With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

Angel, I wish I knew where all the crap comes from! I am about to get up and clean the kitchen too - DH used the last sponge to clean the bathroom so I have been unable to wipe the surfaces for the last couple of days, so they're a bit sticky and crumby. Think we have mice again too, grr! Must get DH to put the traps out. It's a downside to living in the middle of the country.

you nesting AngelGeorgie

Cheese hope your DH manages to get some answers.
Diffed bloody he'll!!!! ??? What idiots??? My MIL spent all of Xmas ringing us up threatening to commit suicide to her son who was caring for me, started a new job with a 2 hour commute, 2 months after we had lost Georgie because " no one cared about her" !!! She also was the only person not to contribute to Georgie's just giving web site which was to raise money for the delivery suite, remembrance boxes etc...
Her answer when I asked why she was the only person not to contribute; " take it out of what Ant owes me from money I leant him for his first car!!" ( approx 22 years ago!!!)
Even mumsnetters contributed she bought flowers for Georgie's service then took them home after!!! She manipulated Georgie' s service at the end when the Minster , me and Ant were having our last quiet words with Georgie. The list is endless. Sufficient to say I certainly don t miss her or her selfish, manipulative ways. Quite amazing how self centred and selfish people can be Isn t it??
What your manager is doing/ done is illegal you can t make people redudent because they are pregnant.hope you receive help from HR and manage to come up with amicable solution. X
Blue fingers crossed it's too early.
Hi everyone else hope you re all chilling?
I ve been cleaning our kitichen and de cluttering. Where does all the crap come from???? Xx

Cheese, thinking of you and DH - hope all is well now.

Razz, my MW keeps saying similar things - she said we just have to get to about 15 weeks and then she can come round weekly to listen to the heartbeat. That's still 6 weeks away! I don't really feel pregnant - just fat. I'm not feeling queasy so much, although I am getting tired easily. I wish I could feel the baby, but it's still such a long time until that's likely to start.

Dachs, really hope it works out with your boss. The last thing you need is that sort of hassle! At least HR sounds helpful.

Blue, , hopefully it is just too early for the pg test.

Angel, Dachs, Razz, to hear about your family problems.

Had a dream last night that I was breastfeeding a little boy - it was nice in some ways but v strange in others, as had come in to the hospital to be handed this baby and was surrounded by work ppl that I dont especially like, who were trying to make me go get in the car with them . Hence have spent some time this morning reading the boy section of my baby names book, but nothing is jumping out at me.

Oh cheese, it never rains it just pours!! So sorry, you will be in my thoughts, update us when you can.

cheese Really sorry to hear that. FX it goes well at A&E. Will be thinking of you and DH

Morning, just a quick one as I'm waiting for dh. Heading back to a&e shortly as he's had some bleeding so, need to see what they want to do

Morning all
Dachs I really do feel for you with your work nightmare, as if we all arn't stressed enough......I start a new job this week, attended training on friday and was really pleased that I managed to hold the vomit in all morning .
cheese really hope that your hubby is sorted out soon and Im sure that the spot bleeding was stress related, sending loads of prayers that you have no more.
blue maybe it is still too early for a BFP....fx thats the case
mel will you really be able to hold out on poas??? Strange that so many of us have inlaw issues....we havent spoken to dh mother for 8 years!!

Still feeling very nauseas and throwing up about 3 times a day.....if the feeling vanishes for an hour or so I immediatley start to panic that something is wrong instead of enjoying the relief!!! The MW that scanned me last week said, "I really feel for you, I think you have just got to the very start of an uphill marathon" how right she was.......

too Yep, my boss is completely awful. And as well as being a total nightmare to actually work for, the last person who got pregnant she made redundant while she was on mat leave, and the other person in the department who worked part time because she had kids was made redundant at the same time. So I'm quite worried about all of it. And I will get HR involved if I need to, but it's just an extra level of stress I could do without at the moment. (I've actually already let HR know I'm pg and they said if I need to work from home or work fewer days or if there is anything I need then just let them know and it will all be fine, so I'm thinking they will be on my side)

blue I'm sorry about the tests both being negative :(

angel Sorry you have an awful MIL. My PIL aren't great either (when I was in hospital losing the twins they brought my niece and nephew to visit, who are 18m and 2 and a half and spent the entire time they were there talking about how changing the nappies on the 18m old was a real pain and the nappies were really heavy and how it would be great to have another really small baby in the family - I was lying there in bed thinking 'I know you're the most insensitive people in the world, but surely even you can see that this is completely inappropriate for you to be saying while I'm losing my much wanted babies that I've been trying really hard to create in the first place for 8 years') and I haven't spoken to my mother for about 10 years, so not a great deal of family support.

