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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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highlove · 15/09/2011 18:27

sorry I know it's been done here a lot...but for fucks sake...I vote it is renamed reproductivelysmugbook

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dontcarehow · 16/09/2011 08:14

I'm in complete agreement, even though I know its completely irrational. I know they aren't doing it to upset me, but I still have to just block everyone who's pregnant because what I can't bear is them COMPLAINING about everything. Oh I've got morning sickness...smug b*tch, right now I'd give my right arm for morning sickness.

Oddly enough, I'm not bothered about the people who clearly got pregnant by accident, I let them off because they clearly don't know the agony of "trying". But anyone who's been trying, even for a couple of months must know what its like.

Clandy · 15/09/2011 22:14

Haha can't say I would want to share that Grin I do (to the very best of my ability) understand what you mean my beat friend lost her dad just before fathers day and to see her so distraught at people posting how much they love their dads was heartbreaking.

And I totally agree about it turning people completely weird.... But maybe people were already that strange they now just have a more public way of sharing that with us.... Smile

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highlove · 15/09/2011 22:08

I don't dislike FB, I'm a big fan. I do dislike that it seems to bring out a weird, insensitive narcissism that people don't have in real life. And sometimes, as someone who has the 'problems' you refer to, when you are having a really shit day it's hard to be reminded that other people have what you would do anything for and it knocks you. So I was feeling a bit sorry for myself and posted here because I knew some of the ladies would understand that sometimes you just need to let off steam about it. I wouldn't say anything to those people about it; I do wish people were a bit less thoughtless though.

I am of course happy for friends but that doesn't mean I don't sometimes get really bloody pissed off that it's happening for everyone around me and not me.

And on the bit about posting a pic from the birthing pool, even my friends who have had babies no problem think it's weird.

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Clandy · 15/09/2011 20:26

If you dislike facebook so much why not just not go on it? I understand that some people have problems but what is wrong with being happy and celebrating such wonderful things with the people you care about? Maybe some of these people had problems conceiving or miscarriages themselves and now just want to share their good news.
It's not fair to completely slate a friend for doing something that they have no idea may offend. I'm sure at some point we all say something by accident on facebook that someone will find offensive and the only way to over come this is by saying nothing at all..... Which kind of defeats the object of a social media site!?

munki · 15/09/2011 20:09

Should I actually manage to ever get pregnant, there is absolutely no way I am going up mention it AT ALL on Facebook. It has caused me so much pain. The 'best' is the posting a scan photo with no explanation, just waiting for the inevitable 'Oh my god!!! Are you pregnant!!!' responses. It drives me mental. I always feel like commenting 'Wow, what a weird picture, what IS that???'

When/if I ever do get pregnant though I can't rule out hoping someone posts on my wall that they never knew I was pregnant, so can publicly say 'oh well I didn't want to mention it on here as I find it a bit insensitive tbh' Hopefully I'd manage not to be so passive aggressive though.

Jesus Christ though - does it never cross these people's minds that one of their friends might be having a miscarriage or fertility problems? Idiots.

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highlove · 15/09/2011 19:35

And while we're on it, why would you share with whole fucking world a picture of you, naked, still in the fucking birthing pool complete with goo??

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highlove · 15/09/2011 19:33

Yes hear hear. Today bloody FB and bloody pg announcements has made a bad day worse. Honestly, you wouldn't be so bloody in your face about it in real life.

Cross!!

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maybebabyR · 15/09/2011 18:54

Hear Hear!

farfallarocks · 15/09/2011 18:46

I have vowed I am never putting scans etc on facebook when I get updiffed
Nor will I announce my pregnancy and put bump photos on
Nor will I update my status 3 times a day with funny little snippets about baby Johhny's signing class

One photo when its born, that's it!

PopcornMouse · 15/09/2011 18:36

Agree!!

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