With angel babies in the sky, some of us expecting rainbow babies, others still ttc and definitely swi!!

Oh Blue mysterious!!
Ciwi hope u feel less sickly soon.
Green think what you re experiencing is totally normal. We had lots of falling out when ttc and stresses. Since I ve been pg with GILS and before with Georgie we hardly had any sex as Ant is scared something will happen. I miss it but understand where he s coming from( or not!!!) and just think at the moment our sex life is on hold. We re close in many other ways and I try and maintain the intimacy but can see it's a result of all we ve been through. I aim to work very hard to strive to have our good old sex life back sometime in the future. Very difficult
Hi all. Yeh it's Friday ; quick change and shower then off to mum & dads hope m1 is quiet !!!! Love to all xxx

poas again

oh blue that was me two weeks ago. My preiods have changed since Fi so maybe yours have too. FX hunny that something happens, waiting is sometimes the hardest thing.

too thank you for being so down to earth and blunt I love it. I think we are alot alike. The issues you have raised are so what we are going through and have been through in the past. Im so glad Im not the only one. Tried earlier in the week to start with blow jobs and stuff to get him in the mood and then took full charge seams to work, but just last night he didnt want any and it was hard coz I had ov'd the day before. I knew there was something up with him and thats why I asked him otherwise I would have just jumped right in. Normally he talks about his feelings and is always having a go at me for not. But last night it was the other way round. Im sure we shall sort it out tonight. He did say last week that he is terrified of me getting pg again, he worries that I couldnt handle goingthrough what we went through again. Bless him sometimes I think hes been my rock but has suppressed his feelings somewhat to help me through mine, but to hear him say how vunerable he is helps me in a way.
I have no problem perading around naked in front of DH, never have really but I still feel unattractive and I know I need to sort this out in my head. Maybe I shall get the old ann summers stuff out tonight, might help me out. DH is out cycling with his mates so I might pamper myself and get myself in the mood.

Green, I had similar issues with DH when we started ttc - at first he was fine, and then when we got closer to ov time he suddenly couldn't perform. It was awful - we would start trying and he would get more and more wound up and eventually have to admit defeat. I felt ugly and unattractive and I was so frustrated but trying not to show it because I was afraid of making him worse. We discovered that he was fine with other means, such as blow jobs - it was only full sex that was affecting him. He said he couldn't relax into it because he was too worried - worried about what would happen if I got pregnant, or if I didn't. I suggested that we take some time off but he said no, and it just gradually got a bit better. We tried some new things, such as me taking complete charge during sex, and it worked, and luckily I ovulated later than I thought I would and hey presto! I think men just find it difficult to explain why if they are scared of having sex - it's such a taboo for a man to admit that he's not up for it 24/7, and it comes across as grumpiness sometimes.

I want to echo Mel on the body image/self-confidence front. Your body is still beautiful, no matter what's changed! I have horrendous stretch marks from my bikini line right up above my tummy button and wobbly tummy fat and I'm 2 stone overweight (1 and a half more than pre-preg) but I still feel beautiful naked and walk about in front of DH with no worries. The boobs help - I know perfectly well that DH barely notices anything lower! After all, you're the only naked woman your DH has access to - he's not going to be fussy!

Blue, if that is AF, then at least the wait is over and this could be Day 1 of your next pregnancy! Hope you feel ok.

Razz, sorry to hear you still feel awful. Can you persuade yourself to take the meds? The doctor wouldn't prescribe them if they would damage the baby in any way, and you need to be able to keep some food and drink down. Get well soon!

razz Im glad Im not the only one with a DH who feels like that. I sometimes find that when Im on AF, he wants me more. Men aye you would have thought they would want it all the time, jump on you every night. Ive had this converstaion with him numerous times before, I think last night brought back some memories for me, stressful memories and I thought we had sorted it out. Its funny though coz often its him who says to me 'do you want to ttc?' and I say oh how romantic but I always say it as a giggle. And it just wanst that way last night.

blue boooo for AF but hooray for AF all in the same go.

Hello everyone
green your story about your FIL running for his girls choked me up, how very sad but also inspirational. My dh HATES swi, yes, seriously. People always joked with me when I was ttc that dh would think it was his b'day and xmas at once. Couldnt be further from the truth!! It really turns him off and he moans that I just want his sperm (quite often true ). I just stopped telling him when it was the 'right' time.
too I actually verge on the point of evil when I am pregnant, how anyone puts up with me I will never no!!
blue boo if it is AF but hooray that you will no where your body is at
spilt so nice to still hear from you on here and see how well you and Freya are doing.

