Waiting to try to conceive

Hello All!

Sorry for the radio silence- trying to lessen my babycrack addiction, and unfortunately mumsnet comes feeds it!

Good to hear all your news and so many people on the verge of TTC.

I'm not sure if I technically should be posting in here now, but too scared to join a 'bus', somehow that makes it so scarily real. I've had my last period (finished on Tuesday) and so now we're in the cycle to TTC, and after all the excitement I'm now just scared (well still excited but mostly afraid of the inevitable disappointment for at least the first few months).

Unfortunately just as we reach this vital time, I've lost the bit of paper I had been keeping track of periods and ovulation (done by signs such as CM) for the bas few months...haha my fault for being too ld skool maybe! It may be a good thing as then I won't get too obsessive, hung up on dates and I'm just trying to do it by memory!

I think this will probably be my last post in here, but maybe see some of you ladies on a bus one of these days!

Good luck everyone- thanks for keeping me company the last few months I've been lurking and occasionally posting!

Hi everyone, can I join in? DH and I are waiting as he's been on some medication that needs to be out of his system before TTC. Also my cycle takes a while to settle after coming off the pill. We need to wait another couple of months, so hopefully my period will have returned by then. We already have 21mo DD.

pinsent not sure how many days or weeks but its a 2ww on average to take the test. Thats 2 weeks post ovulation. Symptoms could show up any time...spotting, sore boobs, tiredness, cramps? I had a scare once so had googled them up!

have put the tree up today. have managed to stay off the babycrack stuff for a good few days... happy 1st of december - not long till 2012.

Buddhagirl I'm with you on the not charting temps. I did it for 13 months and obsessed a lot. My charts were always spiky and my sleep patterns were disturbed from preemptively waking to temp. Since switching to Persona my cycles have been much more regular, as well as shorter with a longer luteal phase. I don't think it does to sweat the small stuff.

Anyway charting temps doesn't tell you when to DTD, it only tells you when to stop doing it.

Hello everyone. Excellent news about people TTc soon. Next spring really does seem like the time to uh, shine. Bring on the 2013 babies!

I've had two cycles off hormonal contraceptive now and most recent AF arrived one day later than last month. So i know I have regular cycles :D I clearly, clearly spotted EWCM last month so I'm so much more confident about things. Just got to get married and buy a house now

One thing MN has taught me is not to chart . The amount of people here and IRL who say that got a BFP when they stopped trying. I think I'l try and hold off for 6-8 months of TTC and if not then start charting. I think if you can have sex 3x a week in the 3 non-messy weeks of the cycle then surely you are going to hit it at some point!?

I'm up to my eyes with wedding plans, but now alot of things are booked I'm realy enjoying it. Getting loads of RSVP's back too, thank god. For a while i was worrying i was planning for 20 close family :/

Lol pinsent am super tempted but then keep realising im ridiculous because im clearly not pg. came off pill in july but did take a weeks worth in oct to stave off AF for my wedding -however i did have a normal AF after that but this lateness is likely some delayed throwback from my reckless hormone pill abuse! I think im just the biggest wishful thinker paranoid ever!

Thanks nene. My CM was clear and very stretchy. Hoping it is CM and not DH's "fluid". It came the day after we did the deed, i noticed it when i went for a wee late morning, i had been up for at least 5 hours by that point and had at least a couple of wee's before i noticed, but i didn't notice it again in the evening so maybe it was just DH's excess swimmers. Our bodies do like to give us mixed signals.

Just out of curiosity, if you are lucky enough to concieve, how many days/weeks does it take until you get symptoms? Does anyone know? Not sure if i should be asking this question or not as it may turn me into a serial symptom spotter, which will just drive me crazy. However i'm curious.

pinsent as an avid reader of MN and TCOYF aka the period bible, I can give you a clue... GEEK! EWCM is clear or creamy coloured and very very stretchy. However ejaculation fluid is similar in consistency to give maximum chance of little swimmers to the egg, so what you saw may be the remnants of what your hubby may have... Ahem... deposited. Fingers cropped for EWCM tho! ladybourne i've been charting and my temps are all over the place. Been inputting them on fertility friend, and had a rise a few days ago so they had a predicted ov date, but since then they've been falling and today it said they could no longer confidently predict my chart... Made me sad!!! Which is ridiculous and I shall give myself a slap! Hope your charting goes smoothly and you have a nice biphasic cycle

Ha ha pinsent I have time to post for exactly the same reason!

Hello everyone, have just read through all recent posts as haven't been on for a while....is so nice to hear all your news and thoughts. I haven't told anyone that we're going to start TTC in the new year so it's good to chat to like minded ladies.

I finish my last pill packet tomorrow and then going to start charting temperatures to figure out my cycle but well aware that things could be a bit all over the place as my body adjusts after 15 years on the pill!

Daydreams are filled with babies at the moment!

Are your cycles normally quite regular Mrsb? I have only been off the pill for 4 weeks and so i think that is why AF hasn't turned up yet unfortunately. Have you not been tempted to POAS? Very impressed with your self-control if not. I'm a strong believer in everything happening for a reason, so i am sure fate will lend a hand and deliver the right result.

( although actually there was a good reason to wait - buying a house - and we were careful so it seems tres unlikely)

pinsent i am glad you mention that as i am slightly hoping concerned about the fact AF is now 4 days late - we have also been using the aforementioned method and despite being adamant we would wait until April I am starting to wonder whether we luckily werent quite careful enough!

