Waiting to try to conceive

evilwater aww that's sweet! The last interaction I had with an unknown child was a toddler sitting opposite me on the train. She was super cute and chatting away to her mum, and I smiled at her, and then about 5 mins later she said to her mum in a loud voice "Why is that lady looking at me? I don't want her to look at me." hoooow embarrassing!! Must control my broodiness!

nenehooo I totally know how you feel, my period started first thing on saturday morning when we got up to watch the Wales rugby game... DH wasn't very interested at the time but I've never been so excited to get my period!! Obviously in a couple of months I'll have my fingers crossed to NOT have it...
I don't really have anyone else to talk to either. Maybe mum... but don't want to get her hopes up (although it took them 6 yrs to have me so she will know only too well that it won't necessarily happen straight away). She'd be wondering every time I saw her whether I was up the duff...

Do you know, the thing that I think swung it for DH was when we were talking a couple of weeks ago, and he said - don't you think it's just scary? the idea of being a parent? And I said - well a bit, but what's scary about a tiny little baby? And he was quiet for a minute and then said - do you know what? Whenever I imagine it, being a parent, I imagine us in some unknown future house with a few surly teenagers... it's terrifying. I never imagine us in a years time with a baby. So I said, well silly, don't imagine that, imagine just you sitting in the living room of our house, on the sofa that we have now, with a tiny warm baby cuddled up on your chest. Everything else happens gradually from that. And ever since I pointed this out to him we have been so much more on the same page with the baby thing... just wish I had realised this earlier!! No wonder he was so worried - I'm not ready to parent a teenager either!!

Ahh anyway. nearly bed time. night night x

Nene- hello, glad to hear you have a date.

Moggle- hello to you too. Yes I do have moments when I think that I would not cope with mother hood. However in the lift this afternoon a little blonde girl asked if I was a doctor in a fact tone. I told her I was not, and I am a nurse. She looked at me and had learnt that nurses are soo much cooler than doctors.
As for the cats they will be fine!

Yes the baby crack is better than chocolate!

Lw

I can now join WOOOOHOOOOO!
Hello everyone - I'm 31, been married for a year and with my husband for 7. Was a struggle to get him down the aisle (he dropped a bombshell that he'd rather go travelling at a family bbq a few years ago - I was hoping for marriage and babies?!) But we got there eventually. So was trying to leave the baby thing as I didn't want to pressure him - babies scare him!
However, our parents are getting on a bit, my Mum had a cancer scare and his Dad has health probs and I just keep thinking life's too short to wait. Also been getting strange feelings when I see pregnant women and babies - all our friends are having them, maybe that's why ;-) So back in April we had 'the talk' and he said he could see my pov and agreed that priority was buying a house and then babies - but I still wasn't convinced he really wanted to.
Then house buying stress got underway and we realised we now have no money so talk has turned to him getting a new job and me sorting a baby budget planner to work out mat leave etc. I had the sinking feeling that he was gonna put it back another year or so due to job, lots to do to house etc... but we had another talk Sunday and it's on for Jan!!!! I explained that he doesn't need to put pressure on himself to get a job now - we potentially have 20 months before I stop getting mat pay - and that's if it happens straight away which it may not. He agreed!
It had been getting me down more than I realised because I literally feel on top of the world now... really want to tell people but I can't... hence why I'm on here shouting about it... sorry for the long story! Might have to tell my Mum and sister - they're desperate for me to have babies - just don't want to jinx anything.
So other that that, been starting to take an interest in my cycles - have a copper coil so think they're natural (just painful!) and for last few months been getting ovulation pains - which were a nightmare, but now strangely not :-)

notthehippo thanks for the welcome! My supervisir's other student had a baby about 1yr into her phd, she took a year's mat leave and now is only able to come in one day a week, although it's much less often in practice. after a year and a half of this she's finally given in and is going to write up for a MPhil instead. it is certainly possible but takes a lot of willpower and motivation, especially when the baby brain kicks in.

Zara hi again! As far as I know EPO and AC are ok to take all the time when you're not TTC but once you are TTC you take them from day 1 of period until ovulation. Not sure there's concrete evidence that it can affect implantation or embryo, but to me it makes sense to leave the hormones alone when there's a chance you could be pg. I am going to stop the AC when we start TTC but will probably continue with EPO. Not sure I'm going to go down the charting temps / opk stick route yet (I have a tendency to get obsessed with these kind if things...) so not sure I'll know when I've ovulated but we'll see how it goes...

