TTC after a Miscarriage - Dear Santa, beanies for crimbo, please!!

I had that thought too about blood group being rh -ve I think it only has a bearing on birth. how many weeks were you (sorry I forgot) have you had to have anti-d injection??

Not trying yet, because I want an AF to make sure everything is good, plus DF has gone back to his holiday plan so if I wait for one more AF then it means we can go on hol and I still get my babs next year.

I wanted to get straigh back on the horse, but more I thought about it the more I realised I do need a hol and one AF means I can check dates and make sure body is ready.

Could it be anything to do with me being rehsus (sp?) neg? Should we be finding out DF's blood tyep?

yeah diddle, after mine i went to epau the next wk done pt and that was it! it's a shame there's a post code lottery on the nhs

will you try again after xmas mums, or are you already?

you'd have thought they would esp when things can so easily go wrong. They're pretty good where we are although I'm looking forward to moving and going back to my original doc!

I guess we're all different, i know when it was me i was attached pretty much straight away, and although i had very little symptoms It was gutting to know that I could have had a baby and it was gone. we weren't trying long but we desperatly want a baby.

I wouldn't be surprised if you have an abnormal Af after a miscarriage there will be the odd thing left behind. You're having very good follow up care. i had no contact with the doctor or hospital after either of mine, and i could easily have retained products too. so weird how different areas have different policies, you'd think they'd all do the same.

i'm glad you're doing ok with it.

mygarland - take a couple of the smaller ones. (?)

I'll go looking for clothes on fri afternoon then.

gotta get some xmas cards at lunch time so that i can deliver them round work and to family on Friday (thats gonna be a long day)

Mygarland dh card mine got me an anniversary card for our wedding day? lol obviously in a rush! agree with diddle can you take pressies with you?

mums bath toys great idea...if you got to go to supermarket shop they may have a cuddly that may be suitable?? you are coping v well with things ... hope you don't have to go back in to hosp x

schloer... yummy ... my parents used to give it us as kids and we used to think we were drunk - - know wonder they used to laugh at us..

Clothes in a bigger size or toys for when she's older are always a safe bet as is a pack of multi-coloured bath ducks mums. ps u r far braver than me handling yr mc at this time of year too.
can't take all kids pressies up north as far far too big! they'll find santa's been to their bedroom (not in a wrong way) when they come back!

Was thinking of getting some bath toys cos she loves the bath apparently. Other than that not sure. Might just get them all some choccies and they can share if they want! lol

I dealt with this one better because I kinda knew it was going to happen and I didnt have time to get attactched. Between the time of the +ve test and the doc app (stop bleeding) it was only about a week.

I've gotta go back if I dont get a normal AF in the next month (means I havent cleared out properly) but other than that, been told to let nature lead its course. All they can tel me is the HCG level, which I can kinda do myself. Just check in a couple of weeks for a +ve test, if there is I'm going back.

I've not grieved but its cos I didnt feel pg to begin with so i cant grieve for something I wasnt sure about anyway. Make sense?

Dont worry i'm not hiding it!

can't you take pressies away with you mygarland? fancy dh doing that

mums - i;d have a look on early learning webiste they ahve some lovely toys, or you could get some clothes. i think its hard to buy for a baby.

mums - i think you've handled this miscarriage really well, you sure you've dealt with it properly and not just trying to forget it. becaus eif you don't let yourself grieve you will explode mean that in the nicest way. worried you've bounced back so soon. you know you don't have to put a brave face for us. You can always share your feelings here openly.

will you have to see the doc again after the m/c?

me and dh haven't bought anything for each other! for my bday i got a happy anniversary card (mustn't have had his lens in when he bought it!) so not expecting owt! he got a mouse for the comp cos old one was knackered but we put that on straight away, no surprises here!
it wont even be exciting for kids as all their pressies'll be here and we'll b up there! they'd had pressies frm us this wk

yeh feeling great! really looking forward to xmas cant wait. gotta get a couple more things for the parents, (dads poker table, pair of slippers for mum) and grandads hamper basket. Also gotta find something for best mates 3month old. (ANY IDEAS?)

get some cards too.

So busy!

oh no my garland - bet he's just got mans flu still.

mumsxmaswish - hows things doing? you feeling ok?

I'm still here.

Working till 12pm tomorrow. Then off till Wednesday.

We're having xmas day at my mum and dads, gonna have a few games of poker. (bought dad complete poker set for xmas)

Going to (futre) MIL on boxing day, then relaxing at home on tuesday.

its getting so close, i keep waking up at 1am thinking its xmas day and we can open xmas pressies, have to keep going back to sleep. No fun!

the white one is lovely, fil can't drink because of long term meds and we get it in for him, it's gorgeous! as is sil's cooking.
after saying my patience n sympathy are running thin with dh he's bn sent home frm work after being sick off to do some grovelling.
x

nikki - everyone keeps telling me that, have tried the red one, but not the white grape. MIL bought me a bottle last time we visited, bless her. i know she'll fill me with it at xmas too.
hope shes got the white grape one.

your sil dinner sounds yummy already!

dids get out the white grape shloer and pretend

I don't go out that often either, think I've been out 3 times this year for an hour each I'm such a pipe and slippers girl!
We'll be at my parents house the whole time but will have to visit bil's and pil i spose (i'll try not to get food poisoning)! xmas dinner is at bro and sil's who used to be a cook! Hmmmmm, she cooks like every1's got an american appetite! which dh loves!
And spose i'll c a few friends too, glad we've bought a new car to fit all pressies in, do u think i'll have more on the way up or coming back down? Hmmmm.
x

can't remember the first time i went out after the m/c, don't go out very often.

we are spending xmas with the in laws xmaseve,day,boxingday then coming home. they're in Ipswich so we can't just pop in for the day, need to make a weekend of it.
plus gives dh a chance to drink. gonna miss my wine this year.

mygarland you have it in one...blubbed like nothing on this earth started DH off too just had to come home. keep feeling paranoid now..

Enjoy your time up north x

what you doing this xmas diddle? we are going mil for xmas dinner got sdd 1 and 2 xmas eve to xmas day ...first time

Morning diddle and nikki,
the first time I went out for a drink after the mc I blubbed like a baby and felt I really embarrassed myself but after that I think I was ok. Nibbles does cover all manner of sins doesn't it?
DH working til 2moro and then we're going 'home' up north (nice and cold!!!) til mon or tue so can't talk much then but it's xmas anyway and no one will be!
MW r u still at work or have u finished without telling us?!
x

aww yeh, and i guess now the kids are off most people are busy with them. Been xmas shopping for months, and done some online, but when the kids were at school i had a couple of hours to msyelf so used to go then.