Waiting to try to conceive

Good things come to those who wait Nancy completely feel your pain. I had a few ups and downs with DH over Christmas and one of our friends announced she was pregnant with her second child. Her hubby is unemployed - looking for work, she is been off sick for over 2 months at her work (I guess she can't deal with morning sickness ) She has been drinking bottles of wine throughout the first few months of her pregnancy, ungratefully wants the gender to be a girl and claims she might get depressed if its a boy. She keeps dumping her first child on family to look after her. It's unfair people like her get to have a second child when they can barely look after the one they have.

I'm with you too Nancy. I was waiting a while before I joined MN and found venting on here, or just reading other people venting makes me feel so much better, DH doesn't know the half of it! I've a few friends who just TTC with no planning, and got pg quickly and I just get overwhelmed with misery. I make myself feel better (a little anyway) by thinking of this as preparation, slef sacrific is what parenting is about, and I'm starting early!

Oh nancy, i totally feel your pain.

I had a very similar melt down with my OH this time last year when a friend made a split deciison to have a child and it disgusted me how jealous i was.

it is normal to feel this way and you will 'snap' out of it so to speak. It just takes time to process alot of things.
Dont worry, you have lots to look forward to and it will be a great year for you.
What i did was i tried to not see that particular friend for a few weeks as i found it too upsetting, until i had a handle on my emotioins etc. Tough but that did help. Obviously,when u see her you will be jealous but try and think positviely, one year does go fast, esp with evertyhing you have planned!!

I am waiting til Dec to ttc and i know, it feels like its dragging already.
Though good news is my period FINALLY arrived after i came off the pill,so thats progress.

Big hug to you.xx

Hi havent posted here for a while but had an all time low this week and promised my OH that I would snap out of it (which clearly I haven't as I find myself here again) .
It all came to a head because I was shopping with a friend who is ttc at the moment .....whats wrong with that I hear you cry?.....Well I came home in the worste mood and ended up in floods of tears to my OH explaining how it wasn't fair that she could start ttc after a split second decision, and shes a lot younger than me , and she goes out drinking and all the time,and how she doesn't realise how much her life is gna change.... blah blah blah ....I'm embarassed when I think how horrendously jealous I sound and my OH thinks its awful how jealous I am too:(. God I can't stand myself being like it its totally out of character.
The thing is I totally agree with him but its hard to try and stop myself. I am incredibly happy I am qualifying in August and am currently applying for my dream job as a neonatal nurse once that is secured we are gonna move on from renting and buy our first house together. I finally won't be a student any more so we will have much more disposable income for holidays etc (hoping to go to nyc next xmas :o) So as you can see I have so much to look forward to ...and this time next year will totally be the right time for us to ttc....I just wish I could get it put of my head for now ........any tips ?

Yep I did indeed get the tape measure out, and looked at the sizes of cots in the Argos catalogue... baby in a wardrobe! Makes me think of Harry Potter living under the stairs!

The really odd thing is that today DP started a conversation about how we should start a family soon as we are getting old, and he even mentioned how we could prob manage for a while with a cot in the bedroom. I'm pretty sure I didn't mention any of this stuff to him, so I reckon he must be telepathic!!!

It's a relief to find out that he is more up for it than I thought he was!

If ever I have a spare few minutes alone with the computer I always seem to find myself drifting to mothercare, babiesrus sites etc. I convince myself that its good to research and get an idea of the price of things so as to properly save but in reality I just cant help myself!!

My Aunt had a baby girl 2 weeks ago though, so when DH asks "I'm shopping for Lauren". Not sure how long I can keep him convinced though?!

Hi sylvan and welcome back redstrawberry

I found starting vits helped me feel a little more chilled about it but it all wore off after 2 weeks and I was going insane again. Am feeling more in control again the last few days because I started the second packet, think it's all to do with feeling like there's some progress.

wannabe a baby in the wardrobe? Why not?! Have you actually measured the space yet, that's when you know you're really losing it!

