Waiting to try to conceive

Probation should be over at the end of March- had a ludicrously long session so will have been here for blimmin ages by then, getting extremely impatient.

Haven't been on hormonal contraception for years (history of strokes in the family so doesn't agree with me) but did start exercising a lot more this year/take on a more stressful job/only started actually tracking my cycles for the first time a few months ago and they've always been erratic so I suspect it's pretty par for the course alteration. Am going to see my doctor about it but they consider it an extremely low priority (which is fair enough, obviously there's a lot of flu and christmas backlog at the minute) so appointment is weeks away.

I have decided 2012 is the year for baby (or at least, conception thereof) as partner is older than me & time is becoming of the essence so I think I've just become completely overenthusiastic.

chemise I don't think you need worry about the vitamins, but I would check the labels just in case to see if there are any warnings about prolonged use. Folic acid doesn't build up in your system, so it will be safe to keep taking that.

As for your cycles, if you're worried that they are very erratic, see your GP. Have you been keeping a record of how much they can vary? I don't know any of your history, if you recently came off hormonal contraception that can send your cycle a bit haywire.

When does your probation period end?

Don't worry you've come to the right place!

P.s. unsure and obsessed are not opposites, we all have our neurotic dithering days!

(Should add that am aiming to TTC this year but need to wait until I've passed my probation period at new job)

I am actually borderline worried about myself that I've even gone down this route but err, is there any potential risk to taking conception-aiding vitamins (the Boots own brand one so it's pretty much just folic acid, iron and magnesium) for an extended period of time?

My cycles have been bonkers lately (including a 45 day one; am 25 and always used to have very short ones so becoming deeply suspicious about her downstairs' activities...) and although I know going to the GP is the best idea, I have to wait ages to see one so thought... the vitamins might... help? I think I may have gone insane.

(on the plus side they are on 3 for 2 at the minute)

It's scaring me how quickly I've gone from not being sure to being completely obsessed. Also, I've always thought of myself as quite knowledgable but after reading this website I realised I haven't even got a clue about my cycle let alone everything that is due to follow. I've found myself secretly checking out prams on the web rather than understanding the 'science' bit x

What's this big car business Evilwater? How many babies are you planning on having?!

Hello away,
I'm glad to be back as I thought I would never DP would never want kids. It turns out he is just not ready. Yet.

My Xmas was booze filled and work filled. I'm exited about getting a brand new car, and it's a big hint!

Hope you all are well and your sprints are not dampened.

Ew

Am about to go to work but wanted to say a quick hallo to all the new ones!

LottieLou welcome to the gang and also to the wonderful world of forums! I repeat the dire warnings about horrible addiction, but it's probably too late! Have you actually read the whole thread right back to 2009? Sobering reading I am sure!

I am always amazed when DHs are up for TTC, I wish it would rub off on my super reluctant DH. It sounds like you and your DH are me and my DH the other way round! Hopefully we will all be on the same page by June!

Nancy, Muffin welcome to the thread!

MrsTwinks I'm glad it all got sorted out in the end. 1 February is really close - do you know when your fertile time will be so your DH's shagathon can commence?! When is the holiday? Hope the work review went well.

Coveredinflour (good name!) welcome to the wonderful world of forums, hope you don't get suckered in and addicted forever like the rest of us! On the plus side it's very therapeutic to talk candidly with people who get it. We all think about babies constantly, so you're in good company!

Oooh I notice you are also planning to start on 1 February, we can race you and MrsTwinks!

What does your doctor say about managing the vaginismus and simultaneously ttc? I'm sorry to hear that this is a problem for you guys, I hope you sort it out.

Hey Evilwater! How was your christmas and New Year? Mine was full of booze and karaoke, no children which is sad at Christmas, but we were all jolly nonetheless, even DH at times!

Sorry I've been missing in action over Christmas. It seems there are plenty of us left after all, I was starting to worry for a minute there! Welcome to everyone who has just joined us!

nenehoo I'm glad you enjoyed your epic snow adventure. Presumably this is coil out week now? Or is it already all systems go?? If so, good luck!

freckly sorry to hear about your DH's uncle. And what is it with our infuriating DHs and their ridiculous 6 month postponements?! Is he any closer to coming round do you think?

Good luck this month LydiaWickham!!!

Welcome Rockchick! I'm confused, will you be able to TTC from this summer? If so you can join us in the queue for the February 2013 bus! 9 months is a lovely age, it's good to hear positive reports from the Other Side.

thinking I have to say, this Christmas was much better than last, it might have just been where it fell in my cycle, because round OV I am always a basket case, but I think it was more that TTC is actually on the horizon now, so I felt a bit better about everything. Good to hear your DH is officially broody with evidence!