Welcome moggle and good luck with your plans, including the job. Glad your AF has come back on schedule. Lots of people on this thread are planning to start TTC around Christmas/New Year so you're in good company.

Ittybittysmum I've always been a little bit tempted by the thought of combining a PhD and having a baby, but I've always concluded fairly quickly that I wouldn't manage it. I'm not sure I could juggle two things that take so much commitment, if that makes sense.

Buddha I'm sorry, hope you're feeling a bit better. :) Try not to think of it as 'just waiting' until he's ready - you have good things to plan and enjoy in the mean time, like your wedding, and this is a great opportunity if you've come off the patch to check out whether there are any problems and hopefully put your fears to rest so you're right ready when the time comes. There's so much wisdom on here I'm sure people will have loads of advice for you for working out what if anything you need to worry about.

Also a question on EPO - do you know if its ok to take it throughout your cycle? And while TTC? I am taking it too along with prenatals and fish oil (first month off pill for me too) and it appears from charting and CM (TMI sorry) that all is functioning downstairs despite years of synthetic hormonal suppression... Not sure if I have EPO to thank for this!

Hi there Moggle! fab to have you over here on this thread now!! Sounds like you've definitely made progress - very exciting! And who knows about our poor cats - how will they ever cope - one of mine often gives me a look when she sees me on MN which I think translates to "I'm calling the vet to get you spayed, too..."

Oh and another one studying here, doing a PhD full time but hopefully will be submitting about february. I am based in a quango type place (as well as the PhD I work 6 hrs a week too) and have an interview for a job to start after Xmas at the same place, hopefully I'll get it and so won't have to worry about mat leave etc - as I've been working there continuously for a good few years now. Hurrah for publically funded bodies (sorry taxpayers...)

Ok I?m ready to jump on this thread too! Woop woop!

DH & I are both 30, married 2 years. I?ve been broody since, well, forever? DH is now pretty much there, I think ... Our friends are starting to produce babies, DH adores them and is a total natural with them, and now his older brother is expecting too, due at Christmas. We went to visit BIL & SIL on Saturday and the next morning he spontaneously started a discussion about, where would we put a baby?s cot and where would the buggy go since we don?t have a porch? I was nearly bouncing off the walls with excitement (obv had to restrain it to avoid scaring the poor boy)!

I came off the pill a month ago (after TEN years without a break?) and after 2 weeks of stressing that my period would take months to come back, popping EPO and agnus castus, it appeared right on schedule this weekend. YAY! So now that?s one less worry! We want to avoid August due to having Olympics tickets, and a UK holiday already booked that I don?t want to miss out on.

So, we?ll hopefully we?ll start trying mid-Dec although if my cycle stays regular the crucial time will be at the end of the month, with Christmas and staying at relatives? houses? could be interesting...

Just got to ask ? although I cannot wait to be pg and have a baby, does anyone else occasionally get flashes of almost paralysing fear about it? I mean I don?t really have that much of a social life to worry about (more of a sofa kinda girl) but the thought of no more lie ins? getting no sleep? not being able to leave the house without military type planning? and for gods sake WHAT ABOUT THE CATS?!

I think it was me that first used "long con" on this thread but it's a term regularly used by my DH.

On the topic of studying & TTC - that would've been me if I had decided to do my phd, but DH and I have decided we want kids sooner than whenever I could have found a programme/supervisor when my job contract finishes. DH did a phd and reckoned it was a good way to combine further study & child-rearing.... LOL. Looks more like a part-time work or SAHM situation for me now.

Managed to temper the babycrack hitting me yesterday by thinking about the big milestones ahead before we start TTC in April. Student loan to be paid off by Dec 31st, then big 3 week holiday in March.... then TTC! And charting, testing out a CBFM in the meantime.... Parceling the time ahead into chunks seems to help and stop me going crazy! Well I say that today... Could be thoroughly demented by Christmas on the topic....

Hooray! I'm glad I'm not the only person crazy enough to be mega-broody and in school. I'm in graduate classes and DH is just starting engineering. Adding a baby to the mix would just be madness!