cheese Hope the spotting has stopped and that you are managing to relax a bit. And I hope they manage to sort DH out and that you both feel better soon :)

mama5 If you work out a way of removing negativity please let me know! You could make a fortune if you bottled it and sold it to pg women!

hi all - interesting about this stickers for notes! i do think it should be standard just to avoid awful questions!!!!!! i think these people need some "tact" sometimes!!!!
Cheese- ooohhhhhh Praying all will be well for you and DH -no stressing its not allowed!!!!!!!!
Dachs- all i can say is "boss from Hell" !!!!!!!!!!
Blue - have everything crossed for you!!!!
Mel - those "symptoms " sounds ermmmmm very good indeed! we await for results!
AngelGeorgie -whats that saying oh yes " you can pick friends but not family"
totally agree with no wanting Negativity - remove it all!

I have never been offered the stickers by any health professional so seems to be something you sort out yourself!!!
Cheese hugs (()) hope your DH gets some answers soon and no more spotting .
blue fx xx
Families; a funny lot. Sorry for awful in laws as well documented I ve not nor never will spoken to my MIL since Xmas with the appalling way she treated us, Georgie and my DH after loosing Georgie. She certainly won't be having anything to do with GILS unless Ant takes her to see the old bag!!!
Again, another source of negativity we can and do all live without.

blue I've just ordered some stickers and also some laminated poem cards and a couple of trolley keyrings so the postage at least will cover those too. I remember having fairly heavy discharge and it continues all the way through!

Too Thanks, now's the time I'd usually have a glass of wine but having to make do with decaff tea! Touch wood, I've been ok so far tonight so maybe it was just the stress of the day? I've ordered some just in case they don't have any, the hospital I was first at when I asked about them she just looked at me and I had to explain what they were...and that was the consultant. Maybe this hospital will be different, it feels more personal as it's smaller, but I won't take any chances.

Cheese, praying hard that you get no more spotting and everything is ok. Also hoping that your DH will be okay and that they don't have to take his spleen out. You sound like you need a big hug!

Mel, your symptoms sound v promising! Are you sure you won't be testing soon?

Dachs, your boss sounds completely awful! Can you get HR involved, or anything to stop her being so unreasonable? She has no right to scream at you! (I know you know that, but I'm appalled that a manager in this day and age still gets away with behaving like that!) Hope she manages to control herself and doesn't upset you.

I was given the stickers by the MW - didn't have to order them myself. Not sure if that's something localised or not, but I wouldn't have thought so.

Blue, before my BFP I had a couple of days of brown discharge, and over the last couple of weeks my discharge has been much heavier (not brown any more, though, just clear or white). I didn't have much at all before the brown spotting - I was trying to spot EWCM and was confused because I didn't seem to have anything!

Been a bit preoccupied today with dh which took my mind off of myself. Sat at a&e for 5 hours as he woke with a really painful leg (history of dvds and very complicated medical past), so we sat and waited. Has bloods done and his platelet levels are very low at 14. He has ITP but it's been in remission for the past 9 years and it the opposite of the clotting in that he's likely to bleed.

He's been given some tablets for now and being called for a specialist appointment next week. Quite worrying actually. He had to have transfusions previously and they were talking about removal of his spleen so I hope they have different treatments by now!

Got home to find I'd spotted a tiny bit but nothing more since, was red though but waiting to see how things go. I'm 11+3 today and really hoping nothing is wrong. I feel like I live in a soap half the time with everything that goes wrong.

ciwi I don't have a sticker afaik but I'm going to ask when I go in on Tuesday, I already asked at the last hospital but have transferred since. Tales of woe? What horrible people to say that. God forbid it happens to them and they have someone be so disgusting towards them

vicky glad your urine tests were fine. Hope the sickness stops soon

green Vivid dreams like that really do leave you feeling odd, they feel so real. I've been having the feeling for a while now that this baby is a boy, we shall see.

dachs I've only told a few people so far, I'll be 12 weeks on Wednesday. I'm contemplating leaving it longer too.

blue fingers crossed, when are you going to test?

Angel I'll have a look for those stickers too

Too I told people early last time but decided not to this time, going to wait a bit longer I think.