I was just thinking on the subject of our TINY one bedroom flat and how we wouldn't have room for a baby. It has just occurred to me that if we put all our clothes in the hallway cupboard, and take the doors off our wardrobe, then a cot would easily fit in the wardrobe space... so theoretically we would just need to buy a washing machine and do a bit of DIY and we would be totally ready for a baby!

I'm great at bargain hunting and getting stuff for free, babies don't really cost anything at first do they?

still not sure DP would be up for it.... argggghhh!

I have been on and off this thread. I am on the 3 month wait now. Looking forward to TTC in May/June too sylvan

Starting on the folic acid this month, was watching One Born Every Minute earlier looking that it might be me next year! Programmes like this are surprisingly helping to ease off the baby crack!

Baby crack has gotten very bad this month - babysitting cousins, picking a shortlist of baby names, lurking in the birthing threads, checking out maternity fashion - and I am not even TTC or pregnant yet!
this must be what insanity feels like!

Hello, I'm a newbie, can I join in? Waiting till May/June to start trying but fighting the urge to suggest to DH that we throw caution to the winds and get started. Haven't quite got my head round the idea that even though I've had blood tests and explained horrible family obstetric history and bought my folic acid it'll still be months before we begin. Feel like I'm waiting in some weird departure lounge at the airport, so it's nice not to be alone!

Thanks ladies. It's so nice to know I'm not the only one going through this.

HeavensNetIsWide we are kind of trying. More like having fun and hoping for the best :)

Welcome sammy. That must be so frustrating having irregular cycles. Are you still trying even though they're irregular, or waiting until they settle a bit? I have to admit I have no idea what my cycle will be like, I was on the pill from 17 and then a mirena for the last 8 years, so anything could happen.

I love the baby programs too. Have recorded last nights OBEM for tonight. DH also hates it! I don't find them too upsetting though, I'm much worse with friends pregnant. It feels like everyone I know is pregnant or with newborns just at the moment. 4 friends had their babies last weekend! I keep reminding myself that there is not a limit on the number of babies, they are not taking a potential one from me, helps keep me sane (ish)

Oh Sammy, thats so awful your period is all over the shop. Why aren't our brains and our bodies in tune!!

I am also the same- gushing over babies and the like, my dh hates it cos he knows we still have to wait til dec but i cant help myself... im an addict.
Hope your periods come back asap and behave themselves!

Im still waiting for my period to comeback after 13yrs on the pill. its v frustrating but i have time since we dont need to ttc til dec but still, dont like the idea my body isnt working right!

Hi ladies
Nice place you have here Amonstercooper
This is my first post on MN so please forgive me if I ramble!

I am 25 and have been married for nearly 2 years. I came off of the pill in April 2011 and had a very irregular MC for a few months and then in August it stopped altogether!
I went to my GP in November and was told that it could take up to a year to get back into a regular MC. I was crushed! We are SO ready to become parents and I feel as though I have let my DH down :(
My GP said that we would just have to wait and see but if I dont have my MC back after the year is up then they will start testing for hormone difissiencies etc in me and DH.

I am SO done with this whole waiting thing! I just want to get PG already! So many of my friends are either PG, having babies in the next couple of weeks or just had babies! It's so frustrating! I really want nothing more than to be happy for them but always in the back of my mind there's this little voice screaming "why does she deserve one and not me?!?" It's heartbreaking and it feels like its my own fault for wanting it so bad.

I know how you feel SpamMarie about watching all these different baby program's. It's torture but I constantly feel the need to watch them. It's so bad now that I have to watch them while DH is not around as he says he doesn't like watching me do it to myself.

I love him so much and I can't wait to give the family he deserves

Dreadful crosspost, I read on my phone on the way to work, and posted on the way home without checking for new posts I'm trying not to read baby books, but baby googling is a killer! Hate the thought of tempting fate though, after all waiting so patiently we all deserve BFPs first time, surely!

strawberry JSing is Just Shagging! Ie, none of the charting temping stuff. I known how obsessive I tend to get, and think charting would take over my life if I started! I also suspect DH wouldn't tolerate it, think it might make him jumpy. Whereas persuading him to donate sperm the traditional way will be easier

hehe I'm with you on the baby googling! I haven't done much babysitting of small babies so I don't know much about them. I was a bit nervous to hold a relative's baby at Xmas time but when she started crying I instinctively picked her up and after a bit she went all quiet and cute and I realised I was sniffing her little head. It was like a switch going on in my brain, and can't stop thinking about babies since then!