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I haven't written in ages, I have been super busy. However now that it is strike day, i have a little extra unexpected time on my hands. I have been keeping up with reading all the posts however and it is lovely to hear that so many of you are now really close to TTC.

A little update on my situation without boring you all too much. After using OPK's up to CD25, i still never got a positive. So decided to forget about them as i think they were starting to drive me a little potty, plus i'm not even meant to be TTC anyway. However DH is still being pretty rubbish at keeping up his end of the bargain about being responsible for our contraception now that i am not on the pill. In fact on Sunday (CD31) we got down to it and as always DH wasn't very good with his withdrawl method. Then the next day i am sure my CM was different and looked like EW, although this is my first cycle so not 100% sure what i'm looking for. (If anybody doesn't mind explaining it to me i would really appreciate it.) So i therefore enticed to DH to do it again on Monday, just in case. DH did say that he knew what i was up to as we very rarely have sex 2 days in a row and even then he didn't do very well with his "withdrawing", i think he actually wants to start properly TTC but isn't ready to admit it to himself yet.
I'm on CD34 now and no signs of AF or any other symptoms. So i guess it's a case of watch this space! Trying not to think about it or get my hopes up.

Is anyone else out there not planning but not doing very well with preventing either? Does everyone else keep their fingers crossed that AF won't show up even though we know it will? xxx

Yep in about a month! According to my estimates I'm ovulating about now. Both of us can't wait. The other day DH came home and said "now I know how you feel, there was a pregnant lady on my train this morning and I couldn't stop thinking about babies ALL DAY"

Hello everyone!!

awayinamanger and CEDR - it's all good, DH is DEFINITELY onboard with TTC (ie it's not just my project) - he's been wanting a kid for the past 5 years! My offer of chores etc for the month was my half-in-jest way of getting him over the line. :D I did make him his favourite dessert on the weekend (don't think I'll be getting out of making it for him every week until the end of December) but he hasn't enforced the household chores or kitty litter bargain. :D He's very happy and excited!

moggle great info!! yes DH has not enforced my agreement to do all the kitty litter changes so he's still doing it - fine by me! You must be close to starting TTC if I recall from previous posts?

All those who are after a Boots digi temping thermometer - I'm not using mine since I bought my CBFM. Used it for about a month - temperature taken orally - disinfected with Dettol each time. Not sure if that is really gross or not to offer it - would happily give to to any of my friends but nobody is TTC - but I'm not using it, so will happy post to anyone that wants it!! I'm one of those de-cluttering types that likes to get rid of stuff if I'm no longer using it.

nenehoo it needs to show temps to 2 decimal places.

Zara that is so exciting!! Woo!! Btw, no need to wear a mask when doing kitty litter, toxoplasmosis isn't airborne. (assuming that's what you're worried about). Also, I've heard that when you get pg blood tests done, you can ask them to check for toxo antibodies, if youhave them, then you've had toxo before so can't catch it again. Obviously, don't tell DH/DPif that's the case, but means there's definitely no need to worry (about that, anyway..)

Ps my thermometer is just a bog standard sainsbury's one that cost £3... so maybe THAT'S why my temps are crazy?!

I've been charting too! And most of my temps have been sub 36 degrees, which isn't even on the charts in TCOYF... Was starting to think I was wierd!!! My temp today is 36 and this is post ov according to cramps and cm so thought it'd be higher? I do sleep with my mouth open quite a lot tho... Think I may resort to (ahem) non-oral temping as it's supposed to be more accurate. Although if my hubby finds out he may leave the baby obsessed crazy wonder what's going on!!!

Thanks Awayinamanger. Orally it is then as I don't fancy sticking anything up my... well you know...

Does it matter what thermometer I get? I bought a boots one that cost £10 but it has broken!! Was thinking of getting a vics one instead it looks ok.

Have found out my body temp seems to be 36 degrees.... Explains why I am always so cold!!!

redstrawberry all aboard the February 2013 bus!

No ear won't work - it's not sufficiently accurate. You need to take temps orally or vaginally. I wouldn't fancy sticking anything in my ear first thing after waking up anyway!

Hello everyone

I have a wee question... If you are charting, taking your temperature... Does it have to be orally or can I get a thermometer that goes in my ear??

ratata good luck!

It looks like there's a few of us will be going for it in the spring!

I love the phrase babycrack, thats a new one for me but I instantly knew what it meant! But much worse than babycrack is seeing toddlers and little kids - just keep having to tell myself they're not always so cute and funny.

tremologreen fingers crossed for today...

(Meanwhile have just taken the marzipan chocolate stars out of the fridge from the left over icing - feel free to help yourselves!... Its the only thing I can think of to do with marzipan - drench it in plain chocolate!)

Hi all :)

I'm a first-timer... been thinking about motherhood for about a year and a half, but just got serious in the last couple of months and had the talk with my partner, and he's up for it!

Unfortunately I've had a fairly crap health problem for the last year, needed minor surgery, waiting to find out if (but looking likely) I need another more serious operation - hospital next Mon. I'm going to ask the doctor how best to manage the problem/ surgery timeline alongside ttc. Fingers crossed!

So we're waiting until I'm well enough. My two best female friends are pregnant, broodiness has gone off the scale, welling up looking at babies and children while out with family today. Glad to find others going through the same thing, makes me feel less mad :)

I'm coming off the pill in the meantime to try and get my cycle back to normal. Probably time to get back in the gym and start eating healthily too (been playing the sick card for a bit too long)!

Good luck to all!