Thank you for the sympathy sent regarding my sickness, still horrific . I am now 9 weeks. I have some anti-sickness meds that I just dare not take. I took them in my last pregnancy, and my sane brain knows that they made no difference to Thomas's condition but the anxious part of me does not want to risk any side effects. Im a bloody nurse aswell, so should no better . Probably won't get on all weekend as working so wishing you all a good one.

blue I would wait till your in the 50th days or so of this cycle and if still no AF then go see the doc. I did have this once myself went to 49 days with out AF then the next cycle had a 41 day bleed! Not nice. I was told later it could have been a hormone imbalance but nothing came up on later tests. Hope something happens for you soon.

Chin up green we are all very strong ladies and we will all get the happy ending we deserve xxx

ciwi thanks that really has taken a weight off my shoulders.

I really do owe a lot to you all, we are so lucky to have found each other.

green just wanted to say that I think what you are going through is very common. We had a similar blip, I hated myself and thought DH thought I was ugly/fat etc, when we got talking he was actually too scared to get me pg as I had then lost Ciaran and had a mc, he didnt want me to go through anymore pain. We also took a month off and I accepted that it will happen when it happens and somehow managed to take a massive chill pill, as long as you swi once round ov you will have a chance, we ended up just deciding to swi when we feel like it but to make sure at least once round ov. It worked for us, I know your situation may be different but just wanted to let you know that you are certainly not alone in feeling like that x

mel thanks I know he feels that way he tells me, but sometimes it doesnt get home you know.

Green hopefully you'll get it all talked through. I sat down with my DH and told him that I was bored with it all. All we seem to do falls into the same routine and I'm bored and not enjoying it. This month we're just going to try and get that "honeymoon" thing happening again!
And as for not feeling good about yourself, I'm giving you a row. You've had a beautiful baby and your body is meant to show this. Your DH will look at you and see you, he won't see any of the wee lumps or bumps that you see (speaking personally for the lumps part). Be proud of your body as it shows what you have done in your life. Hope you feel better soon. Lots of hugs xx

cheers jane
DH has just text me appologising about last night and that he wasnt in a very good mood. So we are going to talk tonight. When we ttc before I was the one jumping on him all the time and he got fed up with that too, saying I wanted it too much, so that was why we started using ov tests and we decided that I would tell him when I ov and we would get on with it. I knew he was in a strange mood last night thats why I asked, and it back fired on me. Hopefully we shall sort it out tonight.

green Exactly the reason we took a break this month, although it was the other way about with me. DF always asks to dtd, to be honest it is such a turn off. It makes feel like I should be ready because he is. I don't tell him when I have ovulated, I just jump on him at the first oppoptunity .

Don't be upset with yourself, have a chat with dh tell him you feel. Hope you get things sorted. x

and now it is! Stupid!

Sorry for the above post, I think what has upset me is that I was trying to be sensitive and not put pressure on him and it looks like I have done the opposite. Why is it so complicated.

cant beleive this I wrote out a really long post and its not here.

Girls I need some advice and well someone to listen

DH and I are swi as you know. I got a positive ov test yeaterday. Last night after we spent the evening watching football at his parents we headed home he'd had three beers so he was a bit happy, but not to much which is good. We got home and it was late so I asked shall we sleep? He said yeah. So got into bed then I said shall we swi or not? I meant it in the way of your tired if you dont thats fine just say. But he didnt speak. So I asked the question again thinking hes deffinitly too tired. Then he told me I wasnt romantic. Which made me upset. We laid there a while and then he was sleeping, I was still upset. I need to speak to him about this, this all happened before when we were first ttc, he said I was stressing all the time which put him off, but Im not stressing untill that happened last night. I need to tell him that making me ask that question, beacuse it was a making me ask that question situation (as we had talked about my fertile time the day previous) puts more pressure on me. I feel like Im the only one who wants to get pg or even cares and I know thats not the case but thats the way I feel. I dont like asking for sex it should just happen but when you are trying and you ov you need to say you are. It doestn help that I dont feel attractive and havnt done since Ophelia, which in turn puts pressure on me.

Im still a bit upset this morning, I feel that last night was a wasted opertunity and that it was my fault. I hate this I was so chilled this cycle and then this happened.

Can we be honest here do any of you have stress situations like this? Please tell me Im not the only one.

Yes in our clinic s it is very hot doesn t help with my internal radiator!!!

Sorry Angel! Not surprised you're tired with 11 hour shifts! Is it hot where you work, or is it just pregnancy heat?