I actually sounded DH yesterday to see if it was a good time to talk about when we were going to ttc.
"How are you feeling about school?" I asked. He looked relieved and then blurted out, "Actually, I'm really struggling. I'm behind in..." Etc etc. So not a good time. Going to wait a few weeks.

Incidentally, who was it who coined the term 'long con'? so accurate!

Welcome ComradeJing, sounds like you've got a great GP!

Evilwater that babycrack is potent stuff isn't it?

I'm kind of in school Ittybittysmum, working towards an engineering degree with the OU at the moment.

Itty my DP is busy with his business and his uni work.
Lw

I know how you feel evilwater! I'm telling you, babycrack is all instinct. And if instinct can make a bird fly halfway around the world twice a year it's no wonder were all just a leeeetle bit focused.

Welcome ComradeJing! you sound like you've got yourself well and truly organized. I hope my gp turns out to be a triple-treat like yours!

Is anyone else on this thread (or their dps) in school right now?

No worries Zara :)

My GP is a brilliant woman who has 3 specialties: family med, sexual and women's health and pediatrics. Her bf is a top pediatric consultant in Sydney. When dr was ttc for dc2 her bf told her she had to wait 3 cycles or her pregnancy would be much harder as it takes 3 cycles for hormones to regulate post pg and for these hormones to do the things they are supposed to like tighten pelvic floor etc. She got pg after 2 cycles and said the baby dropped quicker, she carried lower and wider and pelvic floor didn't really recover.

So I'm waiting 2 more cycles even though it would be more convenient to go again now!

Well I've been working with the pg lady today, and found out that another lady is pg.

I can't wait when it's me.

Lw

In the meantime while we're all waiting we can bone up on all necessary info ... saw this in Discussions of the Day - things you wish you'd known before your first baby

Buddha - of course it matters if you are worried about your fertility!! You are not being a freak. I and I'm sure everyone else here is just trying to reassure you - certainly not trying to say that that your worries are unreasonable. But DO go to a doctor and get yourself checked out - as I said before, information is power!

Had a productive day today but babycrack hitting me hard today. Wanting to chuck my great (and very sensible plan) out the window and START TTC RIGHT NOW THIS MINUTE. Sigh. I blame FB and pictures of cute babies.

This is truly terrible to admit but as DH and I have agreed if we have an accident I won't get MAP... I really want to have a contraception failure. [hblush] Exploding/disintegrating condoms are on my wishlist. Bad bad bad bad must stop thinking like that!!!! [hblush] [hsad]

Welcome ComradeJing! You're close to the starting line and you've got a clear target! Being nosy here, why did your doc ask you to wait 2 cycles before TTC? I ask because plan for me is to have 2 (hopefully) in quick succession (if my April 2012 starting date ever gets here...).

Right, updated list

Zara1984 WTTC #1 - waiting till April 2012
redrhumba WTTC #2 - hopefully next month
LydiaWickham WTTC #2 - waiting until after Christmas
AmonsterCooper WTTC #1 - waiting till settled in new job
LtheBrideofFrankenstein WTTC #1 - waiting until moved house/business more established
Alexeliza WTTC #1 - waiting until after Christmas
ComradeJing WTTC #2 - waiting for 2 more cycles on dr's advice

Budda-
Itty- yes I am little water, changed to evil. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that's slightly mad. My Sunday was mixed,l worked like a dog then came home to check the computer, lastly I went to my mums and dads for a fantastic roast.
Jing- welcome.

Today Im working like a dog again. Is anyone having a better day?

Lw

Hi all, can I join?

DD is 9 months old and I've just had my first AF since getting pg with her. Just waiting for 2 more AF on drs advice then will ttc. :)

Hoping DH will get relocated for work within the next year and desperately hoping I can have 2 more periods, get pg and then give birth before any moves!

"Why do you say it doesn't seem to matter to anyone? "

Well, because its so illogical people dismiss it. If someone validated how i was feeling (like you guys) then it would feel like it matters. However, I dont need other people irl to validate me, i can do it myself. I guess I just wish my mum and DP could get past the 'uh oh she is being a freak again' and talk to me about how i feel. Its ok. its not the end of the world.

Sorry guys i dont know why my phone decides to repost my last message a thuosand times :/ Ive contacted MN to take them off.