Waiting to try to conceive

hi ladies, just to say, bye for now! We're officially trying, although missed my most likely to get pg time this month, so really we're trying properly next month. (this is my excuse for living off left over pork pies and champange without a thought to watching my diet if I want to increase my chances to actually getting pregnant).

for the rest of you, I hope it's not too long a wait.

Nenehoo & HeavensNetiswide Delighted for you, There is hope as you said, got fingers crossed for you.

Ladies sorry for the moan!! Feeling ok,

Well Awayinawayamanagercooper, My hubbie is just being selfish really, just doing his own thing, doing his business and delaying 6mths so he can finish his business. He does want kids and knows im desperate to have them but has the fear slightly but is mainly just being selfish. Its so frustrating. he is 100% behid me coming off the pill and im now off it and he knows we have to be careful etc. So i suppose he knows there is a risk of pregnancy but he just doesnt want to 'actively' try until he says so.

We had an ok xmas until xmas eve when his uncle died which as you can imagine just put a bad feeling on it all. So hoping 2012 will be our year.

Hope all the ladies have a great new year!! xxxxx

Merry Chrstmas everyone!!!!!
I'm on an absolute high as we've just got back from the most amazing snowboarding holiday and hubby has said TTC is till on despite all the job worries... so yes away they can move move the goalposts forwards, backwards - whichever way they like it seems!!! He was even cooing over some of the teeny tiny babies we saw
Had been planning to have my coil taken out last week but wasn't able to get an appt so have to wait til first week of Jan, then it's one more AF to go and we're off!
Will def be on the new thread, thanks for doing that btw away - really hope you'll be on there yourself soon. Think I'm def gonna be in need of some friendly ears during the ACTUAL ttc period earing in mind how obsessed I've become since we started thinking about it!
So au revoir everyone, happy drinking, eating of cheese and all the other bad stuff we need to get out of the way - here's to a happy and successful 2012 - whatever you're aiming for xxxxx

Apparently so! I was somewhat staggered myself. Although not surprised he couldn't cope with my broodiness any longer!

Definitely get going on the baileys (I'm on sherry, and very alcoholic Christmas cake tonight)

Happy Christmas stuckinthefens

Happy Christmas Stuckinthefens. Get stuck into the Baileys!

Heavensnet good heavens do you really mean to tell me that DHs can move the goalposts forward as well as back?

Mmmm back home (and not in the fens) and enjoying the booze being passed around!
I may not have much time for mumsnetting for next few days so Happy Christmas to all the ladies on here! (just thought maybe there are also some guys lurking on here as well??? If there are then seasons greetings to you as well!)
Right time to get up and do some organising, is it too soon for a baileys?

Hello again! I haven't posted since the thread changed, because we had put ttc'ing back a year to mid-2013 and it was all too depressing. We have since changed our minds (when I say 'we' you know I mean DH!) and brought it forward again, to April 2012. But that means starting vitamins etc, so it feels like things are progressing (so there is hope freckly!)

Christmas is harder though, am trying my best to enjoy the cheese, and wine though! I also keep thinking, this time next year...

Ah freckly a fellow victim of FOF, eh?

So what's the story with your DH? Does he have the baybee fear? Or is he just being mean?! Why are you waiting six more months?

I tell myself that this time next year i will be hopefully pregnant and to enjoy this Xmas, the drinks and food and enjoy but its so hard, i really feel sorry for myself and trying to not take it out on my hubbie for making me wait for 1.5 yrs alreayd and now another 6months before TTC.
Having a little cry to myself and il be ok i suppose. Plus my family coming over for xmas so i cant let on any of this, so gotta put on the ol brave face too.

Just got word my cousin had a baby boy this morning. Absolutly delighted for her as she has been concentrating on her career for so long and will be an amazing mom!!

Went to see another friend who has a baby, and god forgive me but isnt loving motherhood, is moaning bout her baby not being text book as it crys, has a 'maid' ( i live in the middle east so maids are comman practise out here) ,so the maid is minding the baby, sleepin with the baby instead of the mom and its sickening me. I want to scream at her, give me the fucking child since you dont seem to want her and il take her in a blink of an eye you selfish cow! Ugh hormone rush there sorry!

God Its tough seeing so many ppl having babies and knowing i have to wait for my hubbie to say YEAH or NAY, im frustrated and im sad and im feeling sorry for myself too. Sorry Moan over! :(

Right then All, let's batten down the hatches and get down to some excessive and fancy free Christmas shennanigans! No half measures anyone, next Christmas we'll all be in such a state of diffedness that we'll only just be able to stomach a small gaviscon.

Stuckinthefens I know exactly what you mean about Christmas undiffed it is the worst time of year with all the family around so lovely thinking "oh if only". Still, nothing that a few bottles glasses of wine won't sort out. Thank god I won't be OV the weekend of Christmas, I can only imagine the dizzy heights my usual menkul behaviour might scale!

Thanks Awayinamangercooper :-) Not sure if anyone is on it yet to be honest but there you are.

How is everyone thats staying here - especially this week?
I am on such an emotional rollercoaster for so many reasons - I love Christmas, my mum is coming from abroad for the 1st time in years which is fab, our house is now a home as lots of diy jobs have finally finished and it feels so cosy...
Then there's the kids thing about Christmas, I keep catching myself wishing I was pregnant now, that hopefully I will be at some stage of pregnancy this time next year, and how much I want to share christmas with children
The xmas babycrack is even worse! All the cute xmas outfits, toys and decorations...
So I'll be the emotional one in the corner, grining away but unable to hold back the tears

I have suggested this one, if you want to continue with the same crowd, otherwise perhaps the September bus?