We will prob be waiting for a year or more so all I am doing for physical prep is taking an everyday cheapo multivitamin and losing some weight by eating more wholefoods and exercising by getting outdoors more. Once I've dragged myself outdoors I feel energetic and enjoy a long hike. Although I see mums with cute babies in pushchairs and feel even more broody arrrrgh!

Ps freckly have images of you now hideing in closet reading baby books

Good luck to those starting ttc

I'm still too scared myself and now things are snowballing with wedding prep so luckily I have had another obsession but that doesn't stop my obsessions and brooding!! Not helped by dh2b saying let's just go for it!!! Keep thinking next af due 25th feb we due to fly on 26th march may be a nice surprise wedding present to the dh2b if I fall straight away but then i get scared again

As for when we do start I'm going to try not to obsess but I did last time find the ovulation sticks really helpful temping for me really didn't work as I work shifts do couldn't be accurate

Good luck Stuck - come back and tell us how you are getting on too.

Strawberry, no havent peed on a stick yet.... tho am obsessed with my temping! lol
Even though its all over the shop right now.

I am taking folic acid ( my gyni told me i should have taken it when on the pill -oops so am now taking it religiously). Im only just taking a multi vitamin.

Since we arent ttc yet im not doing anything else- besides my closet baby book reading and baby googling! lol

Hi Heavens, Ooh what is JSing? I'm going to be 'seeing' the dh whenever he is at home which I think he'll be quite happy with.

I've just started taking my vitamins and omega 3 and echinacea, I'm thinking of going for fortnightly massages, reflexology and possibly some acupuncture too just to keep me quite relaxed about it all.

Hey guys! I've realised I'm a terrible lurker, I keep up with the thread but am rubbish at posting

So hi to all the new people! I'm also beginning to gear up to start ttc'ing, have been taking vitamins since new year and going to get my coil removed at beginning of April (a month after stuckinthefens and just before you strawberrytallcake )

So I've been reading some of the ttc'ing threads, and wondered if any of you had thought about what 'style' of ttc'ing you wold use? I really don't want to get too obsessed with it all (although may be a bit late for that ) so am thinking I'm going to be a JSing sort of girl. How about the rest of you?

Hi freckly, my dr told me to start ttc straight away but I think you're right, I would definitely rather have a clear test! Maybe you should talk to your dh about it again, you might both be thinking the same?

Hi stuck, good luck!!!

Freckly have you ever had to do a pregnancy test before? My worry is will we have saved enough for my serious obsession with peeing on a stick??? It's more addictive than chocolate.

Hello to all the new joiners...

Am just starting to dust myself off and prepare to say goodbye! Going to be starting in March, although will be away in February so not likely to be online much (unless our b&b/hotel has wifi )

Thanks to everyone that has been a fabulous support in those days when I've just wanted to burst, and good luck for the time it takes you to jump onto a TTC bus...

One day I may show my boyfriend this website and this thread, so he understands how I would have been much worse if he knew just how obsessed and broody I've been feeling this year and I hadn't had MN to vent my feelings!

Hello Strawberry,

Yeah its probably best to wait til you get the all clear from your smear, just to be on the safe side.

Im not quite that close to trying, im hoping for December.
Though last night, we were woken through the night, and then i could hear my neighbours baby crying. my DH said, whats that noise, is it hte dog, and promptly went to check if our little doggie was being murdered! lol. When he came back, with an alive dog, i said, no its the baby next door. he said, god how will i sleep once we have a baby if it cries alot. LOL
As much as it was a negative ish remark i was delighted that his thought process went to us and baby. So secretly, im delighted he is thinking these things! :)