Mel (hugs), can't believe your sil and brother! Similar happened with us and dh's brother and brother's gf. Didn't bother coming to SCarlett's funeral, which upset dh and I a lot. They should have been there to support us and to pay respects to their neice. Sounds promising! I wouldn't be able to wait another 3 weeks though, I'd be testing right now! I have no willpower in that regard

Thanks too That's a good tip! :) My boss will not take it well. She will yell and scream (yes, literally) and then strop around the office for a least a week. And then keep pulling me into meetings 3 minutes before I would generally leave the office to get my usual train home. However, if she does I will point out that she is stressing me out and that if she wants me in the office doing any work at all instead of getting my doctor to sign me off sick, then she needs to stop it.

mel Sounds like a fine collection of symptoms you have there! Sorry your SIL is being a pain.

blue Good that AF has not shown up yet. FX for you! :)

Back from the party. Left as soon as the party bags were handed out and the children got stupid kazoo whistle things! My head hurts!!
SIL was there and again never spoke. I just keep thinking it's really funny that mr brother and her think that I'm the one in the wrong even though it was her who didn't bother her arse coming to Ruby's funeral (she couldn't face it!!). And there was me looking forward to it

Anyway onto symptoms, yucky metal taste in my mouth for last 3 days, bigger boobs, sense of smell totally increased and really bad sickness feeling this morning. Cramping has stopped and there's no bleeding at all. Also have frequent mood swings and am shattered. However, I'm waiting for another few weeks before testing. Who knows but I'm trying not to get too infatuated with it. BUT I probably will. Apologies in advance x

Dachs, I had to be referred to the hospital and the consultant separately, so maybe make sure you get both done. Hope your boss takes it well!

Everyone already knows about this pregnancy! DH told his whole office at about 6 weeks. Also, I have had about 5 pregnancy-related appts already, so I think work would have guessed anyway.

Green, your dream sounds highly prophetic! FX for you!

Hi all:
Ciwi unfortunately I have no choice but to tell some people straight away as I returned to work 2 weeks after I got my BFP and had a scan at 6 weeks and needed to start my hormone injections twice a week. So, the practalties denoted my manager etc... Needed to know. I told some of my closest friends then most people knew by 11/12 weeks. Ciwi only you decide when's right for you. I always wished I was allowed the luxury of keeping it a secret for 12 weeks but unfortunately I never got the chance!!!
Whoever was asking??? My mum ordered the SANDS stickers online.
Hope everyone's having a nice weekend? It's lovely to be off work

I think that Sands will send you out those stickers if you need them for your file.
I'm off to my nephew's birthday party. He's 4 today and is an absolute monster! But very funny with it, I think he's mite like 74 sometimes. Hope everyone is good and I'll check back later (symptom spotting like a dafty!!!!!)

Hello all! I was working Thursday and Friday and seem to have got out of the habit of commuting, so I've been knackered when I get home, so apologies for not posting for a couple of days.

too I never got to read your original post on that thread, but I'm glad someone tried to talk some sense into them. I really dislike those threads

ciwi I'm only 6 weeks but I've got to tell my boss next week as there are some things she is expecting me to commit to or overseas trips she needs someone to go on that she will be expecting me to do, that I'm just not going to be able to. I refuse to go abroad away from my doctors. She won't be happy, but I don't really give a stuff. We aren't telling anyone else until after 12 weeks, but we're going to then. Although we aren't going to acquire any stuff for the baby or nursery until after about 34 weeks.

I don't think there will be a sticker on my notes, as the midwives here are crap, but I'm hoping to see the same obstetrician as with the twins, so hopefully there won't be any crapness. I'm going to see the GP on Monday to let her know I'm pg again. Is there anything I should be asking the GP to prescribe, or anything I should be asking them to do, apart from a referral to the hospital?

I avoid all threads like that since the one I was on a few weeks ago. I think some people just say things to get a reaction on here a lot.
green they only put the sticker on last week so I suppose only time will tell. I go back to see the consultant in 3 weeks so will see how it goes then.
I am now 12+1 and we have told our families now. We were wondering if we should wait a bit but then thought, when is it safe then? and unfortunately there is never a safe time to tell so we thought we would just do what most other people do and tell at 12 weeks. Has anyone else told people yet? Obviously you will have angel, when did you tell?

Ive stepped away from the thread now.

Ive just woken up and my dream is still very vivid, I had another baby and it was a boy, he looked just like Ophelia but with darker hair (she was golden blond) Ive woken up missing him thats how vivd the dream was. So strange.

ciwi has the sticker helped do people stop asking you?