Hello! Just checking in ladies! It's 'that time' -TTC time! We had our first SWI last night! I slapped a lot of pre-seed on with the result DH's winkle almost escaped at the crucial moment - moral of the story is you can have too much of a good thing. BTW I'm finding cheapie ovulation sticks (30 for a fiver on amazon) are just as effective as my bloody expensive CBFM - so you might want to try the cheapies first. Good luck girls!

ps: which board to we jump ship to?

Right you lovely lot, just for you I've created a new thread for all your TTC adventures.

Hello ladies! Sorry to have dropped off the thread (my new job is exhausting!)

I wanted to say thanks to you all for being my sanity this year and wish you all a happy Christmas and lots of SWI or lovely BFPs in the new year!

Another one saying adieu for Christmas TTCing... AF arrived a few days early this morning so guess it's day 1 of our first TTC cycle! Bit annoyed it came early as now I reckon I'll be ov-ing right over Christmas, not during that boring patch between Xmas and new year, so not sure how it'll work trying to DTD at DH's very noisy, chaotic aunt's & uncle's house over Xmas.,. On the other hand we became auntie and uncle to an as yet unnamed little girl on Monday, so that has given us a huge incentive, she needs a cousin ASAP!!

So anyway, I know I wasn't around much but thanks for the advice & tips! I have 30 OPK sticks and 15 cheapy pg tests ordered from amazon with our Christmas pressies... so think we're ready to go!! Not sure if I'll be doing the whole bus thing but hopefully I will see some of you around. Good luck all of you xxx

Hello everyone! Am new to all this, and I did go as far as writing a message on here the other day, but didn't post as I didn't think I 'belonged'...basically, the plan was to start trying in about April time due to finances and other boring-but-practical issues. However, DH and I married just over a month ago () and since then, DH, who was the main advocate of waiting, began to suggest that I lie with him for 20 minutes or so after sex, and would occasionally try to squeeze a pillow under my bum...! He maintains that we're not trying though, but "would be over the moon if we had an accident". It somehow left me feeling a little lost, though, as if he's denying where we are, but really, I guess I should be grateful that we're effectively trying!

Anyways, am posting now as I've been doing some maths this evening and it really would do us best to not fall pregnant until June so I'll be on full pay until at least March 2013. Thing is, I have mild PCOS and have quite irregular cycles, so it seems crazy to hold off when chances are it'll take 6 months or so to catch anyway...I just feel neither here nor there now. If we start trying properly (charting, etc) in June, but remain not preventing in the meantime, how do I stop thinking about getting pregnant?! And if we resume 'preventing', how do I stop feeling like it's a step backwards? I know am being a bit silly, but I just needed a little rant! sorry it's so long! Perhaps with so many ready to TTC and coming off the wait list, it'll fill the feed up a little!!
XxX

Thinkpostivethoughts- i know how it feels, im married 1.5 years, together 7 and im broody like a mad woman but hubbie quit his job literally just after we got married to set up his own company with promises it wouldnt take long, then we could have some babies. Needless to say, his company is still not set up and i still have no babies. Its beyond frustrating and upseting and depressing but i have squirreling away some savings as best i can. but he has agreed to try in 2012 regardless as i am the main earner etc and deadlines have been set for the company etc etc. I swear, i just cant wait, ive given him long enough, il go mad.

Its so hard to wait, i understand. Im holding on by the skin of teeth literally. Im off the pill in Jan, and starting to chart etc, and we will be careful so i can get my body back to normal after 13 yrs of the pill, but by June time, im not being careful, and fingers crossed it wont take too long..... Plus he is 4 years in remission from cancer so i also hope the chemo hasnt done any lasting damange to his swimmers- ugh, an ugly thought that pops into my mind the odd time.

I have my fingers crossed for you too hon

awayinthe- im not sure about how bad it is as he is on medication.
I havnt done any research into wheather it can be passed on, but is dead beat dad has it, and his dead grandfather had it.

I'm so considering SWI. but children is something we should both agree on. Plus my sister has had the week from hell. oh well back to the madness!

Also mooncups rule!

EW

Well... I don't know where I'm at now! Original plan was to wait for my first period after coming off the injection.this was to ensure I didn't spend ages actually unable to conceive whilst ttc and worrying about having conceived whilst going all the boring no booze, no soft cheese etcetc thing.. But we got bored if waiting.......

Argh im off on my jollys tomoz , I start ttc at the end so cya on the other side!

And have a Good Christmas all!!!

nenehoo- sorry about your home sit. I hope all turns out well.

Hi everyone! So I've had a rather eventful weekend - went out Fri night, and woke up to find DH in the worst mood EVER. He'd had a really stressful Friday at work and long and short of it is that he thinks he could get made redundant in the new year. He's really down about it and my first thoughts were about our baby plans - is that awful of me? I didn't say anything as he was feeling so low and I didn't want to push things, and babies came up in general chit chat later on in the day. I think deep down I know it's a stupid idea to try and get pregnant if we know he might lose his job, but another part of me thinks that there will always be a reason not to start trying... tricky
Obviously it's a decision only we can make, but anyone have any thoughts on this?
On a happier note, my charting is going well, and my luteal phase seems to be over 10 days - had thought it'd be shorter than that. Hurrah!

positivethoughts that was my plan as well - two by 35. Now, unless we have twins, it's not going to happen. Not for one of trying.