After reading through the thread and seeing how a few have moved onto TTC I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only one who's having to wait (although I have no patience)!

I'll join this thread too, though I'm sure I'll be here a while. Found this thread due to broodiness, seeing pictures of friends spending their first christmas with their LO, and another friend's constant fb updates alternating between pg news and her greasy food intake (the amount of takeaway that woman eats drives me mental!).

I'm waiting until my OH and I can move into our own place, which due to my lack of employment and his self-employed (very low income) nature, is likely to be a while. We're desperately trying to improve our cashflow, but there's so few jobs around. :(

We are currently visiting his family, and a family friend asked when we'd start ttc, which got me even more broody.

I'm currently 24, turning 25 this year, so I know I've not got time against me, but I'd like to have 2 DC before 30, so I have the option of having a 3rd before 35. I also had a termination at 17, and have a friend whose partner conceived around that time, so whenever I see pictures of their little girl I can't help but feel she should be mine.

My partner and I both want children, so thankfully shouldn't take too much convincing after we get our own place - in fact I think it'll take more effort to persaude him to put a ring on my finger! We've been together almost 5 years, and numerous friends have started relationships and got engaged since - though I'm in no rush to get engaged, it feels like everyone is moving on with their lives and I can't even move into my own place.

Sorry for the huge introduction, but I feel better for the offload.

Also, Buddhagirl, my OH loves the name Tobias as well, can't get him to like any female names though...

Hi hope you don't mind if I join too! I have also been lurking on here since its discovery a few weeks ago and it has been feeding my obsession. Its nice to hear that Im not alone. I would say I have been broody since .....well since forever really, love babies love kids and simply can't WAIT to have my own.
Currently Im in my final year and qualify august as a childrens nurse so I am lucky enough to be able to spend a lot of time with babies and children all be it at their worste and poorly :( I think if I didn't do this job i would be struggling even more to wait to have one of my own. Am 25 have been with Other Half for nearly four years have lived together two and although talked about marriage a lot although it is not a number 1 priority for us, although I do find myself feeling that I ''should'' be married before ttc but this is because of everyone elses opinions and not my own. I am hoping to get a job in the next few mths to start sept 12 and OH is starting a new career as a driver ''hopefully'' in the next month or 2 as its better money than he is on now. Once we both have job offers we are looking to get a mortgage and buy our first family home :)..something else I want before a baby comes along as we currently rent.
So we are waiting until either when I start my new job Sept 2012 or EVEN more sensibly jan 2013 which would entitle me to a year maternity paid leave but.....I don't think I can wait that long :(. I am totally obsessed its driving me absolutely crazy I just feel like forgetting all of theses plans and ttc now at least I will be qualified by the time baby is due , could we afford to survive on one wage though? just about maybe ...at a push ....I know its the right thing to wait but its taking over my life thinking about it . By the way OH would love to have kids but doesn't mind waiting until the time is right ,obviously hasnt got the overwhelming URGE that I have which thankfully you understand as its so hard to explain. Christmas has been hard as I absolutely love it but feel I am missing out as I feel its a time for children.Also friends announced their pregnancy recently and other couple announced they are ttc which leaves me although happy for them utterly devastated at the same time (I know its bad ).So there you have it in a nutshell (kinda) sorry if I've gone on a bit its just nice to get it all out there any feed back greatly appreciated x

Hi

I've been lurking on MN for a few days now, I have spent the past two reading this thread from the beginning and now feel ready to post on here!! Deep down I've always wanted to be a Mum but whenever family or friends have asked I've always said no to thought of Children only because I wasn't ready at the time - now it's a different story!

DH is desperate to TTC and has been for years, I agreed to discuss the possibility of a family once we'd been married a year. Due to different circumstances we didn't even talk about it but as our two anniversary approached last year we started discussions.

We have a massive family holiday planned for June so we decided to start then and at the time 2012 seemed miles away. To help my body prepare I took my last pill at the weekend and 2012 is actually here I appear to have become completely obsessed.

It feels so strange to have made such a huge life changing decision but only having DH to talk. I've never posted on any sort of forum before, only been a lurker so I'm so excited to be able to share the anticipation and nerves.

Congratulations to all of you who agree TTC now the new year is here xx

That made me laugh as about 3 weeks ago sil got a massive people carrier, and dh said he thought we should get one for "the baby". Aside from not being even ttc yet how big does he think one baby is?

Doctor did call, I'm all immune, so now just patiently waiting until feb 1st. Got a works review tomorrow too so maybe I can talk myself into a handy payrise

I hope everyone had a wonderful party time. Yes, I've been away and nothing has changed.

