. All are welcome. Old thread [[www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1134192-Waiting-to-try-for-a-baby here]].

Buddhagirl · 17/10/2011 08:52

I took the morning after pill, didnt really want too. But i did it because i dont actualy want a baby now because im getting married soon and dp was scared and mad that i put us in this situation. Im still convinced im infertile but that doesnt seem to matter to anyone. Il just wait. Dp has been at me all day about it and ive given up trying to do whats best for me. I know im being dumb so il just do whats right, take contraceptive and wait til he decides he is ready.

Ittybittysmum · 17/10/2011 06:05

aha!
Thanks!

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Amonstercooper · 17/10/2011 05:56

Thanks for the congratulations!

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Amonstercooper · 17/10/2011 05:56

Just put an asterisk * in front of the first and last letter.

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Ittybittysmum · 17/10/2011 04:11

How has Sunday been for everyone? I baked, did homework and got a few things for DHs surprise birthday party on Friday. But mostly I tested Christmas baking recipes (to make sure everything's ok to give away of course. Selfless!)

Thanks for the hug Zara1984!

AmandaCooper Congratulations on the new job! There's nothing quite as awful as bad work, and quite as great as getting out of it! (send some job-related luck my way when you're done with it, ok?)

Evilwater (were you LittleWater before Halloween took over mn? Or was that my imagination?) I laughed when I read about you finding a crying baby cute. The people in the suite below us have a 14mo old (ish) who cries a fair bit. Every time he cries DH complains, but I always secretly think it's sweet. Sad, I know!

Last but still critically important: how do you make names go bold? I'm so un-tech savvy sometimes .

Evilwater · 16/10/2011 22:24

Dear buddagirl,
They say stress is the biggest thing for stoping fertility. My nan has always said that life finds a way, and things will happen when they are ment to.

I know it's hard, when all you see is children and prams. It must be very difficult to plan a wedding in these tough times.

Lw

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 22:10

Why do you say it doesn't seem to matter to anyone?

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 22:02

I've had to take it a couple of times at DH's insistence during the course of this waiting business. It's really horrible when actually you'd really like to have a baby.

I honestly don't know what anyone should do for the best. I mean I'm hardly an advert for doing the "right thing" am I? It hasn't paid off for me, I'm still childless.

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Buddhagirl · 16/10/2011 21:20

I took the morning after pill, didnt really want too. But i did it because i dont actualy want a baby now because im getting married soon and dp was scared and mad that i put us in this situation. Im still convinced im infertile but that doesnt seem to matter to anyone. Il just wait. Dp has been at me all day about it and ive given up trying to do whats best for me. I know im being dumb so il just do whats right, take contraceptive and wait til he decides he is ready.

Evilwater · 16/10/2011 17:56

Where's the oh f.ck smile?
Well I'm not getting any younger.... I'm off to my mums and dads for a roast.

Lw

alexeliza · 16/10/2011 17:54

Hi All
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello - I've been caught up with work so haven't been around.
I'm about to scroll back to read through the thread, but one thing caught my eye - congratulations on the new job amanda!

Zara1984 WTTC #1 - waiting till April 2012
redrhumba WTTC #2 - hopefully next month
LydiaWickham WTTC #2 - waiting until after Christmas
AmonsterCooper WTTC #1 - waiting till settled in new job
LtheBrideofFrankenstein WTTC #1 - waiting until moved house/business more established
Alexeliza WTTC #1 - waiting until after Christmas

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 17:49

For the long con! [hgrin]

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Evilwater · 16/10/2011 17:34

Sudden urgency???
Lw

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 17:32

Evil water I don't understand the sudden urgency. Can you explain?

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Evilwater · 16/10/2011 17:26

Cooper- aww.

Hope I all you ladies are having a good Sunday.
Lw

Evilwater · 16/10/2011 17:09

Wow this thred went wild when I'm at work!
Cooper- congrats on the new job! [hgrin]

Spam- I'm in the very same pan. It's very very difficult to talk about these feelings, how do you explain to men about broodness? In fact a baby cried at work and I thought it was cute. [hshock]

Lydia- good luck with child [hwink]

Budda- if we can do stem cell transplants, then don't give up hope. [hsmile]

My DP is not ready for me to talk about that yet. I'm deffeoo on the long con. It's a shame I can't show him the benefits of children. [hsad]

Lw

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 17:05

... pull himself along the furniture. So cute!

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 16:49

I am just on my way back from London after spending the weekend with a friend and her family. Their little baby is just amazing, I was playing with him all morning. He is just learning to stand and

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 16:48

notthehippopotamus it's good to hear from you and thank you for that lovely thought. I really hope you're right. I've been so depressed stuck in a job I don't like and feeling like a failure because I couldn't get another job, no wonder DH hasn't felt able to agree to throw a child into the mix.

Less wavery is definitely a good thing, most peoples partners seem to come round after a bit of time getting used to the idea.

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notthehippopotamus · 16/10/2011 14:02

Oo, nice shiny new thread! Thanks Amonster [hsmile]

Well done Buddhagirl - I sympathise with you and SpamMarie on how difficult it is to explain to your DH how you feel. I've found it exactly the same. Mine has always thought it was just about practicalities, and doesn't get the broodiness thing at all. Having said that his number one rule for ages was not till he's 30, and that's next April, so we are beyond that now! And he is finally getting a lot more wavery, rather than dead against it.

I would second Amonster's recommendation to start charting - I've learned a huge amount, and mainly it has been reassuring, although I am not getting completely textbook charts. It definitely makes me feel more in control of what is going on, and more confident that I have a chance of conceiving successfully.

And last but not at all least, big congrats to Amonstercooper on the job. That is fantastic news and you sound a lot more resigned to the waiting with that as a good reason. I really hope it will turn out that all the delaying by your DH was a good thing because it meant you could get this job, settle into it, and then have your dream job and family as well.

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 12:48

You can pay for some tests, it's probably unnecessary but if it's causing you so much worry it might be worth it to give you a bit of peace of mind. Have you tried charting or using ovulation sticks to get a picture of what's going on yourself? Don't worry too much about EWCM as not everyone gets it in any discernible quantity and you can use preseed as a substitute with just the same effect.

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Amonstercooper · 16/10/2011 12:25

I have already accepted the job. It's far and away the best thing that could have happened in so many ways and I can't wait to get started. It does mean we will have to put off TTC a bit, but we were doing that anyway, at least now there's a good logical reason that's not just DH putting it off!

Spammarie it must be very frustrating to experience this at 25. I have to say it never even crossed my mind before the age of 30, you can't even protest that you're running out of time etc.

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Buddhagirl · 16/10/2011 11:35

Thought you could not have fertility tests until you have been TTC for a year?

Just spoke to him again he is better about it, worried obviously but ok. We had relations last night so im going to take the morning after pill today, shows willing.

Ive spoke to him about fertility fears before but because it is illogical he dismissed it as me being odd. Guess we will talk about it more today.

Hows everyone else?

LydiaWickham · 16/10/2011 11:16

Yes, but when he's calmed down, apologise, and then tell him your infertility fears, it could be that he doesn't understand what's going on with you and how upset you are.

honestly, you need to be a team on this, you're getting married, that's probably all he can deal with right now, but doesn't mean he won't be happy to discuss when you'll have DCs and possibly have any fertility tests to see what the situation is now.

Buddhagirl · 16/10/2011 10:52

Just got off the phone, he is really angry. Which is fair enough. Im so stupid :'( You know when you just beleive something really strongly and you dont take the time to insert the logic?