Well I'm hoping to get a bigger car (hint, hint)

Hope everywoman has had better news.

well.. I should know later as I called up, explained the obscenely massive delay of two months to the receptionist and the doctor will call me after surgery I'm told. If not, even angrier call tomorrow. Fingers crossed its ok, and I have an illicit lunch featuring baby cuddles and going over DN outgrown baby things friday

Thank you MrsTwinks.

Sounds like you're having a bit of a tough time yourself. Fingers crossed you'll be immune (and they'll hurry up and tell you). If they've given you the jab, chances are you will be - and then holiday plans will be back on! :-)

If not, then my strategy has been plenty of - not hugely advisable I must admit, but it does help.

Sounds like you are having a rough time of it :( Your DH is probably holding things in. Men are weird, I know mine is as broody as me (after my crying episode yesterday) he just doesnt want to go on about it incase theres a problem etc etc. And relax, don't stress because as i understand thats not going to help with the vaginismus.

Hi everyone,

Can I join you please? I've never posted on a forum before, but I think that's because I've not felt so passionately about something before.

Feel like I've been waiting TTC for about 5 years - have always been v broody and ever since I met DH 5 yrs ago it's like my maternal instincts went into overdrive. Literally think about babies every day. Sometimes I think I'm going crazy - I know my DH does!

Have been waiting for "the right time" and especially to get married and buy our own place 1st. Well last year bought a flat and got married in Oct 2011. When I talked to DH about a year ago about it we'd sort of said we'd TTC in Feb 2012 - few months of marriage first. But I keep getting really impatient. And he has no idea how in my head I'll start planning and then kind of get surprised when he doesn't want to just start trying straight away (had a bit of an argument about this over Xmas as it was the right time of the month and I thought "why not?" Apparently I go on about it too much - I worry that it will turn him off the whole thing entirely).

Anyway, so the plan is to wait until Feb (in my head that's the 1st of Feb). However, our problem is compounded b/cause I have vaginismus making sex really really painful. So not sure how often / if we'll be able to try. DH wants to get this all sorted out before we start TTC, but I've been trying to sort it out on and off for about 3 years and nothing has worked. It really stresses me out anyway and now I feel like there's this extra pressure - like we can't even think about TTC until sex is sorted (there are other ways of TTC although admittedly not so effective). I want to try both at the same time.

Massively frustrated! Sorry for the long post. I've not talked to anyone about this before so got a lot of pent up emotion...

Having a bit of a crying day today as my stupid doctor has screwed up so much now that should I need my rubella vaccination I'm going to have to wait even longer. 3 fucking months to get the bloodtest done and now 3 weeks waiting for the results. I called up today and they are in but the doctor hasn't reviewed them yet, i mean FFS the practice nurses are in sympathy with me now as its taking so bloody long, every time they see me its the sorry face :( Christmas was lovely as I just forgot about it all and was thinking how nice next year with LO or very near, and now looks like it'll end up being a 2013 baby. So frustrated and disapointed now and no one IRL to talk to about it :( we've our holiday booked for some alone TTC time and now its going to be sad because I'll be thinking we should be and I've somehow developed a reaction to bloody lubricants on the condoms so DH isnt chuffed his shagathon holiday aint happening

..... and breathe.. Hopefully I will end up being immune but the way my luck is running I bloody doubt it :(

Hope everyone had a lovely christmas and has nice plans for the new year! Christmas is definitely the hardest time and I seem to have had lots of babies of friends and family to buy for so lots of excuses to check out the baby clothes and toys!

I have def been tucking into the baileys though fens

DH mum said she had some pictures developed of him holding his sisters baby and looks really smiley (he normally hates having his picture taken!) so I think she has her hopes up that it wont be too long until there is another grandchild! DH is broody, there is photographic evidence!

freckly hope you're feeling better, it is hard when it seems like your OH doesn't understand the urgency. I hope 6 months doesn't feel like forever.

hi rockchick

Hi everyone, can I join please? Me and dh have 1 ds already, he's 9 months. Completely unplanned, I've never been bothered about babies, never had a maternal bone in my body prior to having ds.

Well, since having him I'm desperate for another baby! We can't start TTC yet as we own a tiny 2 bed flat (3rd floor, no lift!) so it's bad enough with 1 baby, let alone 2! We are waiting until house prices go up enough for us to have a house deposit, or until dh gets a few decent payrises to save for a bigger deposit.

I'm lucky that dh is almost as broody as I am, I've become a SAHM since having ds as our salaries meant we were at that annoying income level where we can't get any financial help if I went back (even part time) so once we paid childcare we were really no better off me working.

Hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas, ds is an amazing age foe his first Xmas - helped rip the paper off his own prezzies and shared Christmas dinner with us. I'd love to try next summer so there'd be 2 years between them, but for now I'm just having to content myself with drooling over friend's babies!